Does a family have to have a boy?

The future I imagine is a lifetime of a son and a daughterBut that's just imagination, in fact, whether it is a son or a daughter, I will regard it as a treasure, and the idea of patriarchy does not exist in my place.

I have three children at home, me, my brother and sister, a son and two daughters, every time the whole family goes out together, others will envy my parents: these three are your children, your family is so happyIt's nice to have children and daughters! One son is enough, the burden on the son is too heavy, the daughter is good, considerate.

I never imagined what it would be like if my brother didn't live in my house. Maybe it won't be so happy? Maybe not so many people envy? I only know one thingMy parents treated me and my sister no worse than my brother.

I've met families like this: high school classmatesThere are two daughters at home, each white and beautiful, gentle and pleasing, parents respect each otherThe whole house is filled with the smell of love, and the happiness is great.

I have also met such families: a relative, gave birth to four sons, in fact, they wanted a daughter after giving birth to the first son, but gave birth to a son, gave birth to a son, and finally became four sons, due to the lack of funds in the family, can not have another child, so they bought a daughter from someone else to go home.

Although the family is relatively poor, the family has made doThe four brothers love their little sister very much, which can be regarded as a kind of happiness.

I've also come across this kind of family:There is a Bao'er son in the family, who has been doting on him since he was a child, and he has grown up very much. Parents must buy what they want, they hold a knife at their parents if they don't agree with each other, gamble, smoke, drink and beat people, everything is not bad, and they are grabbed and put out several times, every time their parents beg for this and that, and borrow money everywhere to protect people.

What is the use of such a son?

After seeing so many families, I finally came to a conclusion: A family does not necessarily have a son, the happiness of the family has nothing to do with whether there is a son, whether the parents are loving, whether the child is sensible, and whether the whole family is harmonious.

Not necessarily, I think children are the best gift of a family, the crystallization of love, and it doesn't matter so much whether a boy or a girl is a girl.

However, there are still many places, especially in rural areas, where the idea of preference for sons is particularly serious, and they always feel that "raising children to prevent old age", and if they have a son, they can provide for their old age; And daughters always want to get married, "the water spilled by the married daughters", they are someone else's. Therefore, if you don't have a son, you will keep giving birth and ......

There is a family in my grandmother's village, the first two children are daughters, but they especially want a son, so the wife of that family will basically have a child in a year or two. It's just unfortunate that three children were born or daughters, and the last was twins. Every time I go to their house, as soon as I enter the yard, I will see a row of children on the steps, well, I personally think the children are quite cute.

However, for a rural family, it is actually very worrying, because to raise children, time, energy and money have to be paid, so they have been more nervous and tired. Later, if it weren't for the fact that the woman was old and wanted to continue to have sons. However, in the end, he adopted a son and realized his dream of having a son at home.

To be honest, I don't think it's necessary at all, because it's not good for the kids or for them. First of all, the economic conditions of their family are not very good, and having so many children will only increase their living burden, and secondly, having too many children cannot take good care of each child and give them a good life.

Therefore, I feel that it is not necessary to have a boy in the family, and if there are no two children, don't force it.

In life and learning, the father must be involved, the little boy is the epitome of the future man, and the father must participate in the life of the child, giving the child an example of imitation and learning. Sex education can be carried out consciously and unconsciously when a child is two or three years old. The difference between boys and girls can be told through some cartoons.

At this time, it is very necessary for fathers to also play a key role in making children clearly aware of their gender. The mother can be coquettish appropriately, and the mother cannot be too weak or too strong, so it is okay to be coquettish appropriately with the child. The mother behaves like a spoiled child, which can cultivate the child's self-confidence and stimulate the child's desire to protect.

<> naturally, this is also a good way for boys to develop their abilities in advance. Doting is a woman's best life, and mothers are also women, and mothers can be doted on. But in everyday life, encourage the son to be close to the father, help the son to build a good relationship with the father, and tell the son something about the girl so that they know the responsibilities of the boy.

When the child reaches a certain age, he needs a relaxed environment, not your requirements and modifications. All aspects of the child should be accepted, but only if you do some guidance, if your ideas are not recognized by the child, what you need to do is to understand the child's inner thoughts and respect the child's ideas. Gender is innate, and while gender consciousness exists to a certain extent, I believe that a considerable part of it can be formed in the initial initiation education.

Of course, this is not to say that a boy has to be, in fact, the best state is hermaphroditism, brutalizing his body, optimizing his mind, and refined thinking does not affect a strong will. Because what children do is not perfect, they always habitually deny children, but they ignore that children need to be praised and encouraged in the process of growing up, and blindly denying children will make them feel very psychologically stressed, and slowly produce inferiority complex and lack of self-confidence, and they will be more timid when doing some things. At this time, if parents only know how to deny what their children do, it will make their rebellious psychology more serious, so parents should see the advantages of their children when educating their children, praise when they should praise, and criticize when they should criticize.

In life, we should let our children make choices about themselves, and we should also let our children be a capable person, have a good attitude, have good quality and morality, must have courage, do not be submissive, do everything to bury rent and hide should think twice, parents should teach by word and deed.

In fact, the child can be cultivated into a person with assertive views and the ability to Zen reform, and the child's personality should also be lively, cheerful and straightforward. Let the child become a responsible person, don't be a cowardly and weak person, and the second is to encourage the child more in life, cheer for the child more, and don't scold the child for beating the child.

You can make your child become a brave person, a bold person, and you should also make your child's courage a little bigger, and you can take your child to some crowded places to participate in the gathering and chaos to go to the amusement park. Whatever you do is to let your child choose, you should also tell your child about all the advantages and disadvantages.

First of all, it is necessary to choose the correct way to raise and dismantle the quiet parenting, and form a good guiding role in the process of educating children.

First of all, parents should cultivate the boy's strong and brave character, not over-spoiling in the process of growing up, to be a good example of leakage behavior, take children to participate in outdoor activities, so that children can be full of self-confidence, and to understand how to respect others, to have a good sense of morality.

For families with sons, it is necessary to let children understand the relevant sense of responsibility, let boys participate in the work of the family, and let them understand that they are also a laughing son who belongs to this family, and it is necessary to cultivate their sense of responsibility.

If it is a family with a boy, you must tell the boy the following points: to cultivate the child's self-confidence, sense of responsibility, let the child learn to be independent, let the child learn to withstand the pressure of training, and bravely face his own mistakes and shortcomings.

Families who think that if they don't respect their son, they should see their son as a man who has not inspected the mountain, and they should also cultivate their son's independent character in ordinary times, which will also be helpful in the future.

We should cultivate a strong and brave character of the trivial male Yuandong Bi child, who can be brave and brave in the face of danger, cheerful and cheerful, and be able to get along harmoniously with children in life.

I think we should respect the opinions of our children's grandchildren, and we can't be as gentle with boys as we are with girls, and we must find some corresponding education methods, and we can't pamper children.

Parents should let their children become a responsible person, and let them endure more hardships in the process of educating their children, so that they can learn to take responsibility.

Boys need to be cultivated, grinding pure and excellent is trained, and families with boys should cultivate children's bravery, strength, and initiative.

First of all, we must cultivate the boy's mind and willpower. And let him have the ambition to protect and share family responsibilities. The most important thing is his desire to protect others.

First of all, the spring old should cultivate the child's sense of responsibility and self-motivation, let the child participate in family affairs, cultivate the child's hands-on ability, and obtain pocket money through labor.

The child must maintain self-confidence, and the child must be very strong and independent, and the father should guide him more at this time, so that he can make the child very resolute.

Boys must first cultivate their sense of responsibility, and then cultivate their talents, as a boy, they will have to bear a family in the future, and they must become the pillars of the Tongmengshi family.

It must be cultivated in accordance with the scientific method of imitation difference, guide the child's learning ability, establish a correct three views for the child, and let the child have a correct living habit in Qingchang.

First of all, we should check the socks to determine the way to educate the child, and to ensure that the child will not be pampered, can not let the child develop a pampered character, and can not let the child be very willful.

Cultivate children's sense of responsibility, cultivate children's trust, let children learn how to take care of others, how to love others, and cultivate children's sense of justice

Everyone's words, they are parents for the first time, and they attach great importance to the education of their children, so we can educate our children while learning.

I think we should train a boy to be a man who stands up to the sky, let him have a manly spirit, and be strict with him in ordinary life.

To make the child very brave and kind, parents should accompany the child more, have a good habit like a good one, and don't let the child be too cowardly.

Children should be cultivated from an early age with a sense of responsibility and responsibility, so that children can become brave and self-reliant, and instilled in encouraging thoughts.

I think that a boy's sense of responsibility and independence should be cultivated, which is the basic condition for survival.

What are the effects of an imbalance between men and women?

1. Many families with boys will worry about their children's future marriage.

In today's society, there is a serious imbalance between men and women, and there are too many boys and too few girls, so families with boys are worried about their children's future marriages and it is difficult ......to marry a daughter-in-lawIt is precisely because of this situation that many families nowadays will ask the man for a lot of bride price when marrying a daughter, and slowly a vicious circle leads to a situation where it is more difficult for boys to marry a daughter-in-law.

2. The economic pressure will be greater.

Nowadays, in the process of raising children, it costs a lot of money, so the financial pressure on parents will be very great. Not only should they invest in their education from an early age to make them better, but when they grow up, if they are boys, the family will have to worry about marrying a daughter-in-law for him, such as preparing a marriage house for him, a car, and ......It's very difficult at this time.

So why are there still so many families who want to have a boy?

1. Patriarchal thinking.

Although everyone has changed their view of patriarchal thinking nowadays, this bad habit has a far-reaching history, so there are still some people who still have the idea of patriarchy, especially the old people in the family, they think that boys can pass on the ancestry, raise children to prevent old age, and inherit their father's business, and girls will marry into other families in the future, so many families have been working hard to give birth to boys in order to follow the wishes of the elderly.

2. I don't think the boy has to worry too much.

I often hear that the poor raise children and the rich raise daughters, which means that the difference between raising a son and raising a daughter is actually very big, and you can worry less about your son and parents, and you don't have to worry about them being bullied at school ......For girls, parents will spend more time on how to teach their children to protect themselves and be afraid every day, so at this point, many families just want boys more than girls.

3. I just like boys.

There must be a lot of people in the family who like boys, and there are also many people who like girls, so some families may want a boy just because they like boys. You may feel that boys are lively and cute by nature, and they are better cultivated. And the girl's mind is more delicate, and it is more difficult to take care of it, after all, the boy will marry a daughter-in-law in the end, and it is too painful for the girl to have childbirth!