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The imbalance comes from your values.
If there is a man who can easily fulfill your desire to buy a house, will you marry him?
Whatever the answer, the first thing you should think about should be, whether you are married to a house or to your lover.
If you have only graduated for two or three years, you will even have the money to buy a house.
Then the goal of this world is too easy to achieve, right?
You feel that after buying a house, your psychology is stable, your minimum sense of security is guaranteed, and your marriage is solid, and your idea is a bit too simplistic.
If marriage is indeed the best choice, is there anything unacceptable about renting a house to live in, then accumulating wealth, and waiting for the conditions to change houses when the conditions are ripe?
What you need to correct yourself is that the environment you are facing right now is not the same as what you and your boyfriend took for granted in school, and it is much worse.
I take the liberty of asking:
Do you like vulgar emotional idol dramas that you can't watch at the edge?
There's a lot of stuff in there, so don't believe it.
Be realistic! Ordinary people don't have such good conditions.
Please work with your man if you choose him.
If you don't mind, you will calculate the account, the average value of China's real estate ** is 2900 yuan square meters.
Regardless of your city or salary.
According to the monthly income of the two of you is 5,000 yuan, buy a set without eating or drinking.
A house with an area of 100 square meters. 48 months of work required.
Excluding the necessary expenses, this time should be tripled, or 12 years.
If you are 25 years old (you don't see the problem) you can own a house (100 square meters) when you are 37 years old.
The above calculations do not include inflation, price increases, and the influence of many variables such as housing price changes in the city.
So if you want to get married, think about it a little more than you think, it's more complicated than you think.
Personal advice, take out a loan to buy a house, pay in installments, you live in the house, you pay the money on time, and finally the house is still yours. If you still want to get married after listening to me.
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I don't think there's anything unbalanced, the standard of living and housing prices are different in each city. My boyfriend and I have been graduating for almost three years and are about to get married recently, but we can't afford to buy a house yet, but we have made a savings plan to keep everything simple and try to live in a new house as soon as possible. The hard-won it is, the more it is worth cherishing.
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1. Psychological implication is that no matter in work or life, they constantly affirm themselves and constantly cheer themselves up. Don't think about messy things, let yourself be in a state of peace and quiet. Give positive psychological cues, silently cheer for yourself, and believe that your ability will definitely be able to tide over the difficulties.
2. Be content and be happy, and you can't blindly compare with others. Appropriate entertainment in life, such as listening to **, may be a trip with friends, which can regulate emotions, relieve bad stress, and also increase new knowledge and fun. 3. Everyone has their own ambitions, and the goals set are not in line with the reputation of the birds, and they cannot be achieved at all, which is self-inflicted trouble.
There are also some people who demand perfection in everything, even to the point of being harsh, and often blame themselves for small flaws. To avoid frustration, you should set your requirements and goals within your ability, and learn to appreciate your achievements, which will make you feel more comfortable. 4. When you are frustrated in your daily life, you should temporarily put aside your troubles and do what you like, such as enjoying the beautiful scenery or **, sports, reading, and then facing the problems in work or life again after you are at peace, and find a way to solve them.
5. You can't fight with others in everythingSome people are unbalanced because they fight with others everywhere and put themselves in a state of tension. In fact, people should live in harmony with each other, as long as you are not hostile to others, others will not be enemies of you. 6. Don't have too high expectations for your loved onesEvery parent hopes that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix, and they will be very disappointed when the other party cannot meet their expectations.
In fact, everyone has their own path in life, don't ask others to cater to you. When dealing with work and life problems, as long as you are not too affected by it, you don't need to insist too much on non-principled issues, which can reduce a lot of troubles.
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Don't be yourself. Everyone has their own ambitions, and some people set their ambitions too high to achieve them, so they are depressed all day long, which is actually asking for trouble; Some people demand perfection in what they do, sometimes almost harsh, often blame themselves for small flaws, and the victim is still themselves, in order to avoid frustration, they should set goals and requirements within their own capabilities, know how to appreciate what they have achieved, and the mood will be naturally comfortable.
2 Expectations of loved ones should be too high. It seems to be normal for wives to hope that their husbands will prosper, and parents hope that their children will become dragons and phoenixes. However, when the other person can't meet their expectations, they are disappointed.
In fact, everyone has their own path in life, so why ask others to cater to you.
3 Do not fight with others everywhere. Some people are psychologically unbalanced, simply because they are constantly in a state of tension because they are fighting with others everywhere. In fact, interpersonal relationships should be harmonious, as long as you are not hostile to others, others will not be hostile to you.
4. Get out of the predicament. In reality, when you are frustrated, you should put your troubles aside for the time being, and do what you like to do, such as sports, playing ball, reading, appreciating skin disturbances, etc., and then face your problems again and think about solutions when your mood is calm.
5 Appropriate concessions. Deal with some problems in work and life, as long as the general premise is not affected, and there is no need to insist too much on non-principled issues, so as to reduce your own troubles.
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Maintaining a good mental balance is an important topic, and here are some suggestions:
Establish an active lifestyle: maintain a regular work and rest schedule, arrange work and leisure time reasonably, maintain a balanced diet, participate in physical activity in moderation, etc.
Develop good emotional regulation skills: Learn to manage and express your emotions effectively, and you can relieve stress by communicating with friends or family, keeping a journal, participating in favorite hobbies, etc.
Learn to cope with stress: Learn techniques to cope with stress, such as deep breathing, meditation, relaxation training, etc. Find ways to cope with stress that work for you to mitigate the negative effects of stress.
Establish a support system: Establish a support system with family, friends, or counselors to share your feelings and concerns, and seek support and advice from the stool.
Focus on self-care: Give yourself some time to do something you enjoy and improve your sense of self-worth and satisfaction. You can try to treat yourself by doing activities such as body relaxation, massage, listening**, watching movies, etc.
Set goals and plans: Setting clear goals and plans can make you feel motivated and directional, which can reduce feelings of uncertainty and anxiety.
Acceptance and Adjustment: Learn to accept unchangeable facts and situations, and actively adjust your attitudes and behaviors to adapt to change.
Avoid excessive stress and fatigue: Learn to allocate time and energy reasonably, avoid overworking or studying, and leave yourself appropriate time for rest and relaxation.
Seek professional help: If you feel that your mental balance has been severely affected and you are unable to self-regulate, you may consider seeking help from a counsellor or professional.
Mental balance is an individualized process, and everyone's situation may be different. The above suggestions are for reference only, I hope they can be helpful to you. Please feel free to consult a professional if necessary.
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So when you encounter something, don't panic, think about yourself, you have to work hard.
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Summary. Five Ways to Mental Balance.
2.If you know how to appreciate what you have, you will naturally feel good.
3.It is not human nature to have high expectations for relatives and friends, wives hope that their husbands will prosper, and parents hope that their children will become dragons and phoenixes. However, when the other party does not meet their expectations, they become disappointed!
4.Don't fight with people everywhere, what is the most important thing to get along with.
5.When you are temporarily out of trouble and your life is frustrated, you should temporarily put down your troubles and do what you like, such as sports, travel or reading, etc., with peace of mind, before facing your problems again.
I hope these answers are helpful to you, and I'm curious to ask, is there any imbalance in your heart? That's why these methods are sought? Can you tell me more about that?
Let me help you analyze it and give you some good advice, I am a professional emotional mentor Boyu, and I am very happy to serve you <>
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