What it s like to have an unreasonable neighbor

The biggest experience is: I often quarrel with them because of a little thing, because my family has a child in elementary school, but he often sings and dances after ten o'clock, and the tone is very loud, and it will make other neighbors also sleep badly, many neighbors are looking for him because of this matter, but he has all kinds of excuses, and the property has also found him, he still defends, he really can't do anything!

My neighbor is not only unreasonable, but also very arrogant, so generally if I have any conflicts with her, I can bear it, because I am too lazy to care about this kind of person now.

I'm tired! When I come home from hard work every day, I thought I could relax at home, but I always had to ......worry about all kinds of conflicts between neighbors

I just think that unreasonable neighbors are terrible, because they will behave very radically at every turn, that's it, I just have a mentality of "can't I hide if I can't be provoked".

My former neighbor was very annoying, the whole family loved to steal, everything loved to steal, as big as people's whole grain, as small as chickens, ducks and geese, and then I couldn't stand living in such an environment, so I decided to move with my family.

Every day, I see them very annoyed, and if his children are bullied, her family will scold them on the street. If her children bullied others, their family would laugh proudly, and I would be drunk.

I now have to worry about the neighbor's things every day, obviously in a good mood, but because of such a neighbor's bad heart, every day Ah Q spirit advises himself, it's not worth it, avoid, some things pretend to be invisible, but my heart has never been able to get out of this hurdle, I have been depressed, and I really want to escape.

I can only say that I can't laugh or cry, I think such a neighbor is very strange, but I can't do anything to him, I can only think that I am unlucky.

I went upstairs and said to my neighbor that my house was flooded by your house, and the upstairs said something about me, and then threw the door shut, leaving me outside the door with a stunned face, really helpless and speechless!

The family next door to me, at 12 at night, he either plays songs or games, and the more he talks, the more noisy he becomes, and now I curse by the window at 12 o'clock every night ......I'm so angry!

1. Stay calm.

First of all, when you have a quarrel with an unreasonable and selfish neighbor, you should first stay calm and not get angry. Anger will not allow you to solve the problem satisfactorily, on the contrary, it will have a tendency to escalate the conflict in the neighborhood. After all, everyone looks up and doesn't look down, and it's not good to be too embarrassed, especially in a harmonious society.

If one party remains calm, keep the head hot.

Then this contradiction will not escalate.

2. Don't reason with the other person when they are emotional.

When you have a verbal altercation with an unreasonable and selfish neighbor, don't reason with the other person when they are very emotional. He hasn't come to his senses yet, he won't listen to your theories, and it will escalate the incident. By the way, I also give myself a little time to sort out the cause of things, and after the other party's emotions calm down, it would be good to have something to say about things, and everyone will be more likely to succeed in a rational situation.

3. Try not to get into a fight.

When there is a little quarrel with an unreasonable and selfish neighbor, it is better not to quarrel without quarreling, they are all civilized people in the new society, and they should solve problems in a civilized way, instead of both sides blushing and shouting there, as if whoever is loud is reasonable, and the quarrel is not good for their health. In particular, there is high blood pressure.

As soon as you quarrel, your blood pressure may increase in sneer, so don't do anything harmful to your health.

4. Communicate patiently.

When you have a quarrel with an unreasonable and selfish neighbor, you might as well find a place to sit down, talk about all the problems frankly, and when communicating, you must first say what you are not doing well, so that you can open up the situation of communication, so that the friction incident will not fall into a dead end, resulting in an unsolvable situation. You should take a low profile yourself so that the problem can be solved, otherwise it will bring things to an impasse.

5. Open-minded.

When you have a quarrel with an unreasonable and selfish neighbor, be open-minded. Since the other party is that kind of person, and he will not change anything about him, in order to make his life healthier, then he can make some concessions, and make some concessions with the concept that suffering losses is blessings. Nothing is absolutely fair.

There is an unreasonable neighbor relationship to deal with:

1. Communicate in a timely manner, and when you encounter an unreasonable person, you should communicate with him in a timely manner, and try not to let the contradictions and influence expand.

2. Adhere to principles, people have their own ideas and opinions, although unreasonable people may not agree with the opinions, but we still have to adhere to our own ideas, adhere to principles.

3. Take Diplomacy Confronting it directly is a powerful approach, but there are some more ingenious ways. The core of successful diplomacy is to give the other side a decent step down.

4. Don't hope that "moving your mouth" will solve the problem. The other party can't think rationally when he's mad, don't simply hope to convince people with reason.

5. Don't be hijacked by the other party's emotions. There is a term in psychology called "emotional hijacking", also known as "amygdala hijacking", in which, the amygdala refers to the part of the brain that is responsible for perceiving threat, if you are hijacked by the other person's emotions, then you can easily become irrational, and even have negative emotions such as fear and anger, which is not conducive to solving problems.

6. Stay calm and make good use of "empathy". Empathy generally refers to psychological transposition, which is often referred to as comparing the heart to the heart, that is, putting oneself in the other person's shoes to experience the other person's emotions and cognition, and trying to think from the other person's point of view.

This kind of thing has been encountered by many people, under normal circumstances, friendly communication can solve the problem, and individual unreasonable people also have it, so, when encountering this kind of thing, how should it be solved?

The first is to negotiate politely with the other party for the purpose of solving the problem. Maybe your laughing neighbor may not even realize you're making noise, so you need to calm down and speak as politely as possible. If you don't know each other yet, introduce yourself first and then talk specifically about what kind of noise you're hearing.

You can try saying, "Hello, I live downstairs. Maybe you didn't realize it, but there were a few times when it was very late, I could still hear the ** sound coming from your house. This Tuesday night's music was particularly loud, but it wasn't so noisy last night.

Make specific recommendations. You can say, "I have to get up early to go to work every day." You can be at 10:0 p.m

After 30, turn down the ** voice? ”

The second is to choose a suitable time to talk to your neighbors about noise. Don't go to the door during a party or at night, when the other person is more likely to get angry. Also, try not to negotiate with the other party when you are angry.

You'll have to wait until the next morning to talk to your neighbors in peace. If you or your neighbors have a habit of going to bed late and waking up late, talk to them at dinnertime. If you find it awkward to talk face-to-face, leave a note for your neighbor.

The best way to solve this problem is to make it clear to your face, but if you have any doubts, leave a short, friendly note for your neighbor. It's best to have a note of around 4 to 5 sentences, but write clearly which noise you find most unbearable.

Third, if the neighbor's house only makes one or two noises once in a while, you can tap the ceiling with a broom head. Sometimes the neighbor's house makes unusually noisy noises. They may not realize that their downstairs neighbors can hear it, or they may know that their neighbors can hear it, but they still can't stop the noise.

If you're going to sleep when the noise starts, tap the ceiling a few times with a stick and your neighbors may be quiet. If the noise is happening during the day, the best way to fix it is to wait for the sound to go away. If your neighbors are generally quiet, there's no need to disturb them with the occasional noise.

Fourth, if you unfortunately encounter unreasonable people, there is no need to force yourself and intensify the contradictions. Residents may file a complaint with a neighborhood committee, community business committee, or other organizations, or report the case to the local police station for mediation, and if the circumstances are serious, they may be punished in accordance with the "Public Security Administration Punishment Law". If the noise meets the national legal standards, it is necessary to actively report to the environmental protection department and call 12369 for environmental protection reporting**.

If none of the above measures work, residents can also resolve the matter through court litigation.