Is the party who takes the initiative to break up not in love?

The person who takes the initiative to say that he is not in love is not necessarily the one who is not in love, and the person who does not take the initiative is not necessarily the injured party. It is likely that the breakup is due to the fact that there is no hope for the future in the other party, and the long-term pain is better than the short-term pain, so he simply cuts through the mess and tries to live a new life.

It is easy for two people to start a relationship, and a relationship is determined as soon as the head is hot, but the maintenance of a relationship is the result of the combined effect of various factors. If one party has nothing for the time being, I think many people can understand it, but they need to see the willingness and action of the other party to work hard, so that they can have the confidence to go on. Family, economy, education, etc. may be factors that hinder both men and women from being together, and they can't see each other's actions trying to remove these obstacles, knowing that it is a south wall, they can only brake in time, so as not to hit their heads and bleed but get nothing.

In love, one party takes the initiative to break up, or it may be that the other party does not love him or herself from getting along, or he does not love himself as he loves the other person, but he has become the most suitable person. But love is not a one-sided thing, and it will be exhausting to pay for a long time without a response, and when you think that this may be the case in the next few decades, it is better to let go and restrain yourself from love.

It is more likely that it is an attempt to prove the existence of love in such a way, rather than wishful thinking. But the brain circuits of men and women are always different, and girls think that if you love me, you won't let me go; And the boy thinks that if you want to go, you don't love it, I can't give you the good you want, it's better to let go, maybe next time you will find someone who will give you everything you want for me. If you don't say it, I won't keep it, and it's like this.

At the beginning of every relationship, I longed to be the last of the other party, but because I was too tired, many lovers would go to the end of breaking up, and the relationship needed to be solemn, take every eye contact seriously, and try to understand each other's desires.

Of course not, sometimes it's because I love it too much that I think about breaking up.

I've been talking to my boyfriend for more than a year, and during this time I often broke up with him, at first because he did something sorry for me, and then I broke up for basically the same reason, that is, I can't control my temper, and I like to do things, and I like to hurt each other, and I often use some words to deliberately hurt him and hurt myself, well, it's because I'm a very good person.

For example, when I had dinner with him and ate well, he told me that he didn't want to talk, and we quarreled, and then he kept coaxing me, and the more he coaxed me, the more angry I became, and I really had enough of him coaxing me, and everyone would think that I was very good, and I would think that I was very angry, but he just kept coaxing me, which may be a very happy thing in the eyes of others, After all, there are people who are willing to coax all the time.

My brain circuit is very strange, in short, I just think it's not good for him to coax me all the time, I always feel like I'm torturing him, but I can't change it, so I told him let's break up, I don't want to torture him anymore, and then the quarrel turned into me persuading him to break up.

Although I'm a very good person, and it's hard to coax, so I thought about whether to let him go, instead of holding him like this, it's better to let him go early and let him find a better girl, which may be a good thing for him and me, but the funny thing is that every time I propose to break up, either I agree or he doesn't agree, and the result has been talked about until now.

Sometimes breaking up is not because you don't love, on the contrary, sometimes it's because you love too much, so you think about whether to let go and create a better opportunity for the other party to find a better partner.

This question is not absolute, it cannot be generalized, every couple has a different mode of getting along, and it is to be judged according to the specific situation of two people. But proposing to break up must have something that he can't tolerate the other party and feels that the three views don't match. Therefore, the party who took the initiative to break up must have a mustard in his heart, that is, he doesn't love each other so much, and it is not that he has to do it.

Secondly, love is the foundation for two people to be together, and two people need to resonate when they are together. If a person feels that they no longer love each other and that there is no need for the relationship to continue, they will propose to break up. At this time, the person who was broken up had two choices, one was to accept the breakup, and the two of them would get together and disperse; The second is to retain him, but retention may not be successful, and it will be very hard to manage this relationship after retention, so you must be psychologically prepared.

Finally, the party who takes the initiative to break up is not necessarily unloved. In addition to love, there are other practical factors in the relationship between two people, and we have all heard many examples of two people who are obviously in love with each other but are not together for various reasons. For example, it is impossible for two people in different places to go to the same city, and such a love has no future, so one person proposed to break up.

Another example is a boy who feels that he can't give the girl the life she wants and doesn't want to delay her, so he proposes to break up. So the breakup that is said is not necessarily true.

Nowadays, many young people are not calm and take the breakup as a child's play, it is possible that he is just angry for a while, and he mentions the breakup in a hurry, in this case, the two people have to communicate. Find the problem in time and make up for it, instead of breaking up on impulse and missing out on a relationship.

Taking the initiative to break up does not necessarily mean that you don't love each other, but it may also be because you can't feel the other party's love.

I myself have proposed to break up many times, although in the end it was not successful.

Before I got married, I mentioned breaking up because I didn't feel his love for me, or that he was not as good to me as his friends. Once during the holidays, he actually said that his friend was so lonely at home alone, and he went to spend it with his friends, regardless of whether I was also working hard in a foreign land, I was also a person for the holiday. As a result, we had a big fight, and he didn't think he was doing anything wrong at all, and he thought I was being vexatious.

That's when I mentioned breaking up. My idea is actually quite simple, the choices he made meant that he didn't love me, or that he didn't love me that much. When it comes to sorting, I'm at the bottom of the list. After a while, they quarreled and quarreled, and finally they did not succeed in separating for various reasons.

The breakup was mentioned again, after giving birth to a child. During the confinement, I was in very poor health, and I couldn't sleep for a few hours a day because I had to hold my baby and breastfeed every day. He was sleeping alone next to him, and he didn't care how much the child cried.

His mother, who is my mother-in-law, still made a lot of noise at home several times, saying that she wanted to go back to her hometown at every turn, and I had to coax the old ones after I coaxed the young ones, and he didn't care at all.

I felt so wronged at the time, and I needed to take care of a woman who had just given birth and needed to take care of them the most. At that time, I washed my face with tears every day, and every day I was depressed and longed to commit suicide, and every time I watched my little son shrink into my arms, I felt how pitiful I would be if I was not there.

Later, I couldn't bear to mention the breakup, but at this time the baby was still young, thinking that he needed a father and a complete home, the breakup was over.

I think it's really not necessarily that the person who takes the initiative to break up just doesn't love it, maybe it's just because he's bored, after all, it's really hard to stick to this time of mutual hatred.

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up because we were tired of breaking up, but not because we didn't love each other.

We used to be very sweet, but this damn boredom eventually ruined all our beauty, and the drama is that I, who first got bored, will start to regret it now after proposing to break up, which is ridiculous and ridiculous!

Actually, the relationship between us was really good at the beginning, everything was normal at that time, and it seemed that it would not be long before the two of us would talk about marriage and meet their parents, but I still didn't stick to it.

It's like the seven-year itch after getting married, I think, when you are in love, there will be a period of boredom for one of the two people, I am like this, so I took the initiative to break up, I thought that I didn't like him and didn't love him anymore, but now I think about it, it seems that I didn't break up because I didn't like it, at that time, it was really just because of my boredom.

Therefore, the party who takes the initiative to break up does not necessarily mean that he is not in love.

Let's put it more dramatically, there are some people, because the situation at home does not allow it, they want to give the other half a better life and are incapable but they don't want their family to suffer with them, so they reluctantly cut their love and proposed to break up, look, this is not actually because of not love, what I think of is just because of love.

There will always be various situations in life, some of which we can't even imagine, like this kind of situation of taking the initiative to break up, it doesn't necessarily mean that we don't love anymore, in many cases, in fact, we will make some involuntary choices.

Not necessarily, human emotions are so complicated, and there are many different, even fantastic, reasons to break up. Not to mention that some girls like to deliberately propose to break up and enjoy the retention of their boyfriends, and some people choose to give up ruthlessly for the sake of the good of both of them for various practical reasons or hidden feelings in their hearts.

We always see the male and female protagonists in TV dramas who love each other very much, but one of them is seriously ill and can't live long, so he will take the initiative to leave and propose to break up, which is extremely touching. Such a situation is not unheard of in reality, there was a classmate in high school who was born with a heart disease, and at that time her parents allowed her to fall in love, and invited her boyfriend to dinner at home. They were still together for a long time, graduating from junior high school until the boys' sophomore year.

It was the girl who broke up, she said that he had been with her throughout her youth, and she didn't want to delay his life anymore, so let him let go and live his own life and meet the person who stayed with him for the rest of his life. Both parents intervened in that breakup, and the girl's family was very reasonable, telling the girl early on that she would have to leave him sooner or later and cherish the time together.

The other couple met at work, when they had been together for two years. But a year later they broke up, and the guy brought it up. According to the boy, he thought that their safety measures were not good, and at that time he had been thinking about marrying her as soon as he became pregnant, and she also felt that he could marry at any time.

But it has been calm, there were no accidents, the girl didn't notice, the boy began to suspect, he decided to go to the hospital for a test first (medical student, knowing that the boy's examination is very simple, while the girl's examination is more troublesome and painful), and the result is really that he has his own problem. In the end, they broke up reluctantly.

The answer is no, we all know that feelings are a very complicated thing, especially in love, we are often at a loss.

Obviously, it is a beautiful thing for two people to be together because they are attracted to each other, but many things are not as beautiful as we imagined. Everything is changing, everything will change, in fact, love is painful and happy for me, it brings me sweet and beautiful but also brings me some negative energy, my life is occupied by most of it, and my energy is also divided by it more than half.

The first three months of love we call it the hot love period, which is the so-called freshness, during this time everyone will find that they get along very harmoniously, it is simply a match made in heaven! During the period of three months to half a year, there will be a little conflict, and I will consider whether the other party really likes me, so I will come through speculation and small frictions. Between half a year and a year, you may feel a little tired, you will not be able to stand the other party's temper and some ways of handling things, and you may think about breaking up.

Generally speaking, if you don't plan to run long-distance love, you will become particularly stable after passing the bottleneck period of love for a year, and many people will be stuck in this half a year to a year.

My boyfriend and I have thought about breaking up countless times together, and I will mention breaking up when we are impulsive in a fight, but he will always coax me not to be serious. The party who took the initiative to break up is not the one who doesn't love anymore, because he loves very deeply, he is afraid of falling worse, and he is afraid of insisting hopelessly and falling deeper and deeper. Many times the party who takes the initiative to break up is the saddest one, because they have to make a difficult decision, this choice in their own hands is the most painful, obviously can't give up, but have to let go.

This may not always be like this, maybe there is something unspeakable. However, in real life, most of the people who take the initiative to break up are those who have already given up on each other. Of course, there are all kinds of situations for love, and everyone's thoughts are different and their ideas are different, so they can't be denied with partial generalizations.

For a pair of lovers, the party who takes the initiative may suffer less damage, and the party who proposes first may be much relieved from a psychological point of view, and will not be hurt a lot. On the contrary, the passive one may have to bear more, and it will be painful for a longer time.

There is no right or wrong in love, in the country of love, everyone is selfish, and there is no right or wrong, the main thing is to say which party pays more and less. On the contrary, the party who pays less may look down a lot and will not lose too much affection.

For the person who took the initiative, I may have made a lot of effort and struggle before saying it, although in the end I still got the words out of my own mouth, so there is no need to worry about it. Anyway, the bad guys did it, so the bad guys did it to the end.

Feelings are really something that can't be measured or compared, and it is said that it is difficult for officials to judge family affairs, and the same is true for feelings. Nor can anyone who understands determine what the first party thinks in his heart. I'm just extrapolating this result based on what I'm usually summarizing and observing.

Finally, I remind everyone that people live on their own, and no matter what they do in the future, they must protect themselves first, so that they can minimize the damage to themselves.