What s it like to make friends with someone who doesn t know how to pretend to understand?

In this era of rapid development, everyone wants to be the focus of others, some people are really capable, but at the same time there are a lot of people who don't understand and pretend to understand, their only reliance is their own mouth, that is, they can only talk, people who have never acted often give people the feeling that they just feel that he said how great he is at the beginning, and he also agrees with it, but he can never see his actions, that is, he will always stay at the level of just talking.

In fact, in my opinion, in this era when everyone thinks differently and has different ways of doing things, there is really no need to impose your own ideas on others, which will make others feel uncomfortable, and you yourself will feel that he is not angry for not following your ideas. It seems to me that there will be a few or more people around each of us, who are still in an era where they don't know how to pretend to understand, which is also a very naïve performance.

The ignorance shown by ordinary people and pretending to understand is completely to hide their inner incomprehension, and they are afraid of being considered an ignorant person by others, so they try to show that they are clear as much as possible. In fact, I think this kind of people are relatively naïve and fragile in their hearts, they may not have entered the society too much, and their thoughts are still stuck in the phenomenon of each of us trying to save face when we were children.

Sometimes you feel really irritated when you want to ask him to help you do something, he is very confident and shows that he is very competent, and you will hand over all this matter to him, but as a result, the invisible result may make you feel very disappointed, so in such a forced situation, it is recommended that you explain the cause and effect to him every time you say something to him, at this time he may show an impatient attitude, But as a friend, remember to be patient.

I really feel very powerless, I can't communicate at all, obviously there are some things she doesn't know as much, but she wants to tell you, and what she wants to talk about is completely out of the truth. You can't listen to it, and you can't refute her, and if you refute it, she will be even more energetic. <>

There is a girl in our class, who likes to pretend not to understand, and always likes to tell others. Every time we discuss an issue together, we are supposed to express our opinions. As a result, it turned out to be her lecture, and all the audience could only agree with her point of view, and not any opinion.

Occasionally you give him a suggestion, and she will give an example of a relative who has been through it, and that's what she said.

The most speechless time was that the school held an event where more than a dozen of us girls followed ** to learn dance. Everyone helps each other, whoever has which action standard will follow whomever learns, only she never listens to other people's opinions, and tells us that she is right. also said that he had read a lot of ** and summed it up.

made everyone speechless, and those who couldn't bear patience were about to be mad by her. There was a girl who liked to joke and talk to her"You learn best"。As a result, she really took it seriously, saying that she had only been in contact with it before, and she knew a little more than us.

At that time, everyone was quiet, and I instantly felt that this joke was so cold. I can't figure it out at all that when she looks in the mirror, she never feels that some of her movements are different from others. Every time she lined up, she was there by herself"Lonely and self-appreciative"。

For people who don't know how to pretend to understand, you can't change anything about her, and we don't know what kind of environment it is, which leads her to have that habit, sometimes don't worry about it, she said that if she knows, she will treat her as if she really knows. Otherwise, if you go to correct her, everyone will be unhappy.

It's just that I can't help but want to demolish him, endure it once or twice, and in the end, I may not be able to help it, and then I will pierce it.

But! Generally, this kind of person, even if you expose him, he will still not know how to pretend to understand next time, this may be a kind of character, it's not easy to change me, because they always can't help but show his strength in front of people, his knowledge, he may be psychologically unconfident, so he has to pretend to be forced, but after being exposed, he has no face and is even less confident, and he will continue to pretend to be forced next time.

There are really a few people around me who know this way.

One is a classmate we have known since elementary school, I don't think he has anything in elementary school, but in junior high school, I often hear him brag about how good his grades are, and blow to his family, it should be said that he actually lied to his family how awesome he is, how good his grades are, and then his mother shows off everywhere, and then exaggerates a little bit to show off pretend, almost as long as our family lives close to their home, we are tired of listening to their pretend, at the beginning it was that kind of embarrassing and polite smile, smile and pass, but, In the long run, we couldn't bear it, obviously the grades were not so good, I dumped him a few streets when my grades were the worst, and I also blew how good the grades were to our house, we couldn't bear it, so we all tacitly pretended to accidentally poke him unexpectedly.

Eh: Did he do so well in the exam this time? How come I didn't see Tale in the top 60 of our transcript? Did I miss it? ”

Once I missed it, and every time it's like this, it can't be that I missed it.

However, even if we all "accidentally" poke him, however, he can always find a reason to round the past, and continue to pretend to be forced next time, from junior high school to now, it has been six or seven years, pretending to be forced has never stopped, we have become a habit, there is no feeling, that is, we will silently complain behind our backs, or even look down on it, yes, yes, no, why do we have to pretend, we don't know that we can be deceived by you, it's really naïve.

I feel that this person is very hypocritical, not real at all, strong on the outside and on the inside, on the surface I feel that I can do anything, but in fact I don't know anything, and I hate it.

How do you deal with the kind of friends who like to pretend not to understand? This kind of person is very face-saving, obviously doesn't understand but pretends to understand very well, as if he understands everything, this kind of person is not responsible for the acceptance of many things or knowledge, and it is often himself who suffers, and he can't stand the test, so he is not as good as a down-to-earth person, we have to be the latter, don't deceive ourselves!

For the kind of friends who don't know how to pretend to understand, you have to stay away, such people are very delayed, and they won't give you good advice, such friends are not worth making deep friends, he won't go, and you have a heart-to-heart relationship. And such a person has a strong sense of vanity and will not benefit you, and with him, you will be very tired and have to deal with him, so there is no need to be with your family.

In this case, you just need to smile and speak softly, and then move on to another topic.

The more a person shows something, it means that he subconsciously feels that he lacks the most, and he still pretends to understand even though he doesn't understand, which shows that this kind of person can't accept his ignorance and is especially afraid of being looked down upon.

In this case, if you demolish him, the other party is likely to be angry and jump over the wall, making the atmosphere very awkward and very unseemly. Zeng Guofan once said, "Yang is good at the court, but he is too private", try to avoid exposing other people's shortcomings in public, which is not only hurtful and angry, but also not beneficial to both parties.

However, you can't be too enthusiastic to echo the other party, on the one hand, pay attention to treating each other with sincerity in interpersonal communication, and deliberately greet yourself will be labeled as "insincere"; On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with deliberately greeting the other party to think that they "don't know how to pretend to understand", and it will mislead the other party to develop bad communication habits.

So, if the relationship is good, talk about it privately; If the relationship is not so good, it is enough to smile and pass it off.

If you love him very much and have a strong relationship with him, you can start more heavily and find a good occasion to make a fool of him! In this way, we can shock him and make him mature and grow. Of course, it depends on whether your friend is in terms of the importance of the matter, if it is an important thing, it can be done in that way, so that he can feel it!

If your friend is just in general things, you can find his stubble in some small things, and you must keep looking for their stubble, so as to make him sharp and slowly smooth him! He can only restrain himself if he meets his opponent!

If you are a threesome, there must be one person who doesn't know how to pretend to understand. You only have to ask a few rhetorical questions, and this person will show his feet. When we go to school, we are always taught that what we know is what we know, and what we don't know is not what we don't know, and we don't know how to pretend to understand.

After work, we naively think that others are just as naïve as we are, and as a result, you seek truth from facts and become a victim of others who don't know how to pretend to understand.

People who don't know how to pretend to understand are actually his own self-deception, is a manifestation of his inner vanity, he is afraid that others will look down on him, but also another manifestation of inferiority, when facing this kind of person, you can give an ear to listen to it, he loves to show him to perform, you show your wisdom, see through it, give him enough space to develop, after a long time, everyone will find his shortcomings, everyone will continue to alienate him and not take his advice, slowly he will realize his own problems, If it is your dear friend, I suggest that you can find a time to talk, communicate, and correct his shortcomings, which will play a good role in promoting her own improvement, so that you will fulfill the responsibility of a good friend, I believe that if your friend is a sensible person, he will understand your good intentions!

It is not worth advocating if you don't know how to pretend to understand, but in fact, there are many people in life who like to pretend to understand if they don't understand, as if it is a shame to directly express that they don't understand. For such a friend, you can't debunk him directly, otherwise it is easy to cause misunderstanding. But you can't accept that he has always been in front of you and doesn't know how to pretend to understand, and you can't wronged yourself.

The best way to do this is when he says something and you don't respond or object. After a long time, he felt bored!

In this world, we don't try to change anyone, most people nowadays are more self-conscious and don't empathize. In the face of the kind of friends who like to pretend not to understand, we should not try to change the other party, since we don't want to accept it, let's be silent. Silent and noncommittal, not only different streams and pollution, but also expressed their own views.

For this kind of person, we choose to laugh and watch, time will tell.

You have to look at your attitude towards this friend, if you think that although this friend is very fond of pretending, but he usually treats people and things well, you just treat it politely, if his usual style is not very good, then you can expose him, so that he can't get off the stage directly, as long as you feel cool, you can do whatever you want?

For this kind of person, I think there are two ways:

1. Ignore it, no matter what he says, he should not hear it, and be his own (this method is suitable for those who don't want to cause trouble).

2. Pretend to inadvertently come up with the correct answer and slap your face hard (I personally prefer this method, but don't use it for children who are afraid of causing trouble).

Can you still debunk him to his face?

Then you may not be able to be friends in the future, others will also think that you are very mean, do not save face, in fact, what that kind of person is like, everyone understands in their hearts, but I don't want to embarrass the person who doesn't know how to pretend to understand, if you really feel that you hate this kind of person, then stay away from them, out of sight is pure, if you think this person has nothing else bad except for this little problem, then turn a blind eye, friends are to tolerate each other, maybe you also have shortcomings in the eyes of other friends, But this shortcoming does not affect you to be friends, so let's be tolerant.

Not knowing how to pretend to understand is a very superficial performance. If it's not something of principle, you'll laugh it off, and if you can't get over it by debunking him, your friends won't have to do it. If it's something important, you have to be realistic and don't let him dictate things.

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Say whatever you say, you don't hear it. Or is there a version of him who is far away from him when he is there, and his eyes are not upset? You don't have to be so serious about others, after all, it's not you, and you can't watch it if you can't get used to it.

I used to see a person who was particularly unpleasant, and I wanted to beat him up as soon as I saw him, and then I persuaded myself, why didn't I look at him well, he didn't treat you well, what did he want to do with him, what does it have to do with you, so slowly I won't have that feeling. It's also a way to self-regulate! You can try.

A person does not.

If you know how to pretend to understand, you are not responsible for yourself, isn't there a saying called "ask without shame"? If you don't know how to pretend to understand, you will have less things and knowledge that you should understand, this kind of person doesn't feel annoying in my eyes, sometimes, this kind of don't know how to pretend to understand, it is necessary, it is necessary, or you ask too many questions, some people will think you are annoying, so you have to pretend to understand, and then you want to understand, so you just ask other people So this kind of person will not be annoying, at least I think so Generally, there are two kinds, one is really not understanding, pretending to understand, and the other is understanding a little, but not professional, How to deal with it, in fact, it's good to laugh at it, and generally don't know how to pretend to understand it will definitely not cause this topic themselves, so since people are in this circle, someone brings up this topic, of course, I don't want to be suddenly excluded, so I actively participate, I still want to talk to everyone, and then slowly I don't understand it, and the more outrageous it is, in fact, it is a process that I hope to be affirmed by everyone, and I may want to show myself to be recognized, in this process you may have scoffed, but there is no need to argue, After all, in the end, you completely refuted him, and it didn't do you any good, and you seriously damaged his self-esteem. If you really can't stand it, it's not bad to leave, or to say it separately afterwards.