The new leader made fun of me, or even personally attacked, what should I do?

In such a situation, first of all, you have to try to keep yourself calm. Calm down, and you can handle this matter more rationally. You must not be angry and bravely go back because the leader has made fun of you and attacked you personally.

Such "bravery" is not necessarily correct, and such "bravery" is likely to anger the leader, which will lead to your own dismissal.

In such a situation, while allowing yourself to control your emotions, you have to think about why the leader wants to make fun of you, or even attack you personally, and you have to think about whether your own recent work is not in place or there is a big mistake, which causes the leader to not control yourself.

If you have a problem, first apologize to the leader and promise that you will work hard to correct it as soon as possible, and speak respectfully. If you have ideas for how to make corrections, you can also tell the leader, which will also let the leader further see the sincerity of the change you want to make. In this way, I believe that the leader will not embarrass you again.

Of course, if it is not your own problem, it is the new leader's own problem, there is no need for you to apologize. You can directly ask the leader why he is making fun of you? If he is attacking you for no reason, or even attacking you personally, you can ask him to apologize.

If he refuses to apologize, you can further report the problem to the relevant leaders of the company and ask for a reasonable answer.

Of course, in this case, it is recommended that you go to a place with fewer people to negotiate with the leader. If it is the problem of leading himself, in a place with many people, he is likely to die to save face and will not admit that it is his own problem. Even if he is forced to admit it, he may hold a grudge against you, so that you will not have good fruit to eat in the future.

In either case, you can't also use the leader to attack the leader personally, which will become a mutual injury. Even if you were justified in front of you, you are no longer reasonable at the moment, and you have lost your proper demeanor.

The attitude towards leaders in the workplace can be summed up in one sentence: either endure or roll.

In most cases, no matter what the attitude of the leader is, it is recommended that you should be patient. If the new leader is just a personality and doesn't mean to target you. After such a period of contact and communication, he will look at you differently if he silently endures his bad temper and insists on communicating and working well.

The style of leadership is all kinds of wonderful, as a veteran driver with more than 10 years of experience in the workplace, I have also followed too many wonderful leaders. But most of them are able to change their impression of each other through a period of mutual understanding.

Many strong leaders are particularly capable of working, so they are very critical of your work results, and when they are serious, they will also be personally attacked, which is also common in reporting to the leader. Don't be too glassy, focus on solving the problem. If it's all because of work, I still feel that there is nothing uncommunicable, but I will see such a challenge as an experience for myself, and the more times I have experienced, your psychological tolerance and work quality will still be improved, and the leader will change his opinion of you.

For leaders who are not just picky about work, but indiscriminately and intentionally picky, it depends on your own capacity. When you don't have the ability to compete with it or say goodbye, you can silently improve yourself. When you are strong enough to say goodbye to your leader, then you can walk away without looking back, or change jobs, or change departments.

The point is that whenever you don't forget to keep yourself in the capacity to leave at any time, then all patience is meaningful.

Pretend not to care, give him a smile, and then go back to work silently, if he criticizes you in front of others, you ask him what he needs to improve, tell him that he will try his best to correct what he did wrong, at this time you must calm down, do not lose the job because of your willfulness. If it's not a big deal, you have to hold back and do your best to prove that you can do better. <>

I remember my first job was as a receptionist in a barber shop, and the manager seemed to be particularly dissatisfied with me, and said in front of everyone, reception, why are you so slow every day, and your voice is so small, can you do a good job, at that time I really wanted to ask him, obviously I was very fast to receive guests, obviously I was talking loud enough, why do you want to say this to me, I really want to tell him, I won't do it, but my reason tells me that I can't do this, I have to persevere, no matter how wronged, I'm going to keep going, I smiled at him very awkwardly, and then said okay manager, I know, I'll try to correct it. After saying this, I saw that there were no customers in the store, so I secretly cried in the corner for a while, and then I told myself that I couldn't admit defeat, I must do this job well, and even if I left, I would leave happily.

So, I began to greet the guests louder, and when the guests came to the door, I got up and stood at the door to greet them. Later, the manager's attitude towards me also changed, he didn't criticize me in front of others, and I got along well with the staff in the store. If the new leader really makes fun of you, it may really be that you are not doing well in that aspect, at this time you should learn to work harder to improve, accelerate progress, let everyone accept you, and use your own strength to tell them that you are the best.

In an almost cruel workplace competition environment, it is extremely common to encounter minefields and traps if you are not careful, after all, everyone has their own philosophy of life in the workplace, and the mentality of treating colleagues is different, which has caused the intricacies of interpersonal relationships in the workplace, but for the workplace experience of encountering various spoofs and attacks on new leaders, I am afraid that it is not something that ordinary people can encounter, if it is not a very promising job, as a person who has come over, it is recommended to find another job, you know, In the confrontation with the leader, once you are in a weak position, it is difficult to reverse.

The cruelty of workplace competition should not be underestimated, not to mention being disliked by the leader, even if the senior colleagues are a little older, if they do not handle the relationship well, it will be difficult, but for some special jobs, if you have enough grasp of your own importance, you can ignore these attacks and spoofs on the basis of doing your job.

Of course, in today's workplace competition, there is no job and position is indispensable, as the saying goes, the earth will turn the same way from anyone, as a rookie in the workplace, since it is not treated by the leader, there is no need to struggle, after all, working under such a leader, is always in a depressed state, which has a negative impact on their own mood and work efficiency, so you can consider withdrawing from this deformed competition, although on the surface it is a relatively negative treatment strategy, but in the long run, It is conducive to workplace planning.

In the face of the severe employment situation, job opportunities are not easy to come by, even if the working environment is not ideal, try not to make the situation serious if you can endure it, but the premise is not to be artificially discriminated against by the leadership, if you can't avoid this situation, even if the ideal working environment must be actively changed for long-term consideration.

This kind of problem does show that the leader is targeted to you and you is not self-contained, you have to report the situation to your higher level through normal channels, if no one pays attention to you, then sorry it's time for you to leave, you can only stay here and stay still. Good luck.

There are two solutions.

Two: I don't care about what he says, you can say in front of everyone when he says: "What you said is so right, why didn't I think of it, it's too important, I will... I think if it's a long-hearted person, you'll understand what's going on.

In fact, if he says your words in front of others, others will know what kind of person he is, and you don't have to say anything, others will score him in their hearts, and they won't think about what he says or you at all. In fact, it is he who is lost, and you have to show generosity and you will add points to yourself.

There is actually one easiest way to deal with this kind of person.

No matter what he says, you just say a word or a sentence, repeat and repeat, repeat until he has nothing to say and you will be angry with him, so that you can be normal.

Respond to change with the same.

No one can maintain a perfect normal mind when they are physically attacked, and this kind of person is the ideal being. Therefore, if you want to keep your normal heart good, you must find a way to mess him up.

The so-called attacking enemy will save itself.

And he, who likes verbal attacks, must have his own flaws, and this kind of attack is just one of the ways to cover up the flaws. For example, he is too lonely and lonely and develops a sick psychology, or domestic violence, or life is too unsatisfactory and so on.

The so-called: know yourself and know your opponent to win all battles.

Therefore, combined with the above three points, choose a word that he can't stand very much, and keep saying and saying and saying.

However, you also need to pay attention to how the people around you react to you.

Analyze why: when others attack you personally, you still have to think about how to maintain a peaceful mind? In fact, what we have to do with personal attacks on others is to distance ourselves from them - walk away.

There is also a moderate counterattack, so as not to connive at the other party's intensification. Keep a calm mind, if one can do it, then there is no need to ask; If it is not possible, anger is also a normal emotional response of a person, and the most important thing is not to suppress yourself. Generally speaking, people who like to attack others often have more or less psychological problems, if you care about him and hope to help him, listen to his voice patiently, and maybe you can also find an effective communication channel.

If you don't want to or can't do anything, then distance is the best way to maintain peace.

Empathize with and deeply sympathize. To be honest, I always advise you not to hurt your own body with other people's mistakes. But it was my turn again.

At that time, he must have choked on his anger and almost lost his mind. Find a way to vent that resentment, and then calm down. Think about it, how stupid you are.

The purpose of people attacking you is to make you angry, and such a smart person will be stupid and fooled, and he will definitely not be fooled in the future.

You live your life, I live my life, who is happy knows best, it doesn't matter a dime, why bother competing with boring people. If you are a friend, you will not speak out and hurt you seriously, and if you are a relative, you should not be. Everyone has a bottom line, they can do anything, just don't touch the bottom line, if you provoke the six relatives and don't recognize it, don't get along if you can't get along.

The road is on one side of the sky, can't you really afford to provoke and hide?

It seems that your quality is quite good. What kind of people are you talking about?

It's true that there are people who are often discouraged, and you can ignore them completely. Or choke back.

Actually, what I'm more in favor of is not to indulge in it. Otherwise, you will inevitably kick your nose and face. Everyone has the limit of patience.

There is such an article, I like it very much.

The two ancient Zen masters Hanshan and Shide had such a dialogue:

Hanshan asked: How should I deal with people in the world who slander me, bully me, insult me, laugh at me, despise me, and despise me?

He said: Just endure him, avoid him, let him, bear with him, ignore him, and in a few years, you will see him.

Look at him in a few years" - Ma Guofu.

Some of the people you describe may have a problem with themselves, and you have to take pity on him.

Leave him alone, just go back at night and beat him up, at that time, you don't have to do anything, just say a word to it: uneducated. And don't listen to what others say about you. Quite effective. over~

If you're going to be shameless with him, you're going to lose. If you compare your face with him and your virtue, then you will win. Some people are just in human form, which is called "animal path" in tantra. When a dog bites you, do you give it back to the dog?

This is fun, I used to have it when I was a child, and then I was depressed for a short time... Low self-esteem... But I found that at the same time I learned a lot of different ways to fight back.

Friends have to make anything. A talented cow who can make enemies friends. Remember the words of these people, and over time, fight back, and if you are extremely resentful now, you can calm down, because one day your city will make him embarrassed.

If the relationship is average or dispensable, it is completely possible to never see him again in the future; If it's a big customer or something, you can bear it, and you can't bear to change jobs; If it's a relative or something, you can make it clear to him that you are very upset.

Yes? What else can you endure? It's so unrecognizable! !

Can you understand someone else's attack? You can add me to talk.

Tell him that the more debates you win, the fewer friends you have.

Summarize the reasons why you keep being attacked.