When it comes to the house, I think my boyfriend doesn t do that to me anymore 20

First, if you give up as a civil servant, you are a fool, your boyfriend can't be negotiated, at least you still have a job. People are not considering looking for a job now when they hear that they are not civil servants or state-owned enterprises, because these two have stable jobs and good benefits. If you work as a small worker, the grade will be much lower, and people will pick you for the object.

At the same time, girls who look and have a similar family to you, they are civil servants, and the men must pick the civil servants, and the women of the women choose the men, and you are picked.

Second, about the house, it's right not to gnaw the old, but China's national conditions, if you rely on your own down payment, there is no 5-10 years that can't come out, and now the average salary is 3000, I still say it to Gaoli, most of them are 1500-200, you calculate how much you can praise if you don't eat or drink for a year? If you are in a place like Beijing and Shanghai, it is estimated that you don't have an annual salary of 10w, and the house will not be able to be attacked. So you can only rely on your parents.

If your parents help, then be grateful, and it is reasonable not to help. But judging from your description, he is still guarding against you, it's not interesting to live with such a man, you have given up your good job, and he is still guarding against you. It's really boring.

Let's go home, kid.

Have a good talk with him, especially your ideas, and watch him do and. Of course, never trust a man's sweet words and promises too much, which are often the result of male hormones. The female ** is delicate and easy to get hurt in such a love situation.

If you can't see the future and hope, it's the best choice to turn back and let go in time while you're still young.

It's a bit hasty for you to give up your good job, but I really admire a girl who wants you to be so emotional. It's not necessarily as bad as you think, my family also has two suites, but I don't want to use that house when I get married, because it's too small, he doesn't necessarily have to be afraid of losses, and there may be all kinds of difficulties. So if you have any ideas, make it clear to your boyfriend, and if there are difficulties, you can overcome them together.

Of course, if he usually treats you badly, then turn back immediately.

I think he may also be testing you Of course it's better for the two of you to buy a house together In fact, you can also see your boyfriend's character Whether it's lazy or self-struggling.

I think you're too impulsive.

If you think about it, when you get married, the house must be shared by both of you... What does he do to you, do you think...

A little stingy, as if he can't let his family suffer. Don't like that!! It's all a family, what are you doing? also put on a high posture of not using family money. Affectation!

As a woman, if you want to find the kind of man who is not stingy with herself, I am a man, no matter how poor I am, I will not be stingy with my girlfriend! Think about your future life, if you can't see your future, you will be separated early!

I don't know, this handsome guy is 19, and he is currently learning the overall shape of the stage.

Let's be realistic, it's such a realistic society.

This is a difficult question. How are you doing now?

From your description, you didn't make it clear why you had a big fight with him? Are you standing by your parents to blame your boyfriend and his family?

In fact, the problems between you, perhaps on the surface, are because of the problem of buying a house or not, but in fact, there is also a problem of face.

Your father wants to save face, so he thinks he must buy a house at his boyfriend's house before he gets married. I feel that this is an important consideration for you, but in fact, your family is mixed in your relationship, which in itself has created an additional obstacle to your relationship.

And on your boyfriend's side, his parents will also feel shameless because of your father's strength. After all, his parents are teachers, so their thinking will be more traditional and stubborn, and you should have heard the truth that literati don't bend their waists for five buckets of rice.

Therefore, it is no longer just a matter of the house between you, but who of the parents will be able to earn back face with you. But it's actually the two of you who hurt the most.

Are you wrong, you ask? In fact, if you look at it according to the attitude of handling things, you are indeed wrong, because you use quarrels to make your relationship worse.

In fact, from your description, it can be seen that you are very satisfied with your boyfriend, but the relationship between you may not be stable enough. So for this obstacle, I almost can't stand it. If they are really together, what will they do in the future?

So this is also his inner worry, from the bright side, he is actually very good to you and loves you. It's just that maybe now he feels that this real problem between you is difficult to overcome, and wants to give up.

If you want to save your love, then you should first let him stand on the same side as you, and if you want to stand on the same side, then the "enemy" you need to face is both of your parents.

Why don't you argue with your ex after a breakup? Redeeming love is the easiest way to get back together.

If it is love, we need to understand and cherish each other. For you, I think that the house is not a hard indicator to buy, and your family is right to fight for you, after all, I don't want you to have a stable residence in the future, and you will feel insecure and unreliable; But I think it's all communicable from this, it's just a matter of cherishing it or not.

When two people meet together, running-in, recognition, care, management and care, it is not easy to listen, in the beginning of the first time, don't say their courage, when can they meet the right one. It is really difficult for a working-class family to buy a house, not to mention sincerity, family culture and ideas may be different, and the degree of understanding of the house and some foreign objects and materials is also different; This has led to a lack of agreement between perceptions and inconsistencies in plans for the future.

I think you are the most woman, there are some things to be reserved, but don't be stingy with your love for men. The most important thing for a man is to save face, the family does not have you money, a good child will not embarrass the parents at home, he also has to think a lot, in fact, you can communicate and solve this problem in it, you just need to talk to your parents about it, but your subjective still does not want to give up the idea of buying a house, is to support your father, I hope you can objectively and correctly recognize your own psychological expectations, and then consider whether to save this relationship and fate, or others.

This matter is not about who is right and who is wrong, it is originally necessary and difficult for each person, and the important thing is how to pay and cherish. What is one's own is one's own, not one's own forced not to come; Think about it, and don't let the love be cold and regret it.

It's up to you. First, find a richer boyfriend who is better for you, and break up with the current "peace"; Second, overcome the contradiction between the two fathers and be with this only child who is separated from each other. However, you must be strong in the future, give outsiders a feeling of "I have the final say in this family", and make your father feel that he is not marrying his daughter but getting a good son-in-law, which requires your boyfriend to come over more and be courteous, which is a necessary means.

Marriage is never a matter of two people, and it is regrettable not to "attack" the parents and relatives of both parties with the belief that they will win, and finally get a hasty result. I hope that our only children can overcome all difficulties and be responsible for life, marriage, and children. in Shenzhen.

People can't get out of the house, and if you force it, everyone will feel that the door is not right.

After all, your family has a lot of houses, but there are not so many people.

Judging by the way you look, you should also be very obedient to your parents.

If the parents are unwilling, the two people will not be happy together, and they will not hurt each other if they are separated.

Why don't you think about whether your father's face can be wronged, and you have to be wronged by the relationship between the two of you? In the end, you also feel that the relationship between the two of you is not worth much, at least not the money for a house, so what is there to say, it is impossible for any man to live for the face of another man.

That's a big hurdle. It is now customary for the man to leave the house, and your boyfriend is not unspeakable, but he is affected by the family conditions. If you can accept him as a person, it is recommended that you do the work of your family, or marry your boyfriend when he is able to do it a few years later.

The house is originally for living, don't say anything about investment, since you have an existing house, why can't you overdo it? Personally, I think your family is a bit excessive, to put it mildly, this is a sale of your daughter. If you really want to get married, I recommend that you do more work as a family member.

Judging from your situation, it may be very big to have a house in the future, so let the two of you do the ideological work of your parents and compromise it.

Love him why do you want a house, love a house or love money, because these breakups, is it worth it, no matter whether your boyfriend can buy a house or not, you shouldn't mention the house, the person you want to love, can't be measured by money.

I'm also going through these things, and I'm suffering from these things, and I've just talked to my boyfriend, but I chose to work together, he doesn't have a house, and he can't even afford it, and my family is better than him, but even so, my parents don't object, they still choose him, love only you are prepared, are you willing to accompany him to get better, I believe in him.

Your boyfriend is a potential stock and his family conditions are relatively good, why do you want him to buy a house now? How about buying it back in two years?

His parents are teachers, he has a pension, he is a police officer, and he works ***. Where else can you find such a man?

I send you four words: contentment and happiness.

Maybe you're not as good as him when you find the next one. You have to think about being a person and doing things, don't just look at the present.

I think you have to apologize to him.

Break up, just break up, I really love and won't break up because of a house.

In fact, the two of you, and even the two of you, are not ready for us to become a family.

I don't think a man who has a fixed place to live should even think about getting married and having children. It's okay to eat bran by yourself, but do you want future children to suffer with you? While not working hard to improve their abilities in all aspects, on the other hand, they have to drag down women and children, and they have to stand on the moral high ground to condemn women A man is simply unworthy of being a man!

You're right. But you have to be responsible for the decisions you make, and you want him to buy it when you know he can't afford it? From a man's point of view, choosing a partner is like choosing a car, what kind of economic ability to drive what car, luxury cars are naturally comfortable, but maintenance costs are also expensive.

Obviously, he can't afford to drive your luxury car. It is also logical to give up. It's right to be nice to you, you should decisively let go and look for the person who can afford to drive your two luxury cars.

Of course, don't overestimate yourself, because you may not be a luxury car, but the maintenance cost is relatively high, so there will be few people who choose you in the end, and your range of options will be smaller. Love, there is no right or wrong, only willingness or unwillingness.

It depends on what you think, marriage is different from love, if there is love between you, it is your fault, if it is just a simple marriage without early emotional investment, your behavior is understandable.

I'm in a similar situation to you. But my male ticket is even worse at home. His parents were ordinary farmers.

The family has more than 200,000 savings, but it is also a drop in the bucket for buying a house and making a down payment. Fortunately, he is a graduate student, and he is quite self-motivated. But his salary still has to support the family.

My family has a new house in the city, which my parents prepared for me. Although he promised that in the future, we will have our own suites in the future, but from the current point of view, we have no ability to do so. I'm also struggling right now.

You are in control of your own happiness, and you are 29 years old if you say a bad thing. Think about how many opportunities there are to do it all over again.

If you can't take it out, your family has to ask others to take it, so go find a rich family and save face.

I also face the same problem, and have broken up, even if I am very heartbroken, very uncomfortable, two years of relationship can not withstand no house, a woman is 30 years old and is about to plan to have a child, can not be delayed any longer, no house will be very painful, rented house, most of the landlords do not want you to have children in it, some people will feel dirty, how pitiful it will be to be kicked out with a big belly, I am saying that confinement is not my own home, it will definitely be very uncomfortable, and the child will go to kindergarten in two or three years, I can't go to school without a hukou or a house, I really feel heartache when I think of this, it's not that I don't love anymore, I can't love anymore in the face of reality, it doesn't matter if we women share weal and woe, it doesn't matter if we eat bran and swallow vegetables, but I don't want my child to suffer as soon as he is born, there is really no way, renting a house and getting married is really unstable.

If people are not greedy, they will be free of trouble, so this is purely normal, you don't have to keep it in mind, you have to talk about things, face the reality, don't force it, otherwise you will regret it.

I'm the same, I've been in bai for five years, my boyfriend hasn't gone to college, my family is rural, I'm a bachelor's degree in college, my parents are teachers, my boyfriend Rong Dad only made a down payment of 200,000, and let us find a wrong place, and the remaining more than 500,000 for us to pay back, and I have never taken the initiative to buy a house in five years, and now I have to let me run to buy a house to buy a house.