My boyfriend has beaten me three times in a year, should I still be with him?

Let's break up....Associating with someone with a serious psychological or character defect can certainly be extremely painful....

A man who hits a woman is not a man. It's understandable if it's because of betrayal or complete distrust. But he's obviously getting used to hitting you....Even if you have a different opinion, you can do it.

If he really loves you, he won't hurt you on purpose. Normal people are....Of course, there are also people who think that two people tormenting each other is the ultimate in love...But are you okay with that? He doesn't feel sorry for you, he loves you, he doesn't even respect you (not even if he has a different concept) you....

I also know a boy who has a short temper, but when he can't control it, even if he smashes the furniture, smacks the car, or even hurts himself, he won't hurt a finger of the girl, because he can't help it....That's out of love.

Have a good talk with him, give the two of you a chance, and tell him that from now on, if you beat you again, you will break up...If you are decided, he will be able to change....If you do it again, divide it. Don't run away with love....Otherwise, sooner or later, you will be killed by someone you love...

I hope you are happy.

Definitely! Like a friend above said. It is very wrong to hit someone, especially because one party is only one-sided and suspicious or because the other party has different opinions and opinions. Especially the other half who gets along with the loved one day and night even has to hold the hand of the son and grow old together.

But it's best to talk about it, I feel like he has some bitterness in his heart, or there is something hidden in his heart, and it is best to resolve it slowly, if you cherish this relationship very much, let him feel that you are truly selfless care, but it depends on who he is, after all, it is two-sided, and if you are kind to him and he thinks it is malicious or strong and feels undignified, then the more you help him, the more he may feel so.

It is difficult to find a suitable one, the vast sea of people meets him, so choose ** or give up to be very cautious, if it is really not suitable, there is no need to reluctantly, how can there be two exactly the same people, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts, differences and disputes, mutual understanding, cherishing and tolerance are the most important, of course, I said that understanding and cherishing tolerance is a two-way relationship between the two sides, to put yourself in each other's shoes can be empathized with each other, can share each other's worries and share happiness. It's lovers who are friends first and foremost.

Because after all, it's a two-sided relationship, and it's a long way to go in a lifetime.

Actually, I don't have much experience, just a little thought, just for reference.

Of course we can't be together, we must be divided! You can't hit it once, let alone three times! This is not married, if you are married, you will not have to fight 300 times, 3,000 times!

Let's leave, my former friend is in a similar situation to yours, and I can tell you that her boyfriend also keeps assuring her, but he will still beat her again, each time it is more and more serious, and the most terrible thing is that he almost strangled her to death.

Then you can try to care for him silently, if you care about him too much, you will provoke him even more to have the opposite heart, men are like this, when he is good to him, he doesn't care about you when you lose, you regret it, you can try to snub him for a few days.

From your description, it can be seen that your boyfriend is a very possessive person and has a certain tendency towards domestic violence, this kind of person will never allow others to cheat on him, and must be absolutely loyal to him. From a psychological point of view, he may have been deceived or treated unfairly in his childhood, so he hated people who were not loyal to him.

If it were me, I would propose to break up.

Such a man really can't want it, and before he got married, he started beating his wife. Think about it for yourself, it is true that there are feelings after a long time, but the frequency and situation of hitting you will only increase, not decrease, so let's separate as soon as possible. You'll find a better man.

Decisive points! I never beat my wife, I sit down to discuss something, occasionally make small noises, and don't fight.

Now I beat people before I got married, and when I got married, I ......paid it back

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For men with violent tendencies, we must have zero tolerance, because there is a saying that there is only zero coldness and countless times of domestic violence, and for a man who feels that his fists can solve the problem, he is not a good man himself. Now it's just a relationship, and he throws his fists at you, so if you really walk together, he will be even more unscrupulous. Of course, there are exceptions, but they are only a handful.

If you still want to test him, and don't want to let four years of relationship go to waste because of a single move, then try the following methods.

First, see if he apologizes to you. If your boyfriend apologizes to you in a timely manner after hitting you, and the apology is very sincere, then you can try to see if he is sincere. If he hits you and still feels that he is not wrong, and he is not willing to apologize to you at all, nor is he willing to say good things to you, then such a man will not be nostalgic and resolutely break up even if he gets along for a long time and loves again.

Second, see if he promises you that there won't be a next time. If he apologizes to you and promises that he will not have a next time, let you see his performance, and if there is a next time you can dispose of it, then you can also give him a chance to mend his ways. If he apologizes to you, but only makes any promises and guarantees, then he just wants to appease you instead of really realizing his mistake, so we must also resolutely break up in this situation.

Finally, see if he can live up to his word. Of course, it is not an apology, a promise, that we can forgive each other unreservedly, because if we are hurt in this way, it is we who will be hurt in the end. There must be a look at his actual actions in the days to come, to see if he is doubly good to you as he promised, whether he can really do what he says, and if he can do what he says, then it is still worth forgiving.

If you just talk about it, he will not be good to you in the future, or will be violent towards you, in this case, you must propose to break up.

In short, we must be cautious about boyfriends with violent tendencies, and never trust our lives to such people. But if the other party is really just confused for a while and doesn't really treat you badly, we might as well give him a chance, after all, the four-year relationship can't be broken.

Four years of relationship is a long time, if he starts beating you, you should choose to break up with him, no matter what a man does? He can't do it, there is violence, it shows that this man is very hot, he may have a bad temper, if you start beating you again after getting married, you definitely have no ability to resist, so in order to live a better life in the future, I think you can choose to break up.

Faced with such a situation, you should break up with your boyfriend immediately, because such a boyfriend is violent and not worth being with the other person.

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and it's a very bad start to hit you. I suggest that you should separate from him, dare to do it with you if you are not married, and dare not think about it after you get married.

Your boyfriend beats you for several reasons. First, you did something too much, which made him angry and anxious. Second, the boyfriend has violent tendencies.

The third point is that your boyfriend's love for you is gone. In fact, the most taboo thing between boyfriends and girlfriends is fighting. If you get married, you will definitely get out of control.

The specific way forward is up to you.

You have to find out the reason why he hit you, because there is something or the temper is like this, I personally think that the man who beats the woman is to be considered, and when he falls in love, he will do it, and there are more trivial things to live after marriage, so isn't there often domestic violence? If you are willing to endure it, then you can continue, if you feel that it is not good, the long pain is better than the short pain. I really can't put it down.

If so, it means that your boyfriend is a very short-tempered person, and under normal circumstances, men will not hit women.

Look at what it is, if you do it because of some small things, it means that his patience is not good, and he does not have a good sense of responsibility, and you have to consider whether you and he are going to a happier result.

This is not a good sign, no matter what the situation is, it is obviously not advisable to hit someone Hitting people can be addictive, especially when a man hits a woman It is even more incomprehensible Maybe it is a natural irritability and love impulse But if this is the first time, you still have to sit down with him and talk about it.

What is the situation, why is it fighting, what is the reason for your problem, then you correct the mistake, if he is wrong, break up. Anyway, I can't answer it right.

It's too much to start doing it before you get married, even if you get married, you can't do it, and it is said that there are only zero and countless times of domestic violence, and now it's starting to be like this In fact, it's not recommended to continue.

Break up directly, this kind of violent man should never give him a chance, once there will be a second time.

Sisters, let's divide it. There are only zero and countless times of domestic violence, and this is not married yet, it has already been started, and it is still necessary to get married.

I feel like you can break up with him because it's not good for the development of the relationship at all.

Recently, I was operating an emotional envy and received a lot of emotional counseling in the background.

It's all about him loving her, she loving him, and he loving him.

Love but can't, cowardice and inferiority.

Be willing to be a spare tire, affectionate and unrepentant.

Caught in love, unable to extricate himself.

It seems that everyone is a "love brain", as if life is meaningless without love.

They came with confusion, expecting a definite guide.

But who can give someone else's life a right answer?

yes, why is that?

However, many times, when encountering a scumbag, you are still reluctant to be subjected to domestic violence, which is likely to be a psychological problem.

The analysis of why someone is persuaded by others to be subjected to domestic violence and she doesn't listen or even feel that there is anything wrong with being beaten is too complicated, and it can even be studied in terms of personality reasons, psychological reasons, childhood experience, self-awareness, etc.

After thinking about it repeatedly and couldn't find a suitable answer for her, she finally silently closed the chat box.

When a woman falls in love, no matter how much you say, she won't listen.

And you think this relationship is miserable, but she may still enjoy it by drinking to quench her thirst.

part two

The skewness of the scholar can still be taken off.

The woman is shy, and she can't take it off.

A: I've been with my ex-boyfriend for five years, and he was with someone else less than two months after the breakup, is it really so easy to meet the right person, I have always said that I will never meet the person I love again, but is it really so realistic in the end?

The most humble one in love that is not forgotten after the breakup.

How to forget about your ex, is it a new love or time?

What if it doesn't work?

I don't know the answer.

After all, the kind of grievances that are unwilling to regret after the breakup, tossing and turning and sleepless all night, cannot be erased with a word. It's not a sentence to forget, and the person concerned can cheer up and start again.

But I want to say more:

When will you learn to love yourself?

I have a friend who has encountered a similar situation with you, and I also occasionally read psychological books, and after living for decades, I understand a little bit of the world. I can understand your reluctance, after all, you have been in love, sweet, and have been in love for a long time, you are so infatuated and a little silly. Your boyfriend has a shadow in his heart, he may not be convinced, his heart is unbalanced, from a man's point of view, he doesn't want his girlfriend's family or her to have more ability, money and background than himself, he will have low self-esteem.

And also working in your family's restaurant, how can people not bow their heads under the eaves. Usually, your parents' criticism of him has been angry with you. And you hit him first that time, how much grievance and imbalance he suffered in his heart, so he retaliated against you again.

But I think you also know that you are wrong, and you were impulsive at the time, I think you also apologized and repented, and you didn't dislike him and continued to be good to him, so he said that you are kind-hearted, have hatred and love for you, and are reluctant to let you go, and will commit suicide for you, I think he should really love you. Try to solve the previous contradictions, talk more openly, let him go to work elsewhere may not be so wronged, usually be more kind to him, tell him I don't mind whether you are rich or poor, I like your people, I only love you one. Men are generally reluctant to give up such a woman.

If this doesn't work, forget it in the end, I know that you are a good girl, and your family background is also good, look at the point, time can forget everything, a good girl will definitely be able to find someone who loves him very much.

You are still young, the road ahead is still very long, it is a very bad start for this situation to appear so early, the days after marriage will definitely be more difficult to manage, love a person must love all of the other person, you can't do it for a little thing, quarreling is a very common thing, and no matter how loving couples there are times when they quarrel. After a quarrel, the relationship may be better than before, but don't quarrel at two ends for three days. Doing it will only aggravate the pain in the other person's heart.

Maybe you're really too young to experience any setbacks in your relationship. That's why you won't know how to cherish it. In fact, you should sit down and talk calmly, and you should also change yourself appropriately for each other.

Communication is the best solution at the moment. Secondly, didn't you say he was handsome? And the family is very poor, so have you ever thought that maybe he is with you for a purpose.

Of course, no one wants that.