What are some of your experiences of trying your best, but still not retaining ?

Some people say that people have to experience three times of growth in their lives, the first growth is when they find that they are not the center of the world, the second growth is when they find that no matter how hard they try, there are still some things that they can't do after all, and the third growth is when they know that some things are powerless, and they will try their best to fight for them.

When I really experienced this, I realized that there are really some things in life that we can't do anything about.

At the beginning of last year, my mother was not in good health and took her to the hospital for examination, which was quite serious. The doctor recommended a better medicine, which is said to be good for recuperation, but ** is ridiculously expensive, I checked all my accounts, a big difference, even if I borrow it, I can't make up this number, and I suddenly had a sad feeling at that time. I usually feel that my life is fine, there are no strong winds and waves, and my work is smooth and comfortable, and I never thought that one day I would worry about money.

Later, I quit my job and went to Beijing alone, always thinking that I would be able to earn a lot of money by working hard and working hard. So I saved up a few months of money to open a store with a friend, full of energy to do things, thinking about bringing more money home for the New Year to make my mother happy. As a result, towards the end of the year, an unexpected incident completely destroyed our store, and we didn't get back what we put in, and we still owed a lot of money.

At that time, I felt extremely decadent, and all my positivity and confidence were shattered. I don't want to go home, I don't want to hit the family, I can't sleep every day, I lose my hair anxiously, I have acne, I don't know what to do, where to go, for the first time, I feel that there are really some things in this world that even if I try my best, I still can't do anything....

Life is unfulfilling, and all people's lives will have such and such shortcomings. Many times, a lot of things are not something we can get by working hard, more than that, we try our best, but we still can't keep it.

My first love was a very immature person, so it was really hard to fall in love with him. But because it was my first love and I had been talking for many years, I still have deep feelings for him, and I also want to live with him, or even get married. But he belongs to the kind of person who he doesn't think about when you grow up, and he doesn't want to let him study, so he wants to make money first, so he goes out after graduating from high school.

Go out, go out, if you concentrate on learning things, it's fine, the point is that he has been complaining that he has been embarrassed in the company, isn't it normal to be embarrassed, and I was also embarrassed when I worked. This kind of complaint, if it is just to vent with his girlfriend, the work still has to be done, and I have been guiding him, so that he can accumulate customer resources first, learn some things first, and at least find out the whole channel. But he was very radical, just a year out, he wanted to start his own business, at that time I didn't agree, to have no education, to have no experience, and so immature I think he was eaten to the bones.

But then he came out to start his own business, and I also told him that I would help after graduation, and even for this, I went to double major economics and specialized in family business management. <>

And because of my minor, as well as the hip-hop dance team at that time, I was as busy as a dog. It was at such times that he did something that I couldn't forgive. Originally, in the early stage of our relationship, he didn't handle the matter of his ex-girlfriend well, which already made me mind a lot, and then the woman kept destroying our relationship, and it took several years to stop.

But just when I was working so hard for the future, he went to find the woman himself. He said that I was so busy that I couldn't find me, and he was still very angry at that stage (who was busy all day, and was pulled to say that ** can't sleep and his temper will be good), so he went to find that woman. <>

Later, I broke up with him, no matter how immature he is, no matter how willful he is, I can tolerate him, but he can't step on my bottom line, he can't be so mentally retarded, and use this argument to excuse himself, even if he admits his mistake at the time and runs to redeem me. Maybe it's because I'm not good enough, and after working hard for so long, there's still no way to keep this relationship. At that time, I felt quite powerless, although it was the breakup I mentioned, but I also had to admit that it was really a relationship that I couldn't keep, a person I couldn't keep, and if I had to stay, the most tired person would be myself.

Seeing this question, I tried to think about whether I had such an experience, but I found that it didn't. In the past, I always felt that I had done my best and could not be recovered, so I stopped doing it. In retrospect, I didn't do enough.

From this question, I can reflect on myself as a person who likes to avoid feelings, whether it is family, friendship or liking someone's feelings. Because I always want to escape some bad things, I miss some opportunities to make up for my mistakes, and I always feel that there is still time, so I willfully put it off again and again, ** I know, feelings can't stand the "delay". My avoidance may give the other person the feeling that they want to cut off all contact with you, and then they give up.

That year, my grandfather had Alzheimer's disease, and many people didn't know him, but he still remembered me. However, such a grandfather who loved me, when he died, I didn't see him for the last time. When I went back and saw the whiteness of my eyes, I finally stinged my eyes and cried so much that I couldn't help myself.

I value family affection the most, but I can't keep it.

Whether it is family, friendship or love, it requires your own best efforts to maintain, it does not allow you to have the slightest slackness, because you don't know which day, you will lose it forever, no matter how hard you try, it is irretrievable.

I used to do some things, but they were all the kind of sluggish feeling, as if I wouldn't do it with all my strength and energy, or to deal with this incident and deal with this person, really because of this I missed a lot of opportunities, but now what is the use of regretting it? Some things are in the past, and it is useless to dwell on them now.

How to say, whether you treat people or things, some things are really no matter how hard you try, if the other party is unwilling to accept it, or the other party has no feelings for you, then even if you do your best, the final result is that you are doing useless work.

I talked about an object in the beautiful era of my youth, at that time, it was because of a bet and then the two of them came together, in fact, it feels quite amazing now, it is really because the people around me are coaxing, and then said let me find someone to confess, I looked around and really found that person directly to confess, I didn't expect him to agree, and then the two came together.

In fact, when two people are in love, it feels very good, but at that time, the school will not let students have early love, once holding hands on the playground for a walk, and then being seen by the security guard in the school, he ran directly to ask us what the situation was, and then my boyfriend said nothing, he insisted on holding my hand and forcing me.

Later, it turned out that he was obviously criticized by the school and notified our parents, and my parents directly told him that he should never appear in front of me again, and they said that it was really difficult to listen to at that time, saying that he had affected my studies.

In the end, he broke up with me directly for the sake of me studying hard, and I really tried hard to tell him that I would study hard and not break up, but the result was still broken, and I couldn't keep the result after trying my best.

In the third year of high school, I studied hard and wanted to get a high score, but in the end I found that I had more than enough strength to do so, even if I occasionally got a high score, but I still fell.

I remember I was in a relationship with my ex for almost four years, when she said that she had broken up, and I took a train for more than 20 hours to find her alone in order to keep her, but she still didn't want to come out to see me, and we finally separated.

In our lives, we will want to do a lot of things, but not everything we can do, there may be some things we tried our best, but did not succeed, at this time we may feel very upset, but do not give up on yourself, or because of a failure to deny yourself.

When we try our best, but we don't succeed, we can say a word to ourselves"It doesn't matter"Because whether in life or work, it is difficult for us to do everything according to our hearts, and many times whether a thing or a job can be done well. It does not depend on the final result, but to solve our attitude, as long as we do everything with our heart, then we will slowly harvest, and we will slowly let ourselves grow, so no matter what happens, you can say a word to yourself"It doesn't matter"。

And you can tell yourself"Everything will pass"No matter what we have experienced in our lives, whether we have experienced good or bad things, nothing can be permanent. When we fail or are in pain, we must tell ourselves that "everything will pass" time is the best healing medicine, and that the past cannot be changed if it has already happened. The best thing to do is to accept it, so teach yourself to have an optimistic and positive mindset and tell yourself that everything will pass.

Because no matter how heavy the rain is, there will always be a day when the rain will pass and the sky will clear.

Maybe after we try our best, but we don't succeed, we will feel that God is unfair. Because everyone passes on to themselves the values that as long as they work hard, they will reap the rewards, but if they always let themselves pass by perfection like this, they will feel that everything is meaningless. But everyone should know that everything we do, what we get is the result, but the most gain is the pass.

As long as you are willing to work hard in the process, then even if the result is not successful, you will enrich yourself.

It's okay. Many things in life are inherently futile.

Failure is the mother of success, next time it will definitely succeed, if I don't work hard it will not be possible, I now at least have the hope of success.

Failure is the mother of success, who has not failed, one thing seriously, try your best to do it well, even if you do not succeed in the end, there is nothing, the most important thing is that you are in this matter, really experience a process from scratch, it will be a great wealth!

If you try your best but don't succeed, it can only be said that it is the will of God. You have the spirit of daring to fight hard, so you can't judge heroes by success or failure.

Hard work may not be successful, but you must work hard and you will never succeed if you don't work hard.

Tell yourself that it is God's arrangement, and it is up to people to make things happen, and you have no regrets from now on.

I think it's good to work hard and not succeed, that is, time is not waiting, and maybe there will be a chance next time.

If you try your best, you will not regret it when you think about it in the future, and if you don't try your best, you will regret why you didn't do your best in the first place.

Of course, I have to work harder, otherwise I have to think about how to comfort myself next time.

Then think back, is it not enough to work hard? But that's okay. Just do your best.

There is no way, God does not fulfill people's wishes.

I think that since I have tried my best and I am still helpless, I have to accept my fate. Man's fate is predestined. Just like when I was in my third year of high school, even though I tried my best, I gave up the college entrance examination, because of the environment at that time, the mood at that time, and the results at that time, I was already desperate, and I didn't think that suicide was a kind of luck at that time.

The situation has forced me to suffer from mild depression, and even if I bought a tranquilizer in the infirmary, I was able to drink it all night and feel refreshed without any sleepiness. At that time, ordinary drugs had no effect on me. I was full of confusion and frustration, but the school did not have a psychology counseling room.

Even when I went to the class teacher and classmates every day to relieve my depression, they only talked about the impetuousness and did not talk about my heart at all. At that time, I was basically in a state of obsolescence. I want to work hard to improve my grades, but the reality is that my grades are always hesitant.

I want to change schools to improve my learning environment, but I am worried that I will not be able to integrate into the new environment immediately. The situation was very embarrassing, with the college entrance examination still a few months away, and the intense study needed to continue, and I was in a state of flux, leaving school several times to go home, and returning to school alone several times. The teachers tried their best to please and encourage, and my classmates supported and helped, but I was deeply trapped in the pain of my own weaving and couldn't extricate myself, maybe it was the situation at home, which affected my state, or it may be the failure of the first exam, which caused me a blow.

In short, I was immersed in pain again and again, gritting my teeth and finishing each class, and I didn't know what I was talking about in a trance. Although he used to be the first in the age, he was always able to be at the top. But when my strengths turned into weaknesses, I was really helpless.

So in the end, I chose to give up the college entrance examination, which may be the only relief from the pain, some people may say that I am cowardly and can't afford to be beaten, but after experiencing it, I have also learned a lot. I can't ruin my life just because of a college entrance exam. It's better than turning yourself into a crazy person.