I feel a little selfish as a college classmate I don t know if it s counted , what should I do?

University is a small society, everyone has it, your classmate does this can only mean that he has a problem, but this also proves that he is not a friend to make on the other hand, avoid it, treat it normally, afraid of the person who calculates you behind it, and dealing with interpersonal relationships is also a compulsory course in the university.

College is like this, I'm a sophomore this year, I'm used to it, suffer a little loss, as a kind of training, help to come out of the society in the future, those who are not good, one day will be harvested by God, will be excluded by society.

Why are boys so difficult to get along with now, are they all only children, self-centered?

Everyone will be a little selfish, first of all, if you understand this, you will feel that their behavior is still understandable, and do you feel that you have stood at a relatively high level at this time? Relax and deal with everything with a peaceful mind, after all, people are not machines, everything is negotiable, there are no specific boundaries, I believe you will handle it well.

Dude, you've hit a strongman!

I don't understand what to fight about, when they talk about you, you talk about them, they hide and hide you! You can't be reasonable with people who aren't people! But it's good to get by in your heart, I don't offend people if they don't offend me There are people around me who don't have a group of roommates who are not things, so I sympathize with you!!

It's like this in college, and when I was in high school, people said I was too simple to be good. When I got to college, I realized that I really suffered a loss, so think about the benefits, when I go to society, maybe everyone else is like this, so I should have entered the society in advance. Don't be too demanding of others, just be more demanding of yourself, and keep an eye on everything.

Obvious envy, jealousy and hatred, the other party is also very selfish, competitive, make good interpersonal relations with other friends and let the facts speak, you do your best! Look at what you need the main thing, the student years, passed in a flash, don't care so much

Get your mindset right. Communicate with them more and treat them sincerely. There will be a harvest.

Respect and stay away, your own life is your own life, and what is his belongs to him, and it is good that the well water does not interfere with the river water. It's good for us to keep a proper distance from each other, let alone go deep into friendship, because since you know what kind of person the other person is, you should know what kind of consequences this kind of person will cause you. Don't have any disputes, just do it.

Again, we need to manage our mouths. It is your own business to know what kind of person the other person is, how to get along with others, and how others get along with others is not your own business. Don't impose what you think on others, who have their own judgments and their own opinions.

By doing so, you are not only looking selfish, but also naïve. The relationship between us and each other should not be too stiff, because we are roommates, and we can't see each other when we look up. It's good that we are optimistic about our own affairs, and if you are right, then the behavior of the people around you will teach him a lesson.

Learn to say no, because this type of person always holds a mask of hypocrisy and asks for help from others. I have similar people around me, and many times they give us a lot of troubles. So we can start with a tactful refusal, we understand that if we are too tolerant of the other person, we will be very unhappy.

In my opinion, it is because others are tolerant of him that he is selfish.

In the end, it's a kind of direct scolding. Many people always think that what they are doing is fine, but they are very naïve and selfish. In many cases, we can't meet the requirements by relying on the superficial understanding of others alone, and it is better to tell the other person directly.

We can choose to be when our roommates are there, after all, we all know each other well, so it's a good thing to say it directly. I believe that as long as people reflect, they will change.

First of all, I also hate selfish people.

I remember one time, we were all on lunch break, he was watching a movie on the computer, we were all sleeping, I only heard him laughing there, you want to wake up the three of us, I was very angry, we said him together, everyone is sleeping, can you be quiet? He continued to look there as if he hadn't heard, and a few of us were so angry that we were so annoyed with him that we wanted to beat him up.

He came down and shouted at us angrily. I'm sleeping, can you please keep the noise down? At that time, the three of us said to him together, you know that you are sleeping, and you also know that it is uncomfortable to be disturbed by others, so why are you so loud when we sleep, affecting our sleep, at this time, he can't say a word, he knows that he is ignorant.

Because he did this before, he didn't say anything, and since we talked about him this time, he turned his voice down when he watched the computer and movies in the future. Since then, our dormitory has been very harmonious, and there has never been the same situation as before, which shows that our method is still very effective.

Because, he doesn't want to be isolated by everyone, if everyone ignores him, he is alone, what do you do, no one is with him, class, no one sits with her, goes out to eat, goes out for social activities, everyone ignores him, will not be with him, so he takes this into account, and he has also restrained a lot, and he is not so selfish, which shows that we, this lesson given to him this time, still has a great impact on him, and it has played an educational role.

So all of us, now the relationship with him is very good, there is nothing, if there are any shortcomings or problems, we will take the initiative to point out each other's problems, and then change, in fact, this is also very good. Supervise each other and make progress with each other, I believe that this kind of friendship will last forever, and the feelings between classmates will become deeper and deeper.

There is a saying that is very good that "it takes 500 times to look back in the previous life in exchange for a passing in this life", and I have always believed that this sentence is true, what kind of roommate you meet means that there is an inextricable fate between you.

In fact, before going to college, my understanding of the university only came from what others said and the kind of harmonious scenes I saw on TV, and there were many scenes that I imagined, such as the relationship between classmates, which had flashed in my mind many times, but when I really came to the university, I found that the reality was still very different from my imagination.

To say what to do when you meet this kind of person, in fact, I didn't think about having a conflict with my classmates before, I know that one day a war finally broke out between us, at night when he was teaching and he turned on the computer and tapped on the keyboard, so noisy that I couldn't sleep, and he said to go to bed early, but the more he kicked his nose in the face, so he couldn't bear it and went down to fight with him, this fight doesn't matter, and we never talk again, so we have been maintaining a stranger relationship, If you want to say that I don't regret it now, in fact, there is a point, after all, it can't be just one person's fault when it comes to fighting, sometimes I want to say sorry to him, but I just can't say it, and sometimes I always get angry when I see him like this again.

In fact, at that time, my best friend didn't like her always using other people's things like this, but it was because she was embarrassed that she never said it, so that person always used her things openly, so I think that in the face of those very selfish people, we should still face to face to talk to them clearly, because it will be more beneficial for us to pick out the words clearly, so at this time we should be brave and not afraid.

The first way is to let him be, and the second way is to talk to him, but it's based on your relationship.

Because each of us has lived in different conditions and environments since childhood, this affects a person's character to a certain extent, and hateful people must have pity. is also a very wealthy family, a second-generation official, a scholarly family, both of them may not be selfish, but they will also have different ways of dealing with the world. So we can't ask others to be like us.

The second generation of officials is more concerned about how to deal with things smoothly and establish interpersonal relationships. Scholarly people may value knowledge more than interpersonal relationships. That selfish person may be that he has been very poor since he was a child, and his poor life is like this, he can't make ends meet, how can he manage others.

Of course, if it's not in terms of money, you may not help with physical actions such as hot water, and people are not obliged to help you, so you can't measure others by your own standards.

Then there are two solutions, since there is no public standard, you can say that it is your judgment that he is selfish, and maybe he is not selfish to others. Then it's up to him, he can live as much as he wants, let's take care of ourselves, so we also have the freedom to help him if he wants, and if he doesn't want to help, he can refuse, and this kind of help can't be reciprocal. People can do what they like, and we can do what we should do.

The second type needs to look at the relationship, the relationship is deep, you can talk to him, talk about why he has to do that, you can also persuade him, let him think about it for others, don't just live for yourself, but also think about the roommates around you, how can you make friends if you are selfish, talk about it, understand it, maybe you feel that he is not selfish, or he will thank you for a lifetime because of this matter.

It's a blessing to suffer, and it's only your luck to be able to meet a selfish roommate, so that you can make your heart feel better. Because others may not feel selfish yet, she thinks she should do it. What can you do at this time, you can only relax your mentality.

There are selfish people in every environment, and since you can't change the environment, then you have to adjust yourself. Early this morning, my friend called a **. The first sentence said that she missed me very much, and I thought that she was not such a person in normal times.

But today it was a bit of an anomaly, and then I asked her what was wrong.

Their college has a cram school to teach math lessons. So I asked the class leader to ask the students in their respective classes if they were willing. The class leader happens to be my friend's roommate, and she usually thinks that my friend has robbed her of her prestige, because my friend is very capable, and she is very good in both interpersonal relationships and clubs.

She actually only chatted with all her classmates privately, but did not tell my friends, who just learned the news yesterday. Her reason is that she thinks she is very good, her grades are very good, and she does not need to make up classes. So I didn't tell her directly, and my friend asked her about something, because she let everyone talk about her privately in the group.

But she said that there was nothing to do, just to count the class size. My friend knew well and felt sad. I think how can people be selfish to this extent, so I called ** early in the morning to confide.

People, no matter what you do, don't be too selfish, you may have immediate benefits, but maybe in the end you will lose more than you have gained now.

This has a certain relationship with their family education and the social environment in which they live.

Nowadays, the vast majority of college students are only children, and the common problem of only children is selfishness. Because there is only one child in each family, parents give almost all their love to their children. However, China's family education does not have a particularly formal kind of learning and training, so parents use their own methods to educate their children according to their own emotions.

Many parents are worried that their children will suffer losses in the future, and the word "blessing" is very silly in their eyes. So they seldom teach their children to share, because when they do, they don't have anything to do. This is completely different from a non-one-child family, where parents always want their children to share things with each other and be humble to each other, because they are a family.

When facing outsiders, parents rarely ask their children to share their own things, at most they are bartering, and everyone's toys and other things are exchanged for play. This kind of education method will teach children to be selfish from an early age, and will only blindly ask for "taking advantage", rather than choosing to share what they have.

Therefore, we can often see young people on the bus turning a blind eye to the elderly, weak, sick, disabled and pregnant, seeing them watching the injured people at the scene of the accident, and seeing them making insulting remarks or even fighting in public to grab something, which is a manifestation of the lack of family education.

Therefore, when they go to college, they will not get along well with their dormitory classmates because they will not be willing to sacrifice their own interests for the benefit of others. When they encounter what they want, they take all kinds of tricks, resulting in no real friends around them, of course, they can't be blamed alone, their parents themselves have an unshirkable responsibility.