My mother always said that the most regrettable thing in my life is to marry my father, what should

First of all, I would like to ask you under what circumstances did your mother say these words? Is it angry talk? Is it triggered by the same thing, the same type of thing?

If your mother is just talking angry, as a child, you also need to reflect on your role in the whole family, which should always be the spice of your parents' lives. It doesn't hurt to say something considerate often, even if it's something similar to a petty temper tantrum and coquettishness.

For example, you can tell your father, I went home and said I wanted to eat fish, my mother actually said that you don't like the smell of fish, let me endure it, hum You two show affection every day and don't care about me, whether I am biological or not, I can also complain to my mother that my father actually asked me to find a partner to marry, and I was angry with me! I'll rely on you both! o(´^o

If it's not angry, then I want to ask you, are you happy in such a family environment? Happiness? Do you find it awkward?

Because children are the crystallization of their parents' love (or just marriage), children can often reflect the educational results of a family, as well as the quality of their relationship with each other. If father and daughter love each other, understand each other, and support each other in life, children will also be cheerful and sunny from an early age, and will be able to understand others and help others.

If you're happy, have you ever ignored your parents' feelings? You can tentatively ask Mom and Dad about the story of how they once loved each other, and see what the difference is between the perspectives of the two people. Is it not the right way to express feelings for each other, so that the other party cannot receive this love in time?

It is also possible that there have been some contradictions and misunderstandings that have not been resolved, and you can try to help adjust. In short, your role is to look at the attitude of your parents.

If you feel unhappy. So please recall your past family life carefully, is there a problem, do your parents often quarrel, what is the reason for the quarrel, and what is the hidden root behind it? Is it a difference in opinions, a difference in habits, a difference in preferences, or what?

Do you think they are in love? What role do your parents play in the family? Does the father have machismo tendencies and is he not always aware of his mother's emotions?

Does your father love your mother, and have you ever felt the same way as your mother? You should also express your feelings to your parents.

And then I want to say that not all separations are bad. If it is torture for two people to be together, then it is better not to compromise and separate as soon as possible. If you are an adult, I hope you can respect the choice of your parents, they are also independent people and need to have their own lives, even if they are separated, you still have dad and mom, there is no difference, they can have a better life.

If you are a minor, it is recommended that you renegotiate about your education. In short, it is best to be able to be together peacefully and contentedly, and if not, then it is also good to get together and disperse.

Mom always talks like this, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with their relationship. My mom used to say the same thing. My mom and dad have been in a relationship since high school, and then my dad went to college, but my mom didn't get in, so she waited for my dad to come back from school.

My parents were very poor when they got married, and there were no wedding photos, and my mother was also very awkward about this matter.

Because my father's family was already poor, it was difficult for the two of them to get started, and it was really not easy to work hard to get to the current family business. More than a month ago, there was a problem with my grandfather's own brick factory, and my father had no choice, so he mortgaged our own house to my grandfather for a loan. <>

My mom also divorced my dad for this matter, and on weekdays, she didn't say much like regretting marrying my dad, but they still didn't get divorced, no matter how difficult it was, my mom still accompanied my dad to work hard to repay the loan. Therefore, when your mother says this, she just complains casually on weekdays, and you don't have too much psychological burden, maybe you have planted a heart disease for yourself without anything.

My parents are typical of the 80s love, met on a blind date, fell in love with each other, and got married. But my dad kept saying that it was a special fate that I could meet your mother.

Because when I didn't know my mother yet, I dreamed in the middle of the night one night. I dreamed that an old man led my father through a path, pointed in a direction in the distance, and said to my father, "Your future wife is in this direction."

It's amazing, a few days later, my dad went on a blind date and took a fancy to my mom at a glance. Afraid that my mother would hesitate and finally give up, I called a group of brothers, took a large bag of mustard and a bunch of radishes, and rushed to my mother's house directly according to the address given by the matchmaker.

2) When I was on the road, my dad felt that something was wrong, this path was both familiar and unfamiliar, and it was very strange. I didn't think too much about it, so I'll talk to my mom first.

When I went to my mother's house, seven or eight older boys came directly to someone's house without saying hello. The momentum just now was pressing, but as soon as it arrived, it began to coax. Everyone pushed my dad out, and my dad was a 25-year-old boy with a red face and couldn't speak clearly, and he said he wanted to see my mom.

However, according to my mother's recollection, she was really scared at the time, and instantly felt that my father was unstable and wanted to push this blind date.

But who my dad is, he's here, stay for now. My grandmother didn't say anything, so she asked my mother to set up a table at the door, pour a few glasses of wine, and take out the mustard. The big guy sat dryly all night with liquor and squeezed vegetables.

3) When I went back, my dad stood on the path and thought about it for about ten minutes, and finally patted my brother's back and remembered that this path was familiar and had it in my dreams.

This made my dad firm in his mind, my mother is his future wife and didn't run away, no matter how he repents tonight, his wife is his.

4) My dad thinks beautifully, but my grandma doesn't like my mom very much. I think my mom looks stupid and not clever, and my grandmother doesn't like my dad either, she thinks my dad is unstable and too jumpy.

The blind date that both parents were not satisfied with was not followed up according to the time. But my dad can't do it, it has to be my mother, he runs to my mother's house every day to help my grandmother cut rice and feed the pigs ......I did the dirty work for half a month, and finally managed to get my grandmother done. When I went back, I kept chattering in front of my grandmother, so that my grandmother couldn't stand it, and finally relented.

My mom didn't have any clear ideas, but seeing that my dad worked so hard, my grandmother didn't object anymore, so she married my dad in a daze.

To be continued).