Everyone has a hard time, don t think about others from your own perspective, isn t it

Dear landlord.

Glad for your question.

In fact, there are things that you like and will not belong to you, and there are things that you are destined to give up no matter how nostalgic you are, love is a song that can never be sung in life. People may experience a lot of love in their lives, but don't let love become a hurt. There are fates everywhere in life, and fate seems to be fateful; Some fates are destined to be lost from the beginning, and some fates will never end well; You don't have to have someone to love, but to have someone you have to love her well.

If sincerity is a hurt, choose a lie; If a lie is a disservice, choose silence; If silence is a disservice, choose to leave. If love is a hurt, don't come close. But there are many cases where this is not the case, because you can't help but choose.

If loss is suffering, are you afraid to pay? If obsession was suffering, would you choose to end? If the pursuit is suffering, will you choose to be obsessed?

If separation is suffering, to whom do you confide? There are many things in the world that can only be seen clearly in the past. There is a kind of love, which is obviously deep love, but the expression is imperfect.

There is a kind of love that knows that you want to give up, but you are not willing to leave. There is a kind of love that I know is torment, but I can't hide it. There is a kind of love, knowing that there is no way forward, but the heart is not easy to take back.

Love can be a momentary thing or a lifetime thing. Leave because of love, give up because of love. It may sound great, but who can truly give up for love?

A person is not lonely, but a person who thinks is lonely. It's only when you care too much about someone that love becomes a burden.

In fact, life is like this, when you lose a beloved thing, there will inevitably be another item for you to like, and when you break up with your lover, there will inevitably be a better relationship waiting for you.

Please forgive me if my own is inaccurate!

Don't chase after others, she also has her own difficulties.

In life, it is often said that we should put ourselves in the shoes of others, but in life we are more likely to make the mistake of considering the feelings of others from our own standpoint.

Personally, I feel that using my own position to consider the feelings of others is more likely to bring about problems between the two, and my own thoughts are: I am already thinking about others enough, why can't I get the understanding of others, so I feel that others are not open-minded enough. And the other person's mind is:

This person is also too self-righteous and doesn't really take into account the feelings of others and is still here to move himself. Therefore, in such a relationship, the misunderstanding of the parties is more likely to expand.

Personally, I only recently discovered this error. Because it is really difficult for such a person to find out his own mistakes, without fully reflecting on his own dismantling, if you always consider the feelings of others from your own point of view, and do not get the understanding of others, in fact, you feel more that this is someone else's problem. You feel like you've done enough to think about others, so you can't think it's your own mistakes.

On the contrary, I feel that I am great, and it is a big joke to think so much about others but not understand them!

Because my living environment is complicated, and my parents have been separated since I was a child, I have always been sensitive in my interactions with my elders, and I am especially afraid that my father's relatives will ask questions about my mother's news, and I am also very sensitive to my mother's words about my father. When I was a child, I didn't have a good face when I heard about these questions, and adults didn't continue when they saw me like this. When I grew up, I began to think about the feelings of others, and I began to understand them when I thought that it was not easy for my family to endure my stinky temper.

However, this consideration does not open up in the right way. When I began to consider their feelings from my standpoint, I was actually using my thoughts to create a chasm between me and them. I began to guess what they said in their friends, because I always felt that adults like to speak with extraneous meanings, and it is in this kind of "I feel" that I feel more and more weak family affection.

I consider their feelings and their way of doing things from my standpoint, and I feel that I don't understand them, I can't see through their words and actions, and I feel that they don't understand me.

When I started to realize my problems, I thought that the previous problems were just my own carefulness, making things up in my mind, and I thought that was like that. Now that I think about it, I'm really sorry for the people who care about me too much.

In fact, objective things have not changed, and all impressions are nothing but subjective assumptions. I think that since you can't really see things from the perspective of others when you get along with people, it's better not to think about others from your own point of view.