Why do I always feel that I haven t played well after a quarrel?

Because when you calm down and think about it carefully, you feel that you have more reasons, and generally when we quarrel, our brains are running fast, so we will miss a lot of important things, and when we calm down, we will think of more and more things, and we will feel regret because of this.

Because some people are particularly sensitive, when he quarrels, the experience is highly concentrated, and then at this time the brain turns fast, and at this time the brain is not clear, very chaotic, but can not calm down, so at this time I can't think of how to quarrel with others, after completely calming down, at this time the brain is clear, so in retrospect the moment of the quarrel I feel that I didn't play well.

When I quarrel, I always feel that I haven't played well, I think it's because I hate this person very much, and I want to give this person a bigger blow, and I want to let myself have a feeling of being superior in this quarrel, because I have also felt like this, and I always feel that I can't quarrel hard enough when I quarrel. I want to feel like I'm a little bit better.

Because when quarreling, I always bring negative emotions to quarrel with others, so I can't think of some words that can make the other party speechless, and at the same time let myself even be sufficient, until I calm down afterwards and think that I said a lot of things that shouldn't be said, and the things that should be said didn't get to the point, so it's the most painful thing to quarrel with.

When we quarrel, each of us is irrational, especially when the quarrel is particularly fierce, then some of the things we said at that time, maybe we ourselves will not find that it is inappropriate to say such a sentence, just want to blindly vent our emotions, so after that, we feel that we have not played well.

This is because two people in the process of quarreling, there is no time to think so much, just thinking about winning the fight, not thinking about how to solve the problem, so there is such a situation, which is a very common situation, because people in a fierce process, there is no way to think too much.

Almost everyone will finish arguing when they quarrel, and I have discussed this with my roommates before, because everyone thinks that they should be the strongest, and they are full of confidence in themselves, and they will feel that they really didn't play well just now, and if you do it again, you will definitely be able to scold him for a bloody head.

After the quarrel, I feel more and more that what I say is not ruthless enough hahaha, what I say is not technical enough, and what I say is not angry enough to the other party, maybe this is a kind of human psychology. Just like some people always regret the beginning, people always think about why they don't do a good job after doing something, and always meditate in their hearts, "I knew this and knew that earlier".

Because when you quarrel, your mind is not as clear as when you calm down, and when you quarrel, you don't think about what the other party's next sentence is, you are busy dealing with the sentence just now, first talk about it, and after the quarrel, you will think about what he said. I would also think about what the other party might do after hearing me say this, and then think about how to scare him until he was speechless. So you feel that if you start again, you will play better and win more "exquisitely".

When you quarrel, your anger is dominant, and you can't think rationally about words, and after a quarrel, you will think about what you said in the quarrel, and you will feel that you haven't played well.

Doing anything, you basically feel like you didn't play well at the time afterwards, and that's human nature. Theoretically, arguing is also a craft, and since it is a craft, like swimming, playing guitar, etc., the more you "practice", the more proficient you will become.

What's more, quarrels are the same as playing the guitar and the like, they are all immediate, unlike writing and doing thinking questions, which can also make you think slowly, consider and revise the whole picture, and the task of immediacy cannot be thought about slowly.

So don't dwell on this issue, if you quarrel for a living, you have to have such professionalism, not to mention, the quarrel you "didn't play well" was not recorded, and after many years, who remembers?

So, fight less and exercise more. In addition, life is like this, it will never be perfect, because it can always be better, and the key is that even if it is not perfect, it is necessary to fully accept this imperfection, enjoy the current state, and pursue a better state, which is the only way to happiness in life.

This is because when quarreling, I often don't speak sincerely, and I always don't have the right words, and I don't have any coherence when I speak, and my emotions at that time are also very impulsive, so I am very irrational, and I always feel that I haven't said all my things after a quarrel, and I haven't expressed all my opinions.

Because after a quarrel, you may feel that you didn't say what you wanted to say, and you didn't find your emotions, so you think that you didn't play well, and it was also because you loved yourself too much.

Because every time I quarrel, I am very angry, and those contradictions are getting deeper and deeper, and I feel that I have not expressed them clearly.

It's because of the lack of practice, haha.

In fact, you don't have to feel it, it's really not playing well. Doing anything, you will basically feel that the fierce ants did not play well at that time, which is human nature.

Because when you quarrel, you are hot-headed, your thinking is not clear, and when you quarrel, you don't think about the other party's next sentence, right, you are busy dealing with his sentence just now, first talk about it, after the quarrel, you will think about it in your mind, think about what he said, in addition to saying that, how can I sift through it, in my mind. I would also think about what the other party might do after hearing me say this, and then think about how to scare him until he was speechless.

So if you do it all over again, you're going to play better, you're going to have a better time.

Because most of the quarrels are actually improvised, they belong to the on-site emergency treatment, the time is tight and the situation is changeable, so it is difficult to consider it thoroughly. So you feel like there's no logic.

Arguing is also a craft, practice makes perfect, and you will find yourself capable when you quarrel.

Most of the quarrels in life may be because of disagreement, or not cooperating with work, and you can't quarrel if you can be reasonable, I mean you can't be angry, you just quarrel, if you don't want to be angry, you will say less, and sometimes you can't win and are unreasonable.

Don't talk to fools about the short and long.

Maybe sometimes you feel like you're in a pocket when you lose a fight, and if you don't think you're too much when you win.

In fact, having this kind of thinking shows that you are kind, even in anger, you still do not choose words, foul language, and pick on sore spots.

1. After a quarrel, I always feel that I didn't play well: it may be because he deals with problems in the wrong way, for example, when he can't control himself, you will also think directly, instead of transferring your thoughts to others. At the same time, you will also have doubts about his performance, which will lead to conflicts.

2. The pressure of his work is too great, which leads to his inner conflict; Or he often argues with his family, causing him mental stress.

3. He has too many shortcomings, which leads to too many shortcomings that he disturbs. For example, he likes to challenge and change in his work, he tends to focus more on practical actions and work harder and harder to create.

4. Some small details in his usual work cause him disgust, and even affect his work and life.

5. He thinks his values are incorrect. For example, he thinks he is neglected, not good enough, and too aggressive.

6. He obviously doesn't love me, but he is entangled with another woman.

7. He just complains, not really cares.

8. He doesn't really love me, but he is dissatisfied with me, and he doesn't love me at all.

9. He is accustomed to relying on others, rather than relying on Li Ying.

Personally, I think that after quarreling with anyone, what you should think about is not whether you can play well, but why you quarrel and what is wrong with your side. The contradiction between people stems from the fact that they both feel that they are right, and what both parties think is correct is not on the same line. If people can treat problems from the perspective of the other party, the contradictions between people will be reduced a lot, but it is easy to speak, difficult to do, and few people can do it.

But we have to walk on this road no matter what, for our own situation, for our own life. The better you play in a fight, the more you hurt the other person, but if someone asks you if you are willing to hurt someone, you will definitely answer - no. As long as there is harm, it must be on both sides.

Take a step back and open the sky.

If you assume that the person you are fighting with is your good friend or relative, then after the quarrel, maybe your feelings will not be that you have not played well, but that you will feel a little wronged, sad and guilty. So since it's a quarrel, no matter how well it is played, it hurts both parties. It is not wise for people who are disgusted to get the upper hand in a quarrel and get a temporary sense of psychological satisfaction.

Dislike this person may just be his style and character, if it is a colleague after all, he still has to be a colleague after all, if he is a friend, after all, he has to see each other for the rest of his life, disgusted that he can be complete, but he can't bring this mood to doing things. You can not have a deep friendship with people you dislike, but when you encounter things that need to be dealt with together, you should focus on the things themselves, and don't bring too much personal emotional color. Of course, the best response to disgusting people is to improve their talents and values.

When we quarrel, we all fall into the mood or things, and there is basically no way to think rationally, so many times when I say that I am willing, not the real expression of meaning. If we want to prevent this situation, when the initiative is in conflict, both sides will calm down and wait until the mood has passed before discussing and dealing with the problems that arise, but both sides must establish the foundation that they both want to actively deal with the problem, instead of using the Cold War to escape, because this will not be able to deal with the problem. If you communicate with your mood, you will inevitably say things that make the other party and me sad, and the gains and losses are equal.

When you say what comes in, you say it unintentionally, and the listener has it intentionally, and if you say more, it will come true.

If it is a quarrel between the husband and wife, let alone not playing well. As the saying goes, when it rains, it flows openly. The little couple quarreled without worrying.

Noisy in front of the bed, closed at the end of the bed. Husbands and wives quarrel, and no one is right or wrong. It is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs.

Discount your arms in your sleeves, you don't have to divide the spring file between you high and me low, you are wrong about me. As the saying goes, men quarrel with lawsuits, and women quarrel with poverty. Remember one sentence, five words floating in the sky, nothing is a thing.

Something will pass in a while, and everything will prosper at home.

This situation shows that you are affected by your emotions. The reason why you feel that you are not performing well when arguing about the pure manuscript liquid rack is because you have not properly handled your own emotional problems.

When I quarreled, I was more excited, and I couldn't think of a lot of diss on the other side's points, so I could usually only react at the moment, but more arguments would actually only be able to react after the quarrel with Wang Yuan, and it would take time for Daling to deal with the incident.

Because you are a person who will be swayed by emotions, anger will rise during a fight, and you will not speak through your brain.