How to get along with a friend who is always anxious

Dealing with anxious friends requires patience and calmness. I have a friend who is very anxious, so every time I communicate with him, I tell myself that I must be calm, and comfort him well, so that he can calm down and strive to make progress and grow together with him.

My personal opinion is that you can tell him that you are not afraid to hurt the feelings between the two of you, and you can tell him directly what kind of consequences will come if he is emotionally unstable, and even what kind of harm will be caused to you. You see how he goes, you see what he thinks, if he is still like that, he can't manage his emotions, then such a capricious person, you don't associate with him, because it will bring you negative energy, or bring you irritability and harm, a person who is too emotional, he is not cruel to himself. I didn't manage myself a little harder.

It's still according to your own temperament, how can you do that? It's right for you to make friends with him, but it's not wrong for you not to be friends with him, if he always does this, then he won't be able to make friends in the future. If you really can't accept him, you can gradually grow cold until you completely break off the relationship.

In today's society and among the friends around you, there are always some people who are more emotional, if you encounter this situation, try not to talk about controversial topics with them, otherwise, it will not only affect the relationship between friends, but also expand the matter. If there is an opportunity for him to ease his emotions, bring up his problems and correct them slowly, so that he can realize his problems and slowly correct them in the future.

Or are you just a little ruthless, how ruthless? At least more ruthless than her. She's irritable, you're more irritable than her, and she has nothing to say every time.

If you don't have this ability, you just endure it, at most, you try to stay in the dormitory as little as possible, go to the library more, travel more, make friends you like, and slowly, your own strength will go up, and she will naturally restrain you a lot.

This kind of person is actually quite pitiful, his soul is lonely, and his quality of life is terrible. If you have high energy or professional psychology and behavioral knowledge, try to help, if there is a good effect, it will be Amitabha, if there is no effect, most of them are their own karma, and playing Buddha Seven is also a good way to save yourself. It should be noted that helping such people requires self-protection so that their excessive emotions do not hurt themselves.

Once you are injured, you have to have the ability to save yourself.

If the relationship is average, try not to deal with him, if the relationship is very good, you can try to tell him that being too emotional will affect the mood of others and yourself, and it is best to correct it slowly.

If your friend has long-term anxiety and recommends that he go to the doctor, it may be mania, or long-term neurasthenia, for the sake of his health, it is better to go to a professional hospital to see a neurologist.

I think it's good to go with the flow, there is no need to treat him specially, he has a share of things, who can take care of him.

If the relationship is really tense, then try to avoid contact, if you have to contact, try not to care about her words, and then ignore the small things, don't fall into the face, and go back if it's too much.

Get along with a friend who is anxious, try to follow him as much as possible, don't say people or things he doesn't like, do this, and you can get along happily.

I just want to say that everyone has a temper, everyone has a bottom line, treat people with courtesy, give three points, accommodate when you should be accommodating, and say what you can't bear. ‍‍

I'm a pretty emotional person, and I show something right away, but I don't remember it after a while, and I think if I understand it, I'll become good friends. ‍‍

If you're always anxious with someone, I think you really should let yourself be soothed.

Anxious people have a tendency to worry about themselves, they think that the world is full of dangers, and they also think that these dangers can be avoided through hard work, and they feel that as long as they are careful and hardworking, they can be safe, so anxious people will worry too often and intensely, which will lead to frequent and excessive tension in the limbs, because he has to be ready to fight all the time.

How do you get along with an anxious person?

First of all, you have to show him that you are a reliable person, that you are going on a trip or for any activity, that you are ready to do your job, that you reassure him and that he feels that you value these things.

The second is to let him see things from another perspective. For example, if something is not done, he is always worried, but you can discuss it, what happens if it is really not done? If it's a big deal, it won't be done, and it will have no impact on our lives, so as to reduce anxiety.

Kind-hearted humor can also be applied. For example, the elderly at home often read at home, read you for a long time, if you are angry, you will not be happy, at this time, if you can say "I listen to you, you have walked more bridges than I have walked", so that the old man can feel that you can talk to him very easily about this matter, to treat him with humor, which can relieve his anxiety.

Of course, if the anxiety is too severe, you should see a psychologist.

What can't we do with anxious personalities?

1. You can't be matched by an anxious person, if you have no autonomy at all, and your life is dominated by an anxious person, you will be very tired and unbearable, because he will drive you to become anxious.

2. Don't arrange unexpected surprises for anxious people. There are a lot of people who think he's happy to throw a party and surprise him with a bunch of people, but in reality he's very angry because he feels like he's not prepared for the situation.

3. Don't share your worries with an anxious person and avoid talking about unpleasant topics with him. There are so many topics in society, pick more happy topics to talk about, if you talk about those topics that make people feel uncomfortable, make people feel uncomfortable, and can't get over, anxious people will continue to magnify the problem and become more anxious.

1.Prone to anxiety when dealing with depressed people: Depressed people will spread their emotions to those around them, and they will feel irritable, anxious, and depressed, which can make you feel anxious.

2.It's easy to get anxious when you're around people who are extremely confident: People who are extremely confident can make you feel stressed because they always want you to do what they want, which can make you feel anxious.

3.It's easy to get anxious when you're around extremely critical people: Extremely critical people can make you feel stressed because they always want to judge your behavior according to their standards, which can make you feel anxious.

4.Anxiety with OCD: OCD can make you feel stressed because they will always ask you to do what they ask you to do, which can make you feel anxious.

and people with negative energy are prone to anxiety.

Summary. Hello dear.

You have social anxiety disorder.

Social phobia refers to the sudden feeling of fear, nervousness, and even avoidance behaviors when patients enter a social situation, which is difficult to control, especially when they suddenly enter a social situation, which will cause obvious anxiety symptoms. Psychological** is the first choice for such diseases, including systematic desensitization, exposure**, etc., and anti-anxiety drugs can be used if necessary to relieve the patient's anxiety symptoms and physical discomfort, and reduce the patient's alertness.

What to do if you feel anxious about making friends.

Dear, hello you This belongs to social anxiety disorderSocial phobia refers to the fact that patients enter a social situation, suddenly feel fear, nervousness, and even appear to avoid auspicious calls, which is difficult to control, especially when suddenly entering a social situation, which will cause obvious anxiety symptoms. Psychological** is the first choice for such diseases, including systematic desensitization, exposure**, etc., and anti-anxiety drugs can be used if necessary to relieve the patient's anxiety symptoms and physical discomfort, and reduce the patient's alertness.

Social cover digging anxiety disorder should be targeted**. It is necessary to change this kind of character, participate more in group activities, participate in more literary and sports activities, and exercise one's courage. Under possible conditions, try to communicate with BOC, gradually exercise your interest and courage in the process of communication, and overcome your own stage fright, so as to have a satisfactory effect.

My friends know that I am an impatient person, and I still have some perfectionism in my bones, which leads to every time I do something, I not only want to do it as fast as three times five divided by two, but also require the result of this thing to score no less than 90 points in my mind.

The previous Xuntong type didn't realize that he had such high requirements for himself, okay, if it was a thing within his ability, it would be easy to say, but how could life always be smooth, so that you have always encountered something that is right. If you want to grow, you have to get out of your comfort zone, you have to do things that you haven't tried before, step on a pit that you haven't stepped on before, fall painfully, and then you will walk around when you encounter such a pit in the future. To get back to the point, I didn't have such a consciousness before, if I didn't finish something quickly and well according to my own ideas, on the one hand, I was very discouraged, my heart was full of anxiety and self-doubt, and on the other hand, I complained about my environment:

What kind of bullshit is xx! How can this be!

What made me even more desperate at the time was that there was a kind of task that you had to do, called group tasks in college......

Later, I was also exposed to self-growth psychology and methods, and consciously adjusted my temper, in fact, this kind of temperament is also beneficial, for example, I rarely procrastinate in doing things, and I will never be perfunctory about one thing.

1.You must have the awareness that you are not omnipotent, no one is perfect, it is inevitable to get into trouble when you do something, and sometimes lowering your expectations of yourself can make you reduce unnecessary anxiety and improve work efficiency.

2.Try to make a rough plan or outline when you do a task, which can reduce a lot of anxiety. （ps.The outline of the plan is also to be constantly adjusted as the task progresses).

3.When doing group tasks, planning ahead and a good division of labor can increase the motivation of the members and make the task smoother, if no one is willing to take on the role of leader of planning and division of labor, then there is no doubt that it is you, although you may spend more time and energy to adjust. But remember, in this way, for the expectation of a result of more than 90 points in your own heart, the other group members do not have such high requirements for themselves, this is what you want to do to make yourself good, take on more, and of course you get more from it, which is worth it.

Of course, the gold content of each group task is different, whether it is worth paying for yourself, or you can get by, you need to measure it yourself, and do things to focus on the key and mainstream).

4.Exercise moderately every week, insist on meditation, and insist on meditation from a few weeks ago, it is useful to test and use, and your mind will be much calmer, and your sleep quality will also be improved. (You can search for tutorials on station b, beginners don't need to care too much about the skills, just focus on breathing).

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