What happened to the older young people who didn t want to make do with it in the end?

Today's young people and the young people of the past are not the same, they like to pursue freedom, began to pay attention to their careers, many people are busy with their careers and delay the best age for marriage, and eventually it becomes difficult to find a very satisfactory object to marry, but there are many people who are not convinced, they are not willing to make do with it for a lifetime, some people will wait and wait, some wait until the other half that satisfies him, some wait for the more and more they do not meet more suitable, and some have children in their forties, but the family is happy, Sometimes I can't wait until I'm forty years old and still can't wait for the most suitable, and then I still get married and live a makeshift life, but I have been in love for a long time, and I have lived together for a long time like relatives, and I really have feelings for each other, they are very good.

There are two results of this, one is to beat singles, and now there are many old singles in many villages, which is a very common phenomenon in China where men and women are unbalanced. There is also a desperate blind date, so I can only settle and get married as soon as possible.

There are many reasons why older young people are reluctant to socialize, such as home, introversion, low self-esteem, getting used to loneliness, and strong desire to be single......and many other reasons, all of which are reasons why older young people are reluctant to associate with the opposite sex. However, it is difficult to find someone who suits you if you continue like this, so it is recommended to change your life status, such as going out more often, and maybe you can meet the right one.

For example, I know an older young woman, the reason why she didn't find a partner is that she is more homely and introverted. I don't usually guess the vertical door, and I have fewer friends. Almost all of them are at home, plus they are introverted, and they don't know what to say when they see the opposite sex.

So the older age didn't find a target either. Therefore, being homebound and introverted is the reason why older young people are reluctant to associate with the opposite sex.

But life is long, and you need a companion so that life will not feel boring and lonely.

Therefore, it is recommended to change this status quo and get out of the house and make more friends, such as going out for a walk, maybe you can meet the right person. Meeting the right person is one step closer to getting rid of singleness, sometimes fate is so simple, when you go out for a walk, you will meet someone who is destined, and then become friends, and it is also possible to become the right person.

Of course, some people can't find a partner because they are home. Some people are single, and their desire is greater than their desire to get married.

There may be people who are more afraid of marriage and don't want to get married, so they don't bother to get close to the opposite sex, and they don't have the urge to bend into marriage. Therefore, people who have a strong desire to be single do not want to have friends of the opposite sex. For example, I know a girl who is close to her old age, but she is not in a hurry to find a boyfriend, because she doesn't want to get married or fall in love.

Because she feels that being single can be free and free, no one cares. And when I got married, I was bound and had no free time, so I didn't want to get married. That's why I've always been single.

I think so! Being single is very free, but if you don't get married, what seems to be missing in life? For example, there is less warmth.

For example, the warmth of eating together as a family and going out to play together as a family. Because I didn't get married, I couldn't experience that kind of family happiness. So I think that if you meet the right one, you might as well choose marriage, and there will be happy moments.

In short, there are many reasons why older young people are reluctant to socialize, such as home, introversion, low self-esteem, getting used to loneliness, and ......having a strong desire to be singleand many other reasons, all of which are reasons why older young people are reluctant to associate with the opposite sex. However, it is difficult to find someone who suits you if you continue like this, so it is recommended to change your life status, such as going out more often, and maybe you can meet the right one.

1. There is an imbalance in the ratio of men and women.

In 1982, due to the implementation of family planning in China, and the idea of preference for sons over women in Luzhou at that time was also very serious, there was a serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women, resulting in the fact that the older young people are not respectful of the target, so there is a large number of single people.

2. The price of high housing sales is cautious, and the cost of marriage is too high.

Now the housing prices are too high, and it is not enough to get married and buy a house, and it is not enough for both families to spend all their money, and they have to take out a loan, and the repayment period is 30 years, plus it is difficult to make money, which causes a lot of pressure, causing the boy not to find a partner and not to get married.

Hello, in fact, everyone wants to find their favorite feelings as much as possible, and want to let themselves have real happiness and joy, and the reason why I have always been single and unwilling to get married is mainly due to the following factors:

First of all, in combination with my actual situation, I don't have the conditions for marriage, two people getting married together is not child's play is the need to have a certain material foundation, and I have only graduated from college for more than two years now, and my career has not really stabilized, and now girls are more realistic, I hope that the boys who marry themselves can have a car and a house, and give themselves a large dowry, and my family conditions are difficult to achieve, and now the vast majority of girls have marriage requirements, so from this stage, Staying single is the most realistic option for me.

On the other hand, deciding to marry two people together, in addition to the material foundation, also requires a certain emotional foundation, these emotional foundations are required for two people to be highly compatible in terms of three views, to be able to tolerate and understand each other, to find a person who is more suitable in all aspects, it is also more difficult, I am also very difficult to know this, so I didn't find the one that really made me excited, and I didn't find the one that made me really able to recognize, After all, a marriage is related to one's lifelong happiness, once the choice is wrong, and then I want to change the abutment and limbs, the cost and price paid are often too heavy.

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The first reason is that they don't want to find a partner, this kind of thing is very assertive people. They like to be single in their creed, they don't have the existence of the other half, they like the life of singleness, they are willing to live their own days freely and chicly, without any care, people with this kind of character are not suitable for falling in love, and they don't have the idea of falling in love, they have their own way of life and live very well.

The second type is those who have been emotionally wounded. The biggest reason why this kind of older young people are reluctant to associate with the opposite sex is because they have been hurt by their feelings, they have been in love very sincerely, but in the end they can't do it, or because of the other party, the two people are separated, and then they never talk again, because they feel too tired of falling in love, and they also feel too uncertain, so they decide not to fall in love.

The third is to be too picky. As they grow older, their experience is getting richer and richer, and older young people can balance their lives well with their own income, so their requirements for the other half are getting higher and higher, and there are fewer and fewer people of the opposite sex who meet their requirements, because as they grow older, more and more friends of the opposite sex around them get married, which will lead to an imbalance between the two sides, and finally it will become an older young man, unwilling to find the opposite sex.

In fact, when older young people reach a certain age, they should have their own plans about life and marriage, they all have their own understandings and ideas, and sometimes as bystanders, we can't judge the right or wrong behavior of the other party.

Nowadays, older young people are reluctant to get married, and they are still single in their 30s, and I think there may be several reasons.

1. I didn't meet the right person, that is, someone with the same three views.

Today's young people have high requirements for the other half, they must look good, have eyes, and have the same three views. They would rather lack than overgrow. Ancient wandering was an incredible game for them.

In addition, young people are busy with work, have few contacts, and have a small circle, so they cannot meet suitable candidates. If you can't do it high, if you can't do it low, it's left. Just like some of the young people in our unit.

2. The cost of marriage is high.

From the deposit for the engagement, to the holding of the wedding, buying a house and a car, etc., it takes a lot of money to meet the requirements of the girl, so some boys never get married.

3. Fear of marriage.

The main reason why these young people do not marry is because they have witnessed the painful and unhappy marriage of their parents, and they have marital phobia. No matter what the reason for young people not to get married, as long as their children are not married, they will always be the heart disease of their parents!! What a pity for the hearts of parents all over the world!!

In fact, they have become accustomed to living alone. Earn your own money only when you are hungry and spend it later, and one person eats enough for the whole family not to be hungry. Life is simple and not constrained by others.

You can do whatever you want, no one cares if you want to play games, you can sleep when you want, and you can travel if you want to. Some even believe that marriage is the grave of love.

My classmate's daughter is like this, she is 36 years old this year, and when she first started working, she talked to a few people, but she didn't get married. Now that someone has introduced her to the object is gone, she feels that Li is living a good life alone, she is used to living alone, so anxious that her parents are sick, and there is no way, this is her own choice, no one can interfere, think about it is indeed a little angry, alas, pity the hearts of parents in the world!

Not meeting the right person, or simply not being able to get married, are the two most important reasons why older young people don't get married.

We are always wandering in the world, not knowing where to go in order to embrace happiness. But time never gives us a choice, and in the blink of an eye, we become older youths. At this time, we were already a little panicked, but we also didn't have much choice, everything could only cross the river by feeling the stones.

1. If you don't meet someone who is suitable for marriage, marriage is as unattainable as a mirage.

I once had a relationship for more than two years, but when I thought our relationship was good enough to go into marriage, the other person didn't think so. He waved his sleeves and simply left my life.

I was in pain, but then I was relieved. Marriage can never be forced, and we all need to go through a silent path in singleness until we meet that right person.

For older men and women, they may have a choice to settle, but if there is still hope for future love, we always want to meet the most suitable person.

Second, many people don't want to get married, but they can't afford to get married.

This is one of the most important reasons why older young men do not get married, and in this era of rough preparation, marriage brings not only expectations to boys, but also pressure and despair.

Buying a house, buying a car and a high bride price have become the "three mountains" that every boy must carry if he wants to enter marriage.

This has made many boys a little desperate for marriage, although they have been working in that direction, but they already want to give up a little bit in their hearts.

Most of the development of the relationship between men and women needs to be paid by boys. But there is never easy money in life, and after being physically and mentally exhausted, no one knows how much to expect from marriage.

In fact, in real life, these two are the most important reasons why older young people don't get married. Either you haven't met the right person yet, or you have been hit by real life and no longer look forward to marriage.

Work hard to make money, when you meet the right person, marriage always needs material support.

With the improvement of living standards, in recent years, the rural bride price has gradually become an upward trend, many farmers have worked hard to save for decades to earn money in order to get married for their children not to be hollowed out all at once, and many families with not very good conditions choose not to get married because they can't get a high bride price.

According to the survey, in the early years of marriage in the countryside, it is normal for the man's family to pay a bride price of 50,000 or 60,000 yuan, which is acceptable to ordinary families, and there are additional restrictions containing money to buy marriage and marriage supplies, and the cost of marrying a daughter-in-law will not be too high.

In the past two or three years, the gift money in some rural areas has become higher and higher, and 100,000 200,000 yuan has become common, which is only the wedding money, in addition to the requirements for cars and houses, etc., so the cost of marriage has become a large amount.