My girlfriend s deception, where do I go

First of all, correct your mistakes, there is also a real friendship between men and women, I have a lot, the authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear, she really cares about you, at least she is afraid that you will think too much and get angry, so she deceived you, it is a kind of white lie, however, my girlfriend talks to other men, plays together, this feeling I also understand, my girlfriend is like this, I have no way, I care about her, so respect her, and believe her, if you mind this kind of thing, just tell her, If he really loves you, he will give up this so-called friend for you.

Maybe she's really just a friend with that person, I've also managed such a thing, in fact, it's just a friend, in fact, it's just that you think too much about yourself, because of this reason to break up, I think it's worth it, she left you and deceived you to go shopping with others, he now knows that it's wrong, and he has begged you to forgive, I think he still cares about you, maybe it's really just a misunderstanding, I really like 1 person to trust each other, if 1 pair of lovers together without trust together, it's really boring. Porphyry has to be too suspicious, maybe you really misunderstood her.

Each other should be given a little freedom.

Love is like flying a kite, sometimes you have to loosen the string, and the kite will fly high and far.

But if you pull it to death, the string will break, and the kite will be out of your hands.

These things can only be solved by yourself, and you think about what your life is like without her.

Are you willing to remember that the happiness you missed will not be happy anymore I hope you will go on well and be happy forever.

In fact, your situation is very ordinary, because she understands you, so having a meal with an ordinary male friend is afraid that you will misunderstand, so I will simply not tell you, what age is it now, everyone has their own social circle, I don't believe that you have no female friends, so give everyone a little space, life will be better. Don't be too sensitive to this kind of thing.

I'm in a similar situation to your girlfriend, but I didn't go out to the appointment. It's hardly in touch now either. Occasionally my boyfriend sees it and asks about it, and I say it's a friend.

My mentality at that time was not to let him misunderstand, not to make him sad. After all, it's my boyfriend who I'm with now, not that guy. Although the man's feelings are very deep, I can only be sorry.

It's not that there is a saying, you can't eat from the bowl and look at the pot.

Hello friend, I'm Wasabi.

First of all, I understand that love is exclusive, we all want to have absolute possession of our partners, and we all want each other to meet our beautiful vision of love, which is a very normal emotion.

Now you are facing a situation that makes you feel a little flustered, overwhelmed, and you have a little doubt about your girlfriend and feel that you have ruined your reverie for a good love. First of all, through getting along with your girlfriend, you probably have an understanding in your heart, when someone from the outside world suddenly rushes out to have negative remarks about your girlfriend, you should first know in your heart to measure the authenticity of the remarks, after all, it is now you and your girlfriend who are in love. I see that you have some tangled emotions and don't know what to do.

So now is the time to sit down with your girlfriend and have a good talk and tell him what you really think. For example: "I love you, in my heart, you are so good, I really don't want to believe that you are the kind of person that other people say you are" or:

Can you tell me that what he says is the truth? "Tell all the discomfort and worries in your heart openly and honestly when two people are chatting, and I believe that after chatting, you will feel a lot better.

Next, there will be two results, believe in your girlfriend, let the person who breaks in stay away from your life, Bi Shihe is actually in love with you now. If you don't believe your girlfriend or your girlfriend has really cheated on you, you also have the right to choose to leave. Remember, life is only you, don't let the people who intrude into your life mess with you.

Hello, dear subject.

I'm glad and grateful to have received your invitation.

After reading your description, because she knew about your girlfriend's past, she concealed and deceived you, and she has been unable to communicate effectively, and she is confused, hated and even painful, and hugged you

It is normal to be able to understand your feelings, and you can't accept your girlfriend's deception and insincerity.

First of all, because everyone's growth experience is different, the influence of family education is also different, and the concept of love is also different. Therefore, no matter who it is, it may be handled in different ways, in the face of the other party's deception and insincerity, we may feel angry or even sad, confused and do not know what to do, often may choose to hurt the other party, force the other party to solve, which is a huge harm to both parties.

Just imagine the feeling of being uncovered.

In short, empathy, I believe that my girlfriend also feels very anxious, uncomfortable, and sad, and I don't know how to explain it to you. Maybe it's not that the girl doesn't want to say it, but it's just that the time hasn't come yet, and I'm afraid that if I say it, it will be like now, and it's also very painful not to say it.

I think both sides need to be separated for a short period of time, and then have further exchanges and cautious talks after they have calmed down.

Blindly pursuing answers, cold violence and torturing each other will not solve the problem, but will make the relationship between the two people more difficult, and the relationship will be pulled farther away.

Secondly, love is a responsibility, a given, a respect, and something that needs to be cultivated and created. Love is not mutual torture, everyone will have unspeakable secrets, and people who have been hurt tend to be more sensitive, more afraid of losing, and more afraid to express themselves. If we really can't accept it and can't give the other person a sense of security, we can show the other party that we can let go decisively, save ourselves and the other party, and if we are in love, we will fall out of love, and we will all meet better.

If you still want to continue, then calm down and communicate well, we are not wrong, but in this relationship we all have our own positions, we all have our own things that we can't accept, and our concept of things.

How do you get rid of this hatred?

You can shift the focus of your life to other things, such as throwing yourself into the embrace of the most natural, going out for a walk, and distracting your mind.

You can find trusted family and friends to talk about your troubles, or you can write a diary or book banquet and pay respects to record your boredom, release your psychological load, and find psychological comfort and sustenance.

Finally, the famous "Art of Love" by psychologist Fromm is recommended. According to Fromm, immature, childish love is "I love you because I need you", while mature love is "I need you because I love you"; From this book, you can read the true meaning of the art of love.

Each of us deserves to be loved. Best wishes.