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Because the future is foggy, and few couples are willing to carve out their own path in the fog.
Graduation season is breakup season" has been hanging over the heads of many college couples. It's true in real life, many college couples separate when they graduate, and they go their separate ways, and I think it has something to do with the fear of the future and the lack of confidence in love.
Campus and society are two different lives, and everyone knows it in their hearts. I also had an emotional experience in college, where the two of us had an argument at the age when we were about to graduate. He wanted me to live in his hometown, and I wanted him to live in my hometown.
Both of us are a little confused about the future, and we don't know what we will become after graduation, we both want to go back to our hometowns, and we both want to plant roots in places we are familiar with. But for us from different places, this is a very difficult problem to choose.
We both know in our hearts that choosing to go to each other's hometown is equivalent to choosing to completely pin our happiness on this love. However, social life is too different from campus life, and we do not have absolute trust in this love in our hearts.
Not every couple has the courage to overcome obstacles, and not every couple is willing to pin their happiness on each other. My college love ended when both of us were confused about the future, and both of us chose to return to their hometowns, but no one wanted to pin their happiness on each other.
I think we lack the courage and the perseverance to give everything for love. But in real life, most campus couples do not have such courage and perseverance, and they will break up at the end of their lives when they graduate.
At the end of the day, the reason why college couples choose to break up when they graduate is simply because they don't believe that this love can bring them happiness. Draw an end to your college love with a breakup, and maybe you can still have a good memory in your life.
When you no longer believe that love can bring happiness to life, this love may be doomed to break up is the end.
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Because when they graduate from college, many couples start their working lives, and many don't work in one place.
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The main reason why college couples choose to separate when they graduate is that the two people are not together anymore, and everyone has their own place to be busy with their own affairs, which will only happen.
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College couples choose to separate when they graduate because they are rarely together anymore and don't have the time and energy to manage the relationship.
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It's actually normal to be separated when you graduate, because two people are going back to different cities, so it's impossible to be together, and in this case, they will choose to separate.
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Many college couples separated after graduation, which is also because they entered the society, which is a completely different environment from their own campus, and the thinking of the two people has changed. There is no common language anymore.
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The main reason is that after graduating from college, the two people want to work in different places, so there may be a long-distance relationship.
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Most of them will be separated, and they will only be a little older after graduating from college, but for more than 20 years, they don't know where to go in the future. At this time, they met the right person and got married smoothly, yes, they are too lucky, and the probability is too small.
Maybe at the beginning, I didn't just think about getting rid of loneliness, but I also spread out the map and seriously planned the future, fantasizing that I could go hand in hand. It's just that at the end of the day, this planned future is not optimal for one of them.
We are all too selfish, coveting the warmth of being together, and on the other hand, we are trying to argue that not being together is for our own better future. And then trying to convince the other person to follow you is what the saying says is to make sacrifices to maintain the relationship. In the end, most of the two parties were less vigorous, unwilling to compromise, quarreled for a long time, and broke up.
Love in college is too romantic, most people want to fall in love without careful consideration of their future life, even if they persist until graduation, they will break up when faced with the cruel reality, the pressure of work and the test of time distance. There is a distance between reality and dreams.
We think that life is like Prince Charming and Snow White, but in fact it is more of a story of the poor boy and Cinderella. Everyone is the same, a boy who has just graduated is not richer and has a better life than a girl.
Love needs bread,The school romance is relatively pure, and boys and girls pay more attention to appearance and character. After graduating and entering society, both men and women will gradually discover the importance of family conditions, working class and salary. There is no doubt that romance is influenced by the environment.
There is a difference between the school environment and the social environment. In school, we think about happiness and happiness, and in society, we think about survival and a better life.
It may be heartbreaking without love, or it may be that there is no love that can transcend life and death to shock the hearts of the world. So most people are holding "You are just my companion on this journey, and now we are at the crossroads, you and I are strangers, so don't pass by, but we must be okay." mentality.
Falling in love is not a matter of one person, but two people supporting each other.
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Most couples separate after graduation, and a good buddy of mine is in his senior year this year and recently broke up. Let's hear about the idea that college couples will be separated after graduation.
(1) Because of many practical problems.
There was a mismatch in our plans, and I wanted him to stay here, but he didn't want to stay long. I want him to buy a house, and he doesn't want to buy it (I can't afford it for the time being). His parents also want him to go back to his hometown for development, and his parents will not come over in the future, plus his parents only have one son, so if he wants to provide for his parents, he can only go back.
(2) In the final analysis, it's because of not loving enough.
The conditions he had promised me in the past are no longer possible. Looking back now, I think it was only a matter of time before we broke up, because neither of us loved enough to be willing to sacrifice for each other unconditionally.
I agree that breaking up is too simple to challenge an uncertain future and take on the burdens of life.
So for this question, I think that if the two families can talk together, it will not be easy to break up, but it is not easy to talk about it. Parents are all from the past, they have a deep understanding of the warmth and coldness of the world, and they are even more reluctant for their children to live a life of hard and heavy life for the sake of temporary love. How many parents are really willing to accommodate their children and sacrifice for their children to leave their hometown and live a lonely life.
Fallen leaves return to the roots, and so do people. When I was young, I wanted to fight in a big city, but when I got older, my mind changed. Each of us can only change our destiny to a certain extent and within a certain extent, and most of the people who have really succeeded in changing their origins are living a hard life or paying a great price.
It is not easy to change a person's origin, bloodline, family, and clan, and these original factors will firmly limit us, so in the end, most people will stay in their original circle and intermarry with people in the same circle. This is the social reality and the rules.
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Not necessarily, but most couples break up.
Graduation is never just talking. Graduation means going their separate ways, it means that the world is scattered, and it means that some people are difficult to see again. Therefore, some people say that graduation is a sad season that blooms in every summer.
And for many campus couples, it seems that they can't escape the curse of "breaking up after graduation". After graduating, there are so many things to think about, and I can no longer do whatever I like like when I was in school, without any scruples. Work, marriage, life, more and more factors emerge, forcing love into a dead end.
What to do after graduating from college couples.
I think when you are about to graduate, two people should talk about their thoughts on the future, as well as the direction of development of the two people after entering the society, if two people can have a common goal and grow together, after all, there are still feelings in college, and the possibility of breaking up will be smaller.
Which couples who have not broken up after graduation I think have the following characteristics:
First: two people into the society after the common growth, some of the couples who broke up after graduation, most of them are a person quickly adapted to the society, a person is still in place, the concept of two people is slowly different, the attitude towards life is not the same, if two people can not make progress together, a person can not wait for you in front, after all, after entering the society, you have to learn to live, can no longer be as willful as in school.
Second: two people have a common goal in life, generally there are no broken up couples, they both know what they want in the future, two people work hard for this, two people work together for their future home.
Third: Be responsible for your feelings, two people have deep feelings, they both love each other deeply, and they will not easily give up because of difficulties in life.
Fourth: the support of the family, if the parents are not very optimistic, maybe in school, the opposition of the parents of both sides did not listen to the heart, and after entering the society, when the social reality is discovered, the family will consider the advice given to them, just like others say that love is lost to reality.
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"May we meet on a higher place".
—Foreword
Seeing this problem, it is precisely because I am also in a stage where I am about to graduate, and I can't help but think deeply, because when the school starts again, I will already be in my senior year, and my boyfriend and I are now facing such a stage, and the future development direction is very differentIf you ask me, do couples separate after graduating from college? I must say, no. I have constantly said to Professor Chen Guo of Fudan University, don't put all the responsibility on fate, only you know that there is really no way to overcome the factors that hinder you?
This sentence also gave me a lot of strength. Here's why I don't think college emotionally graduation will necessarily separate:
1. The real reason for the breakup is not graduation.
Many people choose to break up after graduating from college, but in fact, if you think back to it, what hinders you are, is it really graduation? Actually, no, it's the disagreement between two people about the future direction, the exhaustion of two people, the helplessness of two people after fruitless communication, and not enough love。Effective communication, coupled with problem solving, is the long-term way to keep the relationship going, and it is precisely because these two elements are missing in getting along that it leads to the final breakup.
But if there is a good communication, two people are more tolerant and brave, face problems together, and solve problems, then there is no such thing as breaking up in graduation season.
2. Love is destined to be full of setbacks.
The rose was beautiful, but his daring was full of thorns. Some love is praised by many literati and Moshi not only for the beauty it brings, but also for the courage to have all kinds of difficulties faced in love. Graduation is a breakup, this theory is based on the fact that two people have no courage to fight the pressure of reality, and finally choose to find a more compatible and relaxed person to get along, but I think it is just like rather than love, because if you really love each other, graduation cannot be a condition for breaking up
Rather, it may be the first problem you face together that needs to be solved. Therefore, graduation is not a sufficient and necessary condition for a breakup.
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Not necessarily, if you choose the path from the beginning, they will always be together.
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Many campus couples break up after graduation because everyone has to face the pressure of life after graduation, and then there will be a lot of consideration and measurement when they want to enter the society, which is easy to cause breakups.
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This shows that when couples fall in love, their emotions are not very strong, and after graduating from campus, they go their separate ways and get along with each other. If you really love each other, you will be able to go on.
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Because many people just want to find a playmate to accompany each other to graduate, they don't have a little relationship, and they will break up after graduation.
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Many campus couples break up after graduation, mainly because they can't accept a long-distance relationship, or maybe for other reasons. For example, the relationship can't last, or the influence of the family environment, etc.
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Because after coming out of the campus, they come to a new environment, and this is when couples will have different opinions, and they have the highest chance of breaking up.
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That's because campus couples are very unstable during school, and they go their separate ways after graduation, so the love is not strong and they will break up.
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The reason why many campus couples break up after graduation is because they each return to their hometowns after graduation or each has their own jobs and careers, plus they don't like long-distance relationships, and their relationship is not so good, so it will cause them to break up.
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