How did you deal with your parents urging to get married?

Parents are more concerned about their children's marriage, and I think everyone has different ways to deal with their parents' urging to marry, so I will talk about my coping methods.

My parents first urged me to find a boyfriend, how can I get married without a boyfriend? So when I was in college, whenever I came home from vacation, my mother would always gossip and ask me if I had any boys I liked. Whenever they see me calling, they will ask, "Who called, male or female?"

Whenever this happens, I say it's a female classmate. When she continued to ask, I would reply, "I'm still young, I don't want to fall in love during college," and she didn't have anything to say.

After graduating from college at the age of twenty-two, my parents began to get anxious when they saw that I had not had a boyfriend for a long time, and they thought that I was not young anymore, and if I didn't find a boyfriend, I would become an old girl, and it would be difficult to find a boyfriend. So all kinds of hints, saying that the boyfriend next door is handsome, the family is good and the salary is high, and he is good to his girlfriend. At this time, I usually choose to ignore it, and the left ear goes in and the right ear goes out.

If I'm really in a hurry, I'll use the excuse that I haven't had a stable job just after graduation. Although they were anxious and angry, they couldn't do anything about me.

When I still don't see my boyfriend home after working for several years, my parents are about to jump to their feet. Anyway, in their concept, girls have gone downhill after twenty-five, and it's very abnormal for me to have a boyfriend at this time, and it's difficult to find a boyfriend with good conditions if I don't look for it, so all kinds of urging, my excuses are almost exhausted, saying that she is going to be angry when she is busy with work and has no time. Say that there is no place to meet a boyfriend, so I want to introduce you to a boyfriend.

In the end, there was really no way, so I only met my boyfriend at the time under the introduction of an acquaintance. But just like that, they don't give up, let us get married quickly. I was annoyed by the urging, and as a result, I got married after two years of dating.

Sometimes it's not easy to think about parents, and we have to worry about everything about us since the child is born. So sometimes being obedient to their parents and making them less angry and sad is the greatest filial piety to them.

I first played "Tai Chi" with them for a while, and finally found an opportunity to get out of my home and go to work in other places.

Urging marriage is also relatively common in our country, but anyone who is single after graduating from college is forced to go on a blind date, and if there is a partner, they are urged to get married. This is not an isolated case, and everyone will encounter it. Therefore, you must look at it with a normal heart, and you can't turn your face with your parents because of such a trivial matter.

When your parents urge you, you must be accompanied by a smile and a good talk. Don't be annoyed and say they're nagging. After all, tradition is here, and you can't force the elderly to become trendy with the times, and you can't tell them that they don't want to get married, or you'll make them say more.

It's easy to do with the right attitude. You have to agree with what they say, and when they say they want to introduce you to someone or ask you when you will get married, you say yes. When they say this kind of thing, they usually act very anxious, you have to understand them, comfort them, and say that you will put this on the agenda to reassure them.

Knowing your attitude, your parents won't be anxious and worried. At this time, you have a period of relaxation to think about the next step, after all, you can't delay it for a lifetime.

After dragging my parents to reassure them, I chose to pack my bags and go to work outside. Out of sight and out of mind, they can't see me, and they won't mention it intentionally or unintentionally.

The effect is still there, the first month of work, my mother called ** to care about my accommodation and working environment, and did not mention the matter of urging marriage.

It's quiet for the New Year, and when I go home, my mother said, there are people who are suitable for marriage over there and are everywhere with her, and you are not too young. I quickly nodded again.

Maybe it's fate, I found a boyfriend when I went back after the year, and I registered my marriage after a year. Since then, I have completely gotten rid of my parents' worries about my marriage.

But now they have a new trouble, that is, when will we have a baby......Life's problems are one after another!

In the face of the urging of parents to get married, the more they dodge, the more angry they become, they think that you don't pay attention to them, and give them, such a big person is still angry casually, like a child, and no one will take care of them in the future.

So treat them like your customers and let them see that you are mature, kind, filial, have friends, and have a good life.

For the urging of the elders to marry, it is the male elders who urge the marriage, and immediately ask the elders to borrow money, borrow money for equipment to chase girls, and borrow money to buy a house and borrow bride price. I believe that this trick can second many elders.

If it is a girl whose elders urge marriage, immediately ask them for rich and handsome resources, and you can't let go of a penny. Single people have to behave more anxiously than those who urge marriage, and they must arrange their itinerary for tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow.

There are two main purposes for parents to urge marriage, one is to save face and complete the task. They want their children to get married, and in the face of the neighborhood, relatives and friends can raise their heads and behave. Sometimes, it doesn't matter if the children's future marriage is happy or not.

You must also have children, also to have face, not to be talked about behind people's backs, as for the economy and energy of raising children, it is not important. Sometimes even forced marriage.

The second is the embodiment of parents' love for their children. They always want to watch their children get married and have children when they are not old, so that they can be more protective of their grandchildren and grandchildren. In case they are not there one day, they can rest assured that their children will start a family.

The love of parents is deep, permanent, and selfless.

Everyone should be responsible for their own marriage, not for their parents to get married, not to mention because of their parents to urge marriage and rush to get married, most of the people who get married in flash will flash away, many young people are not easy to find the person they like, you can go on a blind date to find someone you like to get married is the happiest.

If you don't have a common topic, it's really completely embarrassing, and the best way for everyone to get out of this situation is to choose a relatively interesting place, such as an amusement park, or a park, where everyone can walk together, enjoy the surrounding scenery, or have something fun to play together.

The amusement park is very good, you can have fun and chat, or even eat some snacks, so that you will have a great time chatting along the way.

I've seen a girl who always fails on a blind date.,As for the reason, it's probably that she can't chat.,What girls care about very much.,I think everyone understands.,The big deal is the other party's economic conditions.,Because some things are not completely clear to the introducer.。

Most of the current introducers have a preliminary understanding of each other's situation, if he wants to be specific, in fact, he can't say, he just wants to give unmarried men and women a chance, so let them get together, as for the result, they still have to grasp it themselves.

Be sure to promise them this, it's only a matter of time before you do it yourself. Everyone wants to find an ideal, and the big things in a lifetime can't be rushed. I've been working on it.

Respect their ideas and don't quarrel with their elders.

Maybe the urging of the elders will be annoying, but we still have to try to control our emotions and not rush to quarrel with them.

First of all, we want to regain our freedom and rights, but we don't want to become enemies with our loved ones.

More importantly, a soft attitude is more conducive to both parties to calm down and communicate slowly, so as to achieve better results.

Throwing a tantrum and slamming the door, or posing as a shrew and tearing their faces, is not a wise way to respond.

Of course, respecting the other person's ideas does not mean that we should agree with the other person's point of view.

Prove yourself with real actions.

The urgency of urging you to marry is directly proportional to how bad your current life is.

Therefore, what we need to do is not only to get rid of that hanging appearance in front of our parents, but also to be their "teacher".

Let your parents often find that "your skills are not as good as you", and feel that you have really become an adult who is in charge of your own affairs, and they don't need to worry about it.

If you can't even break free from the image of a "child", then how can you get your parents to respect your individuality?

Don't think of "single beggars" as "single aristocrats", because there is still a gap between tens of thousands of worries and thousands of elegant calm.

So please regularize your routine, live a delicate and not sloppy life, and at least don't let your parents worry about whether you eat or not.

In addition, you can usually start with new things to win the respect and even admiration of your parents.

Respect your parents' attitude, communicate and solve them well, and tell your parents what you really think.

If you really meet someone who is particularly enthusiastic and really goes to give you Zhang Luo, you must be grateful, indicating that he is really worried about you and wants to be good for you. If you want to stick to your behavior and bottom line, you also have to pay a price, that is, you can't take any advantage of your parents, don't take their money.

Otherwise, if you have a short hand, you can only be obedient and swallow your anger.

What kind of person you want, when you plan to get married, and what kind of life you want to live must be told to your parents in advance. Whether you get married or not has little to do with other people, if it is the seven aunts and eight aunts who are annoyed by urging marriage, you can directly go back and tell them to take care of their own affairs first!

Marriage is not child's play, you can't get married in a hurry just because others urge you to get married, and people who face marriage urging can directly ignore them and pretend that they have nothing to do with themselves! In addition to actively communicating with your parents so that they can understand your thoughts, you should also increase your enthusiasm for getting rid of singles.

The biggest reason is that you didn't get it done at the right time. Your need is that I want to find someone I like to marry. In fact, the biggest disagreement between us and our parents is at the point in time.

It needs to be very well prepared, both verbally and behaviorally. Behavioral preparation means that you have to be mature in everything from now on.

Choose what kind of person to be responsible for her after marriage, this is the basic point of being a man, I want to wait for a stable life before getting married, I can give her a good life, and you don't have to worry about it.

Communicate slowly, marriage is a process of life, and you also need to consider it, not your parents are in a hurry, your own business.

First of all, you have to be clear about your thoughts and wishes, and you have to tell your parents that you are not ready to get married and that you do not want them to stress you. First of all, you have to be clear about your thoughts and intentions, and you have to tell your parents that you are not ready to get married, and you don't want them to put pressure on you. You can make your position clear by presenting your own ideas to your parents, such as that you want to finish school, get a good job, etc.

In addition, you can make your suggestions to your parents, such as suggesting that they relax the pressure of urging marriage, so that you have more time to think about your future and give yourself more space to develop. First and foremost, you have to be clear about your thoughts and wishes, and you have to tell your parents that you are not ready to get married and that you do not want them to put pressure on you. You can make your position clear by presenting your own ideas to your parents, such as that you want to finish school, get a good job, etc.

In addition, you can make suggestions to your parents, such as suggesting that they relax the pressure of urging marriage, so that you have more time to think about your future and give yourself more space to develop. Finally, you have to stick to your own thoughts, don't let the pressure of others disrupt your decision, and you can give yourself some time to think about it instead of being forced to make a decision. After that, you have to stick to your own ideas, don't let the pressure of others disrupt your decision, you can give yourself some time to think about it instead of being forced to make a decision.

You can make your position clear by presenting your own ideas to your parents, such as that you want to finish school, get a good job, etc. In addition, you can make your suggestions to your parents, such as suggesting that they relax the pressure of urging marriage, so that you have more time to think about your future and give yourself more space to develop. Finally, you need to stick to your own ideas, don't let the pressure of others disrupt your decision, and you can give yourself some time to think about it instead of being forced to make a decision.