I helped others in the same way, why didn t others help me?

In fact, this is very normal, you have to look a little opener, in this world except for your parents, lovers, rarely can meet people who treat you sincerely, the reality is like this, no matter how good you are to a person, that person may still not be grateful at all, you think you are good enough, but others don't care about it at all.

You may think that if you help him, he will definitely help you when the time comes, and he will "reciprocate with courtesy". But others don't necessarily think so, maybe they think that since you are willing to help him, then you are voluntary. That person may be cheeky.

It's thicker, generally speaking, it's really "courteous", since you helped him, according to common sense, he will also help you, or maybe he doesn't have high emotional intelligence. <>

I don't know what the relationship is between you, if the relationship is better, I think if you help him, he will definitely help you, otherwise it will definitely affect your relationship, and he will not stiffen your relationship for such a thing. The relationship is better, you help him, he doesn't help you, you can only say that maybe he is not worth your effort, as a friend, such a friend is okay.

There is also to see if the thing you help him is not a big deal for him, maybe he thinks that this matter is not a big deal, he can complete it yourself if he doesn't help you, and he didn't take it to heart what you helped him, because he felt that this matter had your help, and it was not very weighty. Or maybe you don't have much weight in that person's heart.

I can only say that you should pay more attention to yourself in the future, you have to understand that if you pay, the other party may not necessarily respond, don't think about it, if you pay, there will be a return, because this society is not so fair. If you help others, that's your own business, and it's okay if others don't help you, so think about it yourself.

Maybe others want to help you, but others are not as capable as you, or they have that convenience, and others can't help, so when you also encounter such a thing, others can only stand aside and can't help.

Maybe he is the kind of person who is ungrateful, he can help you, but he chooses not to help you, because he is afraid that after he helps you, he will have a bad impact on himself, or he is afraid of hurting himself, or he doesn't want to complete the loss, he gives up helping you, and he forgets that you have worked so hard to help him, so you know who he is through this matter, and don't have any more dealings with people like him in the future. <>

I remember when I was in the second year of junior high school, I knew a tablemate, she came to menstruation, every time she was very painful, very uncomfortable, she was the kind of person who couldn't straighten her waist. I saw that she was very pitiful, plus it was originally the same table relationship, every time she had a period, I would serve her food, buy things for her, I was afraid that she was hungry, try to buy her some warm things, such as hot milk, hot meals, porridge, etc., I brought it to her from the cafeteria, and trotted all the way.

But one time, I ate something cold, and when I came to menstruation, I was in a lot of pain, and when she saw me like this, she just comforted me and asked me if I was okay. When I went to eat, she didn't ask me a word, do you need to help you bring something, or I help you buy food, such a word has not been said, I felt very cold in my heart at that time, I was so good to her, but I just this time, but she didn't think at all, buy me a hot meal. Since then, I have been deliberately estranged from her, and she and I have never been good friends.

But slowly I understand, others don't help you is your duty, you help others is love, sometimes people are different, your true heart may, can not change someone else's true heart, so don't ask you to be good to others, others have to return the same good.

It stands to reason that it is your own business to help others, and others have not forced you to say that you must help them, and the other party is not obliged to see that you have helped them and help you. Although he may have owed you a favor because of your help before, he didn't say when he would pay it back, so it's very possible not to help. I think the next time you help someone, don't be so stupid and help, think more about the usual, and don't develop the habit that others take for granted.

I remember that I had a good relationship with a roommate, so I took the same general elective course in my usual classes. Because once she was not very well, she told me to help her sign in, and I think the teachers have passed it down to sign in, so sign it! Later, I couldn't go to that class because of some small things, and I still had to sign in, but she didn't do it, telling me to sign in on the podium, and after I asked others, she said that it was passed down to sign in, and I was very angry at the time, but think about it, just don't have too much contact with her in the future.

I think there are really a lot of similar things in real life, you may be quite polite when you first get in touch, and after a long time, you find that if you are humble in everything and think about everything, after a long time, she will feel that what you are doing now is what you should do, and she will not think about whether she should be treated the same. And then you feel why you did it, but you were treated unequally, and you were very distressed. In fact, to put it bluntly, to a large extent, you spoil the other party, so in the future life, be less good people, and when you do something, you should also look at the other party's character.

Maybe you have the ability, but they can't help it, and they have more than enough but not enough power. If you need help, you can tell the other person, you have to remember that everyone has something to do, and not all of them are always watching you, waiting to see when you need help in order to help you in time. So, for your help, maybe people don't know that you need help;

To put it bluntly, some things are just a matter of one sentence, how can everyone know if you don't say it? Don't think that if you help someone else, they will have to help you, if you really think so. I think there must be a deep resentment in your heart, and even full of complaints, so that you will have a bad relationship with your colleagues or classmates around you, you say, in the face of a nasty person, who wants to help you?

So don't think too much, and don't lose your identity because of a small thing. Usually have a good relationship with colleagues or classmates, so that they can help you in the first place!

Normally, we've all had the experience of doing something for someone else, but on the other hand, when you need help, that person is indifferent. The heart will be aggrieved and uncomfortable. <>

Just a few days ago, when I was scrolling through the circle of friends, I saw a high school classmate post a mood, although I don't know what kind of thing she encountered at the time, but through what she said, I feel that she should be similar to how you feel now. The content goes like this: "It's sad to compare your heart to your heart......I helped you with all my heart, and when I needed your help, you didn't even say a word."

From this sentence, you can imagine how cold she was at that time, in a difficult moment, how much she hopes that the people around her can pull her out of the predicament, and the sadness is not only because of things, but also has a lot to do with this person. "The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see the hearts of the people over time" at the critical time, so that you can see whether you are a real friend.

I don't know if this situation is similar to yours, if you think it's only this time, maybe she has some other reason for not helping you, you can give her another chance. If there is a next time, you help her and she is unwilling to help you, then, such a friend must not be deeply acquainted, it is better not to make friends. If I ask you for help again.

Start first and then take your time. Then it started to get perfunctory. Slowly alienate her.

In a few days, she won't be so stubborn about you. This is my personal opinion, just for reference.

I hope you don't worry anymore, if you don't help, you won't help, do you help him just to let him help you, since there is no help in the exchange, why bother and entangle, think about it the other way, because of this matter, you also recognize a person. Earned.

You may help others because you are a good person, and if others don't help you, it may be that others are not as helpful as you think.

When I was in junior high school, it was normal for everyone to borrow something from each other. At that time, I had just moved to a new position, and my classmates told me that there was a classmate who would not lend his things to others, and he didn't believe it at the time. After an interview, I found out that it was really Oh, I was really angry at the time, and I thought how could she be like this, it was really undeserved.

Later, when I got along with each other, she was willing to borrow something from her again, but she still didn't borrow when others asked her. That's when I realized that she wasn't stingy, she just didn't want to lend things to people she didn't know.

So in your situation, at best, it may be because you don't know each other well, so others don't want to help you. Of course, the general idea is that the other person is a selfish person who is not profitable for you, and he is not willing to help you. A lot of people think that things are your own business, and you don't give him any benefits, and he doesn't want to get anything from you, so he won't help you.

A lot of times, we choose to help others, but you don't think that others will help you when you have a problem, this is not mutual. If people don't help you, they will report him, and if you don't want to repay your kindness, don't kidnap others morally. So we can help others when we can, and we have the courage to refuse when we can't, which is also a kind of responsibility for ourselves.

When we need help, we can be willing to help us as soon as possible, but if we can't do it, we have to rely on ourselves, and there is always a solution to things.

Caigen Tan" said so:

The life of Zhang Ben is divided into high, and regression is progress; Treating others with leniency is a blessing, and it is the foundation of benefiting others.

What should we pay attention to in dealing with people in order to have the progress of interpersonal relationships and the accumulation of social resources?

It's really a big question, and the answer is to make profits.

Why is Zhang Ben, who is regressing and progressing?

When we do things together, the interests give way, the attitude takes a step back, but we have to do more things, so that our ability has been improving, and our influence has been improving, and the resources that can be created for the society are also increasing, which is progress.

If you are the second family, you have enough money to eat for a lifetime, and if you are the fourth family, you have enough money to eat for two or three lifetimes, you don't need to add more benefits, you just need to do more things.

Taking a step back refers to the transfer of benefits to others, and the career territory will become bigger and bigger, that is, the Zhang Ben of progress.

Your career is getting bigger and bigger, so this is the Zhang Ben of progress, what you want is the grandeur and progress of the career, is to make the society better and better, when people are willing to let you lead, your ideal can be realized.

Treating others is a blessing, benefiting others and benefiting oneself, so that others can benefit, and the relationship between others and you will be different, and others will become your true friends.

You have more and more friends, invisibly, some dangerous things, friends help you solve, in the process, some of the resources you need, friends help you accumulate.

Always benefit others, and there will be more and more friends, which is the foundation of self-interest.

But you are not for personal gain, you are for public affairs, not for private interests, and in the end, because you are generous to others, the benefits are given to others, and everyone helps you, and as a result, your ideals have been achieved.

Emerson once said, "When you help others, you also help yourself." "In life, setbacks are inevitable.

Everyone will face difficulties and need help from others, because the ups and downs of life cannot be smooth sailing. No one is so rich that they don't need help, and no one is so poor that they can't help others in any way. Thinking about it from another perspective, in fact, helping others is also helping yourself.

Think of those heroic models who sacrifice themselves for others, think about those unknown heroes behind the scenes, we should open our minds and try our best to help those who we have the ability to help.

When we are in trouble, we all habitually seek help from our friends. Because I can't solve it myself, I will ask for help from the people I feel are closest to. This will also lead many people into the misconception that because you are my friend, when I ask you for help, you can't refuse me for any other reason.

However, they have forgotten that it is their duty to help you when your friends are in trouble, and it is their duty not to help. Because this matter has nothing to do with them in the first place, it's just because they know you and have a good connection with you, so they have something to do with it.

They help you because they cherish the relationship between you, and they treat you as their friend from the bottom of their hearts. That's why he doesn't want to see you in such pain when you're in trouble, so he wants to lend a helping hand.

However, some people take this for granted, and feel that friends are meant to help. When they ask their friends for help and they don't do what they expected, they get angry and blame their friends.

However, they all forget the path that is your own business and that it is up to you to take responsibility for your actions. Your friend is not obligated to bear the consequences of this for you, this is not what he does in the first place, and it is only his duty not to help you.

When we meet friends who have saved us from fire, water and fire, we must know how to cherish them. At the same time, we should also bless a grateful heart and thank our friends for all that they have done for us.