When do you feel hopeless?

When do you feel hopeless? The only thing that can't be missed in life is good girls and ideals, and for me, who is still a student, this sentence can be changed to the only thing that can't be missed in life is good girls and studies. So at what point do I despair?

Of course, it's time to lose good girls and not go well academically.

That year I fell in love with a girl in junior high school. The two people who had nothing to do with each other were arranged by the teacher to be at the same table for various reasons. Her personality belongs to the cheerful and lively kind of girl, and I am the more introverted kind of boy.

If she hadn't been my tablemate, I guess we wouldn't have crossed paths after junior high school.

Later, the personalities and three views of the two people were very compatible, and they became more and more familiar, and finally became friends. How can someone who likes it at first sight be willing to be friends? But I didn't dare to confess, so I spent three years of junior high school.

In the end, I was admitted to a different high school and separated. Over the next three years, there were occasional contacts, but they became less and less. Before the college entrance examination, I asked her which high school she wanted to go to, and she said that she had a boyfriend.

During that time, my grades were also a mess, not because of this incident, but because it was already bad. Basically, every time I take the exam, I count down all of them, and I have no hope of getting three books.

The girl who failed in her studies and liked had a boyfriend, the most unmissable thing in life, I missed it all, I don't know if God played a big joke with me that was irreparable. With no way out of sight, despair looms.

In fact, it is not a time to feel hopeless after so many years, and the difficulties encountered in each grade may be desperate, although in hindsight, it may not be a big deal at the time, but at the time, it was really desperate.

I was in despair during that time I dropped out of school.

I went to school in other places, that is, in Zhejiang, in more developed provinces, the quality of teaching is much better than our hometown, I was in primary school until the first grade of junior high school, I firmly believe that I should honestly finish high school and be admitted to university, I thought this is the basic process of a normal student, but I am still too young.

When I was in junior high school, I went back to my hometown to go to school, first of all, the situation in my hometown, almost 50% of the people stopped going to junior high school, they all dropped out of school to work, three people in my family, two people are like this, this kind of thing is very common. Then there are many fewer people who go to high school and don't go to college, because by this time there are many people who choose to go to college.

I thought I could go to college plainly, but who knew that when I was in the second year of junior high school, I suddenly felt that my grades were not good, and the teacher wanted to dissuade me, and my parents also said that if I didn't get into college, don't go to school. My whole world really doesn't know what's going on, and I said that students shouldn't all go to college? Why didn't I go to school, and I was persuaded not to go to school, and it was even more strange why I suddenly didn't want to go to school in my head?

When I was a child in other places, my parents also spent ** money to send me to a local primary school, I thought my parents should be more supportive of me going to school, who knew that I just didn't get good grades, my parents just said that they couldn't come out to work.

My world collapsed, and I was in that situation where not going to school was a very right thing, and I dropped out of school, and I packed up my books and went out to sell, and then I packed up my bags and went to work in other places, and I became a cheap laborer. I went out to work as a waiter in a hot pot restaurant, to make clothes in a garment factory, and to work as an operator on the assembly line of an electronics factory. Everything is so boring, really, I really despair when working in these places.

How can you not despair? Isn't it a heroic thing that everyone says in my hometown that dropping out of school, why is my salary so low, my boss so fierce, and my colleagues so scheming? What about my future, just walk around these factories, and then go home at the age of 20 to get married and have children?

What about my dreams?

I was really desperate, a deep despair of my own life, my situation, and my future. It lasted for a long time, until I chose to go back to my hometown again, and this time I had to study hard.

<> at that moment my heart was really cold, at that moment I really realized that this society was really realistic, at that moment I felt hopeless, I remember that it was when I was in my third year of high school, my father was working in the field and had a stomach perforation, in order not to affect my entrance to college, my mother hid it from me and didn't tell me about it, I just knew at the time that my mother also went to the construction site where my father worked, and said that I was also going to work, I didn't think much about it, but I didn't know that my father was sick, my mother went to take care of my father, my father was sick, and the pillar of our family fell, My brother and I still have to go to school, my father still has to see a doctor, the family is not rich, what to do, my mother has to call ** relatives and friends to borrow money, people are very realistic, a look at my father is sick, some are afraid that we will not be able to pay it back in the future, simply do not lend it to us, some do not even borrow **, at that moment I really realized that people are very realistic, this society is very realistic, my mother and I are so desperate that I really don't know what to do, think about the beginning, how Dad treated them, although our family is not rich, but Dad is never stingy with others, There is a little delicious food at home, so I called my friends to the house to get together, who is busy, Dad didn't say a word, tried his best to help them, but Dad fell ill, where did they go, what about your humanity, you don't dare to pick up our **, you are afraid that we can't afford to pay back, you know what Dad is like, even if Dad can't make money in the future, but there are still our brothers and sisters, we can pay it back! Where did you all go in the most difficult time in our family, are you really so realistic, when Dad is good, you are friends, and when Dad is sick, you become strangers? The current society is a realistic society, everyone with money is stammering, nothing without money, people's hearts are becoming colder and colder, human nature is becoming more and more cold, as the saying goes:

As long as everyone gives a little love, the world will become a better world.

When you suddenly find that there is such a particularly important thing, no matter how hard you try, no matter what method you use, it is impossible to accomplish it, that kind of despair, I really don't want to experience it a second time. At that time, you can only think about some of the worst outcomes, such as, it's over, the boss is going to scold you to death, you messed up the boss's most important things, a series, you don't even dare to think about it, it's really super desperate, and you will feel that the future is bleak......

When you find out that you have been cheated and still have a lot of money, you are also desperate. Originally, you happily went to play, but you met **, maybe you didn't realize that this was **, until later, you suddenly woke up, and your good mood fell to the bottom all of a sudden, the problem is that you can't chase the money back, your head is confused, and then you will realize that your monthly living expenses are gone, just like that, you can buy this and buy that, to tell the truth, the more you think about it, the more desperate ......

When you can't catch the last subway, it's dark, there are few people, the subway is just closed, and you don't have enough money to take a taxi, what should you do, you want to open your phone for help, but you find that your phone is about to run out of battery, what should you do? Feelings of helplessness, up, up ......

When you are extremely disappointed in a person, no matter what you do, no matter how many times you give him, he is still like this, you can only sneer and squeeze out a few words, whatever you want, at this time, your heart is already desperate.

Life is like this, like a roller coaster, sometimes excited, sometimes desperate, sometimes calm, but despair is such a thing, it would be good to experience it a few more times, ......

Parents make you feel hopeless, and I think you should first carefully analyze whether it is the cause of your own mentality. Are you busy at work? Or is life not going very well?

Or is it something else? If it's a problem with your own mentality, then you have to change your mentality, because life is mainly lived by yourself. Second, if there is something about the real parents that makes you feel hopeless, and you feel powerless to change, then you should understand the parents a lot, after all, there is no parent in the world who does not want their children to be good.

Isn't life going well? Or is it something else? If it's a matter of your own mindset, you need to change your own mindset because life is mostly your own.

Second, if your parents really have something that makes you feel hopeless and powerless to change, you should understand your parents better. After all, there is not a single parent in the world who doesn't want their child to be a good child.

If you really feel hopeless when you are alive, let yourself think about your relatives and friends! Their impression in your mind may give you some hope to keep you alive.

If the method I mentioned above is not feasible, then I may be able to help you by listening to my next advice.