What should I do if my husband earns money when I get married and says it s not mine

It is said: "Husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes", but if you look at the current husband and wife, they can fly even if there is no disaster or disaster, what is the reason?

Just now the second floor said that money can't measure feelings, which is true, it is not good for a woman to marry a man for money, but a man said before marriage: "My money is all yours." After getting married, he said:

My money is not yours. What do you think such a man should be measured by.

What kind of mentality to get married with directly affects your view of your husband and property after marriage, these are all truths and morals, and the marriage law is stipulated, that is, what is said on the first floor.

Marriage depends on management, marriage is also an art, whether a family is good or not, it does not depend on money, it is on feelings!!

I wish you a happy marriage, a harmonious family, and beauty!

The money earned after marriage belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife, half of which is yours.

Then your husband is too macho! You and I can ask him, since you married me, should you support me, if you get married, money comes first, then why do you want to get married, you just live with money for a lifetime, you should continue to work hard, you have to support yourself, you want to make more money than him, see if he dares to say this?

Can't you look for a job and be financially independent?

First of all, if you simply want to manage the family's money or your husband doesn't want you to manage the money, it's not wrong, the main thing is whether the two people have the same concept.

Personally, I think it is normal to ask the other party for money in the following three situations:

You are a housewife, you should have a good talk with your husband and let him give you the living expenses you deserve.

You have your own job, you are relatively financially independent, and he doesn't give you money.

You are not a housewife (not doing housework) and it is unrealistic to expect him to give money, you should work hard to earn money yourself and try to be financially independent.

In all industries, in fact, the hardest is the housewife, who has to take care of the children, the elderly, and take care of her husband's daily life, and at the same time has to clean and cook is very hard, so if you are a housewife and have no way to go out to make money, you should talk to your husband and let him give you basic living expenses to be able to maintain some expenses of the family.

A female friend of mine is a housewife, because she has to take care of the elderly and children, she can't go out to work, so her husband gives her 90% of his income, and only keeps some pocket money for himself, so that it is enough to manage the expenses of the family, she is also more frugal, and the rest of the money is saved.

If you have an independent career and don't need to work for your family, you don't have to ask him for money, and if you don't have a regular job, you should try to find a job that will keep you from worrying about expenses.

I remember that my parents are like this, each takes care of their own money, spends their own money, and will not interfere with each other in terms of small money, and my mother has never used my father's money, but I will still support each other in terms of big money, such as buying a house, buying a car, and buying furniture at home, and my father will pay more, I think this is enough.

So it still depends on the specific situation, whether it is the woman in charge of the money or the man in charge of the money or their respective financial independence, it doesn't matter, if you really want to manage the money, you should say good before marriage, if he doesn't give you money is also normal, not all families are women in charge of money, it can only be said that the two of you have different concepts, you should be more tolerant and understand each other, only the same values can live together for a long time!

After getting married, some men will not be willing to hand over their financial power, so this time is a test of women's wisdom.

You have to make a list of your daily expenses so that he is responsible for at least half of them. In today's society, no matter where you are, you need money. Only two husband and wife, daily expenses are also a lot of expenses.

Before you want to ask him for money, you must first list your expenses, and it is not good for a big man to let you support him.

If you immediately tell the other person how much money you need for your daily expenses, and he is not willing to take out the money, you need to take some special measures. For example, if he doesn't pay the electricity bill when it's time to pay it, you can just cut off the electricity. In the same way, when he should pay the water bill, he can directly cut off the water if he doesn't pay the money.

You can solve your needs from somewhere else, and give the other person a slap in the face, so that he can know that you are unhappy with his refusal to pay. My husband used to be a person who didn't care about anything, and it was very difficult for you to ask him for money, so later I directly asked him to bind our property fees, water bills, electricity bills, and gas bills.

Especially after the children go to school, the cost of kindergarten is also a lot. I asked the kindergarten teacher to add her WeChat, and if I needed to pay any fees, I asked the teacher to contact him directly. Most men are still quite good-looking, so they still have to pay the fees in front of the teacher.

If he does not have the consciousness to bear the household expenses, he needs to take some special measures to make him passively bear. If you choose to get married, then you have to be responsible for the family.

After getting married, your husband refuses to give money, you can try to deal with it like this:

1. Find out why

If you don't know how to manage money and spend lavishly, that's your problem. No one stipulates that after getting married, the money must be handed over to the wife for safekeeping. Especially if the other party doesn't know how to manage money.

But if you are talking about your husband not giving pocket money and living expenses, it means that there is something wrong with your relationship.

It is also possible that he has too many socials, for example, colleagues and friends, etc. If the salary is not much, he does not want to turn it in, then this situation should be more understandable.

2. Further communicate and state the reason

Ask your husband why he didn't pay the money? What is the rationale? If it's your problem, adjust yourself. If it is your husband who picks the door, you have to learn to be more kind to him, care more about him, take good care of him, and move him, and he will naturally give you the money.

Whether you are in a relationship or getting married, you need skills, and you need to learn to find problems and solve them. Rather than just looking at the results, because many things are not set in stone.

Talking about my sister, my sister and brother-in-law got married after about a year of their work, and the two of them lived happily ever after, and later had a baby.

But my brother-in-law has a problem, that is, he doesn't like to give his salary to his sister and refuses to give money. At first, my sister was also puzzled, but later I asked my brother-in-law for further communication, and the reason given by my brother-in-law was: "I don't earn much in the first year of work, and then I have to follow the group and invite my colleagues to dinner."

After all the math, there's not much money left. My sister said that she understood, because the salary was really not much, but fortunately, my sister's salary could support the family, and the matter slowly passed. After about another two or three years, my brother-in-law not only got a promotion, but also a salary increase and a bonus.

He handed over most of the money to his sister, leaving only a part of the activity funds in his hands.

Yes, many things happen for a reason, and it's best to communicate with your husband, there may be really something unspeakable. After all, men work outside to socialize, and it's not good if they have an empty pocket and no face.

A man can hand over the financial power of his family to you until he trusts you completely and thinks that you have the ability to manage the family well. Look at Hong Kong star Jackie Chan, Lin Fengjiao has already given birth to a son with him, he still can't trust her, and when Jackie Chan spends his own time, he provokes Wu Qili to get pregnant.

Jackie Chan, who didn't want to pay the responsibility, saw that Wu Qili was unwilling, and when he saw that things were getting bigger, and when he was anxious, his wife Lin Fengjiao gave the greatest tolerance. At this time, Jackie Chan saw his wife's goodness, and was willing to hand over his money to his wife Lin Fengjiao to manage.

Men who never hand over the economic power of their families to their wives, according to what they see and hear around them, are mostly motivated by the following psychology:

1. Economic freedom

Nowadays, many men have seen their father's fearful and miserable life of hiding private money, so they don't want to repeat the days when their father had to ask his mother for money if he wanted to buy something.

They want to be in control of their own money, to be able to buy what they want, to spend freely, and to fully protect their economic freedom.

2. Face

A man hands over the economic power of the family to his wife, if it is a woman who can empathize with a more atmospheric woman, it is okay to give a man enough living expenses, but to catch up with a woman who manages money tightly and is more buttoned, it is troublesome, as soon as you go out to have a meal with your brothers or colleagues, when it comes to checkout, you can take out your pocket, and your pocket is cleaner than your face, which is too embarrassing.

Like a colleague in a company I worked for before who had a director position, although he was a middle-level leader, his monthly salary was not low, but the economic power was handed over to his wife, and his wife gave him less than 1,000 yuan per month for living expenses, and every time he went out to eat, he was cheeky and said that the money was in his wife, and he didn't have enough money in his hands, so he let others pay.

3. Lack of security

In fact, in this world, there are many people who have a sense of security in money, and if they have enough money in their hands, they will not panic. After all, the divorce rate is so high now, and no one can guarantee that they can live 100% hand in hand with anyone for a lifetime.

A man does not hand over economic power to a woman, although each has his own little ninety-nine, but the above three are the most common psychological manifestations in daily life.

In fact, no matter who is in charge of the husband, the husband and wife must be of the same heart, so that the family can flourish.

1. Be sure to find out why your husband doesn't give money.

If you marry your husband from the beginning, he will not give you money and is not willing to pay for you; So what is the use of you guarding such a husband; If at the beginning, he was very good to you, but slowly he changed his mind; Then you must find the reason, you and him have come to this point, it is impossible that nothing has happened; You must find out the reason why he doesn't give you money, and you will naturally understand what the problem is; You must believe that there must be something wrong with you; Of course, there must be something wrong with him; Otherwise, it would be impossible for you to come to such an unfamiliar step.

2. Get rid of your bad habits and bad habits.

In marriage, no one dares to guarantee that they will do well everywhere; So you want your husband, give you money; Then you must get rid of those bad habits, those bad problems in your marriage; For example, do you often quarrel with your husband, quarrel with your husband; Are you in conflict with your husband because of a trivial matter? Are you a willful person, are you an unreasonable person, are you a kind person; You have changed yourself into a perfect woman, your husband, he will definitely love you, spoil you, and protect you; Good woman, there is no man who does not hurt, and there is no man who does not love.

3. If you want to get your husband's money, you will accept his heart first.

If you want to get your husband's heart, you must first get your husband's stomach, which is something that every woman knows and understands; So you want your husband to love you and willingly give you money; Then you must make him more delicious things and make some things he likes in life; And you have to make some tonic soup to nourish his body; You only have to keep giving, and you have been giving without regrets; One day, he will be willing to give you the money; The more cruel and cruel you are to him, the less he will pay attention to you; Most people, who are flesh and blood, know how to be grateful, and will not take revenge.

Fourth, be a little woman and be a coquettish woman.

It is impossible for almost all strong women to live happily and satisfactorily in marriage; So a woman, you must be a little woman, a woman who depends on your husband; More importantly, learn to be a coquettish woman, and be a woman who makes your husband know how to feel sorry for you; In front of your husband, coquettish and cute, your husband, he will feel that you are like his daughter; At this time, if you ask him for money, he will give it to you; When you speak to a man, you must not force it; The more you force him, the more ruthless he becomes; A coquettish little woman, her life is quite good, and she can change herself.

That's when the wife spoiled him, he asked for money and his wife gave it, he himself had no pressure and no motivation, clothes to stretch out, food to open his mouth, no one said, no one took care of himself, so he wasted his time.

This is an irresponsible man. If you are lazy and lazy, you will spend money without heartache. I don't know where the money went, I don't dare to say.

Spend eating, drinking, prostituting and gambling, and people who are lazy and lazy are not distressed. Life with such a man is destined to have no end and no end, and there are many contradictions in the family crisis. Girls must learn to stop losses and leave early to get out of the sea of suffering.