What kind of bad experience do honest people give you?

Honest people are usually stubborn, so it is sometimes difficult to communicate and reach a unified opinion.

There are many kinds of honesty, there are those who say it directly, and there are those who don't say it!

The main thing is that he is really too honest, he really can't communicate, and he speaks too straight.

I recommend an Indian movie "Little Lori's Uncle Monkey God". That honest man can kill people. It can also make people cry.

My husband is, his mobile phone is all day long, relatives, friends and neighbors ask him for help, even if he is sleeping. As a wife, I am helpless. People just want to take advantage of him, a free labor force that doesn't cost money.

When something happens to our family, the people who usually ask him for help say that they don't have time or time, and there are all kinds of strange reasons! The experience was very bad.

Girlfriend is, people are very good, but they are a little unworldly, and they are not sophisticated. It me off several times.

It's a kind of personality, and they don't want to change themselves in order to fit in with the environment, but when I talk to them, I feel out of place.

In the last minute of the basketball game, we were down by one point, and I made a layup. Then one of my teammates signaled to the referee that I had violated the rules and almost me off.

During the exam, I thought he was not bad, so I showed him the answers, but he not only didn't read it, but also reported me, something!

A colleague was just too honest and disagreed with me, so he told me in front of other people, which made me lose face.

With honest people, it feels like they can't communicate, they don't seem to understand anything, they don't have any common language.

Emotional intelligence is too low, I am small, I say anything directly, often making others very helpless.

I remember when I was in high school, there was a classmate in the class who was late, and the homeroom teacher didn't know about it. As a result, another classmate directly told the head teacher about it. It's really honest, and it's very disgusting.

If you have something to say, you can't hide anything. One of my classmates is like that, and I don't say anything to him now.

People who are too honest have the most prominent characteristics and the places that are most likely to attract trouble, so we must pay attention to the following three personality problems, what are the specific aspects they refer to? So let's take a look!

First, the head suffers.

When it comes to being too honest, they all have a very obvious characteristic, that is, they are relatively stupid, and they are very direct in doing things and speaking, and they do not have deep thoughts about dealing with others. So they are not aggressive and do not appear to be strong, and kind-hearted people can also live in harmony with them, and treat them more as children.

Even so, someone who is too honest like this will not have too many friends around him. Because they are more direct, they are not good at tactful expression and observation, and they often do not consider the feelings of others when they say, and they are easy to say hurtful words unintentionally. On the other hand, they are not deep in their minds and are easily taken advantage of by people with intentions, so it is very difficult to get along with them for a long time.

But there are some people who bully the weak and are afraid of the hard, and they grasp the characteristics of honest people, and always like to take advantage of and bully them. Honest people don't know how to retaliate, so to a certain extent, they encourage the arrogance of people who bully the soft and fear the hard. In the end, it is the honest people who suffer and are deceived.

Second, the root of the ear is soft.

Because honest people are simple and more dull and direct, they also have a kind attitude when getting along with others, and they don't know how to refuse no matter what kind of requests others make. Even if you don't have the ability to help, or you don't want to help from the bottom of your heart, you won't say anything if you refuse. This is also one of the reasons why honest people always suffer.

An honest person who will not refuse others, just because he does not know how to refuse, also makes his heart suffer. Once you help others solve the problem, others will let you do more things because you are not good at refusing, endless things will be handed over to you to do, and after a long time, they will take your help for granted, and they will no longer thank you, and they will be crushed by these so-called helps.

If the matter is not solved, the expected effect is not achieved. Then it will only attract the disgust and resentment of the other party, and blame all the mistakes on you. When you meet this kind of person who helps him but doesn't satisfy him, don't care if your rejection will affect your relationship, learn to refuse, don't embarrass yourself, and don't hurt yourself.

So as an honest person, you must build self-esteem, have your own principles and bottom line, don't deliberately please anyone, blindly pleasing behavior will only make people disrespect you more and more, and it will also give people with bad intentions a chance.

Some honest people give people a stupid feeling, and some honest people give people a kind feeling, which is different. I hope you do your best, make yourself stronger, and find your self-confidence.

Read more books to increase your knowledge and confidence, for example, you can read some books on social skills to improve your ability to deal with the world. Read some motivational books.

1. Honest people, although they don't like to talk, but they are real, they don't lie, and they don't deceive people. Honesty is a virtue, but also a kind of contentment, is a kind of indisputable person, do not like to carry round, just hide, admire, smile. Honest people are a kind of forbearance, but also a kind of taoguang cultivation, sometimes they see through, but they don't say it, sometimes they don't say it, they just don't find the right person.

Honest people, one is not greedy for fame, the other is not profit-seeking, knows how to be grateful, remembers to share, does not disguise himself, although he speaks straight, but realistic.

2. Kind people are not willing to pay, but treat themselves as friends, are willing to help themselves, not to see themselves pitiful, but to have a compassionate heart. Kind people know that people's hearts can be warmed, know that confusion is only temporary, sometimes they can smile when they suffer losses, and they can still be silent when they endure hardships, and their hearts are like mirrors. A kind person is sincere, virtuous, knows gratitude, understands himself, does not covet wealth and wealth, but only wants to have a clear conscience.

Kind people are willing to give, which is a kind of nobility, not to owe themselves, but to let themselves learn to be kind.

3. Poor people, you may not be there for a treat, if you are in trouble, maybe he will be the first to arrive, don't think about deceiving the poor, others are honest, it does not mean that they are confused. Poor people, when they are poor, you look down on you, and when others are rich, there is no need to look down on you. Poverty is a kind of life, not a kind of future, life has a beginning, maybe other people's start is late, their own slow youth and ignorance are not the same as poverty.

Making friends and making poor people is not expensive, just because people say something in front of them, I understand, I have been poor.

Fourth, a compassionate person has a lot of smiles in his life, a heart full of sunshine, although simple, but satisfied, does not ask for nobility in front of others, but may conscience exist. A compassionate person knows what to hide, what to forget, what not to say, and what to erase. A compassionate person has a compassionate heart and gives a touching sincerity, but he does not know compassion, others see his smile, he also learns, sees his warmth, his own understands, sees his compassion, and he begins to change.

5. A person who speaks straightly, although he is loyal to his words, lives for the purpose of correcting himself. If you don't change yourself, who will change your future? People who speak straight, do not owe favors to others, have a grateful heart, a sincere way, make friends can not be missing, the first choice, in order to change themselves, in order to establish the soul.

People who speak straight have an instinct called "Suffering is a blessing", learning from experience, finding the right person, speaking out, hiding the suffering, and talking with someone who can smile when they debate.

I like to get along with straight, scheming colleagues in the workplace, and I don't need to be too tired and too defensive to get along with such people, but I don't want to be such a person.

The workplace is a field of interests, and when there is a conflict of interests between people, it is impossible to become true friends, and colleagues are no exception, unless colleagues leave one day. And honest people in the workplace just have the weakness of being gullible with their colleagues, simply thinking that they can make friends with their colleagues, and in the end they are often calculated by their colleagues.

In the workplace, this is actually a manifestation of no scheming and low emotional intelligence, which will only make you unappreciated in front of leaders and bosses, and will only let yourself inadvertently offend colleagues, make the workplace relationship a mess, let yourself be isolated, be excluded, and finally have no place to stand.

In the workplace, if you want to stand firm, you need to rely not only on your own hard work, but also on your own wisdom and wits against those who have bad intentions. We must also be more attentive to interpersonal relationships, where there are people, there are bad people and good people, and there are all kinds of birds when the forest is big, we must learn to protect ourselves from being easily hurt by others, and we can't let people squeeze us away casually.

I don't think honest people get along well in the workplace.

Because today's workplace bosses and employees in the same industry prefer the kind of people who can speak well, can slip around, have high emotional intelligence, and are powerful. This kind of person can have a zero-distance relationship with anyone, and can also correctly handle the contradictions between people in the company, and the boss also likes to promote this kind of person.

The reason why honest people are not easy to get along with, first, their performance in the workplace is that their emotional intelligence is too low and they speak very straight. Honest people's comprehension ability is very poor, they can't understand what others want to express when they speak to him, and there is no common language to communicate between honest people and others, honest people always think about problems and things, admit death, and never consider other people's feelings when they speak.

Second, honest people love face too much, in the workplace we often see those who are not appreciated by the boss, like to work hard honest people, they especially love face, in other words, how much task the boss gives him, even if he is the most tired and hardest, he can bear it, or colleagues ask him to help do something, he can be cheeky to help do, in the end it is others who do well, but it is himself who is scolded if he does not do well, or honest people usually encounter unfairness in the workplace, he will only blindly choose to swallow his anger, I don't want to say what's in my heart. A normal person when he encounters injustice when he has something to say, and when he has a temper, he vents it, others know that he has a bottom line, and it is easier for everyone to get along with him better, honest people are different from others in this regard, they usually just like to bury their heads in hard work, without saying a word, others can not see the true thoughts of honest people, nor can they see what advantages he has, honest people have no outstanding specialties and tough skills, and their mouths are stupid, others are willing to keep up with the superior, I don't want to get along with honest people at the bottom.

Third, honest people will hold back their big moves, and they may not break out at any time.

Honest people are usually bullied by those gangsters, bosses, and employees in the same industry in the workplace, and no one can see their anger bar, once one day someone bullies him, or says something bad to him, it will explode at any time. Therefore, those people in the workplace who have high emotional intelligence and are more flexible in speaking and doing things know that honest people are not easy to mess with, and they usually deal with honest people as long as they can get by on face, and they don't have too many deep friendships with honest people.

Therefore, it is not easy for honest people to get along in the workplace, you can be friends with him, but don't have too much deep friendship with him, just get by on the face.

The characteristic of "honest people" is that they are afraid of offending people, because they are afraid of offending people, so they lose the principle of doing things. Those who do not work well are not punished, and those who work well are not rewarded. If there are too many such things, a phenomenon of "bad money driving out good money" will be formed.

Honest people are not incapable, some are very capable, but they can only do things and do not like to show. Some honest people like to keep their heads down and often forget to look up at the road. In other words, they focus more on short-term interests and ignore long-term development.

Honest people dare not say two, in their work guidelines, it is always not wrong to follow the instructions of the leader to do things. But leaders aren't always right, and the most practical feedback is often more valuable to employees on the front lines.

Because honest people don't talk much, and they don't know how to observe words and feelings, they often suffer a lot of losses in the workplace, and even sometimes they are happy to suffer losses, and they are worth it, but many losses will only harm themselves, and they must be vigilant against those who are not beneficial to themselves.

The workplace relationship itself is complicated, and the workplace friendship is even more difficult, many honest people think that they can usually talk about it, so they put their hearts into it, and there is no long-term friendship in the world, only eternal interests, when interests appear, making the workplace friendship that is glass seem so vulnerable.

This is because if you are too honest, others will think that you are particularly easy to bully, and then I will take advantage of you and keep bullying you, trying to squeeze you.