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There are three reasons why young people nowadays are increasingly reluctant to get married. After several discussions, it didn't go well, and the parents and children didn't have the same idea. Young people want to work, have a successful career, and consider getting married.
I was afraid of taking on family responsibilities and I seemed to be afraid of getting married. The specific analysis is as follows. Parents and children disagree on the issue of marriage.
The criterion for parents to choose a mate is first and foremost "mutual fit". The world outlook, outlook on life, values, moral standards, interpersonal relationships, and economic income formed by the same social class are basically the same.
Some parents even put forward stricter conditions. The other party must be a teacher or a civil servant, cannot be a single-parent family, the family of either parent cannot be rural, the only child or daughter in the family has so many conditions together, and the child still wants to find, they are addicted to the online world, selfish, do not communicate with others, open their mouths to eat, dress, and do not do housework. Do you think parents can live with peace of mind?
It's not just about getting married lately. Mom and dad are babysitters, cooking and taking care of the kids. In this case, divorce is often due to major events.
Young people want to work and have a successful career, so they get married. Afraid of taking on family responsibilities, one person feeds the whole family and does not go hungry. Most of today's school-age children are post-90s, and most of them are only children.
They were loved by two generations when they were young. Parents' fathers and grandparents are the most able to eat and wear. And the computers that grew up with them.
More and more young people are afraid to take on family responsibilities and rarely do household chores, and are afraid of their children's education and financial burden. The money you earn can't be spent casually, you have to spend a lot of money on your children, showing your selfish nature. I don't want to get married, I'm too tired, how good it should be to be alone, I'm full of food, the whole family is not hungry, hahaha!
Summarizing these situations, young people who are disappointed and afraid of marriage are becoming more and more reluctant to get married.
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Because there are many people who feel that they are very free, and there are many people who feel that they do not have the ability to get married, and there are also some people who feel that they do not want to get married at all, and that marriage is very troublesome and will interfere with their lives. But I think it's also a very normal phenomenon, because a lot of young people think that way now.
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Because it's too much pressure to get married now. The reason is that women nowadays are becoming more and more self-reliant, do not want to rely on men, and after getting married, the pressure is too great, and they will be burdened with a lot of debts, and after having children, they will spend more and life will be more difficult, these are the reasons why they do not want to get married.
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1. The girls feel that they can live very well alone. 2. Afraid that marriage will become the grave of love, I have seen too much and am afraid. 3. Marriage needs to face many practical problems.
4. If you can't meet what you like, you'd rather be single all the time, and I'd rather be lacking than overwhelmed, and I don't want to get married for the sake of getting married.
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The so-called premarital phobia is actually to analyze the specific causes of this symptom from various social or personal perspectives. It may be that everyone just has a general impression of this symptom, but there is no deeper cause. If you want to investigate it, it is actually more complex and diverse, and it is also worthy of our attention.
At present, with the acceleration of the pace of modern society, there is a lot of pressure at work, and one's own family problems will also become an important issue. Especially when faced with the choice of marriage, that is, the recombination of two families, will also involve more problems.
The ** of premarital phobia is closely related to these, and the specific ** can be analyzed from the following perspectives.
First, family.
For both parties who are currently married, family is one of the main ** of a premarital phobia. Because of this social mental illness. It is inseparable from the family factor.
If there is a significant generation gap or gap between the two families, then this phenomenon will be even more obvious. Another situation is family reorganization, that is, both families have more complex family relationships of origin. Then there will be more factors to consider before getting married, and it will inevitably cause this kind of premarital fear to many people.
Second, stress.
Before getting married, it seems that every young man and woman does not need to think too much about life. As long as the salary is enough, it is enough to support yourself. But after getting married, there is a very serious issue that must be faced, which is the guarantee of the quality of life of the whole family.
Especially after getting married, having children, and supporting both parents, these problems will become a stress problem for young people. When this problem extends to the area of conjugal responsibility, it may create a sense of psychological resistance. This pressure will naturally increase as well.
However, the various causes are not absolutely consistent. Because everyone's specific situation is different, the ** of premarital phobia cannot be generalized. It's just that you can start in some directions.
If you already have a more obvious psychological reaction, you should also consider how to better alleviate your situation and adapt to this new life from the perspective of yourself and the outside world.
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Nowadays, many young people cannot afford to buy a house, have no savings, and work pressure is also very high, for everyone to get married is not only a ceremony, but more importantly, material security.
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Nowadays, people's lives will be very stressful, and some people will enjoy the life of being single and unrestrained, so they will not want to get married. I feel like there are too many constraints in my marriage.
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Because the current three views are different, the economic pressure is great. More people are looking for freedom and don't want to be tied down. The cost of living after marriage is much higher than when you are single, and many people do not want to get married at all if they cannot afford a house or car.
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The first point: more and more people who are unwilling to get married According to last year's data report, there are more than 200 million unmarried people in China's marriageable population, and more and more people are unwilling to get married, not only in cities, but also among rural youth. This is also the reason why the number of marriages has been declining year after year.
At the same time, their social needs have changed from reality to the Internet, and various online jokes have made marriage and love values and parenting concepts more marketable for singles, which has led to young people not having so much demand for marriage.
The second point is that in terms of economy, most of the men who want to get married in rural society are mainly because of the strong sense of rural family and the need of the older generation to start a family and inherit the family lineage. But I have to say that it is not a matter of marriage that can be married if you want to get married, and now rural marriage has entered the involution from the beginning of the blind date, and the car, house, and bride price are all prerequisites, and it is naturally difficult for young men with a weak family background to get married.
In addition, work, education, personality, and appearance are also the requirements of many women, so that a group of men have been brushed down, so that many men with poor economy, average appearance, low education, and poor work basically have no possibility of marriage.
Of course, the most fundamental reason for this situation is the excessive and serious patriarchal mentality in the past. This has led to an imbalance in the ratio of men to women.
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If I hadn't gotten married, I wouldn't have blindly chosen to get married because everyone around me was married.
Because everyone has their own ideas, everyone also lives for themselves, and you don't want others to be like you, it's not good to blindly follow the trend, not to mention the problems that involve your own happiness in the future and the two families.
I think that since you are going to get married, you must consider whether the other party is what you like, whether the other party is compatible with your personality, whether the three views can also be compatible, and whether the other party also loves you based on your own experience with the other person.
The word marriage is not so light, because there are too many things to consider after marriage, such as if you don't have enough money to buy a house and a car, and what to do if you don't have time to take it after having a child, etc.
But if you are still in a single situation, don't be embarrassed to think that you are still single because everyone around you is married, so you fall in love for the sake of falling in love. This is the worst thing, because it delays others as well as yourself.
Since you are still single, you have to find a suitable person you like to make a rough guess to be your future marriage partner.
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Everyone has a different view of marriage, some people think that marriage is a kind of happiness and spiritual sustenance, and some people think that marriage is a kind of pressure and burden. These perceptions are often related to personal experiences, values, attitudes towards life, and other factors.
It should be noted that whether you choose to marry or not, it is a free choice of individuals, and mutual respect is very important. At the same time, social concepts and lifestyles have undergone great changes, and singleness and late marriage have also become a trend of caves. People should make choices based on what they actually feel and what they feel, rather than being bound by society or traditional ideas.
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There are many reasons why modern young people are reluctant to get married, such as work pressure, housing pressure, life pressure, loan pressure, and support for the elderly.
With the development of the economy, although the standard of living is much higher, modern young people are facing unprecedented pressure, they dare not fall in love, and even their own survival is a problem, let alone dare to think about starting a family. If you have money, no one wants to be single, which is caused by many pressures. In the past, the carriage and horses were very slow, the mail was very slow, and there was only enough time to love one person in a lifetime.
However, modern love comes and goes quickly!
The kinder party paid money and time, but in the end ended up with "no people and money", the risk cost of marriage has increased, and it has been consumed to the fullest. Modern young people really don't dare to get married casually, unless they are really very rich and have always had the ability to support their families, otherwise they just raised their husbands (daughters-in-law) for others, and in the end the gains outweigh the losses, there are too many people who are spare tires!
Even if a person finds a second marriage, it is raising children for others, not biological children, no matter what, people will still find their biological parents when they grow up. In the past, marriages were very simple, a cow, a sheep, or even a dustpan of soybeans or a sack of red and ruined potatoes. Today's love, the three major pieces (house, car, ticket) are all indispensable.
In the past, it was all about feelings, but now it's all about silver. If you have less silver, you don't dare to get married, and if you have more silver, you will have confidence, which can be described as "drought and waterlogging".
Young people, without capital, really dare not step into marriage, just like some girls say: "Your little silver is not as expensive as my box of cosmetics!" ”
Although the young boy has a smile on his face, only he knows the pain and pain in his heart. Others are persuading you to get married, but in fact they can't help.
Take marriage as an example, a house costs millions, a car costs hundreds of thousands, and a gift money costs hundreds of thousands. As for how long the marriage will last after marriage, it is unknown. Modern young people turn their faces faster than books, no matter how much you pay, the other party will send you a sentence "We are not suitable, break up!"
No matter how much you have paid before, no matter how much you have worked hard, for a person who is about to leave, people don't care about you at all. Once one party finds the next home, it will immediately turn your face to you, and it is very ruthless, this is the reality.
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Hello! Life is too stressful right now. Let's get married! It takes a lot of money, especially for male sellers, sky-high lottery gifts. The criteria for choosing a mate for women and comics are constantly improving. That's why I don't want to get married.
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Many people have graduated from college for two years, and their classmates have begun to slowly take turns to enter the marriage hall. Many people will be distressed at this time, and they will have to pay a lot of money, and many people will begin to worry about their partners, because their parents will start urging, and relatives will start to introduce you to the object. At this age, you may have a slight improvement in your work, and you may also start to feel that you can talk to someone and get ready to get married.
I'm no exception, in the circle of friends in the past six months, there are about 20 friends who have gotten married, and some of them have had a particularly good time. I also began to itch when I saw the happiness and joy of their marriage, but I began to retreat when I saw the difficulty in the wedding process. I often discuss marriage with my roommates, but every time I say, "Oh, there is no partner, what to talk about getting married, let's find a partner first".
That's right. When the people around you get married, they will be able to tolerate the impact on their thoughts, or at least they will feel that they have indeed reached a marriageable age, and they will feel that it is time to find a partner.
Because now there is too much pressure for men to get married, both before and after marriage. So a lot of men are reluctant to get married now.
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