It s normal to quarrel in marriage, how can you do it to minimize it?

Whether it is between a couple or a husband and wife, as long as two people have been together for a long time, there is noise, and it is normal for there to be conflicts. If you quarrel often, it will not only affect the relationship between two people, but also your own children, after all, the family environment is the most important thing for children. Therefore, the husband and wife should still try to reduce quarrels as much as possible.

1. Tolerate each other.

As a husband and wife, they are the closest people in each other's minds, and it is very important to tolerate each other no matter what happens. The reason why there is a quarrel is nothing more than that two people have different living habits and different thoughts, so there will be quarrels. As long as it's not a matter of principle, I hope that both parties can tolerate each other a little, after all, they are people who want to live together for a lifetime, and if they don't tolerate each other, then life will be difficult.

2. Think more from the other person's point of view.

In fact, we all have a selfish side in human nature, and we all hope that we can get something more, but we give very little. When I encounter things, I just think about the problem from my own point of view, and I feel wronged, unfair, and so on. But think about it from another angle, if you can put yourself in the other person's point of view, will you be able to empathize with the other person's thoughts and understand the other person's thoughts?

Three: Make changes for the other person.

In fact, two people being together is a process of running in with each other, and it is also a process of making changes for each other, although two people will not be used to each other, and they will quarrel with each other for these. But fortunately, both of them are willing to make changes, and they may not quarrel over these things next time. <>

Therefore, two people often quarrel over trivial things, but in order not to hurt the feelings of two people, they must understand each other and change for each other.

If you want to minimize quarrels, the best way is to put yourself in someone else's shoes and think for them, so that you will be more tolerant and you will be able to minimize quarrels.

To understand each other, tolerate each other and trust each other, we must learn to think more from each other's point of view, we are no longer children, we must know how to make concessions, and we must not be too willful.

In a marriage, two people must understand each other, tolerate each other, and communicate with each other frequently, only in this way can quarrels be minimized.

Then communicate more and communicate more in ordinary times, so that quarrels can be turned into communication and understanding.

I think first of all, you need to understand each other and tolerate each other, so that the quarrel can be minimized.

Communicate more, communication can reduce a lot of misunderstandings, can solve a lot of problems, can be a lot less quarrels.

In marriage, if you just tolerate it to avoid quarrels, and change yourself in order to please the other person, there is a great possibility that your relationship will be led astray.

These acts of "giving" will indeed make your married life peaceful in the short term, but in the long run, blindly tolerating and changing will have a very bad impact on the relationship and married life of both of you.

Don't overestimate your endurance, suppressing your true feelings and inner emotional needs for a long time will accumulate your dissatisfaction.

Your dissatisfaction will not disappear over time, but secretly buried in your heart, when a similar scene appears again, some of the pain you have felt will emerge, disappointment, sadness, anger and other negative emotions are superimposed together is a very terrible force, may make you feel numb to married life, you will question the meaning of marriage, when you realize that you have been treated badly, probably you have to do something to "punish" the other party, Then your relationship problems may escalate into a hot war, and you, who are already dissatisfied with your spouse, will only make you more aggrieved and want to run away from this marriage even more.

Whether it is marriage or love, communication is a very important aspect, if you tolerate and compromise with the other party for a long time, it will only make your spouse feel that what he says is right, what he does is right, then he will be more arbitrary, he will no longer have the patience to empathize with listening and empathy, because he feels that any of your views and feelings are not worth mentioning, you just need to obediently do what he says.

At that time, even if you realize the importance of expressing your own thoughts, but the other party has been accustomed to you as a person who can't tolerate other people's thoughts at all, no matter what you say, they will be able to use Liang Kai's theory to reject your thoughts, thinking that all your worries, worries, and needs are not worth mentioning, to put it more bluntly, at that time they will feel that you don't even have the qualifications to be angry, and you are completely mediocre and self-disturbing, and you have nothing to do...How long will your relationship last then?

The first thing to look at is what the reason is, whether it can be forgiven.

If you can't forgive, don't continue, don't listen to the other party's justification or explanation, and break up decisively.

If you can forgive things, you should calm down and listen to the other party, find out what the problem is, and don't rush to justify it for a while, and make sure he calms down and then talks about your point of view.

Quarrels in marriage are inevitable because of the pressure of life and work. Home is a warm harbor, how to build it, it's all up to you, don't make it boring to be bombarded all day long. All the people in the quarrel can calm down, and the quarrel will not continue.

Say less, talk less, do more, understand each other, and tolerate each other. A lot of quarrels hurt feelings, but sometimes quarrels are unavoidable, but it's not bad to turn a quarrel into a humorous mood.

Two people understand each other, tolerate each other and let one become two people, life has changed, and the mode of getting along has also changed, so you have to learn to understand each other and tolerate each other. Thinking from the other person's point of view, empathy is a very important thing, if everyone learns to empathize, then life will be able to be more understanding, more tolerant. We often say that if you love someone, you will be willing to give everything for each other, so you should have more understanding, and when two people quarrel, you must learn to shut up and tolerate more, so that quarrels will be avoided.

In the morning, I quarreled with my lover on WeChat, he disliked me for being verbose, every time I talked to him about the child's problems, I would always be long-winded, there was simply no way to communicate, the two of us quarreled a few words, and then I wanted to shut up and stop talking, and the quarrel was over, but I still can't let go, the main thing is that he doesn't care about the child, and I have always been educating the child.

Quarrels can be treated coldly, you can say less, or if two people have a quarrel away from this environment, you can choose to deal with it coldly at this time, and a friend is very handy in handling this matter. Every time his lover wants to quarrel with him, he always chooses not to squeak, and then he just leaves the environment, and when his lover calms down, he comes back, but at night he doesn't choose to go out, that is, during the day, when the two of them quarrel, he will use this method. He said that if he chooses to go out at night, his lover will be worried, and then it will not be safe to go out by himself, so ah, husband and wife quarrels are also wise when dealing with problems.

When there is a quarrel, there must be a conflict, and you will definitely get angry, and whether you can successfully control your emotions will test a person's wisdom and cultivation.

The country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to change, the character of people is really difficult to change, I also hope that one day when the two of them quarrel, I choose to shut up and not say a word and fight with him to the end. But I'm not that character, so I decided to try to quarrel as little as possible in the future, I'll let him order, he originally had high blood pressure, what if he gets sick? So, friends, you have to think like this, what if you get sick with each other's anger?

What if we get sick with anger? Say less, it's not difficult.

Marriage is the union of two people, the union of two families, so there are many issues to consider, what factors do we have to consider when getting married? Specifically, let's take a look at the following suggestions.

1. How to distribute property before marriage, many couples will have disputes because of property problems, if both husband and wife have family businesses, then the prenuptial agreement must be signed before marriage, and the agreement details the distribution of property to avoid disputes in the later stage.

2. How long does it take to have children after marriage, and who will take the children, which is a question that many young couples are more confused about, raising a child is very hard, so both husband and wife must have one person go out to earn money to support the family, and the other person to take care of the children.

3. There are a lot of places that need to spend money after marriage, so you need to determine the consumption concept of both parties before marriage.

4. Who is in charge of the affairs of the family, there will definitely be many big and small things after marriage, and it can be decided that the small things will be decided by the woman, and the big things will be decided by the man.

5. Before getting married, you must do a premarital examination to determine whether the other party has a physical disease, if the other party has a hereditary disease, it will definitely affect the next generation, so you must think about it before marriage.

Do I need financial support from both parents to buy a house? As a dowry or as a later repayment? How to sign the title deed? If the parents are sponsored, are they willing to live with the parent who has contributed more? What if parents interfere in married life?

If the couple can't buy a house on their own, and they urgently need a house, then the situation will be much more complicated, because it will involve both parents, or borrow money.

Don't be quick when you take money, even if it's your parents' money, if you don't think about these issues before you take the money, there will be a lot of conflicts later. How many couples have a lot of trouble because of buying a house and decorating a house, but the money is taken too quickly, and these things are not thought about in their minds at all.