The difference between men before and after marriage is so big that I can t bear it anymore

Is he a Leo man? How do you look so much like me, but I'm a woman!! I quarreled with my husband and wanted a divorce, and my husband was also sad to death, but in fact, I didn't think so in my heart I said divorce just to let him let me do it, make him afraid, and know that I would leave him at any time, in fact, I love him very much, and I will definitely not divorce!

It's possible that your husband's heart is the same as mine, but you are a little wronged, be more tolerant, because if one person in the family has a bad temper, the other must be tolerant, my husband is like this, I feel guilty every time I make a fuss, and I try my best to be good to him, to make up for the words that hurt him in the last quarrel, and he was moved to death!

The two of them try to communicate more, communicate more, understand each other, think more from his standpoint, of course, you can't let him do anything wrong, grasp it yourself, if it's really not suitable, there is no way to divorce It's not that I want to break you up, this matter has to be carefully considered!

Since we're together, don't say anything that hurts your feelings, talk about it, live a good life if you can, it's really not okay, if a man is so unproductive, there will be no happiness in the future Long pain is better than short pain.

Hey, I'll just give you one sentence, talk to your husband for a long time, and talk seriously about it once.

After all, I'm sure you love him, don't you?

In addition, I should also review myself, is it really wrong?

Feelings are a matter of two people, not what anyone says.

Marriage is something that you will regret later, the grave of love, you know it, just grind it slowly! Life oh ......

It's not that men are changing, it's all changing, from blandness!

Let's do a review!

When he chases you, he is like a grandson, and when he gets you, he talks back like a son. You think you can find a man to shelter you from the wind and rain, only to find out that all the wind and rain are brought by this man.

I don't think he loves you much, you don't want to talk to him

Summary. If the husband changes a lot before and after marriage, one of the most likely reasons is that the other party may be pretending to be exposed once they get married.

If the husband changes a lot before and after marriage, one of the most likely reasons is that the other party may be pretending to be exposed once they get married.

If this is the case, I believe you must examine his character and not relax because you are married.

Either it means that the other party is actually in order to love you, or he can make some changes in the argument of the lack of a brother. So if it doesn't involve issues of principle, it shouldn't be a big deal.

You can directly talk to the other party about your doubts, see how he is, and then make changes to the other lines of Iwadai Xiao. You also have to change the other way of looking, see what he thinks, how he thinks, and then make a decision based on his reaction according to the rough draft. If the other person makes some bad changes, you must say it to his face so that he has a chance to correct it.

The image has changed too much - if the years are a knife to kill pigs, then marriage is a pig feed. Every greasy married man used to be a little fresh meat. This should be the biggest change that is visible to the naked eye for many married men – gaining weight.

As the progress bar of the marriage slowly lengthens, the men's faces also widen horizontally; The neck is also getting shorter; The belly is also developing in the direction of "pregnant August" day by day.

<> this is the person who finally found a pick-up, so give up on yourself? Everyone's wife should be rewarded with a pennant - a professional pig farmer.

Psychologically, he is becoming more and more Buddhist - his wife and children are hot on the kang, and life is like thisBefore marriage, he was a young man with strong blood, but after marriage, he became a submissive uncle. Life is very good now, I don't want to change much, and it's best to maintain my current happiness, so I am decadent. Before marriage, you are a treasure, and after marriage, when you are grass.

This should be a problem that many women encounter. Before you get married, you ask him to come over and take a picture of a cockroach, he runs faster than anyone else, and after marriage, you may need to be alone and calm to face a lot of unknown things, and he is expressionless on the side. In fact, a man's thinking is really not in the same dimension as a woman, he thinks it's normal, married, who is still the same as before, my parents don't live like this.

But women are different, women don't enter life so quickly and peacefully, they still need romance and pampering, men can become their fathers in one day, but women need a long time to be their mothers.

<> have said all that, let's summarize it below. In life, many women complain about their husbands. There are big changes before and after the wedding.

Sometimes they even feel like they've turned one person into another. Among them is the issue of men. For example, after the novelty has passed, men's enthusiasm for women has significantly decreased.

As the saying goes, a person is an animal that doesn't pay much attention to his body. When he doesn't have a woman, he will be reluctant, then he will try his best to approach the woman, and then he will try his best to pursue the woman.

Of course, after marriage, there will also be losers, loser girls, loser men, she is greedy for enjoyment, eating, drinking, prostituting and gambling, and spending extravagantly, causing serious harm to herself and the family.

Therefore, when talking about love, you must understand it clearly, don't look for a loser girl, and don't find a loser man.

Men do feel very sorry for girls when they are in love, and they will do everything for girls, and they often hold girls in the palm of their hands. But once they get married and walk into marriage for many years, the man seems to have changed a lot. They are no longer gentle with girls, and they are no longer willing to create romance.

In fact, in the final analysis, it is a change in concept. For men, I already have this woman, and she's already mine anyway. This is a common thought that men have.

And this kind of thinking is also constantly changing men, they are no longer cautious about girls, and many men will have this idea after a few years of marriage.

After a man gets married, his attitude towards his other half will change, mainly because of the change in identity and role, and the perspective of looking at the relationship will also change. In the past, he may have tried his best to pursue you and be nice to you, trying his best to show those romantic tricks in front of you. He will do this because you don't belong to him yet and your relationship is uncertain, so he wants to cherish you and keep you with him.

However, when you get married, things are different. You are no longer his lover, who may leave him at any time, but his wife and his loved ones in the legal sense. In the face of a woman who has completely belonged to him, a man will inevitably have nothing to fear.

Of course, some of the changes in his attitude towards you may also be because he feels that you are no longer an outsider, so there is no need to be polite to you. In addition, the stress of married life and the sense of responsibility for the family can also change a man's attitude towards his other half. At this time, the man's thoughts about love will slowly be taken over by other things.

When he no longer pays attention to the relationship, his attitude towards the other half will naturally become less clingy and enthusiastic than before.

Before getting married, men are more likely to take various ways to win the approval of their girlfriends, whether it is sweet words or courtesy, so that women are willing to go home with him as a wife (except for men in the game world, of course, such men will be more considerate and understanding of sweet words than men who aim to get married), and after marriage, they are protected by the law, and their mentality is naturally a little different.

Because before marriage, a man may just be a little boy, and then they just need to eat and have fun every day, but after marriage, men need to take on more responsibilities, so it will be different before and after marriage.

This is because many men will not cherish their married life after marriage, or they will be very disgusted with their wives, or they will be consumed by trivial things in life, or because there is too much pressure in life, so it will lead to a completely different man before and after marriage.

Because a man feels that falling in love is different from getting married, because after getting married, he will feel that you are more like family affection, that is, he is at ease with you, and after marriage, men will focus on their careers, and they should focus on you when they fall in love.

In fact, both men and women will change a lot before and after marriage, the key is to change in which way, good or bad?

For example, a college classmate of mine was very optimistic before he got married, but after he got married, he often quarreled and fought because he and his husband did not agree with their values, and now his temper has become irritable, and he has changed a lot compared to before, and he is still in the process of divorce.

But it can't be killed with a stick, and there are many changes that are getting better and better, so it can't be said that marriage is gambling, the key is whether to choose the right person and how to get along, here are 5 experiences, I hope it will help you.

First: the key is to choose the right person, thinking about two people and two families.

As the saying goes, men are afraid of entering the wrong business, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man; If you choose the wrong marriage partner, it's really torture; Before getting married, many women only consider their boyfriend's personality and whether their values are compatible.

But ignoring the boyfriend; After getting married, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is conflicted, and if the husband does not handle it well at this time, it is really torturous to be caught in the middle.

Therefore, before getting married, you should not only consider whether the two people are compatible, but also consider the concept and style of the boyfriend and his parents, for example, some mothers-in-law think that the woman is snatching her son from her, and will often trouble the daughter-in-law, resulting in family disharmony.

Second: make progress together, such as reading books and learning and training together, and educating children together.

Only by maintaining common progress can we continue to communicate, which is the preservative of love; If one party develops very fast and the other party falls behind, then sooner or later the marriage will go wrong; Besides, the family atmosphere is very important, two people reading books together, not only can progress together, but also increase the frequency of communication, enhance feelings, and can also create a reading atmosphere for children, if the two often play games, then communication becomes less, there will be problems, but also to create a game environment for children, after all, children will imitate the behavior of their parents.

Third: communicate more.

After getting married, more communication will eliminate a lot of misunderstandings, many times the quarrel between husband and wife is caused by a trivial matter, and there is no timely communication, and the result is more and more extensive; After marriage, often cooking or cleaning together, traveling together, and maintaining some romance will deepen the relationship and happiness.

There is also a very important thing, give each other a space after marriage, don't think that the man is married to you, it belongs to you alone, he still belongs to his parents, to his colleagues, friends, company, and even society, don't think about controlling each other, the same is true for men, don't control women, she also has her own circle of girlfriends, leave a little independent space for each other.

If the above is done well, marriage is not only not a gamble, but an eternal love, growing old together, family harmony, and a happy life journey.

The boy has really changed a lot before and after marriage, he may be very enthusiastic about you before marriage, and his enthusiasm for you will slowly become cold after marriage, so your own mentality needs to have a change.

At present, the observation is quite big, because of the responsibility of the family, may not pay much attention to the image, and gradually began to run for money, have a beer belly and so on.

Because men still change a lot before and after marriage, because after marriage, men generally don't have to go to great lengths to pursue each other, so that they will no longer pay so much attention to their appearance, and they don't need to pay attention to their partners at all times, but instead spend more time on themselves, so men still change a lot before and after marriage.

The change should still be relatively large, because after marriage, men may have more pressure.

There are still a lot of changes, some people pay a lot of attention to their image before they get married, and they become very sloppy after they get married.