Why did the relatives rush home after the grandmother died and was sent up the mountain?

After the grandmother passed away and was sent up the mountain, the relatives were running to rush home for the following reasons:

1.Respect for culture and traditions: In some places, when a loved one dies, the family sends him to a cemetery for burial.

During this process, the family follows some rituals and procedures to show respect and farewell to the deceased. Sometimes, families will run to rush home, which can be a way to pay their respects and say goodbye.

2.Psychological and emotional reactions: After the death of a loved one, family members may feel extreme grief and loss. In this case, their run may be an emotional catharsis to express their nostalgia and reluctance for their loved ones.

3.Practical considerations: In some cases, families may be running home for practical needs. For example, they may need to go home and prepare for the next things, such as taking care of financial matters, notifying other family members, etc.

In conclusion, families running to get home can be motivated by a variety of factors such as cultural, emotional, or practical considerations. In different cultures and regions, this behavior may have different interpretations and meanings.

More than 20 years ago, our grandmother passed away, and at that time, we still practiced burial (now cremation), and after sending it up the mountain, our relatives rushed to run home. Ask the elders why, and explain that whoever runs faster will be more prosperous in the future. As for whether there are other theories, we don't know.

Happy landlord!

Is it about to rain?

I'm in the same situation as you, when my grandmother died, my uncle didn't even look at it, my aunt was happy, saying that the old immortal finally died, my grandfather was angry with my aunt, evil has evil retribution, my aunt broke her leg in the first seven days of my grandmother's death, and my uncle fell into the lane and crushed his leg. I am worthy of the fact that our family is very filial.

Since you love your grandma so much, why don't you send her off on the last trip, grandma didn't get their kind treatment before she died, and they may not suddenly become filial after death, help grandma take care of the future! You shouldn't go.

You're not unfilial! It's just that you're doing a little too impulsive! You're staying in you're for Grandma! Not for your relatives!

Regardless of what the family did to grandma before her death, grandma is no longer here If you know Dali, you should go back as soon as possible, and do your best to give grandma the last chance to do her filial piety and do what happens after grandma's death.

You have to think about whether it's your resentment with your relatives or your grandmother's funeral.

Go back or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

It is said that when the ancestors of mankind still had a tail, the old man lived to be fifty years old, and the tail gradually turned yellow, and finally fell off and died. The children and grandchildren found that the old man's tail was yellow, and they were going to kill the old man before he fell, and the whole family gathered around to cook, which is called filial piety.

Later, when an old man lived to be sixty years old, his tail was so yellow that it was about to fall off. His children and grandchildren discussed: "Ah Gong's tail is so yellow that it is about to fall off."

We're going to have meat to eat." The old man was very angry when he heard this, and thought to himself; When I was strong, you honored me, and now that you are old, you will slaughter me and eat me. But when I thought about it, hadn't I eaten the meat of my ancestors before?

It was really bad luck, so I had to secretly hide in a stone cave deep in the mountains. Besides, his children and grandchildren did not see the old man in a blink of an eye, so they were so anxious that they immediately divided up and searched, and after looking for several days, they were nowhere to be found, so they had to carry the sack into the mountain, that is, to serve as a seat and a quilt, and to be able to shelter from the wind and rain, so as to continue to look for the old man. They searched and searched, and found the old man in a stone cave deep in the mountains on the seventh day, but he was already dead, and his body began to rot and stink, and he could not smell or lift it, only his two eyes were still wide open, and he could not die.

The people who saw it were so frightened that they were so frightened that they fainted to the ground, and some were busy covering their heads with sacks, covering their noses, and crying loudly. Relatives and neighbors also rushed to hear the news, and they also covered their faces and noses with their headscarves, and cried with them. Finally, a wooden box was made, and the son put the old man's body in the box, and everyone buried the old man on the mountain with a handful of soil.

At this time, the children, grandchildren, relatives and neighbors were so grief-stricken that they covered their faces with sacks and headscarves and went home crying bitterly. Some of them cried that the old man died miserably, and some cried that he had no meat to eat. Since then, people have gradually changed the bad habit of eating the elderly.

When the old man died, he followed this method and buried him in a coffin. Children and grandchildren wear linen and filial piety, and relatives cover headscarves for the funeral of the deceased. On the seventh day after death, the tomb is to be sent home.

This funeral ritual became a custom that has been passed down to the present day.

Wearing linen and wearing filial piety involves the mourning dress system in traditional Chinese culture. In the period of the Three Kingdoms and the Northern and Southern Dynasties, the five-service system was established for the first time, and five different mourning clothes were stipulated according to the difference between blood relatives and relatives, and the service system was divided into chopping and declining, Qi decay, great gong, small gong and hemp, and the length of the mourning period, the thickness of the texture of the mourning clothes and their production were different. According to the regulations, the closer the blood relationship, the heavier the obedience; The sparse the blood relationship, the lighter the uniform.

At funerals, Chinese avoid wearing ornate clothes, and family members will wear linen and filial piety, called Shangxiao. The colors of filial piety are white, black, blue, and green. Sons, daughters-in-law, and daughters have the most intimate relationship, and they should wear white clothes and trousers made of cotton.

To wear filial piety is to wear filial piety cloth on the upper sleeve of the shirt, and if the deceased is a man, it is worn on the left sleeve and a woman on the right sleeve.

An ancient tradition of mourning.

Criticizing Ma Dai Xiao is just a custom that has been passed down to this day, and the specific meaning is a ritual of remembering the deceased!

Question: How should a student of Tranquility Zen deal with the death of an elder? And how should we deal with the aftermath?

Answer: Buddhism talks about 'casual conditions', which means adapting to the current conditions, and there are many explanations for this word, and the most widely used is 'condition'. You asked me, I told you, but everyone is against this, and you don't have to do it (Taiwanese), everyone can do what they want, there is no need to have any disputes, and there is no need to insist on what must be done.

When a loved one dies and we grieve, we cry bitterly, and it is normal for people to part with life and death. We can cry, but don't self-hypnotize – say I'm so sad, I'm so sad......That's not good. No one can avoid birth, old age, sickness and death, we commemorate the deceased, we will try to be a good person, don't let him down, that's right.

As for how to deal with it? It is best to be cremated after death, and there are three major benefits of cremation: First, the funeral fee is cheap.

Second, it does not take up space, now the population is increasing day by day, and it is not good to go to the cemetery and see that the dead occupy the space of the living. Thirdly, when a person first died, his limbs and facial features were still normal, and if you buried him, he still coveted the corpse, and obsessively said that this is me, watching the corpse change day by day, his lips were dry and his teeth were exposed; The flesh rots and the nostrils come out, the eyes rot out, and the two hollows come out, and he thinks that he is like that, so the ghosts are ugly. If cremation is used, this worry can be relieved.

So cremation is better.

As for the death of a loved one, crying and grieving, that is not helpful. His soul will not leave immediately, because he is greedy for Hongchen and is reluctant to this home, so most of them are still active in the vicinity. Man has a soul, and now science has proved that man does not weigh before death, and when he dies, he weighs again, and his weight is significantly reduced.

At this time, it is good to ask a senior monk to recite the sutras to him, but if his culture is not too high, he may not understand what it means to recite the sutras. If you don't understand it, it won't work. It's better for you to record a 'peaceful beauty' for him in Taiwanese in advance, and let him listen to it as soon as he loses his breath, which may help him.

People are stupid! If you want to teach him to be liberated earlier, it is better to burn it with fire, so that he has no greed and cannot find the body. Can you be the master of the cremation?

If relatives and friends are against it, you can't do anything, it's better to be more filial to him when he is alive, give him happiness, and don't make him angry.

Isn't it customary to wear only black armbands now?

Neighbors said that grandma is very good and capable, moving home to save thousands of dollars to buy timber, after a period of time, the whole room for sundries was filled with waste grass sorted out by grandma, is such a hard-working grandmother, she said, there is nothing to do at home you have to come back on Saturday and Sunday, I will go to clean up alone, pass the time, very good.

At that time, the aunts were sleeping at home, because they had to keep the spirit, my brother didn't sleep all night, and I was about the same, and the next day was basically all kinds of rituals, and the mood at that time was like a child who lost his favorite toy, and kept crying and crying, and he couldn't stop crying until his throat was hoarse. I know that I was very sad that day, and so was everyone else, who was talking very little, not knowing what was silent and not knowing who was waiting for the first word.

In desperation, I gave all the remaining kittens to people who wanted to raise cats, and at that time I felt particularly uncomfortable, grandma left, and the mother cat also left, leaving us and the kittens.

Now when I see a cat, I think of my grandmother, and when I think of a mother cat, my eyes feel red.

Not long ago, one of my dearest grandfathers passed away, and I felt like a dream. Those few days were muddy, and my mind was in chaos.

At about five o'clock that morning, I suddenly received a ** from home, saying that my grandfather had passed away and asked me to hurry home. Although I had been mentally prepared for the previous half a month, I was still stunned at the moment when I connected to **, thinking that I hadn't woken up yet, and pinched myself hard, and I knew that this was the reality when I felt pain.

During the call, I still kept my calm, and after hanging up, my tears couldn't stop flowing. It took about ten minutes for me to calm down and buy the first train home.

Sitting in the car, my mind was chaotic, and I cried at the thought of my grandfather, but in order not to cry in public, I endured it until I got home, and my eyes were red.

Seeing a group of people wearing filial piety robes downstairs, I think it's too unrealistic, why did people leave suddenly? I haven't had time to say goodbye yet. I first kowtowed to my grandfather, then went upstairs to put on a filial piety robe, and went downstairs to the mourning hall to accompany my grandfather.

In the evening, a cousin and I kept vigil in my grandfather's mourning hall, chatting about some things that were not alive after death, and that we had to face reality. Although we only stayed in the first half of the night, we went upstairs to sleep at about two o'clock, after all, the next day was a busy day.

In the past few days at home, it really feels like a dream, it's too unrealistic, and I can chat with us well last month, but this time I came back and there was no one, and I couldn't accept it.

Recalling the death of a loved one is a bit sad and heavy. However, from another perspective, memories are also the best commemoration of loved ones.

There are five times in my memory about the death of a loved one and what happened after the death: the death of my grandmother, the death of my grandmother, the death of my uncle, the death of my father, and the death of my father-in-law. As I talked, I was going to cry......

Let's talk about my father's death.

My father died of lung cancer at the age of 75. My father's physique has always been good, he and his mother have always stayed in their hometown, and they have never let go of their work in the fields. That winter, my father had been suffering from a bad cold, and he had been receiving injections and infusions in his hometown for nearly a month.

Examination results show that the lesions in the lungs have spread. During his hospitalization, several of our brothers endured their grief and took turns to take care of him day and night, and the best specialists were called. However, fate has been sealed, and manpower is irretrievable.

On the one hand, we actively give our father's **, and on the other hand, we consider the father's posthumous affairs. However, my father was very calm, and he advised us not to be sad: he was satisfied that several of our brothers had been admitted to school, had our own jobs, and had made our homes in the city.

He was comforted by the harmony and unity of our brothers. He couldn't worry about his mother and asked us to take care of her. The most reluctant are our grandchildren, who ask us to educate our children well so that they can become useful talents in the future.

We agreed to my father with tears in our eyes.

On the day my father went, more than a dozen of us rushed home. My father walked peacefully and peacefully. As he was leaving, he took the hands of the brothers, pointed to the mother, and looked at the children.

We understood our father's thoughts, clasped our hands tightly together, and nodded vigorously. My father was gone, and he walked peacefully and peacefully. We grieve but we also feel safe.

With the help of relatives and friends, we set up a mourning hall for my father, and I put his beloved belongings by his side. There are a lot of clues to the arrangement of the future, and it takes a lot of money. We entrusted all the arrangements for the future to the good fourth brother, and handed them over, not extravagant, but everything was arranged according to the best standards.

My father has worked hard for a lifetime, and he didn't enjoy much during his lifetime. On the last journey, we want to let my father walk with peace of mind.

It's been four years since my father died. As he instructed, we took my mother to the city and took turns taking care of her. Some of the children have been admitted to university, and some have excellent grades in junior high school and high school.

Several of our brothers have the same thoughts, brothers are born from the same roots, and everything is prosperous. May Father be well in heaven!