I hope to solve my emotional problem rationally

I think a man should focus on his career, and emotionally speaking, if she loves you too, she won't mind if you don't work and send her, on the contrary, she may want you to send her too. You can go wherever she goes, but everyone is worried about what to do if the final result is unsatisfactory; In terms of real life, it is really difficult for a man to build a good family if he does not have a career

The rational solution is that you follow her wherever she goes! Is it a partner? You have to be together to be a companion! You've quit your job now anyway! What are you afraid of! There is a good saying: "Now love is all about strength, what if you are not strong and are forced to run away by others" hehe!

Since I quit my job, I just went to Guangdong to work hard.

First, get away from your girlfriend to reduce mutual suspicion and put your heart on your career.

Second, you can encourage each other to reduce stress and increase affection.

We are all poor people, let her go if you love her, and when you have money and are in love, if you have a woman chasing me, I don't love her, and I have nothing to do.

Do you need to know what kind of relationship you need?

You have to establish a concept from your heart - believe in love but do not rely on love, love is a part of life, but it is difficult to become a solid foundation in your life, in the process of experiencing love, you will have anticipation and possession, there will be sweetness, but also accompanied by sadness.

Feelings are important, when falling in love, we must not be antagonistic to our family because of love, alienate friends, neglect work and study, and compromise for each other, so you will gradually lose yourself.

You must know that you and the other person are both independent and complete individuals, and neither of them should lose their true selves for the sake of the other; This is also the premise that we need to be rational in the face of a relationship.

If you are not really in love at present, but you simply like someone in your heart, you may be shy and timid in your heart, but you don't have to, because between pursuing and being pursued, the inequality between the two is often the psychological work of the clan itself;

You can muster up the courage to get closer to each other and talk to each other, but don't delay each other's lives, feelings must not be forced, and don't blindly force each other for your own possessiveness.

If you have started a relationship, properly refer to the advice of the people around you, the most important thing in the relationship is the character, because with a good character, he may be responsible for your relationship.

In addition, don't try to control and change, you can't cater to all his habits, he is also difficult to cater to all your habits, people get along with each other, the most important thing is to make each other comfortable, a good relationship needs to be managed with heart, each other can learn and grow from it, mutual trust and tolerance, and can make themselves better through this relationship; Enlighten the book to treat feelings rationally, maintain their independence and autonomy, love with their hearts, and manage with their hearts!

I once agreed with the saying that "emotions are impurities in the rational machine of the human brain and are useless". Perfect sanity is perfect.

But if you think about it, if a person is completely sane, then he will not have any goals in life, because everything is meaningless, it is just the self-amusement of the boring low-entropy system of man, and he has no reason to continue to live in this world, so a completely sane person will not live on his own.

1.Why is it so hard to maintain a high level of self-efficacy?

First of all, I believe that in your daily life, you will definitely find that sometimes, the whole person will be very depressed, we often say very"Mourning".。This is because psychologically speaking, people's emotions are in a state of fluctuation. Negative emotions will keep piling up in your mind, and one day they will explode.

2.Why is cognitive communication biased?

And in daily life, there will always be barriers and inconveniences in your communication with others, and the more you face emotional problems, the more difficult you will find it to communicate. So it often happens that the problems you face don't go in the direction you want, and then cause you great trouble. In this case, it is normal for you to feel powerless.

First, have a showdown with your partner. It must be clear whether he simply does not regard love as important as you see, or whether he does not have so much affection for you. If it is the former, you can refer to it next; If it's the latter, then it's time to consider whether to end the relationship.

Second, women are emotionally prone to give their all, and the deeper they fall. This is where the emotions of men and women differ. You can try to change your thinking. For example, your life is the most important thing about yourself.

Thirdly, when you are really aware of this point, then you have to start doing what you can for this point. For example, what kind of person do you want to be, what kind of life do you want to live, and within the scope of what you can give, have you done it? If not, then try your best.

For example, I used to want to learn flower arrangement, I wanted to learn a foreign language, I wanted to learn a musical instrument, and so on, but I never did it, or I didn't do it well. Now that I have time, go ahead and do it slowly. Slowly shift your focus to more of your own life.

No, many problems in the relationship can not be solved by being rational enough, and sometimes thinking too much is not conducive to the development of the relationship.

Of course, this idea is not right, because reason and emotion are two completely different mechanisms, and if all the problems in our lives can be solved with reason, then our life will undoubtedly be much simpler and more boring.

In fact, when a person tries to solve emotional or emotional problems with rational thinking, he often falls into one kind or another misunderstanding, and whenever this happens, reason seems to lose its original role, and even plays a counterproductive role, making the problem further magnified or more complicated.

Not necessarily. There are many emotional problems in life that need to be emotional, and reason cannot solve them.

You don't have to have someone to love, but you have to love someone well!

When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime.

But sadly, in real life, people who truly love each other for various reasons may not be able to be together;

The one you love the most often doesn't choose you;

What loves you the most is often not what you love the most;

And the longest-lasting, it's not what you love the most, and it's not the one you love the most.

Only the person who appears at the most suitable time will really be with you forever!

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him (her), if you don't love him (her) anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him (her), you should want him (her) to live happily, hope that he (she) is with the person you really love, and will never stop it, if you prevent him (her) from getting real happiness, it means that you no longer love him (her), and if you don't love him (her), what right do you have to accuse him (her) of changing his (her) mind?

Love is not possession!

You love the stars, and it's impossible to take them down and put them in the basin, but the light of the stars can still shine into your room.

In other words, if you love someone, you can also have it in another way, so that the lover becomes an eternal memory in your life, and if you really love someone, you have to love him as he is, love his good, and love his bad:

Love his strengths and his shortcomings, and never want him to become what he wants because he loves him, and if he can't change, he won't love him.

You can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you just know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to be with you;

The real relationship is that the two can stay together in the most difficult situation, that is, without the slightest requirement.

After all, feelings must be given, not just wanted to be gained;

Separation is an inevitable test, and if your relationship is not stable enough and you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment.

When the two are in love, they like to make each other swear and make promises, why do we swear to each other, it is because we don't believe each other, we don't believe in lovers at all, and these mountain alliances and sea vows are very unrealistic.

The sea is dry and the earth is barren, but it can't change my love for you!

knowing that the sea will not wither, the stones will not rot, the earth will not grow, and the sky will not be barren;

Even if he could, he wouldn't live until then.

When making a promise, be careful, don't make promises that can be fulfilled, it is better to promise what you can't do, anyway, it doesn't matter if you can't do it, remember that "impossible promises are the most moving".

In love, one thing is said and another is done;

The speaker does not believe it, and the listener does not believe ......

Who have you met in the vast sea of people? Who met you again.

Think about ...... from a different perspectiveDon't get emotional.

To put it bluntly, feelings are an impulse that will be different from others depending on your life experience. Feelings are all emotional, and there is no rational statement. Those who are so-called rational about feelings are only because of their personal values, worldview, consideration of the consequences of feelings, and the cost of maintaining them, and how to maintain them.

And these problems are not caused by the feelings themselves, but by this social environment. And it is these problems that limit the impulse of affection and bring us too many concerns. We sometimes have to be rational about our feelings.

Why use reason to analyze sensibility? It's feelings that don't have logic, right? What is affection, and are you confused about it?

Or are you scared of it? Could it be that you are so impatient that you are tormented by it? That's when you ask in such a firm tone.

You don't have to dig deeper, do you? Because you're not sure of that yourself, are you? Why do you want to know so much what feelings are?

Because this is emotion, there is no logic, there is no reason, there is no common sense. You can do it as it happens, you know?