How to educate a rebellious child? How to educate children during the rebellious period?

The rebellious period of the child in the development stage of life will actually appear in two or three stages, the first stage is at the age of two to three, the child at this stage he will show self-experiential enhancement, he will want to find something to bite, or destroy, or fall, he is likely to show rebellion against your instructions, for example, the parent has not finished the problem, he may say no, or you let him run to the east and he to the west, at this time the parent may be very anxious, feel that the child is not learning badly, Actually, no, this is a manifestation of children at this stage, it is a necessary stage of growth experience.

The second rebellious period is our adolescence, the adolescent child yearns for independence in his heart, but he still needs to rely on his parents to help him with life cooking and life guidance. Parents of children at this stage should not worry, children should be like the Buddha if they have a rebellious performance, so that this Monkey King can jump casually in the palm of his hand, but he can't escape from the palm of the Buddha.

Therefore, adults should consider the overall situation of the child, do not nag the child every day, but also read the child's heart, in fact, the child wants to be independent, which is the stage experience of his normal development.

A rebellious child, you must first understand why he is like this? Because his thoughts at that time were different from normal people's thoughts. You have to cater to his ideas first.

After that, he slowly changed his mind. It can't be said that, well, if you tell him to change in the first place, he must have developed a rebellious mentality. If you don't understand him, you don't understand him, if you don't love him, he will be more and more rebellious.

In the face of their children's rebellion, many parents are very nervous, anxious and painful, because the more they educate, the more rebellious they become, and eventually they cannot complete their studies, and even develop inappropriate behavior habits, including fighting, skipping classes, and getting into bad habits. In the face of rebellious children, as a parent, it is recommended to take the following measures:

1. Stabilize your child's emotions. Because rebellious children are very energetic and have creativity, imagination, their own direction, etc., it can be understood that rebellious children also have excellent aspects and deserve respect;

2. In the process of getting along with children, think more. Because behind the rebellion is not only the problem of the child itself, but also the problem of parent-child relationship. Parents need to constantly learn how to accompany their children's growth and respect the laws of growth at different stages of their children's growth.

That is, when children are in infancy, kindergarten, primary school, junior high school, and high school at different times, they need to learn to wean, separate beds, etc., and maintain relative distance and boundaries under appropriate circumstances. Parents should not blindly intervene and satisfy their children. And for children's needs, they also need to learn to say no when they need help.

In the face of rebellious children, it is necessary to respect the laws of growth in order to maintain a good parent-child relationship.

While respecting children, they should have a good healthy attitude and perfect character, and finally be able to educate themselves and have good directions and goals. In the process of growing up, they not only learn the knowledge of cultural classes, but also know how to be polite, know how to help others, and know how to contribute to the family and society. This is a very good and ideal educational process.

For rebellious children, parents should adopt the above strategies to ultimately guide their children to grow up healthy and happy.

In the face of children's rebellion, many elders are nervous, anxious and painful, because the more they educate, the more rebellious they become, and they will eventually be unable to complete their studies, and even have improper behavior habits, including fighting and skipping classes, and contagious habits. In the face of rebellious children, as long, it is recommended to take the following measures:

We adults all came from children, and we all have rebellious periods, imagine how you came back then, and you should be able to cope with it now.

Find the problem and communicate it with your child.

The child can get used to him when he is young, but he can't get used to it too badly; When the child is often disobedient, he can't talk loudly about him, and he can't nag, nagging him will make him grumpy, and he can only sit down and tell him what the consequences are.

The rebellious period is a common adolescent phenomenon, as the child grows older, the child is no longer simply completely dependent on the parents, has independent ideas, as a parent should encounter the changes of the child, understand the needs of the child, and avoid blind preaching and punishment.

To give more help to children in the rebellious period, we must first learn to understand the environment in which the child is located, the problems they face, and the child's current thoughts, and give more understanding and respect from the perspective of the child, and at the same time let the child understand the warmth of the family and the support of the parents, give the child the courage to face the problem, and help the child find a solution to the problem.

As a parent, you should pay attention to uniting your child's classmates, teachers, and friends to help your child through the rebellious period. In the face of more complex situations, parents can seek the help of a psychologist to give their children appropriate psychological counseling.

When the child enters the adolescent stage, it also enters the stage of rebellion, and when it enters this stage, congratulations, the child begins to grow up.

Because the child's personality independence and mental maturity gradually begin to sprout, this is a symbol of the child's beginning to grow up. In the clinic, there are also many parents who are very distressed, saying why their children are not as obedient and do not listen to the arrangement as when they were young, and many parents like to be sovereign parents, control their children in the palm of their hands, and arrange everything for their children. However, when the child's mind matures, the personality gradually needs independent space and a process of thriving on its own in the process of growth.

Children will encounter setbacks in the process of growing up, and even deviate and go crooked, at this time parents need to play a good role is to support it is good enough, listen to the child's ideas, listen to the child's opinions, when the child is not right, the parents do the correct guidance and cognition, change is good enough, must not be too harsh, or even high-pressure command method.

The child's personality development is not sound, which is very important for the physical and mental health in the future, and there will be many psychological diseases, simply put, there will be interpersonal communication disorders, social maladaptation, and it is also the existence of everyone's legendary mother.

Therefore, in the process of children's growth, a very important and critical period is the process of puberty, and good help from parents will make children achieve a better healthy personality.

What to do with the child's rebellious period? When the child is in the rebellious period, the easiest way is actually not to ask the child, not to reason with the child, and let the child make his own decisions.

Zhuojuan education experts suggest.

What parents need to do is to change the way their children are educated first, and the parents' previous tough education methods must be transformed into guided education methods. The change in the way parents educate starts from the following four points:

1. In the past, the one-handed arrangement has been transformed into letting go of the child's self-care ability and letting the child be his own master.

2. Change the nagging personality of the past, say when you speak, be reasonable and modest, and always talk about the new.

3. Remember not to force the commanding tone, change the psychology of requiring children to obey their words in the past, and respect children's opinions.

4. Percussive education is an encouraging education, learn to look at children with an appreciative eye, give more encouragement to children, pay attention to respecting children's personality, understand their feelings, and care about their wishes.

According to the child's age, find the child's interests, make friends with the child first, and then guide them slowly.

Children participate in labor during the rebellious period and are sent to the martial arts school for closed management.

Children should communicate more when they have rebellious problems, and they must communicate more to understand the growth of their children and their actual thoughts, especially when children grow up, there will definitely be a lot of rebellion and hostility, and even a lot of challenges to their parents' authority. Don't let your child be too anxious and nervous, that is, let your child have more positive emotional performance, when the child has rebellious, anxious, irritable problems, we must communicate and communicate more, and strive to alleviate negative emotions. You can also take your child out shopping, chat with good friends, watch movies together, etc., through activities to increase the intimacy with your child and at the same time divert your child's attention.

We should also actively guide children to develop their own interests and hobbies, such as letting children learn to play ball, play the piano, paint, etc., only if children have enough things to do and set very good life goals, they can actively and actively work hard and reduce the impact of rebellion on themselves. Hobbies can make a child's life happy and happy, such as playing ball, swimming, and painting, which can make children full and independent, thereby reducing the appearance of rebellious behavior. Some parents are dissatisfied with their lives, and some children always like to cause trouble for their parents, so many parents have a disgust for their children, and they don't like to communicate and communicate with their children in life.

Children who grow up in such a state have enough disappointment with their parents that when their parents suddenly point fingers at them, they will naturally become very rebellious and blame their parents. Children who want to vent their negative emotions in their hearts actually have their own preferences and needs, and they also hope that they can have the ability to accomplish these. But there is never a way to get the approval of others in life, which will only cause some negative emotions in their hearts.

When there is too much negative emotion, they need to vent it, and then they will appear a little rebellious, and even conflict with their parents because of it.

You can care more about him.

Don't be on top of your family, be friends with your child, listen to what you have to say.

It is normal for children to rebel, we must understand him more and listen more to what they think in their hearts, so that they can be solved well, because children are relatively simple, and only good communication can solve it.

Now the child's rebellious period is also a symptom of adolescence, adults should pay attention to this problem, be patient, communicate with the child more, communicate with him more, know his true thoughts, and do more parent-child activities.

Rebellious children are insecure in their hearts, don't say that he cares more about him, what he thinks in his heart, and be friends with him, if he likes to do what kind of things we can go with her, slowly I will feel that the rebellious child is insecure in his heart, don't talk about him, care more about what he thinks in his heart, be friends with him, if he likes to do what kind of things, we can go with her, and slowly feel that the child really doesn't want to do something he doesn't like.

Communication with children during the rebellious period mainly includes learning to listen, staying calm when communicating, exchanging roles, respecting children, not making moral evaluations, and finding people that children believe in to enlighten.

1. Learn to listen: In the process of communicating with children, parents should learn to listen, so that children can express bad thoughts, bad emotions and grievances. Give children a certain understanding when they express themselves, and then give them some guidance and help.

Don't rush to give instructions or help that you think will be beneficial to your child, listen patiently, let your child express his emotions freely, and let him feel that you understand and agree with him very much;

2. Keep calm when communicating: In the process of communicating with your child, you must stay calm, avoid communicating with your child in a rigid way, and don't beat and scold your child when you are in a hurry. In addition, parents should communicate with their children when they are calm, and the effect will be better;

3. Swap roles: Parents should understand their children's rebellious psychology in the process of communicating with their children, avoid occupying a dominant position, switch roles with their children, and listen to their children's inner thoughts, including their children's views on adult education. Understand your possible shortcomings through communication and find effective solutions;

4. Respect children and do not make moral evaluations: When children are rebellious, parents should not be too strict. Once the child is rebellious, do not label the child as disobedient, and avoid using such disobedient words to teach the child in the process of communicating with the child.

It is conducive to reducing children's rebellious psychology and achieving effective communication;

5. Find someone who is convincing to enlighten the child: whether it is a girl or a boy, there will be someone who he is happy to talk to. When the child is in a rebellious period and cannot communicate well with the parents, the parents can find someone the child trusts to communicate with him and avoid forcing the child to communicate with the parents.

The education of children in the rebellious period should focus on understanding, listening, reasoning with children, and negotiating with children.

1.Get to know your child. While busy with their livelihoods, parents must take time to get to know their children better, communicate more with their children and their teachers, and try to have a comprehensive grasp of their children's performance in kindergarten and at home.

2.Listen patiently to your child and really let go of yourself.

3.Reason with your child. In addition to the usual admonitions, parents should also teach their children certain truths in practical situations. Let your child have empathy, let him experience it from other people's perspectives, and truly understand how his actions affect others.

4.Let the child experience it. If the child always can't listen to the adult, then on the premise of ensuring safety and no bad consequences, parents can also let the child experience the taste of "self-inflicted consequences".

Through their own practical experience, children will be able to deeply understand how correct and important their parents' teachings are.

5.Negotiate with your child. Don't always ask your child to live according to the adult's will, then it is not only the child who suffers, but also the adult. Don't teach your child when you're angry. Revise expectations for your child.