The choice of objects, the gap with the ideal

Let's put it this way, since you ask such a question, it means that you still have the possibility of accepting the latter. Since that's the case, you have to think about two things. On the one hand, the ideal object is of course the best, because it is to quantify your prospective boyfriend (or girlfriend) according to your ideas, and of course it is perfect in your heart, and with him (her), you can get the happiness you want.

But on the other hand, in this society, it is better for everyone to be realistic. Of course, I'm not talking about abandoning the purity of love for a little economic gain, even if the pure love is, if two people don't have a certain amount of financial support, can you imagine being happy? The two choices that are now in front of you are to consider the question of being realistic or ideal.

Sometimes we see that a person can't lose sight of the inside because of the outside, especially someone who will mean something different to you. So my suggestion is that you can try to reach out to the latter, and if you find that you have a common language between you, you can develop it, plus he has the financial conditions, which is also good for you. If you feel that you are really not suitable through the relationship, you can also find it again.

In fact, sometimes feelings are cultivated, and there are indeed very few things and idealized objects of love at first sight.

The above is a contemptible point of view, what to do is still up to you, I hope you weigh it well and make a decision that you will not regret!

The first. Because no money is temporary, as long as he has a good income, it can give me happiness and joy.

Since you don't think it's good, don't just don't do it...

There can be a number of criteria and factors in choosing a partner, some people are more inclined to choose the rational ideal type, while others are more willing to choose the emotional heartbeat type. Let's analyze the possible reasons for choosing the ideal type:

1.Future planning: The ideal partner is usually close to their expectations in some ways, making it more likely that we will share some life goals and future plans. If you choose a partner who is only a heartbeat, it may only be because of the momentary attraction and will not be suitable for a long time.

2.Hobbies: Choosing an ideal partner may be more focused on common interests and lifestyles, and can discover and experience new things together in life, adding dimension and quality of emotion.

If you only choose a heartbeat partner, it may lead to conflicts and disagreements due to differences in personality and interests.

3.Values: It is also possible to choose an ideal partner because both parties have similar values and beliefs, and can tolerate and support each other to face life and difficulties together.

If you choose a partner who is only heartbeat, it may bring conflicts and problems in love because of different values.

4.Personality traits: Ideal partners are also usually similar or complementary to us in terms of personality traits, able to support and achieve each other, and grow and develop together. Relatively speaking, the choice is only a heart-warming partner, and Brother Bi may bring troubles and conflicts due to the inappropriate personality.

Of course, the way and criteria for choosing a partner are personal, and everyone has their own ways and criteria. If you want to choose a heart-warming partner, you also need to see clearly the character and values of yourself and the other party, and think carefully and communicate with each other, so as to establish a healthy and long-term relationship.

What is the difference between an ideal object and an object in reality, an ideal is an ideal after all.

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Recently, I ** TV series - I used to love you very much. If you look at the title of this play, you will think that it is a type of hobby for young people. Well, that's just the way it is.

There is a character in the play that I like very much, she is very clear about herself and knows what she should do. She recognized the reality and chose to compromise. She lives in a single-parent family and has a seriously ill grandmother.

As she was graduating from her senior year, she chose to stay and work in a different place. In order to make a living, I gave up my love of journalism and singing, and found a job with the wrong major.

In the face of life, how many people adhere to their ideals and compete with the current auspicious shirts. There are too many factors that affect reality, family, economy, etc., in terms of one factor, there are too many people who give up, and of course there are some people who can compete with reality.

Later, when her friends chose to go home to work, she resolutely insisted on her idea, stayed in a different place, and worked alone. That's how it is in society, everything is on its own, very realistic and cruel.

She worked hard in another place for three years, and finally chose to return to her hometown for employment. She said, "I've fought it." "Yes, I won't regret the hard work I wanted. Not everyone can have a happy life. I hope everyone can pursue what they love.