What do you think about the opening of the second child, tell me?

The pension of the elderly above can't be solved, let go of the second child and have an extra child, the quality of life is worse, and life is more difficult, so it is wrong to let go of the second child... Employment is both a family affair and a state affair!! In 2016, the employment rate of fresh college graduates in China is more than 33%, how can unemployed college graduates support themselves, and how will they get married to support their families in the future...

There are many people in China who are gnawing at the old and letting go of the second child, can they support them?

The financial burden is too heavy, and the most direct disadvantage of having a second child is that the financial burden is too heavy. The economic base determines the superstructure, and good economic conditions are a must. Life in modern society is stressful to imagine.

If the economy does not allow it, it is best not to have a second child. Parents want to give their children the best, and adults themselves have dreams to pursue, not to mention babies.

Affecting the family's living standard and quality of life, the family originally planned to take some money to travel and play, and then after having a second child, it was impossible to go out. The burden of life has increased, and parents who are working have to work hard to earn money to support their families. It is said that there was a small supermarket owner nearby, who gave birth to a son for the first time, and wanted to have another daughter, who knew that he gave birth to a pair of twin sons.

As a result, the child's mother felt that life was too stressful and chose to divorce. However, such a minority is in the minority.

After the implementation of the two-child policy, when a large number of children reach school age, the kindergarten or primary school places that were originally abundant gradually become saturated. In response to the impact of this policy, many district and county education departments have adjusted their household registration policies for enrollment. This series of measures will make it more difficult for children to enter kindergartens and schools.

Increasing the burden of time and energy, when it comes to the birth of the first baby, Mommy may be in a hurry at first, but quickly adapts to the role of Mommy. But when it comes to having a second child, it's a different story: all kinds of chores combined with the exhaustion of work can make you tired to the point of going crazy.

Induces parent-child conflicts, and today's only children are psychologically fragile and sensitive, and the first child may not be able to fully accept them emotionally and behaviorally. When faced with a newborn baby who is younger than you and has more attention from your parents, the frustration of being threatened, deprived, and snatched away will be more obvious. I don't know how to balance the love for my two children, which induces parent-child conflicts.

Everyone has everyone's point of view, some people are willing to give birth, some people are unwilling to give birth, I don't know what others think, anyway, I don't give birth, I think if you don't have the financial ability, don't give birth blindly, hurt the children, and suffer yourself.

Yesterday I read an article that the mother was bleeding heavily after giving birth and almost died! I want to say that having a child is a big life for a small life, think about it. has the right to have children, but the cost of raising children is too high for ordinary families to afford. Think about regeneration!

Open or not, decide by your own economic ability! Calculate how many meters you have in your bucket before you do!

My understanding is that if it weren't for the local tyrants, it would be enough to have a money shredder in the house.

It is good to have children and grandchildren in your later years, but if there is no better person than you with a baby to effectively help you take care of the baby, then with two, you should not live in your old age.

<> asking an aunt is the most effective way to reduce family conflicts, she can take care of the children according to your ideas and help you clean up the house, but you need to invite two or three aunts for the second child! It's a mess at home! And now most of the cost of hiring an aunt has exceeded the cost of a month's bilingual nursery.

As long as the child can speak, more than a year old, hurry up and send the nursery! Eating and sleeping rules, mothers have their own space, less beatings and less TV, and don't expect to learn anything, that is, someone can reliably watch the children for you.

But the second child! A primary school, a kindergarten, a tutoring class, two extracurricular classes, no one to help you, are you going to accelerate into the depression group?

Of course, I believe that some mothers enjoy taking care of their children, are very patient, and give everything to their children, and your greatness makes me admire all the cells to the ground, but many years later, you see a yellow-faced woman who is full of sub-health and social derailment and maintenance is too late, and the child will be away from us in one or two decades, and when we don't expect our children to provide for us in old age, and they also have the right to pursue the life they yearn for, when their living standards for the two children have seriously declined. I don't think there's any value or meaning to life.

The above is an ordinary person's opinion. And from the country's population needs, if you continue to have only one child, it will not be a few generations, and the rapid population shrinkage is also very serious.

But don't worry, technology will be very advanced in the future, and there are many claims that you will be able to achieve immortality in a few decades. There are still countless capable people who will have many children.

Therefore, I think that the conditions for having a second child are: 1 good health, can withstand all this physical and mental trauma, and has a very good body to take care of the child.

2. Abundant materials, give children more ability to compete in a high-pressure environment, do not affect the quality of life of the family, and they will not be too tired.

3 Have a good attitude and are willing to take care of your children, don't expect anyone to help you more effectively, your mother is the most tired.

4 It must have been born to both husband and wife of their own free will.

5 Older people should consider a second child, it is important to save your life, don't drag down your child when you are older.

The above is the voice of the mother who has been alone with her baby for several months during the epidemic and goes to three places a week to play, and goes to three provinces, but she is still in a broken mood. Finally, after the child starts school, I complained, how much I don't want to see minors again, and how much I want to be a good person for a few days, so, if you have a narrow opinion, please don't spray.

In terms of my current economic level and ability, there are at most two. Having a baby is not an easy task now. You have to think about a series of issues from pregnancy to school.

It's a big expense. It's very stressful for the working class.

Questions to consider when having a baby

First, whether the family's financial conditions allow.

In fact, it is very different now and before, and the child's education problem is also put in the first place, it takes a lot of money and energy to raise a child, and if there is an extra child on the basis of not affecting the family's living standards, then the economic pressure will not be particularly great. But if it affects the economic level of the family and the pressure is very high, it is best to choose Qiao Sou not to have a second child.

Second, consider age.

In fact, the mother's physical health is also very important, because if you plan to have a second child, you can't ignore this problem, but there are many women who don't consider this situation, for those women over 35 years old, if they are pregnant and give birth, they belong to the advanced maternal age, and there will be many problems during childbirth, and the physical function will continue to decline, so the postpartum recovery will naturally be very slow. Therefore, before having a second child, you should first consider your physical condition and have a second child under allowable conditions.

Third, whether there is someone to take care of the child after it is born

In fact, after giving birth to a second child, whether there is anyone to help take care of the child is also related to the future of the whole family, whether it will be stable and united, and when giving birth to a child for the first time, because it is still a newlywed, the whole family will revolve around the pregnant woman, and the mother will be taken care of very well, but can you still enjoy the previous treatment with a second child? There are many people who feel that it is out of reach, and after the baby is born, if no one helps to take care of the child, in addition to taking care of the big child, but also to take care of the small one, but also busy with the housework at home, all day is very tired, so this point must be considered clearly before giving birth to a child, if no one helps to take care of the child, or dispel this idea in advance.

Fourth, couples should be prepared

In fact, having a second child is not as simple as going to the mall to buy things Min Chun, and I have the experience of raising a child and I already know that it is not easy for me, and now I have to start all over again, and even my age is very old, and when I take care of the second child, I may be more tired than the last time, so first ask myself if I am ready?

To be honest, I don't want to have a second child, because my wife was very painful when she gave birth to Dabao, and at that time the reaction was very big, and my emotions were unstable, and I was very distressed.

I don't approve of having a second child, because a second child will increase the financial pressure on the family and will make Dabao depressed.

Personally, I think that having a second child is a very good thing, because if you have a second child, there is a partner between the children, and there are things to discuss together in the future, even if you support your parents, there will not be so much pressure.