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Why not change your mind? Now that I have two families and two pairs of parents who are caring, how nice is it?
It's not about finding a partner to marry, you can only find one, and if you have two, you'll be bigamy. Besides, some people are married and have lovers.
The key is to have resentment against the original parents, if there is resentment, you can send it out, or write it, it will feel better, but you have to forgive them and be tolerant, after all, they are biological parents.
Don't be left out in the cold by the adoptive parents, it hurts their hearts, after all, there is the grace of parenting.
The key to everything is to be able to coexist peacefully with your cognition and behavior, so take advantage of it.
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This is their choice, abandonment of you, no matter what, this kind of harm is a lifetime, since they have chosen to abandon, they will not be given another chance, just as if there is no two people to put it, and live happily with the adoptive parents, provided that they have someone to take care of, if no one takes care of them, of course you have to help take care of them, because they have made mistakes, you can't make them again, abandon them, even if you are good to them, they will have infinite guilt towards you in their hearts, hey, what parents, me! Noble adoptive parents, don't leave them, the palms and backs of your hands are your mother's treasures! ~
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As an outsider, you may not be able to fully understand your feelings, but you can understand your inner contradictions and hesitations!
In any case, the kindness of the adoptive parents cannot be ignored, and the biological parents and themselves also have a continuous blood relationship.
Now I have grown up and have my own life, my own world.
Try to be tolerant and understanding.
After all, we only have one life.
Missed with hatred.
When will I be able to find it?
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What's the use of regretting it now. It mainly depends on the attitude of the girl herself. I think that since she knows her biological parents, she should still treat her adoptive parents as her own parents, and her biological parents as relatives or benefactors, after all, they gave her life.
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If your biological parents feel guilty about you now, I feel that I should be able to forgive him, my own mother has no adoptive mother, you must treat your adoptive mother as your biological parents, I have the same fate as you, but I will never forgive my biological parents The damage they caused me they can't make up for it in my life,
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Seeing you like this, to be honest, I can only say that it is great to be the adoptive parent of this girl, because I can't do it.
It's someone else's child, I came to take it, I brought it up, and I was afraid to leave myself and return to my biological parents.
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Originally, girls get married when they grow up, and their daughters sometimes have the feeling of raising them for others, let alone adopted daughters. If the adoptive daughter usually shows a heartfelt estrangement from the adoptive parents, the adoptive parents will be very sensitive to the fact that the adoptive daughter is not close to them, they will be sad, and they will be disappointed. The performance of adoptive parents is also sensitive to the fact that adoptive parents are not sincere to themselves.
Therefore, the adoptive parents and the adoptive daughter are very sensitive, especially after the adoptive daughter knows her identity, she will pay special attention to the adoptive parents to herself, of course, the adoptive parents will see the mentality shown by the adoptive daughter, they are also sensitive, for fear that others will say that they are not good to the adoptive daughter, and they are afraid that the adoptive daughter is not good to herself, and her hard work will be in vain. Adoptive daughters will also secretly compare the attitudes of adoptive parents towards themselves and towards their own children. I often spend time in disappointment or gains and losses, and it will affect my personality for a long time.
Therefore, people's feelings are cultivated, and family affection is accumulated bit by bit, and it is either bad or bad. Of course, there are still many adoptive parents who get along well with their adopted daughters, even more than their biological ones.
If you feel that there is a gap between you and your adoptive parents, you should first consider it from your own point of view, see if your words and deeds are not in place, and communicate with your adoptive parents in time, after all, the grace of parenting cannot be repaid.
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My cousin raised a child because he didn't have children, and now they all have grandchildren, and they are very sincere to their adopted daughter, and their adopted daughter is also sincere to them. So the question you're asking isn't a universal one.
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Personally, I think there are still some exaggerations in this statement, in fact, generally speaking, in most cases, adoptive parents still treat their adoptive daughters sincerely, unless they have their own biological children.
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This is not absolute, some adoptive parents are very good to their adopted daughters, everyone's psychological thoughts are different, some people feel that their adopted daughters are not their own so they don't treat their adopted daughters sincerely, but most adoptive parents still treat their adopted daughters sincerely.
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Because there is no blood relationship, most people will not be good to children who are not their own, but there are also a few people who are kind-hearted and treat non-biological children as their own, but there are too few.
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Don't ask too much, people have raised you to live in this world, and the grace of nurturing must always be remembered, and the rest will follow.
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No experience, no right to speak, my child is adopted, for him, give up the family's property inheritance of 16 or 7 million, money and feelings, choose that, choose feelings, money is something outside the body, he just does it well, and he earns enough to support the elderly, unlike what outsiders imagine, what is the return for adopting him, the same as his own, but also to give him a family, a house, money, and let him live well.
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Because the adoptive parents know that the adoptive daughter is not biological, they will treat it sincerely in a short time, but not after a long time. And the adopted daughter, because she does not know whether she is biological or not, will treat her adoptive parents as her biological parents.
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Adoptive parents are not without sincerity, they just lack the family affection connected by blood and blood, but they have the love and responsibility of adoption.
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Why? It's not true that your parents don't bite you, and I don't think I gave birth to it. Definitely not to bite you sincerely.
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Not all adoptive parents do.
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Summary. Good evening, dear, I understand this mood very much, that is, if the parents do not treat their adopted daughter sincerely, it means that he may have his own biological children, so he will treat them differently.
Why don't adoptive parents be sincere to their adoptive daughter.
Good evening, dear, I understand this mood very much, that is, if the parents do not treat their adopted daughter sincerely, it means that he may have his own biological children, so he will treat them differently.
In addition, it is possible that there are some contradictions and disputes or disagreements between the two parties, and at the same time, they feel that he may leave at any time, so they will also limit or control their love.
So sometimes it is necessary to fully communicate, and at the same time, it is necessary to show one's filial piety to them.
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If you find out that you are adopted, you will not answer God's search for your biological parents. I know there must be a reason, and I will understand what they do, it may be that life is particularly difficult, or that there are more children, there is no resentment, and they are filial to their adoptive parents and listen to them.
1. I will listen to my parents and don't confront them to my face.
The second child is old, and sometimes he is a little stubborn, and his words and actions may not be in line with our hearts. In such cases, as long as it is not a violation of principles, children should obey their parents. We will listen to what our parents say is right, and we should also listen to what we say wrong.
2. Visit your parents' room frequently and keep abreast of your parents' health and other conditions.
If possible, visit your parents' room every day before and after work. Ask your parents how they are doing today. Let's see if there are any common medicines that the elderly usually take; Check to see if the crutches or wheelchairs used by the elderly need to be repaired, etc.
3. I will often chat and talk with my parents to eliminate their loneliness.
The happiest time for the old man was when the children were all at home, watching the children laughing and laughing together, not to mention how happy the old man was. When children usually accompany their parents and talk to them often, they can exercise the thinking of the elderly and eliminate the loneliness of the elderly.
Fourth, when my parents are sick, I will take good care of them.
As the saying goes: If a person eats whole grains, there is no one who does not get sick. When parents are sick and bedridden for a long time, it is also a time to test their children's filial piety, patience and conscience. Children should take care of them meticulously so that the elderly can recover from illness as soon as possible and recover as soon as possible.
People are not perfect, there will always be their own experience and past, no matter how we should have a good attitude, learn to be grateful, only in this way can we live a happy and happy life.
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Under normal circumstances, you will look for your biological parents, and they will consider the feelings of your adoptive parents, and I think you should ask your adoptive parents this question to see if they are willing to let you go to your biological parents. As the saying goes, nurturing kindness is greater than birth grace, that is your adoptive parents, even if there is no blood relationship, he raised you from childhood to adulthood, then his kindness to you is more than the biological parents who abandoned you. I think a person should be grateful, and many people want to find their biological parents after knowing that they have picked them up.
Maybe I want to find some maternal love and father's love from my brother's biological parents! In fact, I think that since they can abandon you, it means that they must have something that they don't want you, maybe their economy is too difficult to support you anymore. Maybe there is something about you that they don't like, such as being a girl, having some kind of congenital disease, etc.
If you really want to find your biological parents, then you might as well wait for your biological parents to come to you. Just because you're looking for them doesn't mean they'll be nice to you, it just means that you want them. And when they come to you, it means that they will be good to you in every way, otherwise what qualifications do they have to come to you?
They will be kind to you in all kinds of ways, so that you agree to recognize them as parents. For example, my aunt's family, the two of them were abandoned a long time ago because they had a girl. As a result, it has been more than twenty years since the state rotted, and I regret it every day.
They also had only two daughters and no sons, but they lived happily as well. And now that times are different, their concepts have changed, and they don't need their sons to inherit the family business. So they tried their best to find the abandoned daughter, and tried their best to be nice to her, just to ask for forgiveness.
I think if you want to admit it, you should ask your adoptive parents for permission and go for it. Otherwise, you should wait for them to come to you!
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In my opinion, it depends on your life now and why you went to your biological parents.
1. If your adoptive parents are very good to you and you are treated well, then you have to talk to your biological parents about it and ask for their consent before doing it. Otherwise, you'll break their hearts.
In this state, in fact, you will find your biological parents will also have a lot of uncertainty: they are doing well, and you are equivalent to 2 more close relatives. If they are having a bad time, will you take on the obligation to support them?
Second, if you are not doing well at your adoptive parents' house, it is more likely that you will go to your biological parents to give in. The lack of family affection and love will make you want to find your biological parents even more, and you have gained family affection that you have never felt. This is a very personal question, and Chang Min may think and feel differently for everyone.
Some people may be very interested in knowing their biological parents and their birth background, while others may prefer to focus on their present and future and not so much on the past. If a person knows that he is adopted, he may face some emotional and psychological challenges such as curiosity, uncertainty, loneliness, and so on. In such cases, he may consider looking for his biological parents or other relatives to get more information and learn about his origins.
3. Finding biological parents may also face some difficulties and challenges, such as lack of information, reluctance of biological parents to meet, and the emotional impact of revealing the secrets of their life experiences. Therefore, everyone needs to carefully weigh the pros and cons when deciding whether or not to look for biological parents and consider their own emotional and psychological capacity. At the same time, you can also seek help from a counsellor or relevant institutions for better support and advice.
Then you have to be self-reliant, go your own way, don't make mistakes, and then when you get married and start a business, you have to care more for your children, because you know how loving and loving you are without your parents, and you will live a strong life now and in the future, and be a useful person.
In fact, both parents are your family; First of all, you must respect your wife, find a time to discuss how to deal with it, I believe your wife will understand, and then go to visit or take care of the elderly together!
Some people dare to beat and scold their biological parents because their parents were too spoiled when they were young, and they were overly indulgent, resulting in him having no respect for his parents.
It should be very hurt in my heart, especially when I see that other people's children are so close to their fathers, I will inevitably feel a little jealous, I sometimes wonder if I am his biological child, why do you treat me like this? Especially for me as a girl, I really want to have a father's love!
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