My real thoughts, my real thoughts

It is highly recommended that you see a psychiatrist, you are too self-contained and self-righteous. A man in the city, you feel that the background is different, and you can't understand you? The countryside must come for glory and wealth?

You ignore the most important point, everyone is not simple, everyone has their own complete story, everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages, this world is like this, you have never really enjoyed yourself, you don't know where the happiness of this world lies, have you tried to chat heartily with your bosom friends? Have you ever tried to enjoy sweetly with your beloved? Have you ever tried to help others with joy?

Have you ever tried to succeed in satisfying? Have you tried to be a mother looking at the happiness of your own children? Whose house doesn't quarrel?

You are too naïve and idealistic, living in your own fantasies and imaginations, always feeling that you are the protagonist of a book, someone is describing you, describing a high-minded, unworldly you. You are wrong, no one describes you, the people who really care about you are your family, you ignore them, when your family is not thinking about you, you disappear into this world like a passing cloud, no one knows.

Forgive me for being so intense, wake up.

Are you regretting something now?

Or is it pouring out something?

Insufficient communication makes people's relationships farther away, insufficient understanding makes people's vision short-sighted, and how much of the unhappiness in life is born from one's own depression and arrogance.

And how much is arranged by fate, this is fate.

I have also been bullied and ridiculed since I was a child.

Is it because I'm ugly?

When I grew up, I realized that it wasn't, and when I grew up, the people who laughed at me when I was a child became friends and colleagues.

As for those who were always bullied when they were children, what do they remember at that time?

When you're older, what do those people remember?

When everyone gets together again, what else is there besides moving?

It won't be to say:"Feed! Who's that! I still remember you made me lose face in front of my classmates! "

Let's laugh at who has no job.

Then there is no need for stingy people to face what belongs to them.

Probably memories, painful and beautiful memories.

Giving will naturally have its own results, unless you don't give.

Maybe the result is not what you want, not as good as you think.

But, for others, it may be his paradise.

I want to be rich, I want to live a happy life when I don't have money.

People who don't have money think about the life of rich people.

Life is so complicated, so philosophical, so worth recalling, worth fighting for it, spending your whole life.

Don't think about it so much.

Life is only once for each of us.

Just be happy. What do you want to do so much? It's really useless.

Do what you want to do.

What do you care about other people!!

Hey, open your heart, everything is beautiful.

In real life, many people dare not or are unwilling to express their true feelings, especially in this complex society, in different interpersonal relationships, they have to show different themselves, and it is difficult to show their true self.

In fact, many people live cautiously, and it is difficult to express their true feelings and demands directly, and most people have been taught to be sensible since childhood, not to make demands on others casually, and their true thoughts and feelings cannot be shown casually.

In fact, this is where we need to learn and change, because a person who never expresses and always hides himself will live a very tired and wronged life, and others will not know your grievances at all, so people still have to learn to express their true feelings and demands, so that others can understand you better, and also make themselves more relaxed and comfortable.

People who always dare not express their true thoughts and demands are actually afraid of all kinds of bad results, afraid of being rejected, afraid of losing face, afraid of offending others, afraid of others not accepting, afraid of not being understood, and even afraid of being ignored, and these bad results are unbearable, so they would rather not express them.

Such people, who are not confident, will suspect that their demands are wrong, or should not be, always hovering between expression and suppression, and finally choose to hide their demands.

Say what you think in your heart, don't be afraid of other people's eyes, and express your true feelings.

What you think in your heart, just say it on your lips, this is to say what you really think.

Say whatever you want, don't deceive.

After saying that, I was very relieved and very relaxed.

Speak freely, have no scruples, and say whatever you want, that is, say what you really think.

Summary. Dear, each of us has an ideal self that we want to be, but in the face of the cruel reality, we have to bow our heads.

Dear, each of us has an ideal self that we want to be, but in the face of the cruel reality, we have to bow our heads.

Ideal and reality are a pair of contradictions, and the relationship between them is the unity of opposites. The antagonistic amusement is manifested in the fact that the ideal is subjective and the reality is objective; The ideal is perfect, the reality is flawed;

The ideal is the future, and the reality is the present. The unity is manifested in the fact that the reality is pregnant with ideals, including the realization of the ideals. Ideal is the reality, contains the cause of reality, and will become a new reality in the future.

We usually use ideals to deny reality, and when we find that reality does not conform to ideals, we are disappointed in reality, and even extremely dissatisfied;

When the contradiction between the ideal and the reality is discovered, the current reality is fully identified without analysis, and some negative and even ugly phenomena that are subsized in reality are not angry, do not fight, and even collude with them.

If we want to turn our ideals into reality, we must put them into action. It is only through action that the ideal becomes a reality. If you don't put it into action, your ideals will never become reality.

The pursuit and realization of the ideal is a process of arduous struggle, and we must fully understand the long-term, tortuous, difficult, and complex nature of the realization of Ye Tuanmin's ideal.

Therefore, we want high-quality solitude, not low-quality socialization" Now most of the people are passive in an environment, we can't choose our roommates, we can't choose our classmates. In such a situation, I can't force you to integrate into this circle of life that does not belong to you, even if you integrate into the results of that must be very bad, Lu Xun once said a sentence "Beasts are always alone, cattle and sheep will be herds" Only the weak will be in groups, and the real strong are always alone.

Unrealistic! I guess the seafarer in your mind is still the image of the seafarer before the 80s from the movies and books, and the current seafarer is not strong and courageous!

At present, seafarers also need a series of knowledge such as computers, languages, marine engineering theory and technology, and you have only graduated from junior high school now, so it can be said that you do not have any survival skills, let alone seafarers, with what you have now mastered, you can only engage in manual labor, assembly line operations, ordinary window industry and other labor-intensive work. Of course, if you have a strong family background and financial resources, that's another matter.

It is encourageable that you have this kind of ambition, but the most important thing you need to do now is to learn more survival skills and master more knowledge, which is the foundation of your future life!

Supplements to the question:

1. Seafarers spend one-third of their time at sea every year, one-fifth of their time at base, and only about half of their time with their families.

You can go together, it mainly depends on what your goal is, if it is a junior management, such as a class leader or something, it is enough to graduate from secondary school. However, the second officer or above requires a college degree or above, and you can also study in your spare time.

In short, your current secondary school education, as a seafarer, has limited potential for upward development.

Dreams are your own direction, and you realize them yourself.

Realistic, but don't think only about yourself, but also about your family! If that's what you're after, go for it! All those who know you will support you and be happy for you for this decision! Stay safe!

It depends on how you see the problem, and we can only give some hints.

On the bright side: this job pays well, and the salary is not low, which can be used as a direction to struggle.

On the negative side: working as a seafarer means that you spend most of your time in the sea or at the beach, which is not conducive to reuniting with your family, and finding a girlfriend can be a bit difficult (and of course it varies from person to person).

Finally, let's be a human being or be an emotional person: do whatever comes to mind, which will have a lot less regrets.

If you have an ideal, you have to move in this direction, this is life. Otherwise you won't achieve anything.

Believe in yourself, success is yours, if you like to go for it, even if you fail, so what, after all, you have worked hard, this is life, gains and losses are inevitable, but the premise is that you like it.

Everything is in your own hands, as long as it is right and you choose, no matter how difficult it is, you must stick to it.

In fact, as long as you have a clear position now, think about it in the long run, there are pros and cons to everything you do, and then make plans after thinking clearly.

However, having ideas also requires actions and foundations. Consider whether what you gain in the future is proportional to what you will gain or lose.

It's good that you have an idea for that. Whether you can succeed depends on whether you are interested in this job, if you are interested, plus you can bear hardships and stand hard work, be diligent and studious, and persist for two or three years.

The idea is very good, but you have to think about everything, you can't be your impulse, you have to think about it, once you have decided, you have to work hard and try hard.

I don't know much about shipping, and I don't have this knowledge, but it's really admirable that LZ has such ideas at a young age, and LZ might as well ask the seniors who have worked in this area to listen to their opinions, and you should not be very old, you can first understand this knowledge before making a decision, or communicate with your parents.

However, there are so many coastal cities in China, and now that foreign trade is developing so rapidly, the shipping market is sure to flourish, and LZ's ambition is very promising, but because of its young age, it is still necessary to be more cautious and pay more attention.

As long as you persist and work hard, you will definitely achieve it.

Dear landlord.

Some things or some things, some people, when people have it, do not know how to cherish it, love it, once it is lost, they feel the preciousness of its existence and the value of use, but all regrets are irretrievable.

The cup is lonely, being poured boiling water, the feeling of being hot, so the cup thinks this is the feeling of love, when the water becomes warmer, the cup feels very comfortable, I think this is the feeling of life, the water is cold, the cup is very scared, I think maybe this is the feeling of being afraid of losing, the water becomes cold again, the feeling of the cup is also very uncomfortable, I don't want to have a tasteless feeling, so I want to pour the water out、、、 the water is finally poured out, at this time the cup feels very comfortable, but it is also poured to the ground at the same time, Broken into pieces, the cup found that on every fragment, there will be traces of water, it knows that it still loves water in its heart, it wants to love water again but it is impossible, is it only lost will know how to cherish? Only when everything has passed does you know the happiness of the past? The facts have warned us to cherish what we have now, and not to regret it until we lose it, but it's too late.

Reality is always cruel, it doesn't give us that chance, some things are missed and won't come back.

To be alone, not low-quality socializing" Nowadays, most people are passively in an environment, we can't choose our roommates, we can't choose our classmates. In such a situation, we can not be forced to integrate into this does not belong to their own life circle travel bridge, even if integrated into the hand key that the result must be very bad, Lu Xun once said a sentence "The beast is always alone, the cattle and sheep will be a herd" Only the weak will be in a group, and the real strong are always alone. There is always a feeling of loneliness at night, and this feeling will flood in from all directions.

My thoughts always seem to be different from the people around me, so that in the current environment will seem very withdrawn, very alternative, although this feeling is not good, but we must slowly learn to adapt, adapt to such a feeling of solitude will become a real strong. But if you compromise with the fierce environment around you and integrate into the low-quality social circle, then you will definitely not become a strong person. There are many things in life that we can't choose, but those we can choose must take every choice seriously.