What do you think is going on in the mind of the child who doesn t speak after being yelled?

My sister, I don't take my homework seriously, I have a bad temper, yell at her, she doesn't speak for a long time, and then ask her why she doesn't speak, she says she thinks I look like a psychopath when I yell at her, and she doesn't want to pay attention to me. (I also feel like a psychopath).

I think it's scared, and I can't believe it, the first time I yelled at my son, my son was this expression, his eyes were scared, I always felt that I had a bad influence on the child, now he is 4 years old, his temper is not particularly good, more impatient, I think it was because I didn't have a good guide at the time. But I'm really annoyed, in a widowed Kato, being a mother, it's really tiring.

I have to say, I'm that kind of child...Since I was a child, I still have a bit of a shadow of the past when I grow up. Of course I'm not happy to be scolded, my mother always asks me how to control my emotions, how can I control my emotions, but I don't stick to the surface, and I feel annoyed. What's going on in your mind?

Yes, I scolded a sentence in my heart, but I would never say it. It's very hurtful to be angry, and every time I think about it, I always think about it in my head, and I'm annoyed to death. And I know that with my mother's temper and being angry, most of the people who are angry are not rational, and she won't be reasonable if you scold her back.

Scolding back will definitely intensify the contradictions, although if I don't scold back, it will lead to a cold war, and I will be ...... aggrievedWhat I think about most often is probably "I must work hard to become financially independent as soon as possible, and then move out", "Why have I been thinking about it, why is it not over yet, I have said it several times, last time and last time and last time and last time and last time and last time..."Haven't you already said that?"I'm really not suitable to live with others, I'm not married, it's so troublesome, it's good to have a dog."

I was a disobedient child since I was a child. I was often reprimanded by my family, and when I was a childish child, I would talk back and go back to my house and cry. I think no one hurts and no one loves me, and it's really stupid to think about it now.

But don't keep training your children and affect their growth, for example, I'm 20 years old now, I have no confidence in interpersonal communication, I don't want to try anything, I'm super invincible and pessimistic, in the words of a friend, "naïve and like to go to extremes".

As a passer-by, when I was yelled, my mind moved as follows: Why did you suddenly call me by my full name? Is there anything wrong with what I'm doing?

I think so! Why do you say that about me? I didn't mean to.

Well, it's my fault, you can't yell at me so loudly! I'm running away from home! I don't have the surname Wang anymore!!

After I was beaten, I would cry and say that I was wrong, but I was actually very unconvinced! However, after a few days, it will be like a nobody. In fact, it is very important to communicate with children, rather than blindly scolding, parents sometimes inadvertently between words and actions, will leave a shadow on the child, when the responsibility of parents is great, you have to be patient, I hope that people can learn how to be a person first, and then go to be parents.

Parents must deal with the right ways and means when educating their children. Yelling at children will only aggravate their inferiority complex or rebellion, and will not solve the problem.

If the truth is known, then parents will definitely not dare to say anything about their children, because doing so will be very harmful to their children's health.

Of course not. Therefore, parents must not scold their children, nor hit their children, but must educate their children correctly.

In the process of educating children, if you often yell at your children, your children will become very untalkative. At the same time, it will also make them feel inferior, and it will make the relationship between the child and the parents more and more distant. <>

When parents yell at their children, they may only feel that their voice is a little loud, and they feel that this can be enough to deter their children, so many people will prefer to use this way to educate their children. But in fact, there are many people who don't understand this way, which will only make their children more and more inferior, so they are reluctant to speak. Because in the process of children's growth, what they need most is the encouragement and recognition from their parents.

Therefore, there are many children who have low self-esteem if they do not get the approval of their parents in life. Loud parenting will only make your child very untalkative and more introverted. Because in such a situation, the child's heart has been hurt a lot, so they will also become more introverted and become very inferior.

In life, parents yelling at their children will also make their children's relationship gradually alienated. Because the parent-child relationship requires the joint efforts of both the child and the parents, so that the relationship between the two people can be closer. Yelling in the process of disciplining children will make their children feel very disgusted, and they will also hate their parents' behavior, and they will not want to have a good relationship with their parents in such a situation.

Therefore, for many people, educating children is also to be patient and have methods, parents must avoid yelling, and do not discipline their children according to their own character. In particular, some mothers often have such a situation in the process of disciplining their children, so it will lead to the relationship between their children and their parents in the process of getting along with them. <>

A good education can make children more confident, and at the same time, it can help them grow and become more socially competent. However, a bad family education will only make your children very introverted and not like to talk, and at the same time, there will be some inferiority complex.

Definitely, such a situation will make the child become very cowardly, and will also become very inferior, which will eventually affect the child's personality and may make the child not good at expression.

If yelling at the child is often having a great impact on the child's personality and the parents often yell, then the child will become introverted and not talkative.

Summary. Dear, I'm glad for your question, if you have this situation and your child has a shadow in his heart, you should apologize to him.

I yelled at the child for her good, but she always couldn't hear what I said, so I yelled at the child.

Dear, I'm glad for your question, if you have this situation and your child has a shadow in his heart, you should apologize to him.

You can communicate with your child in another way, sit down calmly and talk to him about this matter, what will be the serious consequences of what he does wrong, and the impact on himself, instead of yelling at him, he will think that your parents are very annoying, and will not agree with your opinion on this matter.

So you have to choose the right way and occasion, after all, the child's self-esteem is also there, and he can't let Bu Tan's self-esteem be frustrated. It can also have a certain impact on his psyche.

This matter still has to be judged in combination with reality, and see how to do it so that the child can solve the problem in the round, you know that this thing he did with a hail is not right, so that he will not do it again after he changes.

Children's understanding of themselves is often the best than adults' evaluation of themselves. Therefore, children who are often hit by their parents are very prone to low self-esteem, and will fall into self-doubt and self-denial, and even suffer from mental illness, leading to some extreme behaviors.

It may be that my self-esteem has been greatly hurt after being criticized by my parents, so I am too timid to speak, or I am so angry that I don't want to talk to my parents.

Children will definitely feel very aggrieved, and when children make mistakes, parents should first understand what happened, instead of scolding.