Why are many people not hopeful about love now?

Introduction: I don't know what boys think, but I feel that many girls are not hopeful about love now, and they always feel that it is the same with or without love, and if there is no love, their quality of life will be higher. There is no need for firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in marriage.

Many people say that today's adults are very realistic, if the man or woman does not have certain economic conditions, they will not talk about love, in fact, this is the same for everyone, if falling in love means that there is no economy, there is no way to achieve the life you want, then I think this situation is better than not falling in love. In addition, today's young people are also under a lot of pressure, basically working, if they are dedicated to work, there is no time to fall in love. Even if you're already in love, you'll break up because of work.

Some people say that after falling in love, they feel that their wallets are flattened, and they don't have any money to do what they want to do. This sentence is actually more applicable to both men and women, girls have to buy cosmetics in order to fall in love, and they have to buy new clothes to dress up, and boys have to buy lipstick for girls in order to fall in love, and they have to go out to watch movies. In the face of such a situation, if you are a student or an adult who has just entered the workforce, there is no way to bear it.

So in the face of such a situation, I think it's better not to fall in love.

Although many people say that love is relatively easy, but when they enter the society, they find that it is not so easy to work and live, and there is no way to carry out a unification, there is no energy and no time to maintain, and when a relationship is found, it is better not to delay the other party. Many people have said that only when they were students were the purest feelings, because at that time, they didn't want money, they only wanted you to be good to him? But after working as an adult, I found that this was not a good way to fall in love.

Because people's pursuit of material things has reached the point of madness, only talking about material things, not feelings, as soon as they engage in the object, it depends on what conditions the other party has, how much money they have? Do you have a room? There are no cars.

When you get married, you have to pay a lot of bride price. A mouth is tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands, and the love space has been squeezed dry, so many people have no hope for love.

Nowadays, many people are hopeless in love, because in today's society, it is really very realistic. Especially for men, they are really stressed. The money and energy must have made them very tired, so they don't want to have any hope for love anymore.

In fact, this can't be said like this, so the most important thing is that most of the current people are more realistic, maybe they think more about love, and the most is more demanding, but this kind of requirement is actually largely an unrealistic requirement.

It's not that many people don't have hope for love, because of modern society, people are too busy with work, too few people are in contact, and they don't spend so much effort on love, and they can't meet love, that is, they don't have hope for love.

There are two main reasons for this: the first is that the cost of falling in love and getting married is too high, and the second is that the divorce rate is very high now.

Because many people nowadays are more free in their minds, they prefer pure things, and the spiritual world is very rich, so they don't have hope for love.

The lack of hope is due to being hurt by reality, and as the growth rate of age increases, there are more and more realities of material foundations. Affects the innocence of love.

Why do many people not have hope for love now, because they think that falling in love is a painful thing, especially for people who have failed in love, they have no hope for love. There are also people who think that it is because of their own bad conditions. Falling in love is a luxury.

Because now people's feelings are getting hurt more and more, and they don't want to fall into it again, it is normal to say that they do not have any illusions about love.

The society has changed, and it is no longer the kind of society that can go to the end just with love, and it is more about money and some foreign debts. Who said that more people are starting to have no hope for love.

Because people nowadays are hurting their feelings more and more, they are reluctant to fall into it again, so it is very normal to say that they slowly do not have any illusions about love.

Because of the words of people nowadays, many people are very powerful and attach great importance to materialism, and when it comes to love, material things are more hopeful than them, so they don't have hope for love.

Because for love, after being hurt, many people will no longer give, they will be in a flat attitude towards love, and they will no longer have hope for love.

Because the so-called love we see now may all be acted, and it is all on Douyin. Contract love bloggers, even love can be what we want to see, so why do we still believe in love?

There are many love at first sight in this world, the so-called love at first sight, in fact, it is just a mutual affection, not love, love is not a day, a moment, a few months can be decided. Just like many blind date shows now, they hold hands in the show, which is just a successful hand-holding and the intention of development, not that it can develop into love in reality.

There are many people in today's life who don't have hope for love, often because they don't dare to ask too much for love, otherwise the greater the hope for love, the greater the disappointment.

For people nowadays are becoming more and more realistic, so they are losing more and more confidence in love. After all, there are not many conditions, and others are not willing to follow you.

Why do many people not have hope for love now, because love is indeed a very luxury for some people now, after all, they are very busy working in order to survive better. There is so much time to fall in love, so some people don't have hope for love.

In your real society, material is greater than love, so many people don't have much hope for love now, but they have greater hope for material.

Because the marriage rate is very low now, and the divorce rate is particularly high, in this case, many people have no hope for love.

Because you have waited too long for love, or you have received too much hurt in love, you will have this kind of thought.

Because the reality is like this now, most people just look at money and other aspects, but love is more light, and most of them do not go to the end because of love.

Because people are more realistic now, sometimes in love, if there is no material basis, they will give up.

Some people may no longer believe in love because they have been hurt in love, but some people may have seen other people's examples and made themselves no longer believe in love.

Because he feels that some emotions change too quickly, at first he likes it, but it quickly turns into a dislike, so it's not that there is something wrong with the emotion itself, it's because you haven't met someone who really likes you to love someone wholeheartedly, so you should continue to work hard to find it.

It is possible that some people have been frustrated in love, so a large number of people do not believe in love.

My family's relationship is not going well.

My grandparents divorced before I was born. Grandma is married to my current grandfather. As a result, the relationship did not go well.

My father had been married many times. The relationship is currently relatively stable.

The second uncle has been in love many times. But now it's about to run 4, but I still haven't found true love. I asked him why.

He said that since he was a child, he had the impression that his parents had been arguing. When there is no affection. It also leads to his current ignorance of what it means to love and be loved.

I don't know how to tell if the other party loves you or not, and I can't feel whether I love each other or not.

So I didn't have much hope for relationships since I was a child. In my view of love. Feelings are a time-sensitive thing.

Different people, different combinations of people. The feeling when you are in love has a different time, and after that period of time, all that is left is the emotional crack that is getting bigger and bigger. This may be different from the current popular view of love.

But isn't that the case true of many examples in reality? It is that time that scumbags and scumbags pursue when they fall in love. So they'll bend their pants and fall in love.

Always looking for that feeling. So I think love is love. Marriage is marriage.

Falling in love is about finding feelings. Marriage is about finding life. Just find someone who has the same three views, the same portal, and does not interfere with each other.

Of course, I didn't want to get married. Even if you want your child to go to a welfare home to adopt one in the future, it's fine. Maybe I'm wrong about love.

But it's good for me.

Love and marriage need to be managed together, but the dedication and efforts of one party are far from enough. When you feel that your love and marriage are becoming more and more hopeless, you should sit down with your lover and communicate well, realize the seriousness of the problem, and then gradually solve it.

1. Two people need to communicate together

Love is not one person's, and marriage is not one person's, two people need to work together and manage together. If a marriage and love have made a person lose confidence and have no hope, it means that the relationship has suffered serious problems. We should learn to reflect in our relationship, only introspection can make us realize the seriousness of the problem, and then show a sincere attitude to change each other's current situation, and finally save our relationship.

In China, many couples like to adopt the Cold War model, and often say "deal with it", how can feelings be dealt with? There is a problem with the cognition from the bottom of my heart, so the two people will definitely disperse, the best way is to sit down and chat together, even if it is a quarrel, it will reveal the problem, what is the reason for the quarrel?

2. I love the gentleness of bowing my head the most

The old people often say that if a slap doesn't make a sound, it is impossible for the husband and wife to put all the responsibility on the other party, is there no problem at all? I reflect on my body three times a day, everyone must learn to introspect, and we can't blame all the problems on each other, and the relationship is not managed well, which means that we have not paid all. If you realize your mistakes, what's the point of bowing your head?

In the face of my lover, I don't forget my original intention, so I can always do it, this person is my choice, so I have to be responsible for him. Any complaint, betrayal is blasphemy against oneself. Both of them are very stubborn, so one person needs to take the initiative to bow his head to open the knot of the cold war, in marriage, in the world of two people, there is no shame in this.

The husband and wife live their lives, and it is not terrible or shameful that something goes wrong, the most frightening thing is the cold war, indifference, and in the end, this relationship can only go to death。As long as two people take a step forward with each other, the problem will be completely solved, and what we often lack is the courage to solve things.

This shows that there is indeed something wrong with your relationship, and if your other half is really unsatisfactory, then you should get out as soon as possible and find your happiness again.

If you are disappointed, you should be busy with your career, and there is always one on the road in career and love. If you are disappointed now, it does not mean that you will do the same in the future, make yourself stronger, and you will become better people.

First of all, you must be strong in your heart, and be prepared to live happily in case love is not there, and be prepared to support yourself. Then work hard for love and marriage, and if there is no result after hard work, just accept your fate.

For such things, we need to be calm, and we must understand that there are more people in life who are not easy than us, and we must build up our confidence.

You can calm yourself down, or you can separate the two people for a while and reconsider whether there is still a real relationship between the two people.

I think you can adjust your mindset and think about the bright side of everything, be positive, and not be too negative.

Love is to look at fate, to go with the flow, when you have expectations, the other party is not what you expect, you will be particularly disappointed in your heart.

If you expect too much in love, then you will be very disappointed. Love changes quickly, and if you don't take the initiative to do it, you will be preempted by others.

Because love is direct, if that person loves you, he will naturally take the initiative to get close to you and be good to you, if his heart is not in you, your expectations will definitely be disappointed.

Because I am afraid of disappointment, as the saying goes, the higher the hope, the higher the disappointment, and then try to do your best to have a clear conscience.

Many times, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment, and if the expectation is particularly large, there will be a big gap when it is not realized.