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I am very disgusted with my mother, and most of the reasons should be because of my mother's multiple controls or a certain behavior of my mother that makes you disgusted, so at this time, the best way is to solve the knot and talk to your mother about it, of course, the method is also the most important.
The first point is that you can talk to your mom, but before that, you have to find the root of your dislike for your mom, which is that your mom doesn't allow you to play games, or your mom doesn't let you have more contact with your friends, and then there's another aspect, which is that your mom often square dances.
Or your mother often talks about others behind her back, or your mother doesn't care enough about you, and you are very angry, then at this time you find the root cause, you can discuss these things directly with your mother, because you are targeted, what can you say at this time Mom, you don't care about me too wide, I also need my own life, and then move it with affection and reason.
If this continues, if your mother slowly corrects it, you will no longer be disgusted with your mother.
Second, you can talk to your father, it is best to ask your father, ask him why he dislikes his mother, and his father may give you the best explanation, because after all, your father has also experienced your period, and people at this age can see things more thoroughly.
All in all, if you are disgusted with your mother, the best way to solve this problem is to talk to the people around you who are close to your mother, so that it can help you solve the problem to a certain extent, and the most taboo is to endure, this kind of thing must not be tolerated.
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My mother also disgusted me, she always scolded me indiscriminately, and the words she scolded me were so vicious that it even made me feel that there was no relationship between us for more than ten years. She always made me very sad and wanted to escape from this home, so I applied for a university in another province far away from home. I just want to stay away from all this noise.
Here, I can give you a few suggestions.
1.In high school, you can try boarding schools and choose universities that are a little further away from home.
I was always reluctant to talk to my mother when I was a child, but after I went to high school, I would go home for a day or two a week, sometimes half a day, and she would cook what I liked at home, and scolded me for being less, and would buy a lot of fruit for me to take to school to eat. Only then will I feel that she loves me a little bit.
I reported to Tianjin for college, and my home is in Guangxi, the university will only go home during the winter and summer vacations, maybe because of a long time of missing it, after coming back, I will be treated very gently, buy favorite fruits and snacks waiting for me, probably the distance produces beauty, and family affection is the same. When you are in a foreign land, you will miss your loved ones very much.
2.You can communicate with your mom.
I think there must be a reason why you feel disgusted and hated for your mother, and it's from an angle that you can't understand. You can try to communicate with her, tell her the reason for your disgust, and you will definitely have unexpected gains when you understand each other from each other's point of view.
I think that when relatives encounter problems, they should communicate, otherwise two people who used to be close will become strangers because of the estrangement of one person, let alone the mother who has nurtured her for 20 years.
I hate my mother, but I want to maintain the family, and even though she is not my biological mother, I am still willing to try to believe that she loves me, and sometimes for my good. Although I can't bear it sometimes, after all, the relationship for more than ten years is still there, and I will still try to get along with my mother peacefully, and I still want to live a good life and make money to repay her for raising her.
Sometimes it's not that our parents don't love us, it's just that they don't know how to express love, and they use the wrong expression, and I hope you will look at their eyes when you are far away from home. and a head full of gray hair, able to understand and feel their love. It's really not easy to be a parent.
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We can communicate with our mother, but first we have to self-reflect, is it our problem, or our mother's problem, if it is our own problem, then we have to find the answer and try to solve it, we can think from the mother's point of view, when the mother does something that makes us feel disgusted, we should stand in the mother's point of view, to deal with it, try to understand why the mother did it, If we analyze it carefully, we will find that slowly everything comes from love for us, and we don't understand it, we think they are nagging, we think they are annoying, and we feel disgusted.
If it is the mother's problem, we can tell her that there are some places, some things, and something inappropriate, which will make us feel a little annoyed or even disgusted, but we must express it tactfully, if we are too direct, it will break the mother's heart.
I believe that every mother does everything for our good, maybe sometimes the way of dealing with things is inappropriate, so that we can't accept it, as long as we calm down, communicate with my mother, explain the situation, I believe she will self-reflect and correct.
We also have to understand mothers, we are first-time mothers and first-time parents, they have no experience, and they can only learn all the way like us, learning how to be good parents, so when we encounter problems, we must understand each other, it is the first time, and we have no experience in playing this role.
And we are relatives who are connected by flesh and blood, there is nothing that cannot be solved, there is nothing to say, there is nothing that cannot be said, so as long as we encounter problems, understand each other, and be honest with each other when there is something, find time to talk and talk about everything.
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