Why do middle aged women in rural areas prefer to keep widowed marriages rather than divorce?

A widowed marriage is a description of an unhappy married lifeGenerally speaking, it means that one of the spouses treats the family indifferently and ignores the family obligations, and although they are not nominally widowed, their married life is like being widowed.

Filing for divorce requires the submission of documents to the court proving the breakdown of the couple's relationship, which is a headache for many women, as the informants are often neighbours who may be reluctant to testify for fear of offending the man, or afraid to testify because of the man's threats. As a result, either the court is unable to find that the relationship between the husband and wife has broken down, and the divorce is not granted, or the woman withdraws the lawsuit when she sees that there is no hope of divorce. Interfere with normal life.

Rural couples may turn against each other when a woman files for divorce, and the man's family members may also oppose the woman, and many women will voluntarily or forcibly leave the family and separate from their husbands, thus losing the security of their daily lives. The man still owns the family property and his life will not be greatly affected.

Property rights are vulnerable. If the woman does not apply for property preservation measures when the court accepts the lawsuit, the man has the opportunity to transfer and hide the joint family property, and it is difficult for the woman to adduce the corresponding evidence in the lawsuit. When the court enforces the divorce property judgment, it may be obstructed by the man's family members, and the village committee officials may not be willing to cooperate with the enforcement.

The mother's family does not support divorce.

In some underdeveloped rural areas, before getting married, the woman's family often has to accept a large bride price from the man, ranging from a few thousand yuan to tens of thousands of yuan. If a woman files for divorce, the bride price is returned, so the woman's family generally does not want her to file for divorce. In addition, they may have:"The daughter divorced, and the mother's family was also embarrassed"ideas.

Divorce can mean that it is difficult to see children again. If the child is awarded custody by the man, there are many difficulties in exercising the woman's visitation rights. The difficulty of rural women in getting a divorce not only undermines their right to freedom of marriage and causes them to suffer from marital misfortune for a long time, but also easily causes some social problems

The first is the increase in bigamy, and the second is the triggering of domestic violence.

In this way, there are many reasons why many women would rather keep a "widowed marriage" than divorce, and it is also because of some feudal ideas.

Because the ancient thinking was more feudal, the middle-aged women in the children's village also followed this habit.

Because they feel that divorce is very shameless, and they generally do not choose divorce for the sake of their children.

Because in the countryside divorce is a very ugly thing for them.

Because the countryside is different from Chengli, people's lives are still inseparable from men, so that's why it's like this.

This is a custom left over from ancient times. If you get divorced, others will make irresponsible remarks.

The main reason is that there are more rules in the countryside, and if you do this, you may be scolded to the point of collapse.

Marriage in the countryside is relatively conservative, and I am afraid of people's irresponsible opinions, so I am afraid to take a step.

Because they still think that divorce is very bad.

Because there are some middle-aged women in rural areas who feel that if they get divorced, they will make people chew on the root of their tongues.

We don't know about this, maybe only they know.

Marriage is not only a problem for two people, but also a problem for two families, so when talking about marriage, parents will consider each other's personal and family factors. For some widowed partners, everyone will be prejudiced against them, and many elderly people will think that it is because their life is too hard, so the other party ends his life.

Therefore, many elderly people do not want their children to find such a significant other, they are afraid that their children will also be harmed, so they will be more mindful of widows and will not allow them to enter their families.

But this is just a superstitious statement, because people's birth, old age, sickness and death are determined by the environment and what they eat, and have nothing to do with the other half. Therefore, this statement is not valid, it is just the prejudice left over from the traditional thinking of some old people.

Very irresponsible, didn't take the family to heart, and the attitude was also very bad, ignoring each other's feelings, some people are not together because of love.

Because of the pressure of work, the pressure of life, as well as eating habits, irregular daily life, unable to keep up with exercise, and poor emotional control, it leads to many family widowed marriages.

It is because such a marriage will not interfere with the living state of two people, nor will it affect two people, nor will it affect the relationship between two people, nor will it affect the work of two people.

Although two people say they are married, they don't care about each other at all in their lives, and they don't tolerate each other, so it's the same as a widowed marriage.

Remarriage is not a matter of two people, it is a matter of two families, involving their respective children and parents, involving too many people, and the relationship is not easy to get along with. There is often very little success. The feelings of remarriage are very realistic, not as pure as the feelings of first marriage, each has different experiences, and belongs to each of them.

Some divorced and widowed women, pursuing perfect love, do not want to live the kind of life in the same bed and different dreams, can't find a suitable umbrella, and would rather get drenched in the rain. Some divorced and widowed women are very extreme in their feelings, but they are all defeated by reality. There is no idea of remarrying, so I can only live alone.

This phenomenon is normal, after all, they don't want to suffer another injury, and now many women can find good jobs on their own and can support themselves.

In fact, this phenomenon is very normal, because these women feel that they are living well alone, and they don't want to go through this pain anymore.

I've faced such a choice in the past, but I suggest you choose to divorce as much as I do.

Married for four years, with two sons, her husband is basically a shopkeeper, doesn't do housework, and only plays with his mobile phone. And I still have to go to work, he works in Lindi City, and only goes home on weekends, and he doesn't even pay his basic living expenses.

I had to pay for everything I bought myself, and once I bought a pair of pants for 99 yuan, and he paid for it and got angry with me. Sometimes I think, just divorce, but what about the children. For the sake of his own happiness, he finally chose to divorce.

Chinese mothers are great, many women after getting married and having children, they put the focus of their lives on their children, everything for the children, for everything for the children, this is the consensus of all mothers.

This spirit of self-sacrifice for the sake of children is a great kind of maternal love. But this is also easy for women to lose themselves in marriage, especially when their husbands change their minds, in the face of an unhappy marriage, the first consideration is the children, in order to let the children have a so-called complete family, silently bear the betrayal of their husbands, crying alone.

They also know that their marriage is unhappy, but they still dare not divorce easily, "for the sake of children" is the belief of these women to stick to this marriage. "For the sake of my children, I can endure anything", this is a phrase we often hear.

However, such an unhappy marriage is not necessarily good for children. Don't underestimate the child's insight, the problem between your husband and wife, the child must be able to feel, you make such a sacrifice for the child, may not be able to do what you want.

As the name suggests, widowed marriage is that although there is a marriage in name, it is actually almost the same as nothing, to be precise, it is exactly the same as not, and the only difference is that it is just a married name.

This kind of widowed marriage is very harmful, it can be said that it not only hurts a person, but hurts a family, if there is no room for recovery, then it is time to divorce as soon as possible, it is not good for everyone to drag on.

Widowed marriage, if you are widowed, how can you get married, leave happily, the top empty shell is nothing more than a little better on face, but the face is better, how can you wash your face with tears all day long. If you want to die and suffer the sin, and abandon those so-called faces, you should leave.

Such a marriage does not end well if it persists. It can only be painful and painful, freezing three feet, not a day's cold. At this point, no one can change anyone, and in the end, they have to get a divorce! Life has to go on, the problems are still there, and the troubles are endless.

I suggest you continue to associate for a while。Your widowhood is partly self-inflicted. Your husband does a better job of obedience, at least until the last minute, than the kind of man who complains about his wife if he is disobedient.

Before you get divorced, set yourself a buffer period.

I want to make myself the most important thing, nagging him, but I never started, some things are not completed, it is not a big deal, let my husband develop the habit of doing some things regularly (such as washing vegetables, walking children, etc.), and even talk to him when I want to get tired of it, and do ideological education. See if he changes after this and move on.

Let's be honest,Men's habits are habitual, and laziness is also habitual, but many women are used to men but are mentally lazy and would rather do manual labor than fight with men and take their time.

I don't know how much longer I'll last. The past two years have been widowed marriages. I have two children at home. I thought about divorce, but I saw that after my friend's divorce, the child was really wronged, should I forget it.

He goes out early and comes home late, dinner is not how to eat at home, every day only at home father-in-law, gave birth to a child, even the month is my own son sitting, in addition to eating my mother-in-law helps to do, the child is my own, he sleeps upstairs, I sit confinement son downstairs, work at night, don't see the child.

I don't know his character or he just can't express feelings, even basic play with children, want to divorce, but divorce is not two people, two parents and children are my stumbling blocks, quarrels, these two years are a little better, I really don't know how long you can last.

For this kind of widowed marriage, I think it is better to make it clear to himLet him understand his own problems. If I can make a difference, I'll try again. If I can't make a change, I might choose to leave.

Of course, the final choice is still up to you, if you feel that you let go, then leave, and if you can't let go, continue to live a good life.

If I had been in a widowed marriage, I would have divorced. Because there is only one life in a person, since my fate with him is over, then I will not bind myself to the past because of this, and I have the right to choose a new life.

If you want to divorce, the meaning of marriage is that two people who love each other stay together, accompany and support each other, and it is already a widowed marriage, so the meaning of marriage is lost.

I will not choose divorce, since I have chosen this marriage, I will be responsible for it, and the widowed marriage will be treated as if he is gone, and I will still persevere.

Divorce, since that person can't take on the responsibilities of husband and wife, then why bother to maintain this marriage, find a better one!

I feel like I'm going to choose a divorce. Since divorce is the same whether you are divorced or not, then I might as well restore my free body and do whatever I want, without being bound by marriage.

I wouldn't choose to divorce because I don't have a lot of emotional needs. Since it was a "widowed marriage", I would really treat him as if he didn't exist. As long as I can live well, I won't get divorced.

Want. I think happiness is my biggest wish in my life, everyone wants to be happy, and I am no exception, people are selfish, of course they have to think about themselves.

Divorce will definitely be chosen. Such a marriage will make you find that there is no one to rely on in this world except your parents, and there is no one to rely on for you, so why should you torture yourself!

I would choose divorce. Because although I have loved him, he can no longer give me happiness, everyone has the right to find their own happiness, and I believe he will agree.

Yes.

There are many reasons why many women are reluctant to get married, such as the original family is very miserable, and they are afraid of becoming like their parents; Children are naughty, and women feel that they cannot educate; The cost of having and educating a child is too great for you to afford; not believing that the husband can be faithful to the marriage; Fear of physical violence by her husband, etc. And one more veryThe main reason is that many women face widowed marriages after marriage, and having a husband is like not having a husband, and it is even more painful。Widowhood is a marriage that has the following manifestations:

1. My husband doesn't come home.

The husband is the husband of the wife and the father of the child, and not only has to bear a certain financial capacity, but also has to do housework and take care of the children, so he should go home after work to take care of his wife and children. But some men have no sense of responsibility at all after getting married, and they are still messing with flowers and grass outside, and he is present in bars, KTV and other entertainment venues, and he goes home early in the morning every day, getting drunk, and the next day, sometimes he doesn't go home for a long time, as if he treats his home as a hotel. The wife who was waiting silently at home felt very lonely.

2. There is no married life.

People have desires, and the same is true when it comes to sex. A happy couple must be indispensable for conjugal life, whether it is for physical reasons or psychological reasons, as long as there is a lack of marital life, the intimacy of husband and wife time will decline, affect the feelings of two people, and even destroy family harmony.

3. My husband doesn't care about himself.

The wife is pregnant, and the husband doesn't care about himself; When giving birth, my husband does not go outside the delivery room to wait; During confinement, my husband didn't take care of it; The matter of taking care of children is also completely thrown to the wife; The wife is sick on weekdays and is not cared for by her husband at all; Every year or birthday, I never get the blessing of my husband. The husband never appears when he should be, and the wife will become more and more disappointed, obviously she has a husband in her family, but she has never experienced the feeling of being loved like she has no husband.

4. There is no communication between husband and wife.

Although the husband and wife live together, they are like strangers living under the same roof. If you don't have to talk, everyone just plays with their mobile phones, each doing their own thing, without any communication at all, lying on the sofa and playing with their mobile phones after work, and then going to sleep, and the next day is like this again. I didn't think about caring about each other and sharing my thoughts with each other, such a life was too lonely, too boring, very depressing, and I was forced to be widowed at a young age, which was a very painful feeling.