A doubt in the bottom of my heart, a doubt in my heart

First of all, the collision of hearts and minds has a lot to do with appearance. Just imagine, on the premise of not knowing each other at all, if you see a beautiful girl and a girl who is not good-looking, which one would you prefer to chat and develop with? If you like someone, at least you don't hate her appearance.

It's your business to judge people by their appearance, but if I didn't offend you, and you offended me by your appearance, I'm sorry, I'll retaliate.

It doesn't matter, it's that everyone will pay attention to appearance, but personal cultivation is also very important, to put it bluntly, girls who really don't pay attention to appearance are basically going to the status and power of this man, and there is a situation that this woman is not good-looking to find a similar, remember that there is still a concept of "equality" in this world, and everyone has a love for beauty, otherwise there is no market for "handsome guys and beauties" now?! But personal cultivation is also crucial. What kind of person you want to find, please become the same kind of person first.

Let me tell you this.

The premise of the collision of hearts and hearts is that you should also look at this person.

If you hate him when you see him, how can you collide with him? Right!

It's normal for a girl to judge people by their looks or for a young man to like beautiful women.

At least it's pleasing to the eye.

After a long period of contact, we will also find that the people around us who are mediocre in appearance will be very attractive and very attractive.

So no matter what your appearance is, you have to be confident, there will always be an attractive side!

Give a person a good impression, and you will get along a lot better in the future, even if you really don't look so good-looking, as long as you look neat, dress appropriately, and be neat, that's a basic courtesy.

You have to see the collision of hearts and minds, but you can't deprive others of their desire to pursue beauty. Think about it from another perspective, you are rich and handsome, and beautiful women surround you, which one do you choose? You're going to choose the beautiful too, right?

There is no one in the world who does not judge people by their appearance, whether it is a woman or a man.

Do you look for a girlfriend to see your face and figure? Compare hearts to hearts, they are all earthlings - you know!

Men also judge people by their appearance, but the red face and troubles are all passed down for thousands of years!

The first impression of people is very important!

In fact, slowly you will find that everything is a floating cloud, and this is the truth.

Love is only a part, life still has to go on.

I don't know how old you are, but you think a lot.

If you say, I will tell you that the Tao is so powerful that all ghosts, ghosts, snakes, and gods go around you.

And the Buddha is nothing but an illusion in the human heart.

As for the I Ching, Chinese are used to paying attention to it when they are dying, such as Confucius, who will not read Yi until he is old, so there is no need to think about it now.

1；Then it depends on whether you are willing to pay for him. To know. It's really not easy to find a job now. If you really want to be with him, and he has a strong self-esteem, you should wait for him to be stable before going to him. The most important thing is the communication between you.

2；Get in touch more. It's better to be able to meet. It requires your patience and perseverance, and trust is also important. If you love him, don't hold on too tightly. Let it be.

3；To be honest, that only shows that he is a bit indecisive. But if you love him, bear with it.

1. Since you say that he has strong self-esteem, then you let him choose first. You can also give some advice, but don't force it.

2. Trust each other.

3. First love is his previous memory, can you delete him? Since you can't, accept it gladly, and accept everything he has if you love him. As long as you have a good relationship, when he is sad and doubtful, the first thing that comes to mind must be you.

4. The appearance is given by your parents, you have no reason to feel sorry for yourself, and the beauty in your heart is floating on the surface. I believe that he will be with you, and he will definitely not care too much about your appearance.

Obviously, you are in love with this man, it is obvious that although this man does not love you, but this man is willing to form a family with you, what do you want? If you want someone who loves you, it is advisable to end it early. If you want to start a family, this bruised man who has been honed in the wind and rain will be responsible for his family, because there is no more difficult decision than the decision to get married.

Choose for yourself, grasp it for yourself, and you won't regret it if you choose!

1. You can suggest it, but he may not necessarily adopt it, pay attention to the tactful method, and wait for his job to be stable and then talk to him, to be honest, it is a bit unrealistic.

2, long-distance relationship, if two people are really in love, then there must be no problem The key is to be together more Two people should greet each other more and care more Let him She know that there is someone in the distance who is worried about her He Your appearance and others are not a problem If he really loves you.

3. See each other as often as possible The key is two people, not one person, you have to believe that you can grow If you don't believe it, then how can you want it to last for a long time.

4. For this question, although it is said that it is a little more open now, but it is only a little bit of it, it depends on the people of your place, it depends on the experience and opinions of each person, and it depends on the people who come, but I think it will be more or less enjoyable. You shouldn't think that way, two people have to trust each other in order to live better.

I wish you and yours a better life.

Don't doubt it too much, you are husband and wife, and you have to say something about it. (But you have to say it smartly, or you'll have to argue).

Looking at your description, I feel that your husband is a little tired of you, not very patient, and can't understand you, and he doesn't tell you what is on his mind, but tells other women, which means that there is a gap between you, and if you want to continue, you should take the initiative to break this barrier.

There is also the possibility that he is also stressed, whether it is at work or financially, and he can't show it in front of you, for fear that you will not feel safe.

Another thing you have to pay attention to is that if a woman goes out to eat with a guy late at night and doesn't tell you, then there is probably content in it, either it is estimated that there is a good feeling, or there is speculation between two people (that is, there is something to say), this is a red flag, and you have to deal with it.

Just this does not mean that there is a question between them, but your suspicion, if there is no fact, don't doubt and don't talk nonsense, it's not good for the family and the children. I don't think there's anything wrong with them, it's just a little closer. If you don't feel comfortable with them together, prevent them from being together, such as:

Your cousin called your husband for supper in the middle of the night, you didn't want him to go out, you could call ** to your cousin and politely declined.

Sometimes it's possible for relatives to complain about each other. Your relatives may get along better. Then it is possible to speak casually.

Don't take it to heart. Most of the time it's fine. If you're in doubt, you can be a little more careful.

But I still think you should trust them.

People, it's normal to make a fuss, as for whether they have anything, maybe it's just that you think too much!

Time will soothe your pain, the breeze will take away your troubles, a smile will dissolve your tiredness, friends, don't be discouraged, stride forward, a better tomorrow is beckoning to you!

Everyone will have a period of confusion in their life stages, and if you want to find your original self, or if you are lucky, you can not be so tired of seeing flowers in the fog, the key is to know how to listen to your inner ear.

The ability to understand is limited, and swallowing dates is terrifying, and even if you do what you are currently thinking, you will not be able to get real happiness, because you ignore the process of savoring the food.

Follow your first personality, plain is true, at least you pay back your wishes, you will feel at ease with your old grandmother, you will not feel floating at every step you take, with a smile in confidence, I feel that the profession of a primary school teacher is good! Trust your feelings! Come on! ~

To say something that you may not like to hear, your problem is actually very common, in a nutshell, it is "the heart is higher than the sky, and the life is thinner than paper".

In the era of less and more things, it is easy to overestimate one's ability and character, and give oneself the goal of exceeding one's own ability. In the end, I found that I was not satisfied no matter how hard I tried, so I had all kinds of negative emotions. However, due to his lack of understanding of the real society, he did not realize that his goals were too high, so he began to complain about others instead of reflecting on himself.

A successful business person once said that if you have the wisdom to make a million, you should set a goal of one million. If you only have a million wisdom and set a goal of ten million, to a certain extent, you will find that you are not suitable for the cruel world in every way, and everyone around you is smarter than you. Because people have made a reasonable estimate of their own wisdom, they have the wisdom to earn tens of millions, but you don't, so you will naturally suffer a lot.

So, wake up, young man, there is nothing wrong with being an ordinary person who has no worries about food and clothing, and after accurately estimating your wisdom and courage with a calm mind, you can then set the right goals for yourself in life. If you have a million wisdom, and set a goal of 1 million, you will have a lot easier, if you set 500,000, you will feel like a fish in water.

For example, an undergraduate student may think that high school courses are very simple. But if you only have the knowledge of an undergraduate, you have to go to the doctorate whimsically, and you will sadly find that you are the weakest one. Everyone is smarter than you, and there may be people who look down on you, which will affect your normal communication with others.

If you don't socialize well, you won't be happy in life.

Therefore, it is very important to understand your own wisdom correctly, and I hope you can calm down and understand yourself more, and then understand more about the market and the real society, rather than living in the world you fantasize about.

I hope it can help you and wish you a happy life.

ps: For the sake of me seriously typing so many words for you, if it's okay, choose me, haha

Life is your own, you choose what you like, what you really need in your heart.

You may have depression, you may have a lot of stress in your life, and you may have inner conflicts, so you might as well let go of what you are doing, walk around, and relax.

For example, if you travel or something, you may be able to find your true self.

I am also deeply suffering from this contradiction, so it is better to work hard for the happiness of my family.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself, everyone will encounter confusion and difficulties in their lives, what we have to do is to face it calmly, come up with a solution, talk to friends more when you are depressed, and feel better when you say something, and sometimes some problems will be solved in the communication with friends.

If there is no doubt, people are not alive, God is to give you this doubt, to live well, to solve this mystery.

Try to let others revolve around you, instead of trying to chase other people's footprints and dreams!

Everything has a way, like a dream bubble!

Of course, it is not that people should increase the amount of knowledge they learn now, but I think there is a lot of useless information in this world, such as how airplanes run, how high-speed trains run, and what vitamins do fruits contain, I think these things are a kind of useless information, and they don't help much in our lives. We know how airplanes work, and we can't go either. And because all we can do is fly, this information can't do much to help our lives, but this information is spreading quickly in society, I don't know what the motivation is to spread it?

Is it just to earn views, if the vitamins of fruits contain anything, people may have a concept of nutrient intake for the body after celebration, but to say that this kind of technical transmission, I think it is useless, but he is still a communicator, which makes me wonder.

In fact, the biggest doubt in my mind is why do our friends look at each other coldly? When I first went to college, I had a few friends to play with, which was really good, but as time went on, we gradually became strangers, and I don't know if it was my reason or something else, in short, even if I tried to redeem it, but it didn't work out so well. That's my biggest doubt.

The biggest question in my heart is what did my mother abandon me for when she was young, and my younger brother was patriarchal or small? What hurt did I inflict on him that made him give up on me. This is a question that I have not been able to solve since I was born.

In the past, my biggest doubt was why I am not rich and handsome, not a local tyrant, not a second generation, I also live in this world, why others can spend a lot of money, but I am entangled every day about whether to add another egg to eat pancakes, this doubt has troubled me for more than 20 years. It wasn't until a teacher at the university told us a story about how her daughter was very envious of Europe and the United States after learning English, saying how superior they were, and complaining that she was born in China, and my teacher said to her daughter at the time, you should thank you for being born in China and not Africa, that I had an epiphany, at least I still have pancakes to eat.