You can t have it both ways. Emotional problems, the master comes

B's feelings are too crazy, this kind of person generally can't afford to be hurt, in case she doesn't like her to break up in the future, it will be very troublesome: A and you have been getting along for three years, and they are very used to each other, and they know each other very well, if the problems can be solved, I believe that your relationship will be better after the solution, but if it really can't be solved, then it will be divided, after all, there are not only two women, A and B.

See which one you like or which one you think is more promising!

The so-called fish and bear's paw can not have both, personal understanding is mainly a choice, just like in many cases, you will always have to face a variety of choices, then maybe in the correct concept, love always has to end from the beginning, and love must. Planning, and also in love, that must be wholeheartedly good to a person, at this time you always have to leave behind some other things, for example, some so-called judgments, some commitments, etc., are difficult to give up and decision-making.

In the relationship, it may not always be one person, so when opening another relationship, there will be some attachment to the previous relationship, but it can not be obtained, or it cannot be achieved, at this time there must be selectivity, that is, the two can not have both, must give up one or the other, not so much a kind of abandonment, but a kind of letting go, giving up the original judgment, giving up everything original, starting a new relationship from the new.

It may be a pity for many people, but I have to say that this is another way of relief, if anything has a rational way to judge love, in fact, it can't be called feelings, because feelings themselves are a very mysterious thing, he can't be measured by matter, and even can't judge feelings through ** thoughts. If there is a difference between fish and bear's paws in the relationship, then many times, when facing a choice, it depends more on whether this person is the person he thinks in his heart, and whether he can have the courage to continue to accept it, and following his heart is the most important thing.

This kind of love state is very common, I think no matter what you get, you will be happy, after all, everyone's requirements are different, and the result is your own choice.

When you're in the fish and bear paws no. When you have both, especially love, you can only choose one of them, it is very painful, you can't let it go, it's difficult to continue, you can only endure the pain in front of you, and life has to go on.

It's a very distressing feeling, because you have to choose one of the two, and you don't want to give up the feeling that you have to give up

It's a bit of a loss, because love is really not so perfect, because people are imperfect, so in the relationship, as long as you feel that each other is suitable.

If you want her to have a decent job, you can't expect her to be a stay-at-home wife. You want her to dress up less than that, so you have to accept her normal look.

For example, if you have a girlfriend, you can't play happily, you can't play black with your friends, and you can only choose one girlfriend and a game.

This kind of love is very tormenting, sometimes very difficult to choose, and it is painful.

The girl said that two things collided tonight, and she was a little entangled in choosing one of the two.

One is a club she joined, and tonight's opening ceremony is held. Although she said that she could take a leave of absence, she didn't want to miss the first time.

The other is an online course that she purchased herself, which is also starting for the first time tonight. Although the course can be reviewed, she feels that it is better to interact with the teacher in the live class.

My advice to her was to join a club. After all, it's the lesser of two. Because if you take online classes, you will miss out on club activities forever; But if you join a club, you can still listen to the online class, but this time you can't interact.

In my spare time, my sister-in-law and I are looking for a suitable store and preparing to open a store next year.

One place is the intersection, where people come and go, the neighborhood is densely populated, and there are vegetable farms nearby. There are factories nearby, and there are many out-of-town residents.

The other place is our own community, which has a lot of residents and hundreds of buildings. The entrance of the community is also a vegetable field, primary and secondary schools. There are also two advantages, one is that there is a night snack street nearby, and the takeaway business is expected to be very good; In addition, next door to this storefront is a courier pick-up point.

My tendency is the community, and the tendency of Xiaodan's former sister-in-law is the intersection. In the end, the two sides reached an agreement, and then compared the rent and other factors, carefully did field investigations, fully compared and demonstrated, and obtained the advantages and disadvantages.

In real life, there are many things that need to be chosen. At this time, you might as well be like Robinson on the island, distinguish between the good and the bad, compare the advantages and disadvantages, and the conclusion will naturally come out.

Therefore, when you can't have both, how to choose is the key. Think about what you want to do, make trade-offs, and be the master of life.

The fish is what I want, and the bear's paw is what I want, and if I can't get both at the same time, then I'll give up the fish in favor of the bear's paw. Life is what I want, and morality is what I want, and if you can't get both at the same time, then you give up your life and choose morality. Life is what I want, but there are more important things than life that I want, so I don't do anything to steal my life; Death is what I hate, but there are things I hate to talk about more than death, so I don't avoid some calamities.

If people do not pursue something that is more than the model of life, then what can be used as a means of survival? If there is nothing more disgusting than death, then what can be used to escape calamity? There is a way to survive, but some people don't need to, and there is a way to avoid calamity but some people don't.

It is because they seek something more precious than life, and they hate what they hate more than death. It's not just the wise who have this nature, everybody has it, it's just that the wise man is able to keep it from being lost.

A bowl of rice, a bowl of soup, if you get it, you can live, and if you don't get it, you will starve to death. But the hungry passers-by refused to accept the impolite shouting for others to eat; Kicking others to eat, the beggar is not willing to accept it.

The idiom "fish and bear's paw cannot be both" comes from Mencius's "Fish I Want": "Fish, I want, bear's paw also I want; You can't have both, and you can't have both, and those who give up the fish and take the bear's paw are also. The intention is not to say that the two are necessarily incompatible, but to emphasize how we should choose when we can't have both.

There are also good things not to have too much, otherwise they will not reflect their value, just like a mountain cannot accommodate two tigers, the top of the pyramid is always the rarest and precious, which is intended to remind people how to choose when faced with trade-offs.

Source: This article is excerpted from Mencius: The First Confession. The main content of "The Confession" is to clarify the "theory of goodness", that is, human nature is born with the seed of goodness, the so-called "compassion, everyone has it; Everyone has a heart of shame; Respectful heart is shared by everyone; Everyone has the heart of right and wrong".

This kind of good nature is the "original heart" of man. "Hearts" should not be underestimated, because they are the germination forms of benevolence, righteousness, propriety, and wisdom: "The heart of compassion is the end of benevolence; The heart of shame is also the end of righteousness; The heart of resignation (meaning close to "respectful") is also the end of courtesy; The heart of right and wrong, the end of wisdom.

One should seek one's own heart, develop it in the direction of one's own heart, and carry it forward in order to become a morally perfect person.

Therefore, in the full text of "Under the Confession", this article is about everyone having a "heart", and no matter what the situation, people should keep their "heart". As long as the "heart" is there, even at the moment of life and death, people can withstand the test; And if we lose our "heart," we will do things that are detrimental to our personality.

Mencius (c. 372-289 BC), known as Ke, was a native of Zou in the middle of the Warring States Period (now a native of the southeast of Zou County, Shandong), not far from Confucius's hometown of Qufu. He is a famous thinker, politician, educator, inheritor of Confucius, and an important representative of Confucianism. According to legend, Mencius was a descendant of the Lu nobleman Mengsun, who lost his father at an early age and came to a poor family.

After Mencius completed his studies, he lobbied the princes as a scholar in an attempt to promote his own political ideas, and went to the Liang (Wei) state, the Qi state, the Song state, the Teng state, and the Lu state. At that time, several major countries were committed to enriching the country and strengthening the army, striving to achieve unity through violent means, and he inherited Confucius's idea of "benevolence" and developed it into the idea of "benevolent government", which is called"Ya Sheng"。

Original: Fish, I.

Desire, bear's paw, also what I want, can not have both, give up the fish and take the bear's paw. Life, also what I want, righteousness, also what I want, can not have both, sacrifice life and take righteousness. Life is also what I want, and what I want is more than the living, so I don't want to get it.

Death is also evil to me, and the evil is worse than the dead, so I can't avoid it. If a man desires more than life, then why should he not use him who can live. If there is no worse than the dead, then why not avoid the sick!

From what is, there is no need to use; Therefore, you can avoid trouble and do nothing. Therefore they desire more than the living, and evil more than the dead. Not only the sage has a heart, everyone has it, and the sage can not lose his ears.

A spoonful of food, a bean soup, if you get it, you will live, and if you get it, you will die. Huer and with it, the doer of the way is receiving; With it, the beggars disdain. Wan Zhong does not distinguish between etiquette and righteousness, and Wan Zhong is not good for me!

For the beauty of the palace, the dedication of wives and concubines, and the poor who know me to get me? To die for the body and not to accept it, now for the beauty of the palace; He did not accept it for the sake of his death, but now he is dedicated to his wife and concubine; To die for the sake of the body and not to receive it, now for the poor whom I know: yes or no?

This is a loss of heart.