My boyfriend is very good and the family is rich, what should I do if I have low self esteem and wan

Updated on psychology 2024-04-25
17 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    It's normal, when I encounter this kind of particularly tiring love, I also want to break up, and I think breaking up is also a particularly correct choice, because if the family is too different, there will be no result.

    Although there are not so many family concepts in this society, I think that some people with too big family gaps will also have mustard, and being together like this is a particularly tiring emotional experience for everyone. So I don't think it's better to continue, so that the love that makes you unhappy is destined to not end well.

    This is reality, not a fairy tale in a TV series, not the kind of rich second generation who will fall out with his family for you as a Cinderella, and then you will not marry. Even if the feelings between you are real, there is still a gap in the face of reality. Because some gaps will make it difficult for us to have common topics, and we don't have the same circle of friends, we are very uncomfortable talking and doing things by ourselves.

    Originally, a girl who had never worn a famous brand, but she met a rich second generation with thousands of clothes, and you would feel happy at that time. But when you really encounter it, you realize that you are as stupid as a dirt bun, and you don't know anything. Even if he goes to play with you, you are careful that you will embarrass him if you do something wrong.

    With such a relationship, you are not happy, and he is not happy.

    When I arrived at college, I found out that the story of Cinderella was really a lie. Because we are far from the lives of those rich people, we can't go into their lives at all, and we don't want to go into them like this. Inside you are not happy and not happy.

    Just a clown who was laughed at. Every girl hopes that she can find someone who is rich and handsome, but seeing her position clearly in this way, not everyone can accept this kind of drunken life.

    If you have been together like this, you will find more and more that the gap between each other is so big, and you will find that it is really inappropriate, and you will slowly dislike and feel inferior in the future, and the final outcome will be a breakup. It's better to give up now. Even if you hurt a little now, it's better than being pointed at by others later.

    Especially girls, such an experience will only make us disbelieve in love even more. I hope I won't meet because tired and unhappy.

    It's normal for you to have low self-esteem, in fact, you don't have to be inferior, but after all, there is a gap, and you don't want to be ridiculed by others like this, so you naturally separate, so the ending is good for you and for him. He takes you with a person who doesn't understand anything, and he won't be happy, and he will have mustard. It's better to end it, it's a relief for everyone.

    Cinderella's stories are all phone calls, there is no need to take them seriously, and I don't fantasize about becoming a princess, and being an ordinary person is also happiness.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I feel the same way. When we first met, I didn't know he was a rich second generation. At the time, I didn't think I would become a boyfriend and girlfriend.

    Because he is younger than me, I will not find a boy younger than me to be a boyfriend, whether it is half a year younger or two years younger. But then, we actually got together. There's a saying that it's called a balcony near the water, and that's probably what we do, because the hospital where he works is just across the street from where I work.

    As long as he wasn't busy, he would come to me for lunch, and I was used to it. Later, he confessed to me and asked me if I would like to go to Henan with him. Actually, I don't mind the matter of being in a different place, so if we are lucky enough to be together, I will definitely try to keep the two of us apart.

    At that time, I said to him, if your parents agree that we should be together, we will try to have a relationship, where you go, I will go.

    Yes, with him, I also have low self-esteem. The family background is not as good as others, the work is not as good as others, and more importantly, it is not as hard as others. In his bag, he has a thick book every day, either medical-related or marketing.

    As for me, I bought a lot of books, but I finished reading them, but there were very few. But what he gives me the most every day is encouragement: "You see that you are so good, you shouldn't just run a small company here."

    So, I set myself a goal and interview.

    Luckily, the interview went well and the boss was very happy with me. So much so that after the interview, the chairman took me directly to dinner with the customer. Before the meal, the chairman asked me, "Are you going to be my assistant or the assistant to the general manager?"

    Or you can go to the marketing department as a manager. Think about this and give me an answer when the time comes. "Actually, my heart is extremely happy, and I have the right to choose my position.

    Something called self-confidence came back at once.

    In fact, when two people are together, whether they are suitable or not, whether they are compatible or not, they still have to say to each other. Before that, I always thought that I was incapable (because friends often say, you see that you are not as capable as xx, and your mouth can't speak, etc.). But it turns out that I'm not as bad as others say (because I also worked as an assistant to the president before).

    It's actually quite difficult to meet someone who likes each other. If you have low self-esteem, you can improve your self-confidence by enriching yourself to compensate for the shortcomings of the right person. For example, learning a certain skill to make a leap in your ability in a certain way.

    Sister Li (chairman of a medical device company) often told me that it is more important to be spiritually right. Don't give up your liking because your family has money.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I think anything can break up the couple you love deeply, but the last thing you shouldn't do is to compare yourself with your other half, and then find that you are not as good as your other half, and then you want to give up. It's very irresponsible, irresponsible for yourself, and irresponsible for your boyfriend. I admit that in love, it is common for low self-esteem to occur.

    But you shouldn't give up on your love because of low self-esteem.

    Perhaps in the eyes of many people, love should be the right match. But don't forget that we all have to go through some mismatches before everything is right. If your boyfriend is good, then you shouldn't back down, you should also work hard and try to be on par with your boyfriend and make yourself good.

    The best love is not when I want to compare with you when I'm with you. But in the future, when many people will stand before you. I want them to see that I am more qualified to stand by your side than they are.

    Wealth is only temporary, and besides, your boyfriend's wealth is given by his parents, and you can start from scratch on your own, and if you show a hint of cowardice between you, then you may be completely controlled by your own boyfriend. You should be working hard to get out of poverty because you also have your own goal, which is to be on an equal footing with your own boyfriend. Not by his face.

    Of course, a really good boyfriend won't care about this.

    There are many people who will say that in love, only when you are on an equal footing with your boyfriend can you feel safe. But don't forget, nothing can stand in your way in the face of true love. Like Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng, Hong Xin's popularity can be said to be much higher than Zhang Danfeng.

    But it doesn't affect that they live together, as well as Cai Shaofen and Zhang Jin, when they are together, they are also famous, and they are not very famous, but it does not affect their union. Until now, Zhang Danfeng has become a powerful person with good looks and acting skills with his own efforts, and Zhang Jin has also become an actor.

    So you see, a lot of reasons can be overcome. It just depends on whether you work hard or not and whether you want to give up.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    If two people really love each other, then I don't think there's any need to break up because of these things, you just need to make yourself better.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    The boyfriend is excellent, what you have to do is to work harder and become better, not to break up.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Love is a very beautiful thing, love comes in a thousand forms, and everyone's love is different. And everyone will have a different understanding of feelings. And a relationship is often not necessarily evenly matched, sometimes in a relationship the identities of two people are very different, so if your boyfriend is better than yourself, it always makes you feel inferior, do you want to break up?

    In fact, feelings are not necessarily the right and evenly matched, because the appearance of love is varied. In a relationship, one person may be better than the other. And if the other party is better than you, you can easily have a feeling of inferiority, which comes from the heart, because your ability and the other party can't reach the same height, so it is inevitable that you will have this thought.

    Because no one wants to lose to the person they like, and they don't want the other party to look down on them, especially in love, this feeling will be infinitely magnified. But in this case, you must give yourself the right psychological guidance, because this kind of mentality is not very healthy. If the other half is better than yourself, it should be a happy thing, because it means that your vision is very good, and finding someone who is better than yourself can make you become as good as the other party, and you can also learn from some of the advantages of the other party, and the two of you can grow together is a very gratifying thing.

    And a good relationship must support each other, if the other party is better than you, they will definitely find ways to help you in various things in life, so that you can reach the same height as him. And the fact that the other person is better than you is not a reason for you to break up.

    So in a relationship, if the other party is better than you, it is a very good thing, so there is no need to feel inferior, let alone break up. It's about changing your own shortcomings and making yourself as good as the other person. That's the right mindset to make you better.

    And if you have low self-esteem, you must also learn to self-regulate, so that you can get out of this knot.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Don't break up. First, your boyfriend is very good, but choosing you as your girlfriend shows that you have your own strengths, and you must also trust your boyfriend's vision. Second, have a good boyfriend who can be a good role model and have the motivation to make yourself better and stand side by side with him, so improve yourself and don't think about breaking up.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Your boyfriend is better than you, so she has low self-esteem. If you can't stand the situation, it is advisable to break up. Or if you work hard to make yourself better, you will be a little more confident.

    Therefore, it is recommended that you do not break up easily, and learn to adjust it is the way to solve the problem. Otherwise, a beautiful love is a pity to give up.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Don't break up. Because it is very good that your boyfriend is better than herself, he can move forward with him, don't always feel inferior, you have to see your boyfriend's shining points, you have to bring yourself into your boyfriend's queue and move forward with him, so that you can become as good as him.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    My boyfriend is better than me and I always feel inferior. If you can't change your mind, I suggest you let it go. People with low self-esteem will complain, and even the two will have a hard time getting along together. This will also have a great impact on your boyfriend, so you might as well choose to break up.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    There is no need to break up at all.

    Because your boyfriend is better than yourself, then you can also work hard to improve yourself, you don't have such an inferiority complex, you have to be confident in yourself, because everyone has their own advantages, and you can also see the shining points in yourself. The most important thing is to work hard to improve your personal abilities.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Definitely don't break up, change your thinking, men are better than women, and you won't like men who are worse than you, women are strong.

    There's nothing to be inferior to, it's good to be taken care of by a strong person.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Hello, according to your description, I suggest that if you feel inferior every day, then break up, because in such a relationship, you always feel shorter than others, you will live a very unhappy life in the future.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Of course you can't break up. You don't always feel inferior, although your boyfriend is better than you, you have to learn from him. Supporting each other, that's the right idea.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    There is no need to break up, admitting that your boyfriend is excellent is something to be proud of, you can work hard to improve yourself and make yourself better, such as improving some hobbies or some knowledge, you must also have something he likes, all come on.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Don't break up, I think you will regret breaking up, such an excellent boyfriend who still loves you, if you miss it, you will definitely regret it for a lifetime. Although he is very good, the rest of your life is long, and you also have time to make yourself good enough to be worthy of him. You can walk hand in hand.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Don't break up. Since your boyfriend is in a relationship with you, then he must think that you are excellent and you have a place to attract him. Be confident and believe that you are the most perfect.

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