Did the 14 year old boy of Zhou Xiaokai in Gaojiazhuang find it

Hello, for us parents, finding out that children are in early love or suspect that children are in early love, they are usually panicked: because of the increasingly fierce social competition and people's more and more open concepts, parents are not only worried that their children's early love will affect their academic performance, affect their future in college, but also worry that their children's deviance will cause lifelong physical harm. At this time, it is difficult for parents to deal with it calmly, and they usually take irrational measures in extreme anxiety, such as stalking, such as looking through their children's diaries, mobile phones, etc., causing their children to have a more serious rebellious mentality, so that they will go further.

In the West, there is only love, there is no concept of puppy love. Parents should understand that having a boyfriend and girlfriend is a normal manifestation of their child's psychosexual development. If a teenager has never had contact with the opposite sex, or even has never liked the opposite sex under the strict care of his parents, it is likely to affect his normal love and marriage as an adult.

The danger of puppy love is not in making friends of the opposite sex, but in making bad friends. If the child has a good learner, optimistic and motivated, mentally healthy child, and the two people can restrain each other, remind each other and encourage each other, early love will not have a negative impact on learning, and sometimes it will have a positive role in promoting. But if the child has friends in society or friends who don't like to learn, then learning will regress.

Huiteng School suggests that the basic principles for treating children's early love are: 1. Acceptance; 2. It should be like Dayu to control the water, but not like the water control, and the dredging will be blocked. 3. Communicate openly and trust children. 4. Let the child understand that you love him, so you are worried about her.

Here's how you can do it:

1. Agree but disagree.

Parents should first convey to their children the idea that it is normal for them to have a good impression of the opposite sex at this age, and it is not a mistake. But it should be clearly pointed out to them that this age should study hard, the matter of love should be put back on the back, and parents should express their opposition.

2. Proper guidance.

Parents must not be the stick that beats the mandarin ducks in this matter, because sometimes the more the sticks beat the mandarin ducks, the closer the mandarin ducks are. Parents should properly guide the child to enter the step of early love because of curiosity or competitiveness, and should transfer this curiosity and competitiveness to other things, so that they are not interested in early love.

3. Pay attention to the wording.

When communicating with children, do not use a critical tone or a commanding tone to speak, at this time the child is prone to rebellious psychology, if because of the rebellious psychology and more and more indulged in early love, it is against the original intention of the parents. Parents should pay attention to the wording when talking to their children, try to be gentle, and communicate with their children as friends, rather than between parents and children, at least in equal positions.

4. Communicate with teachers.

Sometimes the teacher's wording is very harsh, which will unconsciously hurt the child's self-esteem and arouse the child's rebellious mentality, which is not correct. Parents must communicate with the teacher, show their attitude to the teacher, and the two teachers and parents work together to correctly deal with the problem of children's early love.

Puppy love is not a flood beast, it is a normal thing, as a parent, you must understand your child, but you can't indulge your child, and you must clearly put forward objections. This process requires good communication to maintain, and parents must communicate with their children with the attitude of treating friends, so that they can communicate more smoothly and things can be better resolved.

First love, don't blow too hard, give her her own space, junior high school students are in love is to show off among their peers, after a long time, show enough, bored, naturally break up, and then fall in love after breaking up, after countless repetitions, I know that this is a waste of time. As I said, all love that is not for the purpose of marriage is a hooligan. Let them talk, after a long time, fade, disperse, this is a process.

I think this situation is very common for teenagers nowadays. But the more you curb it, the more rebellious your child becomes. You can try to communicate with her and use some other ways to slowly persuade her to put more focus on studying.

If you don't delay your studies, you agree with them to keep in touch, but tactfully tell her that you don't agree with their relationship. The child's temper is likely to be in the rebellious period, at this time he likes to go against the elders the most, the tougher you are, the bigger she is, it is better to guide her.

Children at this age are especially cheap!

However, as long as she can get the grades, you can let her go, after all, the grades are the most important.

If her grades drop, you should take care of it, and you have to take care of it to the end! Until she becomes well-behaved!

This kind of affection will not last long.

If it affects learning, you have to separate them and go under the knife.

If it doesn't affect anything, I think it will be divided after a while.

It's normal to have such a thing in adolescence, understand the boy, if it's not the kind of person who is dangerous to your child, don't hinder it, let it be, the child will grow up, it will naturally understand, this is also a life experience, do more enlightenment than dissuasion, less and the child in this issue of antagonistic enemies, but communicate more with the child. The temper has become short-tempered, if the child was not like this before, it means that the child is not very comfortable in love, and there are unfriendly things between them, which requires parents to teach their children more ways to regulate themselves, and slowly and imperceptibly let the child learn some ability to deal with life problems. It's not easy for parents and children.

It's a good thing to fall in love, and you can't get married if you don't get together. Correct enlightenment does not affect learning. Falling in love is also a course, but the time chosen is not right.

Don't talk about her! The more she doesn't listen! The children of this year don't know anything! They will slowly break up in the future! Never let your child do anything sexual or anything like that!

Many of today's children are precocious. You should care more about him.

Say everything quietly. Don't say anything, just talk to him in a very heavy tone. Otherwise, the effect is reversed.

I've been around since I was 14 years old, and it's too early to fall in love at 14. They are in a rebellious period, ignoring what their parents say, doing the opposite, always thinking that they have grown up, when in fact they are just children. You can explain the truth to your children, carry out persuasion education, and you can give examples of the consequences of minors' love, so that they can understand them fundamentally.

On the other hand, if your child and the boy are in love, they can still agree to a relationship if they don't delay their studies and promote each other. There are also those who get married at this age until the end. But it is important to be aware of their progress so as not to have unthinkable consequences.

I'm a year older than her, so I'm kind of my age.

In this case, you must not be hard, you can't demolish her or scold her, it will hurt her self-esteem and it will have the opposite effect.

It's better to go with the flow and pretend you don't know anything.

But always keep an eye on her and give her a little more attention.

As long as you don't do anything out of the ordinary, it doesn't matter.

Generally, at this time, students are nothing to talk about love, and in the end, it is not fruitless, this is something that must be experienced, and it is not good for parents to interfere too much.

After this stage, she'll understand.

This is normal, the first and second years of junior high school are not as naïve as the sixth grade, nor are they as busy as the third year of junior high school, and it is at this time, so there will naturally be some "sprouting". It doesn't matter, I did that when I was 14. You should talk to her openly and honestly, and tell her that it is actually a very beautiful experience, but the love during this time should be buried in the heart, like wine.

I think the grades are fine, everything is fine.

You're still young, do you know what "like" is, or don't worry about it.

That's fine, maybe that girl likes you like this. You'll get used to it later.

Do you want to learn singing or musical instruments, it's good to have a dream, if you want to realize this blind dream, don't set an unlikely dream, I don't know if you want to take the path of a singer or a star or a professional college, set a good goal to start learning from the most basic, no matter how old you are to start learning, I wish you early success!

Leave him alone, congratulations, you're starting to develop

I've used to grow up as a kid and don't worry, he's going to disappear on his own.

Don't think about it, it's definitely not.

It's developing, don't take it seriously, it's good after a while, don't pinch it with your hands, it's possible to pinch it more and more swollen, it's quite painful, and it's good, it's full, don't care if he doesn't know it, I've had it too.

Don't worry, congratulations on your transformation from a little kid to a teenager! This is what you are developing

It's not breast cancer, it's probably developing!

Ha, I often worry about how to hide things! But why do you want to wear lingerie for girls? No matter ......I always put things in the clothes pocket of the wardrobe, so it's safe! Recommended ......(It's better to put it in thicker winter clothes).

Do you have a mental illness!! You'd better see a psychiatrist!!

Oh my God, are you crazy?

Do you want to be a puppet once in a while, or?

Buy a safe and stuff it in.

In fact, my point of view is full of encouragement, while he is not big now, the study pressure is not so heavy, and it is puberty, so it is not a bad thing for him to experience love, but as a parent, the correct guidance is that the child's view of love is normal, it is very critical, there are many parents in this period, because they are too repressive to their children, and they are on the wrong path, after all, parents can not be around their children 24 hours a day, and teachers cannot take care of all children, so it is better to block than to guide children, so that children know how to love Under what circumstances, how to love, when to give a gift, and if you give it early, it will make the other person feel that they don't care.

Hello, nowadays children are in early love, is the influence of society and bubble bureaus! You can explain some personal experiences to him so that he can understand some truths for himself, and don't force him!

Look at how things are going first, and then solve them according to the situation. It is best to go back first, and then the parents of both parties are communicating and educating their children.

Personally, I think the last thing to do is stick beating. In fact, you should let your son understand what responsibility and love are, now that he is young and belongs to the age of ignorance and curiosity, he should be told what love is. He should be taught to fall in love and not fall in love at their age now, and use reasons to convince him.

It's good, don't worry, children of this age are rebellious, and being able to fall in love shows a few questions: 1Your son is very good2

Your son is precocious. At this time, be patient and communicate with him well. Besides, falling in love is not a big deal, just let him do it.

Falling in love can help a person grow, be responsible, and be motivated.

At our age, it is adolescence, and the more you try to stop him, the more rebellious he becomes. You should let him face up to the problem. Ask him what he thinks, talk to him, tell him that the forbidden fruit is not allowed to be picked, and that if the gift is good, don't worry.

14-year-old children have just entered adolescence It is normal to have some good feelings towards the opposite sex Adolescent children often regard a good impression of a girl as a liking So there will be early love Now you are not beating him and scolding him But communicate well with him It is recommended that you go to the bookstore to buy some books about adolescent early love So as to trigger the child to the right path After all, is learning important.

Side reminder, don't deliberately observe, I know that parents who don't do anything at all will not be at ease, but at this age, parents can only do step by step to make him mature, non-positive persuasion and encouragement in learning or cautious friends, he will definitely get better.

According to the teacher, this is definitely not a no-no. What's more, at the age of 14, he is already in junior high school; You must know that the most important thing in a person's life, the last thing that cannot be left behind is junior high school and high school. Falling in love is always said to be early love for a 14-year-old child, and it is not good for the child itself.

This matter must be at least 18 years old, and 14-year-old children, especially boys, must not have such a thing happen, otherwise, it will ruin its life. As for the gift, you can not confiscate it, you can reason with him, a 14-year-old boy, don't teach him, because it is adolescence, rebellious period, I think, sensible children will have corrections.

I'm also 14, and I've had 3 love experiences!

Keep that gift, after all, it's also a memory of the 14-year-old flower season.

Don't criticize him so directly and cruelly, you should ask patiently, 14 years old is not big or small, love is still only a hazy period, guide him correctly, talk to him about his feelings about his girlfriend, the most important thing is to talk more, don't blindly instill your own ideas to him!