I don t think I m doing well at anything, but people say I m not doing well, and I m very angry

Do things know how to reflect on whether they are good enough, which is very good in itself, can provide more space for their own development, the same thing fails, the difference between excellent people and mediocre people is that excellent people know how to reflect and summarize, and know what they can still improve, so that they can have a better performance next time.

On the one hand, you have a strong self-esteem, and on the other hand, you feel that you have really put in an effort for it, and you do not allow others to make irresponsible comments.

In general, your psychological quality is not very stable, and you care too much about other people's opinions. With the richness of your experience, you will slowly mature, and if others say that it is not good, then you must figure out what is wrong, it is indeed your own problem, or it is a bone in the egg. Being able to listen to the opinions of others and being able to objectively and calmly deal with others' evaluations of oneself is a manifestation of psychological maturity.

Go your own way and let others do it Hehe, just kidding! In fact, many people have the mentality of you. Including me, too.

Anyway, I already know that I am not doing very well, but I can't allow others to say that I am not doing well. In fact, this is not an ambivalence, but too much self-esteem; The mouth grows on other people's faces, and you can't stop them no matter what they like. I can only try to balance my mentality a little bit and relax a little wider.

Try to think about the bright side, for example, maybe people just expect a lot from you and want you to do better? Then you strive to do things better, and next time others don't have no reason to say anything about you? In fact, I think everyone understands the truth, the most important thing is to maintain a good attitude at all times, don't care what others say or do, and have a clear conscience.

I hope you succeed and be happy!

As long as you work hard, everything will be fine; Be serious, it's not a big deal, don't care what others say, as long as you have a clear conscience!

It is recommended that you take a look at Yu Dan's Analects and Zhuangzi's experience, which will be of great help to you!

Mouth on others, let them speak, just think it's good.

Caused by low self-esteem, hehe, give yourself more healthy psychological hints.

If another person says that you need to precipitate, most of them have some opinions about you as a person, or feel that you are too frivolous and exaggerated, so only by slowly precipitating can you make your character better and be able to really achieve things.

The meaning of precipitation is actually to let a person keep his heart calm, so that he can not think about some other things at this time, and only then can he do a good job in a down-to-earth manner, which is a kind of exhortation for you by a person.

It also shows that you may indeed have some problems when doing some things. You can think about whether you are always too frizzy when you are talking or doing things, causing yourself to do these things badly, or leaving a bad impression on this person in a certain shed.

So when you encounter this situation, you should first reflect on yourself, and if you encounter this situation, you should quickly change your own practice. Because it's very bad if someone else thinks of you like that.

Others will hang up your whole person and this bad image, so when you encounter this kind of thing, others will feel that you are not a good person, so many times you don't have a better opportunity.

And when someone says something like this to you, they are actually advising you about something, but the best way for you to do this is to heed the other person's advice.

And when a person talks to you in such a tone, he must be older than you, have experienced more things than you, or this person's status is higher than yours, which means that he may deliberately want to nudge you, so you must humbly accept that in the future, you may get more things from him.

And if you don't choose to accept the other party's suggestion at this time, maybe there will be more and more problems between the two of you, and even when you really encounter something in the future, the other party will definitely not give you a chance, on the contrary, it is likely to put you into a particularly bad situation all of a sudden, so you will regret it very much.

In many cases, when we encounter some setbacks and difficulties, we tend to give ourselves certain psychological hints, wanting to relieve our inner anxiety and tension through this psychological hints, and often this mental hints will indeed change our mentality and will have some positive effects on us.

For example, when we want to do something that is difficult to complete, or set a difficult goal for ourselves, but we have a strong desire to complete this thing and complete this goal in our hearts, and we have been giving ourselves a psychological hint in our hearts, thinking that we will be able to do it and achieve what we want, then we will be full of confidence in the process of doing this or completing this goal, and even if we encounter setbacks and difficulties in the process, we will not let ourselves waver.

On the other hand, when we encounter some setbacks and difficulties in real life, even if we can't find a good way to solve the problem for a while, as long as we give ourselves a clear psychological hint in our hearts, telling ourselves that the current difficulties are nothing, and we will be able to solve these problems, then driven by this state, we will be able to give full play to our greatest potential, so that we can finally find a way to solve the problem. So as to get rid of these setbacks and difficulties, let yourself really get a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, so, in real life, we must pay attention to the positive role of psychological suggestion for ourselves.

This first of all, we must correct our mentality, find out why others say that you are not doing well, and at the same time, don't be arrogant, do your best to do things, and take it seriously, then you are right to start yourself, nothing to be embarrassed about, doing things requires experience and familiar processes, you didn't do it well the first time, you can sum up the experience, the second or third time Zhu Yi corrected it, you can always do things well, don't care about other people's opinions about you, live in the moment and live yourself well The most important thing is to live well. Other people's opinions can't dictate your life, you are living for yourself, not for others.

Don't feel like you're trying your best, and if you try your best, you're limiting yourself. Hard work will not disappoint you, and you are worthy of your heart, more people will recognize a person who has been working hard than a capable person.

Just have a clear conscience. In addition, teach you three tricks:

First, write a summary often, so that you can make progress. The ancients said that I have three times a day and I have three provinces, which means that the ancients summarized three times a day, and you should also do the same, write a summary at least once.

Second, increase your memory and reflexes. To put it bluntly, it's about protecting the brain. In fact, many precepts of Buddhism can increase people's memory, but for those who do not believe in Buddhism, I don't know if you can accept it, such as holding the precepts, how many precepts are specific, how to hold them, you can go to the Internet to check.

Master Xingyun relied on chanting Buddha to increase his memory.

Third, if they are malicious, then bear with it. Forgive others in your heart, and slowly you will surpass others.

Only better, not the best, we are pleasing ourselves, not others, for unimportant people and things in the left ear and out of the right ear, don't add to yourself.

Why is this happening, people can

Once people feel that they are useless, they will become very sensitive, as if everything about themselves is very concerned by others, and others are particularly disgusted when they make mistakes. In fact, this is a wrong concept, when people have a sense of frustration, a sense of failure, and an inferiority complex, they will become a deformed understanding of the objective world, also known as deformation conflict, which is originally a trivial matter, but also feel serious, and others will look down on you with a look, in fact, if you can temporarily jump out of your own circle, take this as someone else, you will find that it is not so serious, many times people will not care too much about your other people's affairs. It's because you're a little bit mistaken about it, and then you choose to avoid it or run away, and then you may have interpersonal problems.

Don't care too much about other people's eyes, you have to imagine that you are the protagonist, you are the only protagonist in the world, they are your supporting role, if you continue to act, you will succeed, they are born to set you off, as long as you act boldly, you will definitely find that the world is really magical, as long as you are brave, anything can happen, you will become more and more lucky and happy, the key is whether you dare to take this step, always remember that you are the protagonist!! Believe that you can change everything, and miracles can happen everywhere!

Lack of confidence, think carefully about your own benefits, don't always compare yourself with others, don't care too much about what others think, do your own thing, you will feel that you are actually not bad.

Know what stupidity is? If you do something many times and still can't get it right, that's stupid. If you don't do it before, it's normal to do it if you don't do it well.

There are supermen in the world, but supermen are not earthlings. Give yourself more time. Don't jump to conclusions.

In the process of coming to this world, you are already a victor from the beginning of the cell. Don't care too much about what others say.

Even you are confident, why should others believe in you???