How to get rid of anger at your own incompetence?

People's pain, in essence, is their own incompetence anger, their own depravity is angry, their own nothingness is angry, people always attribute the source of pain to irresistible factors, for their own failure to find reasons for peace of mind, in fact, this is just a kind of incompetent anger, in essence, their own inferiority complex, pain will be anyone, but there are still people struggling to work hard, know what they need, change inability needs to work hard step by step rather than pain is better to face calmly, Calm down and think about your own problems and improve your abilities, this is the real solution to pain.

Suppressing anger is the beginning of a hurt if I tell you that in infancy, our crying is a way of expressing anger about the pain of unmet or deprived needs. Well, you will believe that anger is a primitive emotion. Actually, anger is not something to be ashamed of.

On the contrary, the perception of personal space, boundaries, and justice is a vivid testament to self-esteem and morality in human nature. So, treat anger correctly, don't amplify it, calm your mood, and treat your anger calmly. When encountering problems, learning to resolve anger and finding solutions rationally and calmly is the most important thing.

When this person discovers that there is a huge gap between the idealized self and the actual self, there is a strong inner conflict. The conflict is not reconciled, so there is suffering. In fact, the reason why a person has a strong conflict is that he will be angry with his incompetent self.

It didn't happen suddenly, but slowly accumulated over a long period of experience. For example, since childhood, the nurturers around him have not looked at themselves with a praising mentality, so the little fire in this person's heart has not been ignited. Therefore, there will be a situation where the heart is more than enough and the strength is insufficient, so it will be disappointed in yourself and angry.

I used to be very angry about many things, such as when I was treated unfairly, because I didn't have the ability to fight back, so it was very painful, if I had the ability, why bother, just pull back the backhand, what's the big deal, just because we can't, so we are angry, because anger has nowhere to vent, so there will be demons in the heart, full of illusions, this is the source of pain!

If our ability is sufficient, there will be no more suffering in the world, just because we are helpless, so we are very angry, angry at other people's possession, angry at other people's achievements, and angry at our own helplessness, so we slowly become realistic and mediocre, because if we don't pursue so much, we won't have so many lost opportunities, and we won't let ourselves see our ordinariness again and again!

Where the soul is weak, there must be a thick shield, and the shield is piled up too much and even forms a kind of prominence, but this can never change the facts, because there is nothing, so you care about something, because you can't get it, you have to pretend to despise it, or cover it up with other advantages!

Many times, people tend to be emotional, and some things do their best to do, but they can't get the results they want, so they get angry, just because they can't accept the results or can't control themselves, in the final analysis, because they are not capable enough. I always envy her for being beautiful and moving, but you don't know how to dress up and don't study. While you are annoyed that you can't always stick to your interest to the end, you are still scrolling through Weibo and reading jokes.

Work when you want to work, and if you want to take a vacation, you can take a vacation at any time and travel around the world. But there is a big gap between the ideal and the reality. The reality is that if you take a leave of absence as you like, then you may be fired by your boss tomorrow.

In this way, not to mention thinking about traveling, it may be a problem to even add more eggs to tomorrow's instant noodles.

There are many painful things in the world, love parting, can't ask, resentment, no matter which one can be attributed to the lack of their own ability, no one in the world can avoid these things, so everyone in the world is suffering, but the poor people are not only bitter but also hard!

If we have academic qualifications, we will not say that studying is useless, in fact, most of the people who say this are neither academic qualifications nor have any ability, and people with ability will never dare to say this, it is precisely because we have a humble existence in our hearts, so we disguise ourselves as high!

In the face of such a huge gap, it is possible to fall into pain, and this anger can be understood as because of his own lack of ability, so he cannot realize his dreams, and he will be so far away from his dreams.

It can be angry, angry with myself – why am I so bad. If you look deeper, there is actually a more complex side to this pain. In fact, this pain can be understood as the gap between an idealized self and a real self.

In life and work, each of us encounters something that makes us angry. There is a good side to this emotional excitement and a bad side. Next, I have compiled the relevant content on how to restrain your anger, I hope you like the article!

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In normal times, we have to maintain some interests, such as calligraphy and painting, **, martial arts and the like. These interests not only expand our knowledge, but also nurture our sentiments and improve our inner cultivation after we devote ourselves to our hearts and minds. Elevate our temperament.

Attend more meetings.

Friends often have a lot of fun when they get together. In the process of playing together, we will also vent our accumulated negative emotions. It made us feel a lot easier.

Tourism.

The world is so big, I often go out for a walk. Go out and enjoy the beauty and majesty of nature. In the mountains, in the rivers, in the deep forests, in the cliffs, in the deep valleys to elevate our minds.

Wait a minute.

A lot of times we don't do things with our brains when we're angry and impulsive. It's just about doing things according to your own preferences. And personal.

Subjective factors can be very disturbing to us at this time. So, when we are going to do something when emotions such as anger occur, it is best to wait a minute to calm down our brains within this time.

Think about it in your heart.

When we are impulsive, we need to think more about it in our hearts. Am I doing this right, what will happen after doing so, will it break the law, and will we still do it when we clearly understand that the idea at this point can have a very bad impact?

Exercise regularly.

In fact, negative emotions will accumulate. We will slowly accumulate negative emotions in many times in our lives, and when we reach a certain level, a small thing will also become the fuse of emotional outbursts, leading to our emotional outbursts. And when we exercise regularly, we can vent our negative emotions a little, and it will also expand our interpersonal relationships.

Therefore, we can participate in some physical exercise in our daily life.

Whenever you want to get angry, you must hold back, let yourself be silent for 10 seconds, think about it, and then deal with it, and your emotions will be much more stable.

If we feel very angry, we can regulate our emotions by taking deep breaths and then keep our heads calm so that we don't vent our emotions at others.

When you are angry, you must take a deep breath, and then divert your attention, calm yourself down immediately, and think rationally, only in this way can you regulate your emotions when you are angry.

When we are angry, we must first let go of our emotions, do not get angry, and learn to have a tolerant heart.

If we want to adjust our emotions and not let ourselves be particularly angry, we need to take more deep breaths and think more about the consequences of losing control. Your self-confidence should also be strong.

When you feel very angry, be sure to take a deep breath, calm your mind, and keep telling yourself to restrain yourself.

Give yourself 10 seconds when you're angry, then quickly calm down and think about things.

When you are angry, find a quiet place to calm yourself down, think it through, and then solve the problem.

Ways to control your anger:

1. Mind control. When you are angry, there are words in your heart: don't be angry, you can't be like him, what is the big thing to be so angry?

2. Avoid the law of contradiction. When you are angry with others, it is best to avoid it for a while, out of sight, out of mind, and the anger will disappear by itself.

3. Shifting thoughts. Get out of the angry environment and do something else to distract yourself.

4. Active release method. Afterwards put their own opinions. Opinions, ideas, and the other party calmly talked. Or communicate with the other party in writing through **.

5. Text exclusion method. Record your feelings in a diary, absorb precious spiritual wealth from two aspects, and improve your self-cultivation and personality charm.

6. Deep breathing. Take long, deep breaths, several times at a time, to remove the toxins and miasma from anger in your body, and you can also get rid of anger.

7. Self-detachment. Take a step back and be calm; Let the three points of the sea and the sky. I can't be as knowledgeable as you, I'm a hierarchical, cultivated and moral person.

8. Positive communication method. Usually find out each other's hobbies and interests, communicate more, communicate more, cultivate your emotional intelligence, and enhance the emotions of relatives and friends.

9. Consciousness control method. Before you get angry, you repeatedly say in your heart: "Don't get angry, don't get angry", etc., and you will often get a certain effect.

10. Improve self-cultivation. Usually study more, read more books, and constantly improve your spiritual realm and the level of life. Care for others, cherish life, expand the mind, and embrace all things.

To learn to forgive and forgive others, one can always recite Nam Mu Avalokiteshvara.

Not being angry with anyone is the highest cultivation of a person! Burn the merit forest, learn more about the education of traditional culture and sages, and learn to be a saint, so you will naturally not get angry.

Listen to ** calm yourself down.

Be silent, what you say when you're angry always adds fuel to the fire and hurts, so keep silent. Meditation, when the mood is angry, sad, sad, you can choose a quiet place, close your eyes, and feel your heart.

Understand, it's not good for anyone to lose both. Impulsiveness is the devil.

You can self-comfort and self-regulate in your heart, meditating on the consequences of not being angry and the effects of anger.

Homosexuals, don't be angry and impulsive because of social pressure and parental pressure, revenge on society, deceive the odds, get married and have children, it will only harm others and yourself.

Always tell yourself: normal heart, normal heart, angry is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others.

Hello, calm down for a few minutes first, and you're good to go.

Hope to adopt, thank you.