Why is it so damaging for someone to speak? Why do some people talk hurtful?

Speaking is an art, and the same words feel different when spoken in different tones or on different occasions, which is too long! But do you hurt people, you can also use the same method to damage him, usually you remember what he said, and return it with the same words when you see the opportunity, do you remember the decision of the Tianlong Babu Murong family.

It's a matter of personal quality, but sometimes the "bad" words may be said for humor, and there is no malice. For those who deliberately say bad things, ignore it, silence is the best disregard for him!

If you don't want to be like him, be tolerant of others!

The world is speechless, the human feelings are cold and lonely, the red dust is wrong, and I look back and smile.

People in this world have different personalities.

Don't let others affect our mood.

Just be happy.

Truth be told, LZ is that kind of person.

If you are very comfortable and relaxed with this person, it means that she (his) is of a very high rank, or you can both speak well, tolerate each other's shortcomings, and experience similar things, so you can achieve empathy and physical drying. Even if you haven't experienced the same thing, you can be patient and listen to what others have to say, and you can get along very comfortably.

In fact, if two people can talk well and be emotionally stable, no matter who they get along with, they can get along quite comfortably. I never thought it was important to speak well, until after work, I found that some people really can't speak, can't express their demands clearly, there are many ways to communicate, but I have to choose the most hurtful one.

1.For example, he speaks very fiercely, shouting because others can't meet his expectations, his emotions are very uncertain, but he never stops to patiently listen to the deep voice of others, he doesn't know how to respect other people's decisions and inner feelings, he feels that only he is right and everyone else's is wrong, and even feels that others don't understand anything, endless accusations, strong to the extreme, never patiently listened to other people's demands and ideas, and must be obedient to her (him) before he or she is willing to give up. In the end, it is possible that the weaker side will compromise and choose to tolerate on the surface, but it is okay to be quiet, and how many people can do it after many times of obedience and forbearance, and in the end the problem is not solved, but both sides are injured.

The strong side thinks why don't you do what I say, and the weak side thinks why you should suppress and suppress me everywhere, and ask me to bow my head every time, and after a long time, it will definitely break out. It's a really depressing way to get along, and it's painful.

2.Speaking yin and yang, you can say things positively but you have to say them in reverse, all kinds of suppression, denial, touching high and low, which makes people very unhappy, and finally leaves pimples in each other's hearts, and they all feel very tired and painful to get along. (Why can't you understand what I mean if you deny others, and why do you want to deny and suppress me, am I so bad?)

You must know that the relationship between people is actually very fragile, and if you are not careful, you may never intersect again.

3.Don't say it but keep a small book in your heart, refuse to communicate, refuse to solve the stability, don't say it when others ask, just stubbornly think that you don't understand me, you just don't understand me, (mmp, no one is the hungry roundworm in your stomach, you don't say who knows what you think in your heart) The last two people are very hurt, one wants to communicate, the other refuses to communicate, and they both feel that they get along with each other very painfully).

Summary. The reason why speaking hurts people is determined by the way they speak.

Why do some people talk very hurtful?

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The reason why speaking hurts people is determined by the way they speak.

Some people feel that they can't be trusted, and they are skeptical about everything, so when they speak, they become quite confident, and they feel very strong and aggressive.

Moreover, if you only look at the problem from your own point of view, from the perspective of the strong, it is inevitable that you will lack understanding of the other party, and if the other party is a sensitive person, it is easy to offend people.

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Language is an important tool for us to communicate with others, and a word can have a great impact, which can be extremely pleasurable, but also bring deep trauma and scars to Zhichun. When we hear or see a sentence, associations and cognitive processing are formed in our minds, and in the process of further reading, comprehension, and organization, it may trigger a series of emotional reactions, such as joy, annoyance, sadness, shock, and so on. If the other person expresses words of praise, encouragement and support, then this emotion will bring us a positive and pleasant experience, on the contrary, if it is a criticism, envy, negation and sarcasm, it will bring negative emotions and cause us to feel anxious, low self-esteem and hopelessness.

Especially when we were young, because of our lack of experience and self-protection ability, we tend to be more susceptible to external influences. Some negative words, such as "you are too stupid", "you can't do this", etc., if often said, will make us form a negative self-perception and show it in later study and life.

Even adults are not immune to the influence of words. For example, if a leader says to an employee, "You don't work hard enough", although it is just a simple evaluation, it is easy to cause the employee to struggle internally, feel that he has been wronged or have doubts about himself, reduce motivation or even bring negative emotions home, which has an adverse impact on mental health.

Overall, words are powerful and difficult to control, and more importantly, they convey our attitudes, values, and positions, so we should all be respectful of others and careful in our words and actions, so as not to hurt others and leave regrets on ourselves.

I have been a sensitive child since I was a child, and I care a lot about what others say about me. I always try to do my best and want to be recognized and praised by others. But sometimes, someone unintentionally says something that hurts me and even affects my self-confidence and mood.

I remember one time, I participated in a speech contest at school, I prepared for a long time, memorized it many times, and felt that I did a good job. As a result, after the competition, I heard one classmate say to another, "Look at that person, he speaks so contrivedly, it's not natural at all."

They didn't notice me and didn't name me, but I knew they were talking about me. I felt sad at the time, I felt that my efforts had been in vain, and that people didn't appreciate me at all. I cried for so long when I got home that I didn't even want to go to any speaking engagements anymore.

Another time, I made a cake at home and wanted to surprise my mom and dad. I followed the recipe for a long time, and I thought it was pretty good. When Mom and Dad came back, they saw the cake and said:

What are you doing here? It's a waste of ingredients, and we don't eat sweets. "They threw away the stool mold cake without tasting it.

I felt very aggrieved at the time, and I felt that my mind was being ignored. I ran to the room and didn't come out, and didn't even want to cook any more meals.

It's been a long time since I think about it, but I still feel bad when I think about it. I know that others may not have malicious intent, and maybe just saying it casually does not represent what they really think. But for a sensitive person like me, these words pierced me like a knife into my heart and made me feel like I wasn't good enough, not liked, not understood.

Therefore, I hope that everyone can consider the feelings of others more when speaking, give more encouragement and affirmation, and less criticism and sarcasm. Because what you say may have a great impact on others, delay or even change their lives. One word you say can become an eternal scar in someone else's heart.