Why do many people now say that they can t afford to marry a daughter in law?

Because the price paid for marriage now can be said to be huge, mainly because the pressure of life is too great, and the cost of marrying a daughter-in-law can be said to be really high, in fact, I think many people can realize that the marriage of young people in China is based on a good enough material foundation, if there is really not too much savings, it is often difficult to marry a daughter-in-law. Therefore, it is definitely not a lie to say that you can't afford to marry a daughter-in-law, but the common voice of many single men.

First of all, let's calculate the cost of marrying a daughter-in-law, generally speaking, you need to buy a house in the city where you are located, because of course you can't rent a house if you get married, so there will be no stable home, so of course you must have a warm nest that belongs to the husband and wife. And generally even if the houses in small counties are four or five hundred thousand, one or two million in provincial capitals, and four or five million in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, such housing prices are very scary to say, so buying a house can be said to be the main pressure of life.

Then calculate the bride price, especially the current rural bride price is often outrageously high, the bride price in some places is as high as more than 100,000 or 200,000, many rural young people just want to marry a wife in the local area, but they can't afford to pay such a high bride price. Therefore, young people in both urban and rural areas often need to put in a lot of hard work, not because they are really career-oriented, but now if boys want to start a family, they must first start a business.

Nowadays, many mothers around me are always worried about their son's marriage and not being able to marry a daughter-in-law.

From the previous polygamy has now undergone great changes, not only the status of girls has improved, but the difference between the proportion of men and women is also getting bigger and bigger, which means that there will be more and more bachelors in the future, no wonder the family will start to worry about their sons very early and save money for them to marry a daughter-in-law, you must know that even if the child finds a girlfriend, marriage is also a lot of expenses, the first is to buy a house and a car, because the average girl wants to agree to get married, it is conditional, they want the man to have a car and a house, In addition, the bride price money is also more and more, and this phenomenon of receiving the bride price is more common in the countryside, I have always felt that this is very bad, marrying a daughter is the same as selling a daughter, of course, although they do not mean this, especially some families have only one daughter, and the family also treats the daughter as a baby to grow up, plus the family is relatively wealthy, when the amount of money is different, the man's family is not able to get out of such a high gift money, I look at the door is reasonable. In the end, when you get married, you have to hold a wedding wine, invite relatives and friends to dinner, and even hold a grand wedding, wedding rings, wedding dresses, churches, and priests are indispensable, and it is no wonder that so many families cannot afford to marry a daughter-in-law.

When my cousin got married at that time, because the woman's parents asked for the bride price, his family's family was not very good, so it was a lot of money for his family, and his parents also went everywhere to borrow money, fortunately, my cousin-in-law was better, she didn't ask too much, she just invited some relatives to have a meal at home, and she didn't want much of a wedding, and she also reduced some of the burden, so how important it is to marry a good daughter-in-law.

Marriage is originally a happy event, why is it so difficult, I hope that everyone's concept of marriage has changed, there is no extravagance and waste, and there is no such thing as not being able to marry a daughter-in-law.

Now many people say that they can't afford to marry a daughter-in-law, and you will understand it if I calculate an account.

Let's put aside the various expenses spent on the daughter-in-law when falling in love, just marry her home, in our third-tier small city, a suite is a must, and it can't be a rural building, at least a set of commercial housing, a cheaper one set of 800,000 yuan, plus the decoration at least 1 million, all kinds of taxes and maintenance ** skipped; If you have a house, how can you buy a car, a cheap low-profile car will cost about 150,000; 50,000 gold, 20,000 diamond rings, more than 100,000 wedding bride price according to **, eight tables of engagement banquet, 5,000 yuan for tobacco and alcohol per table, and 50,000 yuan for wedding candy; There are at least 20 tables for the man and the woman in the wedding banquet, each table contains 5,000 yuan for tobacco and alcohol, 100,000 yuan; 30,000 wedding companies, 20,000 wedding photos, and 1.5 million are not enough.

When I got married to my husband, I bought a house for 700,000 yuan (now I buy it for an estimated 1.5 million), spent 30,000 yuan on the house, 200,000 yuan for decoration, and 70,000 yuan for a garage. Since it costs a lot of money to buy a house, I propose to keep everything else simple. Wedding bride price, did not buy gold, bought 10,000 platinum rings and watches, our family has few relatives, the banquet cost 50,000, the car cost 150,000, the wedding and wedding photos cost 20,000, so it cost more than 1.3 million, fortunately, my husband's family is a demolition household, and the demolition money in our hands is just for us to get married, otherwise it is really a debt, it can be seen that it is really not easy to get married.

If your parents are ordinary workers, your salary is not high, and you have no other income except salary**, then you really can't afford to marry a wife, and the cost is too great.

Because they don't understand romance, romance is not spending the moon before the moon, not candlelight dinner, not basking in the moon and counting the stars, romance is the courage to pursue love and happiness, is the determination to face reality, face difficulties, and do not abandon, do not give up, do not marry and vow not to give up the attitude of life. If you want to get married, first of all, you have to dare to get married, have responsibility, in order to please your wife, you must prepare the infrastructure needed for a family, in order to please your wife, you can bear the world, you can't bear your wife, in order to please your wife, what three from four is not a thing, what foreign festivals, you don't need a woman to say, you have to see her spending your money as an opportunity, an opportunity, a must.

1. The cost of marriage is too high.

Now that I am married, the house and car are already standard. The first question when you go on a blind date is whether you have a room, not only the girl's request, but also the girl's parents, and of course, the matchmaker's request.

The attitude of having a house and not having a house in the eyes of matchmakers is really completely different. If you don't have a house, the matchmaker has always been me, and I don't have any good resources here, so I don't want to help you pay attention to it. When you have a room, the matchmaker immediately takes out a bunch of girl resources for you to choose, and if one doesn't work, arrange the next one.

But for young people, without the help of their families, there are a few people who can really afford to buy a house on their own. If you want to have a house and a car in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, you really can't work for a few years. In second-, third- and fourth-tier cities, it is also very difficult to buy a house or a car compared to the wages of young people.

In the face of the current high housing prices, I believe that many people, like me, have no hope of struggle, look at their balance and look at the ** of the house, and instantly feel the terrible gap between the rich and the poor. Of course, there are bride prices, wedding rings, banquets, etc., everything needs money, and in this era, no money is really suitable for anyone. The cost of getting married is too high.

2. There are too many requirements for marriage.

As I get older, I find it harder and harder to find a partner because of the more and more requirements I have. A series of requirements such as height, appearance, work, family situation, etc. It's basically impossible to really find satisfaction, and it's especially difficult to find someone who is about the same.

Marriage is different from love, in addition to your own requirements, there are also various requirements of your parents.

If you want to get married, it becomes very realistic, not only considering whether you have a car and a house now, but also considering a series of issues such as supporting your family after marriage, providing for the elderly, raising children, and so on. Sometimes it's harder to get married if you think about it too much, it's better when you're young, it's good to fool a stupid person to get married, the older you get, the more you worry, and the harder it is to get off the single in the end.

3. It is difficult to find a marriage partner.

The older I get, the more difficult it is to find that most of the people I can know around me are married, and it becomes more and more difficult to find suitable and satisfactory people. I am usually busy with work and overtime, and my life trajectory is only one line between the company and my home. Basic blind date has become the only way to get rid of singles.

But every time a blind date is introduced, there are crooked melons and cracked dates, and many girls are ugly and have special requirements.

Basically, now on a blind date, as long as you are single, you will pull it out to meet, and cast a wide net looking forward to meeting a blind person who takes a fancy to me. But the cost of blind dates is also very high, eating and watching movies cost money, and many of them are not followed when they meet, and blind dates are also a lot of expenses for a year. I really feel that the older I get, it's too difficult to get off the list.

4. The impact of the general environment.

Today's society is too impetuous and realistic. There are more divorces than marriages. Now that there are more and more older men and women, many people feel that it is normal not to get married, and more and more people would rather choose to be single than find a partner to marry.

Most of the girls I've been on a blind date with are in their 30s and still feel that they are still young and have no desire to find a partner. It's true that the older the girl, the more problems there are.

Recently, many people have been saying that "it is difficult to marry a daughter-in-law", "it is not easy to marry a daughter-in-law home" and other similar problems. But what is it that makes it more and more difficult to marry a daughter-in-law?

In the past, it was very easy and normal to get married and marry a daughter-in-law, but now it is a very rare thing to be able to marry a daughter-in-law. It is a national problem that it is becoming more and more difficult to marry a wife, but it is still different in urban and rural areas. In the past, there were very few things needed to marry a daughter-in-law in the countryside, and the woman's requirements were very low, so it was very simple to marry the woman home, without so much bride price, without spending so much money, and the house did not have so many requirements.

However, now with the development of society, the improvement of people's living standards, people's requirements are more and more, in the past it was almost on the line, now it is more than the bride price, everything must be had, there must be a house, at least there must be a two-story building in the hometown, and some men have to buy a car, so now the rural family generally marries a daughter-in-law and the family has to owe debts. There is also the fact that rural people in the past have not seen much of the world at home, and they don't know much about it, and they don't know this brand or that brand, as long as they have it, and now everyone goes out to work and sees more and more tall things, so they want to buy famous brands when they buy things, which leads to more and more pressure on the man, so it is really not easy to marry a daughter-in-law. In the past, it was enough to have a stable job in the city to pay for the living expenses of the family, but now the woman's parents have to ask if they have a house or a car, how much is their monthly salary, and how many children ...... at homeParents have higher and higher requirements for men, few can meet them all, can buy a house in the city and have a car, and there are still very few young people except for the rich second generation, so in order to marry a daughter-in-law, the boys in the city also have to work hard.

In fact, one of the main reasons for the increasing difficulty of marrying a wife is that there is a serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women in our country. In the past, due to the influence of feudal ideology, people favored sons over women, and through some means, many people knew that they were pregnant with girls and gave up their children, so that many girls who had not yet been born ended their small lives in this way, which led to the phenomenon of more men and fewer women today. Because there are a lot of boys and there are few girls, so there are more choices for girls, and girls will slowly choose the one they like the most, and there will be more and more requirements, on the contrary, there are fewer choices for boys, so they can only be chosen, and there are many competitors, if they are not good enough, it is not so easy to find the other half of their hearts.

In general, it is becoming more and more difficult to marry a daughter-in-law, for both personal and social reasons.

At present, the development of the rural areas is gradually catching up, and the living standards of the rural people in Laoshou have also improved compared with before. In the past, there were not so many rules when they got married, but now that the living conditions are better, people are not satisfied with being satisfied with food and clothing, but want to pursue a better life. Therefore, parents definitely don't want their daughters to be wronged in life after marriage, so the first condition when getting married is to have a house and a car, and this is also one of the hard conditions for marriage now, so many young people with poor family conditions retreat directly.

First, physiological factors. Some people are born with physical diseases, which not only seriously affect their daily life, but also seriously affect their future marriage. For the average family, this is definitely adding insult to injury.

Some families spend a lot of money just **, if they marry a daughter-in-law again, they can't get that much money at all, and almost no one in a normal girl wants to marry a physically defective person, unless the man's family is particularly rich.

The second type is that the family is particularly poor. There is a family in our village, and my mother is physically disabled and can only do some light farm work. The father and son can't save much money for a year, and the mother usually needs a lot of money every year to take medicine.

Many matchmakers in the village didn't dare to tell him matchmakers at all, and they couldn't say anything about this situation.

I heard from the people in the village that a matchmaker had told a girl with a physical disability, but as soon as they saw this situation, they were immediately scared away. In this way, year after year, now the man is in his forties, and now there is no girl willing to marry him, even if there is a willing woman to ask for a child, he may not be able to get such a high bride price now. The stick is also forced to be helpless.

Third, some people deserve to be guilty of personal factors, and this kind of person is the least worthy of sympathy and pity.

There are some singles who can't marry a daughter-in-law completely because they are lazy and lazy, and they are idle all day long, either playing cards or wandering around. What girl would marry such a person?

There is such a person in our village, his parents are healthy, and his health is also great, when he has no money, he goes to find a factory to work, and when he has money in the last few months, he squanders it, and he doesn't report when he leaves, and suddenly he doesn't go to work, and so on, and now there is no factory nearby that dares to use him. Farming is also three days of fishing, and two days of drying nets. These people are simply self-inflicted.