I m going abroad, and my boyfriend is reluctant to let me go and quarrels with me

Updated on psychology 2024-04-20
46 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    What about this ......The responsibility is not yours! If your trip abroad has become a fact, then you can only admit this fact, and your boyfriend should supposedly support you or not drag you down! This is relatively normal!

    Of course, he is reluctant to let you go, but you also know that since ancient times, there have been many couples who have been unable to be together for various reasons, so you should still look away!

    Your boyfriend is doing something very wrong! Since your departure has become a fact, then he should send you away with a smile, and he should never make the separation scene so sad! Crying chirping!

    Men should be more graceful and generous and say: Go with peace of mind, I support you! Men should make the atmosphere at this time more relaxed!

    Even if you are reluctant to give up, you have to smile! That's a man!

    Your boyfriend is a little ignorant!!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Your boyfriend loves you very much... Cherish it ...

    Give him some promises! I think he's afraid you'll change your mind...

    Remember to keep in touch with him even if you go abroad... Show him how you're doing.

    Let Him know that your heart is still with Him ...

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    In fact, in general, the treatment of returnees is good.

    Since going abroad can't be changed, then try to let your boyfriend go abroad with you, if not, let's separate, during this time abroad, no one can say what will happen Instead of promising the same heart, it is better to give yourself and him a little more space Maybe there will be a more suitable If not, then return to China and start anew, and associate with him with a new you.

    True love definitely stands the test.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    In fact, he was afraid that you would go out and not come back, or find another boyfriend.

    When he speaks, you listen quietly and let him speak.

    Don't quarrel with him either.

    What he said alone was tasteless, and he didn't make any noise.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Then break up, it's good for everyone.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    You first react to whether you really want him to go, and if you don't really want to go, don't say such things.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    This time is really a good opportunity to test your boyfriend's suitability, his attitude towards you, his performance must be carefully observed, otherwise he will not be able to complain about others in the future, and girls must choose men with housekeeping skills. This one won't be painful all the time!

    It's not necessarily a good thing to be too accommodating to him!

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    It's okay, go to him, be a good coquette, and just talk about it.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It's okay, because you have a reason, he will cool you, I wish you all the best.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It's going to be fine, it's going to be fine in half a day.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It's okay, don't think badly! After two days, two people are light.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    The man who loves you will worry about you, and you can see if he will come to you.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Whether you really want to go abroad depends on your boyfriend's attitude on the one hand, and on the other hand, it also depends on the development of your relationship. If you really go abroad. That also requires accepting the facts. So what to do about the emotional aspects in the past few years abroad, this needs to be dealt with.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Hello, I think whether you want him to go or not is something that the two of you can decide together, since you love him, you have to believe him, let him go out, reluctant You can go with him, you can also contact him every day, but it is also important to express your thoughts, as long as you say it, the other party will understand. Finally, I suggest that you just speak your mind and not regret it.

    If you misunderstand, please forgive me, thank you.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    There are many assumptions about this issue, if you let him go, you can't see it over there, and if you contact him, you may not be able to contact him, and if you don't let him go, there will be a quarrel, what should you do?

    Everything depends on yourself, what your own thoughts are, just say whatever you want, if you trust him, let him go, if you don't trust, just tell him what you think.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Don't let him go, if he loves you, he will stay in the country to accompany you.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Shouldn't! If you want him to go out, you'll be ......

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Let him get a job and live happily is artificial.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I don't think your boyfriend is going to touch you, so thinking about you shows that this man is really responsible, and he doesn't want to satisfy his desires, but his school system is like this, if he doesn't go abroad, then he can't get a degree, if he only goes out for a year, I think your relationship is so good, you should be able to persevere, but if he wants to be a soldier again, go out for a few more years, then it's hard to say, I think you should have a good talk with your boyfriend, since you don't believe in this long-distance relationship, then try to minimize, Going abroad is to complete his studies, this is understandable, persuade your boyfriend not to be a soldier, and there is another point, if he goes out for a year, he has learned a major in all aspects of foreign development conditions, so what should you do at that time, his home should be in better condition, and you are a small place, so have you considered whether his parents will oppose your relationship in the future, these should be taken into account, a short long-distance relationship, as long as you have each other in your heart, a year actually passes quickly, to trust each other, But it's been a long time, more than a year, and the future development direction of each other, family factors, I don't know what your situation is, so these are things you also have to take into account, two people spread these out and talk about it, and see if there is a way to compromise.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    If the two love for a long time, how can they be in the morning and twilight?

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    I've been the same lately. Depressed.

    I didn't talk to him for long, though.

    But. I'm going to Korea in September.

    I don't know what I should do.

    Alas. It's really contradictory.

    I want to do both. I didn't know him at the beginning.

    It's going to take a few years. Who waited.

    He actually said it. If you meet someone you like, get married.

    This kind of talk. How irresponsible.

    I don't think he cared about me at all.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Two people are equal in love, don't.

    du put himself to such a humble point;

    Men can't get used to it, the more they get used to it, the more mixed they become.

    Inner eggs! No matter how much you love him, you have to stick to your own principles, you have to be clear about who is right and who is wrong, it's your fault, apologize and compromise nothing, don't do it if it's not your fault, otherwise you can only form a habit!

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    He knows you, and you're used to going too far. Once in a while you can play missing, ignore him, don't look down, and see what the reaction is, and if it still doesn't contact you, then you can let go, he's not worth it!

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Sober up, he just doesn't love you, he just enjoys the sense of honor you have pursued all the way to him.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    This question is the one I have experienced the most, because I myself am such a zhi

    People, if such a thing happens, you should be specialized.

    It's time to look at you The root cause of every quarrel Sometimes it may really be your problem Which man should still have you Otherwise, do you still have so many chances to quarrel?

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Because you love Him a little more than He loves you.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    I think you should change it!

    You're going to get him used to it!

    There's a saying that's true, the more you care about him, the less he'll take it seriously!

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    He doesn't like you, and I personally judge him because of sex.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Because he's angry, it's normal, just coax him.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    You have a place in his heart! And every time you compromise, he's used to it.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    People hate you, you brought it on yourself.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    He doesn't love you and you're not important enough.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Go, learning is very important, you don't dare to gamble anymore, in fact, the relationship is not whether you dare to bet, even if you are by his side every day, if he wants to change his mind, it will still change, it is just a matter of chance, unless you don't fall in love, otherwise you would have already entered the game. Do you think he loves you or not? Love you more than you love him, don't you?

    Ask yourself! I'm sure you'll have a good choice!

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Go. You must know that it is a beautiful thing for girls to go outside more, learn more languages, and see more of the outside world. When a girl is alone outside for a long time, she will be strong, become confident, and powerful.

    Because in a foreign country, a person's life has to face everything. However, no one can take away this experience! People are always for the present, but people still look at the long term!

    Because I have friends in Japan. Her boyfriend is in the country. Her boyfriend flew to see her almost whenever he was free.

    I also had a lot of fun. Besides, universities also have winter and summer vacations. You can all fly back.

    If it's a job, because you're an adult, you might be a little uninsured. True love doesn't happen because of this! I feel like if I were your boyfriend, I'd support you.

    Because the future belongs to you, and no matter who I am, I have no right to interfere with your future! But your future with your boyfriend is fine.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Or get a good education. Love that has stood the test is worth cherishing.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Continue to have it, so that you can see if a man really loves you, and if he loves you, he will wait for you to come back.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    Love and Studies: Two Relative Contradictions, You Have to Make a Choice, When You Choose Studies, You May Lose a Love, On This Contradictory Scale, I Will Choose Love, But Landlord, You Have to Ask Yourself.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    Dear, when you get better, you will find that you no longer suffer from gains and losses! Study hard, and if the feelings are true, you are not afraid of distance.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    Go, knowledge is the permanent pillar of your future.

  40. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    Just let it be, don't think about it so much

  41. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    Hello, I don't know what kind of person your boyfriend is, so I can only guess!

    There are two aspects in total, because what you are asking is what to do, so I won't go into details! One is that he wants to leave you, and the other is that he is doing it for your good! I want someone to take care of you!

    No matter which outcome is the same, the important thing is to deal with it! If you really love him, talk to him well, and tell him clearly and clearly your reluctance, your firm love for him, and the idea that you can't lose him! Let him know that you don't want to break up unless you don't love me anymore!

    But I'd love to remind you how much tolerance it takes for a man to have someone take care of you if he's gone? What about keeping your lover with someone else? So you have to communicate well to understand all your doubts!

    It's been six years, and you should know which of his sentences is true and which is false, so if the answer in your heart is that you want to be happy, not what you want, don't lie to yourself.

  42. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    He said this all because he loves you, and he won't be far away from you, and no one can see what will happen in the future, so it's for the sake of the two of them.

  43. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    1. You go to a foreign country with him.

    2. Break up now.

    3. The result of a long-distance relationship is a breakup.

  44. Anonymous users2023-12-27

    For the time being, you will be reluctant, but time will dilute everything. No one can predict what will happen in the future, he said to you Thinking from the perspective of others, maybe he is afraid of delaying your future life, which is good for you, or maybe it is just an excuse, this is to judge for yourself. As for what to do, keep a good attitude and try to stay in touch, time will confirm your judgment and verify whether his love for you is genuine.

    To quote someone else: whoever is the husband, all are temporary workers. In short, you have to relax, it will be yours after all, not yours, you can't ask for it, don't push yourself to a dead end, and you don't know if you're blessed.

  45. Anonymous users2023-12-26

    First of all, please recognize the fact that you are far less attractive than the Eiffel Tower.

    So, I think he said that he was reluctant to leave when he saw you. It takes a lot of financial and material resources to go abroad, and I believe the landlord should have heard of it. So if you think about it pragmatically, is the relationship between you and him so valuable? I believe the answer is very clear.

    Of course, there are indeed many trivial things to be busy with before going abroad, and it is inevitable to feel uneasy when you go to an unfamiliar environment. But going abroad can probably be regarded as his dream, and there must be anticipation and excitement.

    So, recently, his head has been filled with this kind of expectation and uneasiness, and it is understandable that he is lukewarm to you, and the landlord should be considerate.

    Let me tell you my advice. Since he said he wanted to continue dating, he agreed. Of course, this promise is also a polite word, and it has no binding effect.

    It's just a matter of saying yes. Well, just look at him as a demote from boyfriend to friend. After all, the two places are thousands of miles apart, and he can't fulfill his obligations as a boyfriend, and neither can you.

    Why bother with a false name like a boyfriend and girlfriend? Tangling will only waste a lot of good youth. If you meet true love during his time abroad, you can go and pursue your true love without thinking about it or blaming yourself.

    If he returns to China after staying abroad and still remembers his original words, and it happens to be convenient for you, then continue the front edge, not only can you mix the reputation of waiting for him for many years, but also fish for a turtle, which can be described as fame and fortune.

    All in all, at this time, a lot of words should not be taken seriously. Of course, it's not that your boyfriend is deliberately cheating on you, it's just that time will change people, and different ideas overseas will also change people. Therefore, today's sincerity may be just a polite remark in two or three years.

    Finally, I would like to state that these are my personal statements without responsibility, and the world will not be as I think, and I do not deny that his sincerity before going abroad can be retained until after returning home. So how you want to do it is up to you to grasp it yourself, you can refer to the above, and if you think it doesn't make sense, it's okay to treat it as my drunken nonsense.

  46. Anonymous users2023-12-25

    Let's put it this way, when he is lukewarm, then if he really goes abroad, when you can't see his eyes or touch his face, you will only feel more insecure. Unless he really loves you, even if you don't see him, you will feel very relieved. Otherwise, it will be difficult to have results.

    You think about it, long pain is better than short pain.

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