We need more than 100,000 bride price here, is it too much?

In fact, how much is the bride price, basically depends on the local customs, if you have so many people there, then your family wants more than 100,000 as long as it does not exceed the local level, it is not high, if you compare with the tens of thousands of Xiaoke's family, it may be sky-high, so the bride price is not much, you have to look at the local customs, can not be compared with others, people do not want the bride price in some places, and the bride price in some places may be hundreds of thousands, so this is not comparable.

Nowadays, many boys always feel that those who are in free love should not ask for a bride price, because they have love, and the girl loves him as a person, and he is willing to marry her, so she should not ask for a bride price, and some men are very funny now, always cheaper than who marries a wife, who did not give a bride price but received hundreds of thousands of dowries.

If a girl talks to him about the bride price, he will say that the girl doesn't love him, say that the girl is realistic, say that the girl worships money, it's really funny to die, the girl has been pampered by her parents for more than 20 years, and she is going to leave her parents.

Say that you will be good to others in the future, but your good is just a mouth, how can people know if you are good to her for a lifetime, saying that you will be filial to your parents in the future, how good it was at that time, but when the girl used her salary to buy a massager for her parents and buy a valuables, he began to say that the girl did not care about the family, thinking about her mother's family every day, and the filial piety she said back then was eaten by the dog.

When people's parents are sick and need money, they hide and reason with other girls, saying that she is already married, so she shouldn't pay this money, they also have a family and want to support their families.

This is to say that it will be filial to other people's parents, and it will be good for her for a lifetime, and now men, when they get married, they promise that they don't need money, and when they get married, you will find that there was no bride price and no house, how stupid it is, so Xiao Ke said, as long as the locals want a bride price of hundreds of thousands, then the girls don't want much.

More than 100,000, it's okay, it's about the same as ours, more than 100,000 in this era of bride price is quite a lot, which region and which region's customs and habits are different, like our Hebei side is almost more than 100,000, when I got married, my husband's family gave 120,000, I was relatively high on our side, at that time it was basically 60,000, I was with my husband and I felt that the other party was looking for the person, and my husband also spoiled me very much, Later, when I talked about the bride price, my husband was very manly and said, it's okay if you discuss more points with your parents, as long as your parents are happy, these money are not as important as my feelings for you. <>

I was very moved to hear my husband say this, I didn't think too much about it at the time, I just thought about it, and I didn't value these things outside the body very much in my eyes, in my eyes it was still the most important feeling, so I discussed it with my parents, I knew that my mother must want more, and then use this to test my husband's feelings for me, so my mother said that it couldn't be less than 100,000, and then I didn't want too much, so I casually said 120,000 to my husband, and my husband said okay, and we got married. Although it is more, but my mother gives more, my mother directly marries a house, I think the issue of this bride price is negotiable, there is no need to hurt feelings for these, or more serious things, don't lose your beloved for the bride price, the money can be earned, but if you miss your beloved, you will really never meet again, and cherish it!

In fact, I personally think that more than 100,000 is quite a lot, I don't know what standard people use to measure the amount of this bride price, I think this is a problem that couples can discuss, if you have money, you will give more, if you don't have money, there is nothing wrong with being economical, in fact, this is just people's comparison psychology is at work, you want more than I want more, in fact, this is useless, trying to live your own life is the true meaning of life!

No more, no less, just okay, our family's bride price is almost the same, and I found that the smaller the place, the more important the bride price, but the bigger the place, the less bride price is said.

The bride price on my side is almost 100,000 yuan, but some buy a house, some don't buy a house, and the bride price is not for the mother's family or anything, but also for the little couple to live, and some of the mother's conditions are not bad, and they will also give the same money, and it is also for the little couple to live.

In fact, this bride price also has a comparative meaning in it, the daughter of his own family, no matter what people add, why should others 100,000, my family 50,000, right, my family not only wants 100,000, but also 150,000, so that the daughter can marry beautifully.

Therefore, the bride price only increases, but it also depends on the conditions of the family, and the money is for the children, but there is nothing.

However, it is true that the conditions of the man's family are really bad, the woman just wants money, and the man's parents sold their house and borrowed a lot of money before giving the bride price, which is also quite embarrassing.

Now the city I live in, it seems that there is not so much attention to the bride price, but there are still requirements for the house, the man buys a house, the woman decorates, or the man buys a house and the woman buys a car, which is almost like this, but most of them are paid down payment 10,000 yuan, and the rest of the loan is repaid by the young couple together.

There are many forms and styles, but in fact, the most fundamental thing is that both parents are afraid that their children will have a bad life, so they will have requirements for bride price and housing.

Many young couples will also make a small profit because of marriage, from a poor person to a small rich man with more than 200,000 savings, as well as a car and a house, but in fact, their parents eat bran at home, which is also quite uncomfortable.

Modern people get married, put the bride price in the same important thing as the garage, if the man does not give his girlfriend enough bride price money, it will be regarded as a kind of contempt, some girls are not very realistic, they will see the bride price as dispensable, and will help the boyfriend persuade their parents, saying that there is less bride price money, otherwise for the man, the economic pressure is a little too great, after all, we are all salarymen, can take out the money to buy a house and buy a car, and then leave some savings to support the elderly and raise children, this is already a very capable boy.

You also know that in this society, if you are not a demolition household, or a rich second generation, it is really more difficult to buy a house than to climb to the sky.

We have 68,000, 100,000 or even 200,000 bride price money there, which is very normal, and the decision is made by the parents of the woman's family. Because of money, even if the man treats her girlfriend very badly in the end, there is also these bride price money as a treasure at the bottom of the box to support her daughter.

As for whether or not to pay a bride price, there are customs in various places, and Beijingers do not involve bride price money when they get married, they feel that the house and car tickets are the most important thing, and whether to give or not, whether to give more or less, are all potential contradictions. In order to avoid this contradiction, it is also a good option to skip this step directly.

Therefore, the issue of bride price money, to know how to stop in moderation, not all people have the ability to bear your sky-high asking price, especially those parents who are too open-mouthed, or obedient girls who listen too much to their mothers, have no own opinions, material is not the only factor that determines whether a marriage is happy, you can be poor, you can not give the bride price money, but I believe that your future will create a better life for me, this is the attitude that a girl should have towards love, is the happiness that should be continued.

To be honest, your bride price of more than 100,000 yuan is a little high, but compared to our Qingyang in Gansu, most of the bride price there is between 150,000 and 200,000 yuan, and your bride price is still relatively small.

The bride price in our place is about 30,000 or 40,000 yuan, and according to our income here, it is actually about the same, but if we have more than 100,000 bride price here, we will get the shame of others.

The bride price must be a matter of two families, but some people are very concerned about what others say. For the woman, she worked hard to bring up her own woman, and then married someone else, and only her own family knows the bitterness she experienced.

I remember when I was studying, one of them in our dormitory said, your women in Dingxi are cheap, if you marry a daughter-in-law, you will go to your women in Dingxi. I still laughed at the time, and only later did I find out that in 2006, the bride price of Zhuang Lang was more than 80,000, and we only have about 10,000 to 20,000 here, so you can see how the economic level of a place is through the bride price.

After all, the two families are a family after they get married, so don't make a fuss about the bride price. We often see that the two families are not particularly happy about the bride price.

In fact, the man should take the initiative to take a little more, after all, it is really not easy for the woman, and every family will have a female baby, after all, the female baby will get married, and the heart can also bear a little more.

Of course, some people may use the amount of the bride price to measure whether the man respects or disrespects the woman, but I don't agree with this. Even if the man has money, it is impossible to give an extra share on the issue of bride price, and of course what he gives in private cannot be counted as a bride price.

All in all, the bride price of more than 100,000 is still a lot, so you must be good to your daughter-in-law, after all, it is not easy to come by?

Upper medium. In the current social environment, a bride price of about 100,000 yuan is considered to be above the average level for most people. The amount of the bride price is related to the regional economy, but the regional economic development is not the only factor.

2. For example, in first-tier cities such as Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, many newlyweds get married with a bride price of about 100,000 yuan. In some remote areas, when the economy is underdeveloped, the bride price may reach about 150,000 yuan.

3. To measure whether the bride price of 100,000 yuan is normal for you, you must judge it in combination with local customs and economic strength. The sky-high bride price that exceeds our financial ability is a custom that we must resist.

Second, is the bride price of 100,000 very little?

The bride price is quite cheap for families with superior family conditions. Especially families with a certain social status attach great importance to pomp and circumstance, and only seek the best. So such a family, their number must be far more than the 100,000, presumably those millions, tens of millions of bride price news, everyone has also read a lot, and they all understand their definition of money.

For working families, the bride price may be all the savings saved by the parents in the first half of their lives, or it may be the money for the elderly in the future. For such a family, 100,000 yuan is a very large amount of money, and spending it all at once can be said to be "breaking the muscles and bones". As a son, seeing his parents take out pension money to pay the bride price, it must not be a taste in his heart.

For some people with lower incomes, that's an astronomical amount. It is possible to get married once, not only to spend all the family's savings, but also to borrow money from relatives and friends to make up, in the preparation of the wedding banquet must also be short of funds, such a marriage can only live in debt repayment, life pressure and hardship.

3. The bride price is normal.

According to local customs.

Different places, the number of bride price required is different, for example, many areas in Guangdong do not have bride price, even if the woman wants a bride price, it is a good bride price, but it is generally between 10,000 yuan and 30,000 yuan, which is not high. However, first-tier cities, such as Beijing and Shanghai, have high consumption levels, and the number of bride prices is naturally high.

The bride price is generally higher in rural areas than in urban areas.

The marriage customs in the cities are deeply influenced by Western culture, although they still maintain some traditional marriage habits, but they are obviously not orthodox enough, the marriage customs in the countryside themselves are less influenced by other cultures, and the education level is backward, and the concept has not yet formed a correct view of the bride price, so the bride price in the countryside will be higher than that in the cities.

I think it has nothing to do with the bride price, don't think that the bride price is less faceless in front of relatives and friends, if two people really have feelings, it is much better to live happily than anyone else than to give you 100,000 bride price. The bride price is actually two families to help a new home, so that the two of you have a start-up capital, I think it has nothing to do with how much, and because the bride price is a little estranged, not the problem of the two of you, it is the problem of your parents, my sister gave a symbolic 50,000 when she got married, and she has not given the house, and now she lives in a 180-square-meter house with my brother-in-law, and my brother-in-law is obedient like a dog. . . But the old woman is not good, and things are forced, so I don't see her, and I look at the provincial anger.

So it depends on the two of you, to see if your boyfriend is worth entrusting, if his parents have a lot of things, they must ask for it, and they will be angry after the door.