What should you do if you have someone around you who always asks you for a treat, but never treats

Updated on workplace 2024-04-25
11 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    First, you can call him out and the two of you can talk to him face to face. Tell him that the two of us will invite this meal together, or you will just pick it out. Tell him that I've asked for it many times, and this time it's up to you.

    Pay attention to the tone of your speech, which is both tactful and sharp, but not too stiff.

    This time we went on a tour in our dormitory, and this situation occurred. There were five of us, but only two of us paid for our round-trip fare, and basically everyone else didn't pay for it, and they were all enjoying the process. When we came back from the first day of play, we explained the situation.

    When I finished eating and paid the bill, I said, "Let's split the fare for today." Forget the fraction, just give a whole number. Then I started to transfer money.

    So, don't be embarrassed, since he can ask you for a treat, you can also ask him for money. Treat this kind of person directly and clearly, and don't show it with your eyes. She has become accustomed to letting others pay for it and enjoy it herself.

    If you don't tell him, he won't know he's going to pay, just tell him.

    Second, when it comes to dinner, you choose not to go or tell others that you don't have any money with you and don't want to go. If it's for a treat, we'll go, and if it's for us to pay for it, we won't go. Explain that you don't have any money, even if you go to dinner, you don't have the money to pay for the meal, so let him pay for it.

    From the time he went out, let him bring more money. This will reduce your own spending and allow others to invite you to dinner.

    Third, if you are in a dormitory, you can ask him to buy you food every time. If you don't give him money after that, you will treat it as if he invited you. If he asks, just tell him, and you will always be like this without asking.

    Treat this kind of person, you can only deal with it with the state that he doesn't invite me to eat. Compare who is more helpless and who is more religent.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Yes, this kind of person is really very annoying, very bad, I don't like to say anything about others, but I can't bear to do it too much, and I will directly point out the shortcomings of others. Let the other person know that I was angry about doing this, so the other person didn't dare to do that after that.

    I used to know a friend in junior high school, but I didn't know her very well at first, that is, my friend was at the same table as her, and then I went to play with my friend, and my friend casually introduced her to me. Maybe you thought I was easy to get along with at first! Later, I didn't know how to get along with me, but I didn't play with my friends much anymore.

    At first, she was very nice to me, talking and laughing, I remember one time I didn't seem to be home during the holidays, and she brought good things from home for me to eat. I was very impressed. So after that, I went out shopping with her, and I usually helped her pay for any snacks and other things we bought together, because it was a small amount of money, and I didn't think it was necessary for friends to remember it so clearly, just treat it as if I invited her.

    So I would tell her a few times before: I paid for you, so you don't have to pay me back. And then she really didn't pay me back, and I didn't think it was anything at the time, but I wasn't happy to go to eat with her later.

    Because it seems like I pay for every time we go to eat together, and she seems to order more than me every time. <>

    After a few times, she said again that she was going to eat with me, and I said that I didn't bring that much cash, so you can pay for it for me this time! And then she said, I don't have any cash, I don't have any money. You can use Alipay.

    I was so angry at that time. Then I said, then you remember to pay me back when you go back, I've been a little short of money lately. And then she didn't seem to expect me to say that all of a sudden.

    He was stunned for a moment and said: Hmm!

    Then I went back, and I didn't see her pay me back after a week, so I asked why you didn't pay me back. Anyway, she has a lot of excuses, every time there is no money for some reason, and the next time I want to ask me to go to eat together, I said directly: The money you owe before has not been repaid to me, what to eat, and the money that has not been repaid before will be counted after eating, remember to pay me back.

    After that, she didn't dare to ask me to pay for her for free, and she had to pay her own share every time. Because I'm afraid I'll be angry, in fact, she knows this truth herself! It's not right to always take advantage of others, and I think that the other party will never know and don't care.

    With this kind of person, I can only say: my brothers must settle accounts!!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If he is the kind of person who only mentions it once, but then forgets it, or is embarrassed to mention it again, then you first admit it, and then pretend to forget, and he will not mention it again; If he really asked you to invite and kept urging you, then when you first said it, you should ask him in a joking tone what he didn't ask you, and if he said that he asked him to ask again, then you should ask him to ask him first. Remember, don't let go, and keep smiling the whole time. <>

    There are people in my life who once won a first-class scholarship in college, and it was the first time to get a scholarship. Then, the people around me blew up, and they all shouted for me to invite me to dinner. The funny thing is that the two people who have been clamoring, they both won scholarships.

    I don't even know how embarrassed they are. Then there was a good one who studied well, and he was getting a scholarship all the time, so I smiled and asked him if you got a scholarship before, why didn't you invite me to dinner, and he said, this time there is no money, let me invite first.

    In my opinion, this is a disguised moral kidnapping, like someone being proposed in public and then coaxed together by the audience. They were all on the same line, and I was in a very awkward position. But I didn't let go, although they said vigorously, "Oh, we take the third class, and you take the first class, which is a big difference."

    But no matter how big the difference is, if I invite them all, then I don't mean I didn't take them.

    Later, due to the situation, he agreed. It's just that I don't think they are shameless people, and they won't clamo for me to invite anymore. In fact, my heart was still very unbalanced at that time, I didn't think about me when they got the scholarship before, and when everyone took it, they cried poor.

    It's okay for you to cry poor, but don't hit other people's ideas!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    This kind of absolutely unbearable, why can you eat me, I eat so much, I want to give you a hard to eat, but you don't have to eat me yourself. Yours is money, mine is not money, right, after a fight, it's good to break up. Okay, it's a bit serious, but seriously, this kind of person is very annoying.

    So let's think about it and sort out what it means to be a friend of wine and meat.

    If you are like Wang Sicong.

    If you're that kind of rich man, it's nothing if your friends try to let you have a treat. Because there is money, we are not afraid of being eaten poor, but we are all office workers, we are all students, the money we use is still given by our families, or we earn it ourselves, and our own food and clothing problems are still a key, what spare money for you to go to a treat, one or two meals are fine, but always treat, believe it or not, I suddenly went crazy.

    I remember that when I was in high school, I had a female friend who was like this, when we went out together, she never brought money, she always used ours, and even our own fare was paid by us, and then when we ate, because we ate hot pot or barbecue together, so we also paid out. And then even the mineral water is our money, we didn't say anything at the beginning, once or twice it's okay, I can afford it, but if it goes by for a long time, I really have all kinds of horses rushing through my heart.

    So if you meet this kind of friend, it's better to stay away, it's not a matter of money or not, it's just a matter of attitude, as if you like someone, but that person hasn't given you a name, and has been asking you for all kinds of things, it's just treating you as an ATM, this kind of absolutely unbearable, if it's a spare tire.

    If it's a friend, it's better to choose whether to be a friend or not, and you can't say that you should break off friendship quickly, just don't make deep friends.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    First of all, I don't think it's necessary to bring Sakura as a treat. While in many cultures hospitality is a way to express gratitude and gratitude, I don't think it's a rule that must be followed. I believe that we should respect each other's wishes and choices between people, rather than treating hospitality as a rule that must be followed.

    Second, I don't want a treat to give the wrong signal. If I had invited a colleague to dinner, it might give the impression that I was still interested in staying with the company. This may confuse my colleagues even more and even affect my plans to leave the company.

    Therefore, I don't want a treat to give any false impression or signal.

    In addition, I have my own financial considerations. While a treat is a way to express gratitude and friendliness, it also requires a certain amount of financial expense.

    At this time, I need to control my spending and allocate my resources wisely. I can't waste my financial resources on an unnecessary dinner potluck and should instead use them for more important things.

    Finally, I don't think camaraderie needs to be expressed by treats. While hospitality is a form of kindness and gratitude, I believe that true camaraderie should be based on a deeper level of mutual understanding and support.

    If my colleagues really were my buddies, they wouldn't be disappointed or angry that I didn't invite them. Instead, they will understand my choice and continue to support me on my path ahead.

    To sum up, while I appreciate the support and friendliness of my colleagues, I don't want to accept their invitations. I am sure they will understand my choice and continue to support me on my path ahead.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It won't be.

    If you know that you have friends, you don't care if you will have a treat, if you don't know your people, you may have more ideas, you may think, you are usually more deductive, or you are more frugal when you talk nicely.

    Sometimes what is said is assigned to whom, but never unless there is a special reason to do so. Otherwise, making friends is like this, after a long time, although friends don't say anything, they must have ideas.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you tell someone that you never have a treat.

    It may also be thought of.

    You're not very gregarious, are you?

    Or the person has a habit of cleanliness or other habits, etc.

    Everyone's thinking is different.

    Because the angle of the stand is different, the position is different.

    Therefore, this situation is also analyzed in detail.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Don't talk about this kind of never treated.

    It doesn't matter if you have the experience intentionally or if you really don't have it.

    Some people want to beat your record.

    You must pay out of your pocket, whether you buy it or not.

    Some people mind, thinking you just don't want to pay.

    I don't want to call you for the next meeting.

    Because you only want to eat other people's.

    You hack yourself.

    Others can hack you too.

    One pass ten, ten pass hundred.

    Once your reputation for never entertaining spreads.

    Everybody gang up and slaughter you, what are you going to do?

    Finally, you can't go a lifetime without paying for it.

    Those who come out to mix must be returned.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If you say you never invite guests, then you are alone. Of course, if you don't invite guests all the time, then it is recommended that you do not participate in other people's guests. Obviously, you can only be alone.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Others will only feel that you are a picker, and you will not deal with people. Chinese get along with each other from the wine table, and friends go to the bar to drink and chat.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Then others will think that you are a person who picks the door and is a person who does not fit in.

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