Why do many people have a fear of getting married?

When you get married, you have to be responsible! The man is responsible for being the backbone of his new home, so that the family has a sense of security (including your ability, career, income, etc.), and the family can be happy and happy (with both parents to deal with the relationship, let alone with the wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship!). You have to do more work!

Women are tired too! If you want to have children, you have to pass the ghost gate! For the sake of the family.

In today's society, many women also have to help support their families, and they still want to have their own careers. After firewood, rice, oil and salt, you have to be gentle! After being smoked into a yellow-faced woman, you have to beware of the junior!

The most important thing is that no matter how men and women, they don't have a bottom in their hearts when they just face these things above! Well done is what you should do! The first thing to find fault with is the people around you!

Do you say it's worth it! You can't just change people yet! There are only two or three chances in a lifetime!

Who wants to try a few more times?

Marriage is different from falling in love, there is only one way out, ruining three families, and affecting children for a lifetime! Are you not afraid of the non-human encounter? When you are faced with these things, can't I help you and make trouble for you?!Aren't you afraid?

People are too realistic now, in the past two years, prices have not risen, wages have not risen, business is difficult to do, and there are many problems.

The two of them can't even take care of themselves, and they have to bear two families when they get married, plus the problem of children, the pressure is too great.

The most important thing is to be afraid of unhappiness in the future.

Marriage means that the couple is legally married. Because of love, because of need, I got married. Home is a gentle harbor, no matter how hard and tired you are outside, it 、、、 feel to return to your carefully arranged nest and see your most beloved person

Now the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, and the divorce of parents has a great impact on children, so that they have no desire to get married. There are also some people who don't want to get married because they are afraid of the pressure brought by life, being controlled by the other party, and not having the freedom they had when they were single. Now there are a lot of tricky mothers-in-law, and I am afraid that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be affected by the relationship between the two people.

Now they all pursue a high-quality life, no house, no car, no savings, and they don't want to get married hastily, and they all want to have a grand and romantic wedding.

If you haven't finished it, of course you will be afraid.

Because I feel uneasy about the future after marriage...

"Marriage phobia" is a feeling of insecurity out of fear of marriage itself, as well as uncertainty about the future of life. Fear of marriage is not "high difference and no love", but indeed out of "fear" of marriage, which is a very representative psychological phenomenon in today's society.

Why does this psychological phenomenon occur? There are four specific reasons.

1. The original family has brought a certain negative impact, so that the next generation of young people have an obvious sense of rejection, fear and anxiety about the choice of marriage.

2. I have a certain social insight and understanding of marriage, and I am unwilling to bring the dissolution of marriage to my life, and I hope to spend all my time pursuing freedom and dreams.

3. Many people feel that after entering marriage, they are worried that they will not be able to play the role of a family chong and trembling court, and at the same time, they will not be able to take care of their career and family, and they will be in a dilemma.

4. Affected by the surrounding environment, the failed marriage cases around you make you more aware of the nature of marriage, and then postpone marriage, or not get married.

Why do people get married? This is the best answer I have ever heard: you can have someone to talk to when you are bored, you can have a shoulder to lean on when you are tired, you have someone to share with you when you are happy, and someone to share your sadness with. When you are young, you hold hands with spring flowers romantically, and when you are old, you can stroll and watch the sunset.

This is also our longing and yearning for marriage, so we want to have marriage and desire marriage.

Everyone will face the choice of marriage in this life without accidents.

In the past, marriage was "the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker", and before you had time to consider the choice, you have become someone else's husband or wife, so even if you are not happy after marriage, you will manage the marriage with your heart and maintain the integrity of your whole life.

However, in the present new era, a society with a fairly developed information technology, people's living standards have also been greatly improved, and there is no longer the previous state of not having enough to eat, and love and marriage are no longer bound by the orders of parents.

The main reason why I feel afraid of marriage is that there are many cases of marriage failure around me, such as my parents, like my parents when I was a child, they often quarreled and even dropped things, and when I was a child, I was often scared and cried, but now I have grown up, although I don't quarrel often, but like my father loves to drink, and then my mother can't stand it, and then the two of them will still quarrel or be more afraid of marriage There are also some poisonous chicken soup on Douyin that I often watch, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law is really the biggest imaginary enemy in marriage, Another example is the husband's attitude before marriage and after marriage, the man is really the same before marriage, and the other after marriage, and I don't want to be like a mother, because I have to have a child when I get married, and I have to raise a child when I have a child, and I have to raise a child when I have a child, and the most unacceptable figure is out of shape, every day is a fear of marriage, and <>

There are some people who are afraid of getting married, and there can be a variety of reasons. Here are some possible factors:

1.Family environment during adolescence: Growing up in an unhappy family can affect a person's perception of marriage, leading to fears about marriage. For example, quarrels between parents, divorce, domestic violence, have a negative impact on marriage.

2.Different views on love: Different people have different views on love and marriage.

Some may see marriage as an oppression and bondage, while others see it as a safe and happy one. This different view of love and marriage can lead some people to fear marriage.

3.Independence and self-worth: People who seek personal freedom and independence may fear that marriage will limit themselves. Marriage can mean the loss of independence and certain freedoms, which can be contrary to their values.

4.Experienced a marital crisis: A person who has experienced a marital crisis may be afraid of being in the same predicament again.

If they have ever been hurt or cheated on in a marriage, then they may have a fear of marriage, especially considering the psychological and financial consequences of experiencing a failed marriage again.

5.Mistrust of Responsibility and Ability: Some people may not believe in their ability to take on all the responsibilities required for marriage.

Marriage needs to be run and maintained, and there are many factors to consider, such as finances, career, personal goals, and family, to name a few. Fears of these responsibilities and challenges can lead to fears about getting married.

In general, the reasons for fear of marriage are different for each person, and this needs to be analyzed and addressed specifically for each person's situation and background.

Many marriage-phobic people are not actually afraid of marriage, they are actually afraid of entering the marriage hall. They have expectations for love and hope for a stable environment, but they are resistant to marriage and are afraid to live together!

This fear will have a great impact on young men and women in society, it is easy to disrupt the rhythm of our lives, marriage is not like love, it is not a simple relationship between two people, it is often the reorganization and cooperation of resources between two families. Once the two reach the point of talking about marriage, but there is a fear of marriage, this is to make the two families passive, and the whole rhythm will be disrupted. So why do some people also crave love, but they are afraid as soon as they get married?

Regarding the reasons for fear of marriage, it can be summed up as psychological shadows, economic pressure and other reasons. From the perspective of psychological shadows, many people's fear of marriage is brought from childhood, when they were children, their parents' unhappy marriages left a deep impression on them, so they worried that they might not be able to achieve happiness, that is, "I didn't see successful cases, and I didn't want to make my life unrecognizable because of marriage." ”

Some people are afraid of marriage because of a crisis of trust, which is not due to their parents, but their own personal experience. was hurt by the opposite sex in the process of falling in love, and since then he has been secretive about marriage. This kind of crisis of trust tends to form a mindset, and the more you think about it, the more you will feel fearful.

Some people have encountered scumbags too many times, and then they were bitten by snakes once, and they were afraid of the well rope for ten years.

In fact, Xu Xiangxian was scared off by his own imagination. If you are imagining how difficult it is to do anything, why do you need to get married? All in all, economic pressure is one thing, and more I am worried that there is too little time and space for my own development after marriage, which is a subconscious self-protection of self-repetition.

Seeing that there are more unfortunate marriages, Lu Nian is afraid of being like them, so he doesn't dare to get married, in fact, even if girls don't want to get married, they can try to get along with the boys they like, and to a certain extent, they may not be afraid of marriage.

Marriage is something that everyone will experience in this life. In ancient times, marriage paid attention to the right family and lived a simple life. Now, with the development of society, marriage is no longer simply a matter of being the right person, but more about being suitable for each other and pleasing to each other.

It's easy to say, but it's hard to meet. It's not always easy to find someone who suits you. In the face of the high divorce rate and the pressure of the outside world to urge marriage, Pai Liang is unwilling to compromise, so many people are afraid of getting married.

1.Learn to adapt to a change in identity.

There is a first time for everything. The first time I became a mother, the first time I became a wife. But we need to learn to adapt to the change of identity.

For the change of identity adaptation, Xie Na gave us a good example.

Xie Na also suspended the hosting of the happy base camp for the sake of the baby, and raised the baby at home with peace of mind. Until after giving birth, ** will re-enter the first job.

The reason is very simple, just like when you change from a student to a working person, this change of identity also has time to adapt. The same is true for marriage, if you know how to adapt to the changes and manage them with your heart, your marriage will not be so terrible.

2.Do a good job of running in before marriage.

Before getting married, you must do a good job of premarital running-in. The main reason for the cracks in most marital relationships is that they don't know enough about each other, have too high expectations, and can't accept getting along for a long time after marriage, and always want to change each other.

Only through running-in can two people understand each other better.

Xie Na once said in "Wife's Romantic Trip" that she and Zhang Jie were also bumpy at the beginning. But after the two people got along with each other through time and understood each other's temperament, the two got along better and better.

1. Life is too stressful.

I don't know when it began, people's first impression of love and marriage seems to be not the quarrel between men and women who are in love with each other and choose to live together, but the endless quarrels between men and women and the bride price ......of cars and houses

Now that the material conditions are better, people's requirements for material enjoyment are getting higher and higher, which means that life is getting higher and higher.

Probably because the cost of living for young people is already high, and there are not a few only children in this generation, they are not only shouldering their own expectations for the future, but also the expectations of the whole family for the future.

The pressures of life have consumed most of their energy, so they have no intention of talking about poetry and distance, nor are they interested in chasing love and marriage.

Human energy is limited, and when the limited energy is completely consumed on one thing, how can people force them to chase something else?

Perhaps it is precisely because the pressure from life is already great enough, and I don't want the appearance of another person to lower my quality of life again; Probably because I have been aggrieved enough in the workplace, I don't want to compromise and compromise when I return to family life.

It is precisely because the pressure from life is too great that some men even think that they who have nothing are not worthy of love and marriage, because they can't bear to see their beloved girls suffer with them.

Second, I am afraid that there will be no results.

is probably used to seeing too many "uneventful" love and marriage, so that he has a great sense of distrust in marriage and love. Because I was worried that there would be no ending, I tried my best to avoid all the beginnings.

In fact, many things do not come to fruition, but people still choose to do them. Not all processes have results, and not all results are right or wrong. Just watch to do it, and make the process of "doing" itself a pleasure, rather than caring about how much you gain and how much you lose in the process.

Many things in this world have no result. Exploration into the unknown does not always lead to results, and efforts do not necessarily lead to results. Although there were no results, it did not affect people's determination to give it a try.

"Marital phobia" is a long-term, abnormal, and unrealistic fear of marriage or intimacy.

As for why there is a fear of marriage, there are the following psychological reasons:

1) Trauma in childhood.

Every kind of constant intimidation can be found in the final analysis, in the past, in childhood.

It is generally believed in modern science that fear of a thing can be traced back to external trauma and internal heredity.

The reason why marriage-phobes are full of fear of marriage is probably because most of them have been hurt by their parents and family in childhood, and they are extremely unconfident in marriage and do not believe in love.

Marriage-phobic people often say that they are emotionally traumatized or have the shadow of their parents' marriage breaking down.

Therefore, many people are afraid that they will have the same experience as their original family in marriage. Therefore, the fear of contact with the opposite sex and the fear of establishing intimate relationships is actually a manifestation of insecurity and fear of abandonment.

2) Don't dare to face responsibility.

Many people have been single for a long time, feel free, do not get married, have no children, and have no constraints.

In fact, it's not that they really hate marriage, it's just that there are too many unknown variables hidden in marriage, which they really can't accept and passively change.

What's more, it's easy to fall in love and difficult to get married, there are no economic conditions, few people dare to get married, the pressure is too great, it's too scary.

In the traditional ideology of the Chinese people, marriage is to perpetuate hope and pass on the lineage. There are only melons and seeds, and there are no children and melons, and the overwhelming response to married life has discouraged many people.

All of this is really just two words: "escape".

People who dare not get married because they are afraid or avoid it have also become part of the army of marriage-phobia, simply because they do not want to take responsibility for themselves.

In the end, they may not be able to withstand the strong demands of their relatives and find someone to marry hastily, but most of those marriages end in unhappiness.

3) Fear that there is no love in the marriage.

Would you choose a relationshipless marriage?

I'm sure many people's answer is no!

A marriage without love is even hard to speak, and getting along without feelings is a dream along with a bed.

It is always said that marriage is the grave of love. This quote also serves as a reason for an ideal lover to refuse to marry in pursuit of true love.

How easy it is to fall in love! The happiness of the two people is pure and beautiful, not mixed with all kinds of trivial things in life, and it does not involve the details between the two families. It's just that two people have come together because of feelings and hormones.

But this is not a fear of marriage, it is a fear of growing up.