Why don t men like to avoid widows ?

"Widowers" are all women who have lost their husbands, and because others do not know what the reason for her husband's death, they spread the word that this woman is a widow, and the men naturally want to avoid her.

There is such a woman on our side, who is very pitiful, her husband died because of a car accident, and her mother-in-law always said: She killed her husband, and she was also at a loss. <>

The leaders in the village passed on her a little unusually, even if she remarried, no man dared to ask for it, afraid that marrying her would kill him. And generally a woman who has died of her husband still has bad luck on her body, and whoever is with her will be haunted by bad luck and have no future.

There is also the fact that women who have lost their husbands are almost all with children, and no man likes a woman with children, feeling that children are a drag, and more importantly, "second-hand goods".

The above reasons are the reasons why men don't like "widows", in fact, these are some superstitions, so don't believe it. In fact, the "widow" itself is very sad, and it will be even more sad when something like this happens.

In life, when it comes to "mourning women", people seem to have a feeling of "talking about tiger color change". So some people shouted: I'd rather marry a divorced woman or an older leftover girl than a "widowed girl"!

Why do people have such a serious bias? There are three reasons for this.

First, superstitious reasons. In real life, people's first perception of the "widowed girl" is: Kefu.

Regardless of how her former man died, the focus of all people's problems was on the woman "Kefu". Therefore, no matter how kind, gentle, and excellent the "widow" is, it is labeled as "Kefu", which discourages many men who want to love the "widow".

Second, the child reason. In real life, another issue that people are worried about is the problem of "widowed" children.

Because once she marries the "widowed girl", she must "love the house and Wu" to bear all the care obligations of her premarital children, unless the ex-husband's family treats the children very, very well. Therefore, many men are worried about the increase in the burden of marriage and family. In the face of real marriage, many people give up because of this.

Third, emotional reasons. After all, "widowing" is different from divorce, divorce is due to the breakdown of the relationship, and after remarriage, you can start another new relationship; is also different from older leftover women, the emotional world of older leftover women is at least blank, and a new relationship will start after marriage. However, the emotional world of "widowed women" is complicated, and they are afraid that they will not be able to get out of the emotional shadow of their former years after marriage, so that many men will abandon them.

Because widows are easily labeled as "kefu".

The unfortunate death of her husband has been rumored to be a mourning star, and the widow is really "sitting at home, and the pot comes from the sky." ”

In fact, the accident is not what they think, it may be entirely because of an accident, or their man's poor health is exhausted, but it seems that everyone would rather not believe in science, but are willing to believe in superstition. Because of the escapism, the parents who lost their son blamed their daughter-in-law Kefu and the neighbors for gossiping, blaming the poor widowed woman for all the facts.

How ridiculous, it seems that their hearts will feel better, and they will feel: "It's all because of her!" "Find a reason to sustenance.

Secondly, for widowed women, everyone will always feel that they will not be at peace.

Although it is said that it is a very enlightened age, there is still the idea of widowhood for husbands deeply ingrained in people's minds. Even if she remarries, it will attract bad reviews for this woman, as if she couldn't explain it to others before her husband died.

To sum up, so people's evaluation of widows has a deep prejudice and bad concept.