I am introverted and not good at talking and communicating, and I am nervous even when I meet MM on

How does self-confidence come about? Have you checked? I've seen it, and the confidence is more than what others give you.

But you don't want to tell others, and you can't get self-confidence in this way, and when you see yourself like this, you have more inferiority, and you don't dare to go even more if you are inferior. This creates a vicious cycle of boredom.

I used to be, and later, I was angry, calling him a dragon and a phoenix, I am a little hair, according to it, and then I suddenly realized that they were all mediocre people who disturbed themselves, and then they did everything, while the iron was hot, killing a chicken and a dog jumping. I'm not talking about martial arts films, it's a fact.

It may be helpful to share my experience. Once, a few girls came over, in the same class, we were walking in the opposite direction, I said hello, each of them ignored me. Embarrassing, right?

It doesn't matter, the lion in me is up at the moment, and I remember the book saying that the one who breaks the silence is always more popular. It may seem a bit wrong, but I did the right thing.

What do you say when you meet a girl? A lot of people don't know it at first. And then?

This is because of the lack of understanding on both sides. Try to say something that is familiar to everyone. Then it's about communicative skills.

For example, I saw a man and a woman playing (they are not a couple), I passed by, and added, secretly crossing Chen Cang? (Or are the two of them having a tryst?) (Or, to put it mildly, the two of them are struggling!)

Try to be humorous and not dull. Or because of nervousness, nothing can be done. Just remember this sentence for a moment:

It's a big deal to lose face, what's the point!! It's not that I can't afford to lose it now. Then finish reading, in one go, don't let yourself be nervous and go back and give a romantic one.

Greet. , and there will be no problem with it.

Look at it, boy. You can't fail. Otherwise, it's too unusual. This is how to motivate yourself. Pick your own beef tendon.

I think it's better for you to find a confidante, a good friend, and a girl who understands you, she will slowly take you out of this predicament.

If there is a girl who is more extroverted, take a bold step and be friends with her.

It will be better in the future!

I used to be like this, it would be better to have more contact with people and travel more with friends.

Low self-esteem is often accompanied by autism, in fact, it is better to consciously contact with the world, and it is better to force yourself to exercise in interpersonal communication.

It is likely that you are still a person who has no special hobbies, you don't know what you want all day long, find something to do well, distract yourself, and improve your skills or knowledge through learning, and also make yourself confident.

Very simple. If you think about it, you can think about the aspects of you that are worthy of inferiority, and whether you can change or cannot be changed.

Then find a way to overcome him yourself.

In general, true low self-esteem is difficult to overcome, as those are often due to congenital deficiencies.

But in fact, most of the low self-esteem belongs to the fact that they are too busy to do when they are well fed.

Illustrate. A person has pimples on his face and is disgusting. He has low self-esteem, there is no way to do it, as we all know, the current treatment of acne is like farting, and there is no use for hair. So he has low self-esteem, and he has low self-esteem.

But the other person has low self-esteem because he is not handsome, or he is below average. So what I want to say is, no matter how ugly you look, you can't look like that acne on your face. What is there to be inferior?

Of course, of course, these are still immutable.

Some people feel introverted and have low self-esteem, so why don't you change it. will only say, if you don't do it, then you will continue to have low self-esteem.

Some people feel that their family is not good, so they have low self-esteem, so what I want to say is, why can someone go from a cleaner to a boss, why can't you?

Of course, I didn't say you could, just that you have nothing to be inferior to, after all, you haven't reached the point where you are already immutable.

You don't have an incurable disease, and you don't have a congenital deformity, do you?

1. Hide less at home and surf the Internet, and participate in more outdoor activities, preferably basketball and football, which have team communication;

Second, first try to talk more when you are with people you know better, even if it is meaningless, just to talk more. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, acquaintances won't laugh at you.

3. Learn to be thick-skinned, and in the face of ridicule or ridicule from others, you should not hear it or even ridicule it.

Some of the above small personal opinions are easy to say, the key is to be brave and try, and don't be afraid of mistakes. Hope it helps.

It shows that you are still pure!

I have the following opinion:

1. What's so bad about being introverted? The first problem we should solve is to change the idea that we feel that we have a bad personality, otherwise there will always be a situation of lack of self-confidence, and then we will care too much about our own performance, and then further limit our own performance, so the situation will become worse ......Everyone has their own personality, it's just that you may not have discovered and appreciated it yourself. If you always want to be like whoever you are, then it is very unnecessary and impossible, because you are you, he is him, and no matter how much you learn to be like him, you can't be like him, just as he can't be like you.

2. When we report a normal heart, we may find that communicating with people will no longer be as stressful as before. If you think you don't know much about humor, then I want to say, there is no need to pretend to be humorous, it's still the same reason, deliberate management can sometimes backfire, why keep putting pressure on yourself and making others unhappy (the scene is easy to stiffen). It is to communicate with the heart, with a normal, equal heart.

My personal advice is to broaden your knowledge, because I don't feel able to talk to my friends for a long time, and many times it may be a lack of common topics. In addition, cultivate more self-confidence, exercise yourself, and use small fragments of your daily life. If you feel that you are easily nervous, you still accept it, sometimes the more you care about it, the more troublesome it becomes, you can go through it yourself in your mind before going on stage, before speaking, and you will have a lot of ......

Accept failure, enjoy success, and ...... naturally

Hope it helps, choose me ......

Memorize a little bit of a joke and tell it to other people.

Always come step by step, socialize with people more, go out more, go to class reunions, talk to people about your life and talk about your own learning, gradually treat them as people you are familiar with, read more books and learn to be confident.

Friend, I'm just like you! Shake hands.

--- wake up early in the morning, exercise more, find two people to travel far away, and slowly participate in more team activities in the future---

Introversion is not a character flaw, he is just a type of character.

People with an introverted personality do not mean that they do not have strength in their hearts.

Introversion is not a character, it is a seed planted by low self-esteem.

If you are an introvert, try to get closer to the introvert instead of forcibly changing your personality and then holding back your internal injuries.

If in your soul an inferiority complex is silently growing, as long as you are as resilient as it is, then you are also lucky. Be the happiest and bravest version of yourself!

When I was a child, I was also introverted, blushing at others, not communicative, and unsociable. But when I grow up to my 30s, there are very few such cases, although I still can't change my introverted personality, but I can integrate into the group, communicate freely (although I don't talk much), and I don't blush and feel inferior in the face of others. Such changes, based on my personal experience, can be shared as follows:

1. Actively integrate into the group in action and force yourself to speak more. This society is not very fair to introverts, but introverts do not allow themselves to live a normal life, so they still need to change. It is not the introversion of the nature that is changed, but the change of the individual's approach for the sake of normal life.

2. Choose a career that is suitable for introverts, so that it is easy to succeed in their careers, so that they will no longer have low self-esteem. Optimism and self-confidence can also overcome the negative effects of introversion. 3. In fact, there is no right or wrong character, only how to use it.

In today's society, extroverts are more favored because they are more integrated into society. And the introverted personality, if it can overcome its shortcomings, will have a better future to use its advantages than those with an extroverted personality.

No, there is no need for socialization at all, the need for socialization is very low, they don't need to socialize in their lives, and they don't get happiness from socializing. They rely mainly on their own thoughts and spirits in life to gain self-identity and self-satisfaction. This type of person has an extremely rich inner world, but they just don't like to share it with others.

They like to be alone, like to think, like to be immersed in their own world, so they are more oblivious to external influences and stimuli, and show a low need for social interaction. Due to the requirements of modern society for people, extroverts and eloquent people are more able to be recognized by others, therefore, in the eyes of most people, introverts are not easy to socialize, and they are a kind of character with defects, and they cannot leave a good impression on others. Therefore, there are many introverts who want to take the initiative to change their "flawed" personality when they realize this.

Clause. 2. Social interaction will make introverts "high energy consumption" It turns out that forcing introverts to integrate into a variety of social situations is an "energy-intensive behavior" that is an extremely painful thing for them. For those who are not socially adept, forcibly socializing with others can take a lot of energy, and forcing introverts to socialize frequently will only make them resistant. Psychologists point out that introverts do not need to be forced to socialize too much, because they do not need to socialize too much with too many people.

So, where do introverts get their self-satisfaction? Psychologists point out that introverts only need "self-interaction".